WEBVTT 00:00.880 --> 00:03.320 Man, the title of my sermon this evening is, 00:03.900 --> 00:06.380 Staying in an Abusive Marriage. 00:07.260 --> 00:08.860 Staying in an Abusive Marriage. 00:09.140 --> 00:10.100 And you say, Pastor Harrison, 00:10.640 --> 00:13.340 are you saying that someone should stay 00:13.340 --> 00:14.640 in an Abusive Marriage? 00:14.860 --> 00:16.000 No, I'm not saying that. 00:16.320 --> 00:19.200 I'm saying that they must stay in an Abusive Marriage. 00:19.580 --> 00:23.080 I'm saying that they have to stay in an Abusive Marriage. 00:23.340 --> 00:23.580 Why? 00:23.860 --> 00:25.820 Because God's commandments aren't optional. 00:26.340 --> 00:28.760 The Bible is not a smorgasbord 00:28.760 --> 00:32.160 where you pick and choose the parts that you want to obey 00:32.160 --> 00:34.560 and the parts that you don't want to obey. 00:34.980 --> 00:36.340 And, you know, at the end of the day, 00:36.380 --> 00:39.020 Jesus said if you love me, keep my commandments. 00:39.400 --> 00:41.880 He didn't say keep my suggestions, okay? 00:42.560 --> 00:44.340 Now, the reason that I'm preaching on this tonight 00:44.340 --> 00:46.460 is that over the last couple of days, 00:46.760 --> 00:49.380 something that I preached a little over a year ago 00:49.380 --> 00:52.860 has just been going absolutely viral online. 00:53.340 --> 00:57.500 There was a post on X that had like 3.2 million views 00:57.500 --> 01:01.440 and then it was getting just tons of views on Facebook 01:01.440 --> 01:04.280 and other platforms and all over the place. 01:04.980 --> 01:07.120 And, you know, I was reading through the comments 01:07.620 --> 01:09.000 and as I was going through the comments, 01:09.140 --> 01:11.960 I kept seeing like certain themes of comments 01:11.960 --> 01:14.100 because there's too many comments to read them all, 01:14.180 --> 01:15.860 literally thousands of them. 01:17.260 --> 01:18.880 Obviously overwhelmingly negative 01:19.600 --> 01:21.180 because people are stupid. 01:21.540 --> 01:23.400 But as I was going through it, 01:23.800 --> 01:26.140 there was just a theme that just keeps coming up, 01:26.140 --> 01:27.600 just everybody's just like, 01:27.960 --> 01:29.820 you don't have to stay in an abusive marriage. 01:30.120 --> 01:31.800 God doesn't want you to stay in abusive. 01:32.160 --> 01:33.440 You don't have to stay in abusive. 01:33.620 --> 01:35.840 If there's any abuse, you have the right to leave. 01:36.320 --> 01:40.220 You know, like just anything just nullifies your marriage 01:40.220 --> 01:42.800 vows if there's any abuse or whatever. 01:42.920 --> 01:44.360 It was just over and over again. 01:45.020 --> 01:47.100 And so I realized that one of the biggest things 01:47.100 --> 01:51.440 that was driving people's angry reaction to my preaching 01:51.920 --> 01:55.340 was the fact that they're all justifying divorce 01:55.340 --> 01:57.620 and just justifying leaving your spouse. 01:58.360 --> 01:58.980 And so I was just, 01:59.060 --> 02:02.180 it's always shocking to me when these so-called Christians 02:02.740 --> 02:04.860 don't care at all what the Bible says. 02:05.200 --> 02:06.400 And you read the comments, 02:06.600 --> 02:08.080 like these people don't care what the Bible says. 02:08.380 --> 02:10.260 It's all just emotion driven. 02:11.020 --> 02:14.180 It's not driven by actual doctrine from the word of God. 02:15.040 --> 02:18.080 There's also overwhelmingly female in the comment section 02:18.580 --> 02:20.320 because of the fact that let's face it, 02:20.600 --> 02:24.200 females tend to be more emotional creatures than males. 02:24.200 --> 02:25.640 You know, when it comes to men, 02:26.060 --> 02:29.080 they're usually a little bit more cold 02:29.080 --> 02:30.840 and collected about these things. 02:31.000 --> 02:33.600 And this is part of the reason why we need a church 02:33.600 --> 02:36.400 that is run by men, okay? 02:36.620 --> 02:37.700 That's what the Bible says. 02:38.040 --> 02:39.640 And look, there's nothing against women. 02:40.040 --> 02:41.360 Obviously we love women, 02:41.620 --> 02:44.300 but the Bible does say that the woman 02:44.300 --> 02:46.240 should not be in authority in the church 02:46.240 --> 02:48.480 because Adam was not deceived, 02:48.640 --> 02:50.680 but the woman being deceived was in the transgression. 02:50.960 --> 02:51.600 It's very clear. 02:52.200 --> 02:53.660 So let's get into the Bible tonight. 02:53.660 --> 02:55.580 I want you to flip a couple of pages to the right 02:55.580 --> 02:57.500 in your Bible to Matthew chapter five 02:57.500 --> 03:01.980 because this subject could not be any more clear in the Bible. 03:02.540 --> 03:04.560 I mean, Jesus makes these statements 03:04.560 --> 03:07.440 like every which way he could possibly make them. 03:07.720 --> 03:10.080 He says them forward, he says them backward. 03:10.420 --> 03:12.340 I mean, he says it every possible way 03:12.900 --> 03:15.880 that it's mind-blowing that people don't get 03:15.880 --> 03:16.680 what he's saying. 03:17.080 --> 03:18.760 So look at Matthew chapter five, verse 31. 03:18.900 --> 03:19.140 It says, 03:24.680 --> 03:27.560 I mean, that's the thought out there 03:27.560 --> 03:30.140 in the mainstream world at that time. 03:30.320 --> 03:31.840 Hey, if you're going to divorce your wife, 03:31.960 --> 03:32.780 you're going to put away your wife, 03:32.840 --> 03:34.860 you got to give her a bill of divorce, man. 03:35.120 --> 03:36.060 You got to do it legally. 03:36.700 --> 03:38.740 But Jesus says I say unto you 03:38.740 --> 03:41.980 that whosoever shall put away his wife 03:41.980 --> 03:44.640 saving for the cause of fornication 03:44.640 --> 03:46.940 causes her to commit adultery 03:46.940 --> 03:50.020 and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced, 03:50.760 --> 03:51.780 commit adultery. 03:51.780 --> 03:53.560 He's saying, look, the conventional wisdom is, 03:53.640 --> 03:54.680 well, if you're going to put away your wife, 03:55.000 --> 03:55.820 give her a writing of divorce, 03:55.920 --> 03:58.520 but I'm saying if you put away your wife, 03:59.540 --> 04:01.200 unless it's for the cause of fornication, 04:01.320 --> 04:02.800 you're causing her to commit adultery. 04:03.340 --> 04:04.760 And if you marry her that's divorced 04:04.760 --> 04:07.000 or committing adultery, really clear, okay? 04:07.840 --> 04:09.840 Now you say, well, yeah, but you know, 04:09.940 --> 04:11.040 what if he slaps her? 04:11.320 --> 04:12.720 What if she slaps him? 04:13.100 --> 04:15.400 Look, is that the exception that's given here? 04:16.780 --> 04:19.740 I mean, Jesus even does bring up an exception 04:20.320 --> 04:21.280 and that's not it. 04:21.280 --> 04:24.760 It has nothing to do with abuse or these other situations. 04:25.140 --> 04:28.200 The exception that's clearly given is fornication. 04:28.780 --> 04:32.220 Now let me say this, fornication is not adultery. 04:32.660 --> 04:33.820 Is there not the same thing? 04:34.420 --> 04:37.760 Okay, adultery takes place after you're married, 04:37.920 --> 04:40.880 fornication takes place before you're married, okay? 04:41.260 --> 04:43.580 So if you would, go back to Matthew chapter one. 04:43.920 --> 04:45.780 And again, we're reading the Bible in context. 04:46.140 --> 04:48.600 This passage comes from Matthew chapter five 04:49.080 --> 04:52.040 and one thing that comes before Matthew chapter five 04:52.040 --> 04:52.940 is Matthew chapter one. 04:53.600 --> 04:55.540 And you know what comes before Matthew chapter one 04:55.540 --> 04:56.940 is the Old Testament, okay? 04:57.220 --> 04:59.140 So let's see what Matthew chapter one says 04:59.660 --> 05:01.680 because we actually have a perfect example 05:02.240 --> 05:06.300 of a man being justified for divorcing his wife 05:06.300 --> 05:07.740 because of fornication. 05:07.980 --> 05:10.480 Like, showing that this was the right thing to do 05:10.480 --> 05:11.140 in that situation. 05:11.600 --> 05:13.580 It says in chapter one, verse 18, 05:13.960 --> 05:16.120 now the birth of Jesus Christ was on this wise. 05:16.120 --> 05:18.740 When as his mother Mary was a spouse to Joseph, 05:19.360 --> 05:23.120 before they came together, she was found with child, 05:23.360 --> 05:24.560 with child means pregnant. 05:25.300 --> 05:26.340 She was found to be pregnant. 05:26.500 --> 05:27.920 She was found with child of the Holy Ghost. 05:28.340 --> 05:31.980 Then Joseph, her husband, watched this, being a just man. 05:32.160 --> 05:33.460 So is he doing right or wrong? 05:34.580 --> 05:35.200 He's doing right. 05:35.440 --> 05:38.280 Because he's a just man, he was minded 05:38.740 --> 05:39.800 to put her away privately. 05:40.020 --> 05:42.220 He said, and not wanting to make her a public example, 05:42.600 --> 05:45.320 he was minded to put her away privately. 05:45.320 --> 05:47.020 But while he thought on these things, 05:47.300 --> 05:49.680 behold the angel of the Lord appeared under him in a dream 05:49.680 --> 05:52.760 saying, Joseph, thou son of David, fear not 05:52.760 --> 05:54.460 to take unto thee, marry thy wife, 05:54.820 --> 05:58.560 for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost. 05:58.680 --> 06:01.380 So here's the thing, you gotta put yourself in Joseph's shoes. 06:01.880 --> 06:05.760 Joseph has espoused this woman to be his wife. 06:05.920 --> 06:09.140 So it's like the legal contract has been drawn 06:09.140 --> 06:12.220 but what's missing is that the marriage 06:12.220 --> 06:13.580 has not yet been consummated. 06:14.260 --> 06:15.800 Before they came together, 06:16.060 --> 06:18.020 she was found with child of the Holy Ghost. 06:18.180 --> 06:22.080 So obviously, the marriage is not really totally complete 06:22.080 --> 06:23.800 until they actually come together 06:24.280 --> 06:26.580 and physically have that union. 06:27.320 --> 06:29.880 And before that happened, she's found to be pregnant. 06:30.160 --> 06:31.740 So what's going through Joseph's mind? 06:31.880 --> 06:33.800 The same thing that would be going through any guy's mind. 06:34.060 --> 06:36.920 He's like, well, I know I haven't been physical with her 06:37.320 --> 06:39.960 and so she must have committed fornication 06:39.960 --> 06:42.780 because if my espoused wife, 06:42.900 --> 06:45.740 whom I've not yet consummated with yet is already pregnant, 06:46.420 --> 06:49.500 then it's not me, it must be some other guy. 06:49.880 --> 06:53.180 So he believes that she has committed fornication 06:53.180 --> 06:55.000 and so what is he going to do? 06:55.320 --> 06:57.820 He is going to put her away, 06:58.220 --> 07:00.240 which the Bible used the terms put away 07:00.240 --> 07:02.140 and divorce synonymously. 07:02.760 --> 07:04.820 So he's going to divorce her 07:04.820 --> 07:07.920 because he believes that she has committed fornication. 07:07.920 --> 07:11.080 Isn't that the one thing that Jesus said was acceptable? 07:11.300 --> 07:13.160 He said, well, if you put away your wife 07:13.160 --> 07:15.560 because of fornication, that's acceptable. 07:15.640 --> 07:16.980 But if it's not for fornication, 07:17.100 --> 07:19.540 then you're causing her to commit adultery and whatever. 07:20.100 --> 07:23.300 So people will substitute something else here 07:23.300 --> 07:25.500 like adultery or sexual immorality, 07:25.680 --> 07:26.780 but that's not what it says. 07:26.880 --> 07:29.500 It says fornication and it's no coincidence 07:29.500 --> 07:31.420 that in the exact same book of the Bible, 07:31.720 --> 07:35.240 we have an exact example of that in Matthew chapter one 07:35.240 --> 07:38.080 setting us up to understand what it's even saying 07:38.080 --> 07:41.120 in Matthew chapter five, crystal clear. 07:41.200 --> 07:43.120 Now flip over if you would to Matthew chapter 19. 07:43.980 --> 07:45.340 Matthew chapter 19. 07:47.180 --> 07:50.060 And in Matthew chapter 19, this subject comes up again, 07:50.640 --> 07:52.920 same book of the Bible, same context. 07:53.120 --> 07:54.320 We've already read chapter one. 07:54.480 --> 07:55.720 We've already read chapter five. 07:55.960 --> 07:57.860 So we already kind of know where this is going. 07:58.260 --> 07:59.900 Look at Matthew chapter 19 verse three. 07:59.960 --> 08:01.660 It says the Pharisees also came on him, 08:01.760 --> 08:03.320 tempting him and sang on him. 08:03.320 --> 08:07.460 Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? 08:07.820 --> 08:09.200 Meaning, hey, can we have that? 08:10.400 --> 08:13.600 1969, California, no fault divorce law. 08:13.860 --> 08:17.100 And we can just get divorced because, right? 08:17.480 --> 08:19.540 The Soviet Union came out with it in 69. 08:20.240 --> 08:22.320 California came out with it shortly thereafter. 08:22.800 --> 08:24.460 Then the whole United States had it 08:24.460 --> 08:27.940 in a very short time by like what, 1970 or whatever. 08:28.620 --> 08:31.120 And so, hey, can we just divorce our wives 08:31.120 --> 08:31.620 for every cause? 08:31.620 --> 08:33.560 He answered and said to them, verse four, 08:33.960 --> 08:36.840 have you not read that he which made them at the beginning 08:36.840 --> 08:39.800 made them male and female and said for this cause 08:39.800 --> 08:41.300 shall a man leave his father and mother 08:41.300 --> 08:43.200 and shall cleave to his wife 08:43.200 --> 08:45.840 and they twain shall be one flesh. 08:46.080 --> 08:48.540 Wherefore there are no more twain but one flesh. 08:48.800 --> 08:50.840 What therefore God has joined together, 08:51.160 --> 08:53.260 let not man put asunder. 08:53.400 --> 08:55.360 So look, question is asked. 08:56.200 --> 08:58.780 Can a man put away his wife for every cause? 08:59.380 --> 09:00.920 And he says, you know what? 09:01.220 --> 09:03.560 You need to go back and read the Bible 09:03.560 --> 09:07.680 and understand that God's plan is for a man 09:07.680 --> 09:10.180 and a woman to become one flesh 09:10.180 --> 09:12.140 and to cleave to each other 09:12.140 --> 09:14.320 and what God has joined together, 09:14.740 --> 09:15.820 let not man put asunder. 09:15.940 --> 09:17.520 Now, if the Pharisees were righteous, 09:17.920 --> 09:19.180 you know what they would have done at that point? 09:19.280 --> 09:20.520 They would have said, yes, sir. 09:22.140 --> 09:23.280 And just walked away. 09:23.400 --> 09:25.180 But instead they began to argue with him. 09:25.780 --> 09:26.520 They're wrong. 09:27.240 --> 09:28.100 They're wicked. 09:28.540 --> 09:30.040 They wanna justify divorce. 09:30.300 --> 09:32.220 So then they argue with him and they say, 09:33.540 --> 09:35.580 well, why, verse seven, 09:36.140 --> 09:39.120 did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement 09:39.120 --> 09:39.700 and to put her away? 09:39.980 --> 09:41.540 So they're basically trying to accuse him 09:41.540 --> 09:42.940 of contradicting the Bible. 09:43.200 --> 09:45.720 Like, you're contradicting what Moses said. 09:46.180 --> 09:49.620 If you're right, well, then why did Moses command 09:49.620 --> 09:51.260 to give her writing of divorcement and to put her away? 09:52.020 --> 09:53.720 Verse eight, he saved unto them, 09:54.000 --> 09:56.600 Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, 09:57.120 --> 09:59.480 suffered you to put away your wives, 09:59.760 --> 10:01.540 but from the beginning it was not so. 10:02.280 --> 10:03.400 And I say unto you, 10:03.820 --> 10:05.400 whosoever shall put away his wife, 10:05.760 --> 10:07.400 accept it be for fornication, 10:07.900 --> 10:08.940 and shall marry another, 10:09.340 --> 10:10.320 commit it adultery, 10:10.720 --> 10:12.980 and whoso merrieth her which is put away, 10:13.480 --> 10:15.340 doth commit adultery. 10:15.740 --> 10:18.480 Now, let's go back to that law 10:18.480 --> 10:20.140 where Moses instituted divorce. 10:20.460 --> 10:21.600 It's Deuteronomy 24. 10:21.920 --> 10:23.900 So let's flip over to our Bibles to Deuteronomy 24, 10:23.960 --> 10:24.740 because again, remember, 10:24.740 --> 10:28.080 the modern version crowd is twisting this 10:28.080 --> 10:31.200 and saying, oh, it's not fornication, it's adultery. 10:31.500 --> 10:33.000 Well, it's a different Greek word. 10:33.460 --> 10:34.960 There's a Greek word for fornication. 10:35.200 --> 10:36.520 There's a Greek word for adultery. 10:37.020 --> 10:38.740 Okay, the King James is translating. 10:39.300 --> 10:40.720 The one is adultery, the one is fornication. 10:40.760 --> 10:42.080 They're different words in English. 10:42.380 --> 10:43.480 They're different words in Greek. 10:43.640 --> 10:44.520 They're just different words. 10:45.400 --> 10:48.080 But people are trying to sub in adultery here 10:48.080 --> 10:51.000 or just have this anachronistic 10:51.500 --> 10:55.380 kind of broad category of sexual immorality, 10:55.480 --> 10:57.580 which can kind of just mean whatever you want it to mean. 10:58.120 --> 11:00.300 Kind of just means whatever people want, 11:00.900 --> 11:03.260 and it's super subjective, it's super confusing. 11:03.360 --> 11:06.000 It's like moral sin, immorality or whatever. 11:07.200 --> 11:11.580 But let's look at the law that Jesus is talking about 11:11.580 --> 11:13.060 and that the Pharisees are talking about. 11:13.160 --> 11:14.460 Look at Deuteronomy 24, verse one. 11:14.500 --> 11:17.520 It says, when a man had taken a wife and married her, 11:18.500 --> 11:21.760 and it came to pass that she find no favor in his eyes, 11:21.860 --> 11:22.780 but it doesn't stop there. 11:22.960 --> 11:26.140 It gives a very specific reason why she doesn't, 11:26.260 --> 11:28.340 it's not saying, hey, he just doesn't like her. 11:28.820 --> 11:30.520 It says she find no favor in his eyes. 11:30.620 --> 11:30.760 Why? 11:31.360 --> 11:34.600 Because he had found some uncleanness in her. 11:35.020 --> 11:41.760 That's a very specific reason he found uncleanness in her. 11:43.160 --> 11:44.960 When did he find that uncleanness? 11:44.960 --> 11:47.500 He obviously is finding that uncleanness 11:47.500 --> 11:49.960 when he goes to consummate the marriage, okay? 11:50.720 --> 11:53.820 And it says, then let him write her a bill of divorcement 11:53.820 --> 11:57.060 and give it in her hand and send her out of his house. 11:57.180 --> 11:59.900 And by the way, look up the word uncleanness in the Bible, 12:00.100 --> 12:02.580 and uncleanness is often referring to things 12:02.580 --> 12:05.080 like fornication, adultery, 12:05.180 --> 12:07.680 because those are unclean things, okay? 12:08.060 --> 12:10.060 And here's the thing, is that in this case, 12:10.200 --> 12:12.880 this is exactly what Joseph is doing in Matthew chapter one. 12:12.880 --> 12:14.880 He basically marries a woman, 12:15.360 --> 12:17.580 and then before he consummates with her, 12:17.740 --> 12:19.700 he finds uncleanness in her, he thinks, 12:20.420 --> 12:22.620 because it's like, why is she pregnant from another man? 12:22.900 --> 12:24.800 Then the angel sets his mind at ease, 12:24.880 --> 12:27.980 says no, she's with child of the Holy Ghost, 12:28.240 --> 12:29.560 she's gonna bring forth a son, 12:29.680 --> 12:31.300 he's gonna save his people from their sins, 12:31.660 --> 12:34.500 it's gonna be Emmanuel, it's gonna be God with us, 12:34.660 --> 12:36.300 it's gonna be the savior of the world. 12:37.100 --> 12:38.420 But he didn't know that. 12:38.820 --> 12:41.540 So he's thinking uncleanness, okay? 12:41.540 --> 12:45.740 But then it says, when she is departed out of his house, 12:45.840 --> 12:48.200 verse two, she may go and be another man's wife. 12:49.320 --> 12:52.160 So the idea here is, he goes in under her, 12:52.480 --> 12:53.560 he marries her, goes in under her, 12:53.680 --> 12:56.100 finds some uncleanness, this could be an STD, 12:56.760 --> 12:59.120 this could be just evidence that she's not a virgin, 12:59.760 --> 13:02.060 this could be just whatever the reason, 13:02.520 --> 13:06.120 where he basically says, no, I'm not gonna do this, 13:06.480 --> 13:09.480 and he backs out and gives her a bill of divorcement, 13:09.480 --> 13:11.120 and she can go marry another man. 13:12.060 --> 13:14.760 Okay, now here's the thing, in our modern vernacular, 13:15.300 --> 13:18.200 we in America would not even call this a divorce, 13:18.360 --> 13:19.460 you know what we would call it today? 13:19.620 --> 13:20.320 What would we call it? 13:21.040 --> 13:22.380 An annulment, right? 13:22.700 --> 13:25.040 So when the Bible is giving this scenario here, 13:25.300 --> 13:26.680 it's really what we would think of 13:26.680 --> 13:28.740 in our modern vernacular as an annulment. 13:28.960 --> 13:30.700 This is not a guy being married to his wife 13:30.700 --> 13:34.700 for 13 years, 15 years, 20 years, 30 years, 13:34.940 --> 13:37.760 and then just deciding, oh, we just don't get along, 13:37.760 --> 13:41.220 we got married too young, we just don't like each other, 13:41.320 --> 13:43.420 I'm just not in love anymore, I'm just bored. 13:43.740 --> 13:44.520 Is that what this is? 13:45.440 --> 13:47.520 And this is also not, oh, we've been married 13:47.520 --> 13:50.480 for years and years, and my spouse cheated on me 13:50.480 --> 13:52.740 20 years later, that's not what this is. 13:53.120 --> 13:54.440 This is not talking about adultery, 13:54.640 --> 13:57.240 because the Bible had a totally different remedy 13:57.240 --> 13:59.900 for adultery in the Old Testament, and that was death. 14:01.000 --> 14:02.620 So this wouldn't even make sense, 14:02.760 --> 14:04.800 if it's about adultery, it wouldn't make sense, 14:04.800 --> 14:07.720 because the remedy for adultery is the adulterer 14:07.720 --> 14:09.520 and the adulterers are both put to death. 14:10.400 --> 14:12.860 So there's already a punishment for adultery 14:12.860 --> 14:15.400 in Leviticus chapter 20 verse 10, it's called death. 14:16.020 --> 14:18.480 This is talking about, he marries her, 14:18.520 --> 14:19.680 he finds uncleanness. 14:19.900 --> 14:23.080 Go back just two pages to Deuteronomy chapter 22, 14:23.540 --> 14:25.340 and you're gonna see that the Bible brings up 14:25.340 --> 14:28.920 a similar situation in Deuteronomy 22 verse 13. 14:29.020 --> 14:32.440 It says, if any man take a wife and go in under her 14:32.440 --> 14:35.840 and hate her and give occasions of speech against her 14:35.840 --> 14:38.300 and bring up an evil name upon her and say, 14:38.720 --> 14:43.000 I took this woman and when I came to her, 14:43.240 --> 14:45.620 I found her not a maid. 14:46.040 --> 14:47.700 And when he says, I found her not a maid, 14:48.000 --> 14:50.560 that's another word for I found her not to be a virgin. 14:51.440 --> 14:54.460 Now, if you marry a woman and find her not to be a virgin, 14:54.820 --> 14:56.420 what does that mean she did previously? 14:56.760 --> 14:57.640 It means that she committed. 14:59.560 --> 15:00.740 Fornication, okay? 15:00.740 --> 15:04.220 And so the idea here is that Jesus is saying 15:04.220 --> 15:06.880 that if you put away your wife for a cause 15:06.880 --> 15:11.540 other than fornication, you are misapplying the biblical law, 15:11.720 --> 15:14.620 trying to just divorce your wife for every cause 15:14.620 --> 15:17.180 because this is a specific reason 15:17.180 --> 15:19.380 and it's because of the hardness of your hearts 15:19.380 --> 15:22.420 that basically you're not willing to let that go, 15:22.600 --> 15:24.360 you're not willing to forgive the fact 15:24.360 --> 15:26.540 that she has committed fornication 15:26.540 --> 15:28.520 or been with another man and you're just like, 15:28.520 --> 15:30.940 no, I'm not gonna go with that. 15:31.240 --> 15:34.480 And so I'd rather just not marry you 15:34.480 --> 15:37.520 and just undo the wedding and annul it 15:37.980 --> 15:40.280 and give you the writing of divorcement and move on. 15:40.700 --> 15:42.440 Now, if you would go do Mark chapter 10. 15:43.320 --> 15:45.880 So we saw those teachings from Matthew, didn't we? 15:45.960 --> 15:47.460 And it's all self-contained right there 15:47.460 --> 15:48.160 in the book of Matthew 15:48.160 --> 15:50.560 because you have the example in chapter one, 15:50.980 --> 15:52.780 you have the teaching in chapter five 15:52.780 --> 15:54.540 and you have the teaching in chapter 19. 15:54.560 --> 15:55.460 It's all consistent. 15:55.660 --> 15:57.780 And then you go back to the book of Deuteronomy 15:58.200 --> 15:59.200 and it makes sense. 15:59.900 --> 16:03.620 The fornication and the uncleanness, it all adds up. 16:04.260 --> 16:05.560 Now look at Mark chapter 10. 16:05.800 --> 16:08.120 Now keep in mind, Matthew, Mark, Luke and John 16:08.700 --> 16:11.340 are emphasizing different things from one another 16:11.340 --> 16:13.180 and they're kind of in general, 16:13.260 --> 16:14.880 geared toward a different audience. 16:15.100 --> 16:17.740 And Matthew is the book that is most geared 16:17.740 --> 16:20.980 toward the Jews, which is why it's constantly 16:20.980 --> 16:22.300 referencing the Old Testament, 16:23.020 --> 16:24.580 constantly quoting the Old Testament 16:24.580 --> 16:25.860 more than the other books 16:25.860 --> 16:27.580 and referring to the law 16:27.580 --> 16:30.240 and stuff that would interest a Jewish audience. 16:30.820 --> 16:33.240 And most people have agreed upon the fact 16:33.240 --> 16:36.260 that Matthew is sort of geared toward the Jews, 16:36.680 --> 16:38.520 Mark is sort of geared toward the Romans, 16:38.960 --> 16:40.940 Luke is sort of geared toward the Greeks 16:41.500 --> 16:44.160 and John is just geared toward the whole world. 16:44.900 --> 16:48.220 So obviously the whole Bible is written to all of us 16:48.220 --> 16:51.780 but just the styles are kind of geared in that way. 16:52.220 --> 16:55.340 And so Matthew is gonna have heavier discussions 16:55.340 --> 16:58.040 about the law and things like that, okay? 16:58.880 --> 17:02.320 The book of John is gonna be in some ways, 17:02.480 --> 17:04.340 the most negative toward the Jews 17:04.340 --> 17:06.620 and it kind of treats the Jews as other people like, 17:06.960 --> 17:09.540 oh, this is a holiday the Jews do, this is the Jews feast. 17:09.860 --> 17:12.040 Whereas Matthew's written more toward the Jews 17:12.040 --> 17:12.840 in that sense. 17:13.420 --> 17:16.400 So now we get to Mark, different book of the Bible, 17:16.500 --> 17:17.960 it's not really geared toward 17:17.960 --> 17:19.740 that Jewish audience as much 17:19.740 --> 17:21.880 and it says in chapter 10 verse 11, 17:21.880 --> 17:23.560 And he saith unto them, 17:24.000 --> 17:26.360 Whosoever shall put away his wife and marry another, 17:26.800 --> 17:28.260 commit adultery against her, 17:28.880 --> 17:30.840 and if a woman shall put away her husband 17:30.840 --> 17:32.720 and be married to another, she committed adultery. 17:32.880 --> 17:34.320 Now, where's the exception? 17:35.420 --> 17:37.180 Where's the accept-to-be for fornication? 17:37.580 --> 17:41.520 It's not there because that's basically a rare exception. 17:42.040 --> 17:45.660 It's a nuance that basically was important 17:45.660 --> 17:47.440 to people like the Pharisees 17:47.440 --> 17:49.580 who really know the law really well. 17:49.720 --> 17:51.320 But to just a general audience, 17:51.320 --> 17:53.220 it's just like, bro, don't get divorced. 17:54.080 --> 17:56.520 And if you get divorced and marry someone else, 17:56.640 --> 17:57.300 it's adultery. 17:57.920 --> 18:00.360 If you're divorcing your husband, it's adultery. 18:00.560 --> 18:02.740 If you're marrying someone who's divorced, it's adultery. 18:03.860 --> 18:05.440 And notice, in Matthew, 18:05.660 --> 18:08.060 it was talking about the man putting away his wife, 18:08.580 --> 18:10.820 but here it says it the other way. 18:10.960 --> 18:14.100 Verse 12, if a woman shall put away her husband. 18:14.720 --> 18:16.540 So this deals with a woman divorcing her husband. 18:16.700 --> 18:17.020 And guess what? 18:17.360 --> 18:18.980 In today's world, sadly, 18:18.980 --> 18:21.160 most divorces are initiated by women. 18:21.840 --> 18:25.500 So Mark chapter 10 verse 12 becomes super relevant today. 18:26.280 --> 18:29.220 Where's the exception about fornication? 18:29.320 --> 18:31.760 Now listen, if the exception were adultery, 18:32.320 --> 18:34.940 wouldn't you say that adultery is a huge reason 18:34.940 --> 18:35.760 why people get divorced? 18:36.060 --> 18:37.780 Wouldn't you say it's probably one of the biggest reasons 18:37.780 --> 18:39.520 why people get divorced is infidelity? 18:40.140 --> 18:42.800 So if there's this massive exception, 18:43.160 --> 18:46.320 where like a massive percentage of people 18:46.320 --> 18:47.560 this would apply to, 18:48.120 --> 18:50.000 wouldn't you bring up that exception 18:50.000 --> 18:51.040 when you preach on this? 18:51.580 --> 18:53.360 You wouldn't just only bring it up in Matthew 18:53.360 --> 18:55.100 and just totally leave it out in Mark. 18:55.920 --> 18:58.140 But it makes sense if it's a rare exception, 18:58.420 --> 18:59.740 you don't have to bring it up constantly. 19:00.460 --> 19:02.360 Go if you would to Luke chapter 16. 19:02.800 --> 19:05.400 So we've seen Matthew, is there any contradiction 19:06.160 --> 19:07.960 in Matthew versus Mark? 19:08.260 --> 19:10.540 One of them is just bringing up a nuance 19:10.920 --> 19:11.840 and a rare exception. 19:12.240 --> 19:13.960 Mark is just skipping the exception 19:13.960 --> 19:17.300 because it's just not relevant, 99%. 19:17.300 --> 19:19.920 And then Luke 16 also doesn't give the exception 19:19.920 --> 19:21.900 because it's not written to that Jewish audience 19:21.900 --> 19:25.240 that knows Deuteronomy 22 and 24 really well 19:25.240 --> 19:26.860 and cares about that nuance. 19:27.280 --> 19:29.040 Look at Luke 16 verse 18, it says, 19:29.440 --> 19:30.780 whosoever put it the way his wife 19:30.780 --> 19:32.440 and Marieth and other committed adultery. 19:33.320 --> 19:34.600 And whosoever Marieth heard 19:34.600 --> 19:36.200 that is put away from her husband, 19:36.600 --> 19:38.680 committed adultery, right? 19:38.900 --> 19:42.380 And so it's crystal clear God is against divorce. 19:43.300 --> 19:46.000 Now, if there were an exception for 19:46.000 --> 19:48.600 if you're in an abusive relationship, 19:49.080 --> 19:51.560 God wants you to get out of that situation, 19:51.760 --> 19:53.380 then wouldn't it have been brought up 19:53.380 --> 19:54.660 somewhere in the Holy Bible? 19:55.520 --> 19:57.360 But instead, what is the Bible saying? 19:57.480 --> 19:58.600 Well, except to be for fornication. 19:58.760 --> 19:59.940 So even when it brings up an exception, 20:00.340 --> 20:01.500 it doesn't bring up abuse. 20:01.760 --> 20:04.520 That's made up feminist garbage. 20:04.980 --> 20:07.340 You can go shove it where the sun don't shine 20:07.340 --> 20:10.740 because the Bible commands you to stay married 20:10.740 --> 20:14.320 till death do you part for better or for worse. 20:14.800 --> 20:16.880 That is your wife, that is your husband, 20:17.000 --> 20:18.300 and you need to stay married 20:18.300 --> 20:22.340 and don't use these excuses that the world does of saying, 20:22.560 --> 20:25.160 oh, well, he slapped me or she slapped me 20:25.160 --> 20:26.940 or somebody got, no, my friend, 20:27.180 --> 20:29.240 that is a false doctrine that is wrong. 20:29.420 --> 20:30.740 It is not in the Bible anywhere. 20:31.400 --> 20:33.120 Now go through it to Romans chapter seven. 20:33.900 --> 20:35.160 Romans chapter number seven. 20:35.560 --> 20:37.260 Because not only is this clearly taught 20:37.260 --> 20:38.960 in Matthew, Mark and Luke, 20:38.960 --> 20:42.200 it's also clearly taught in the epistles of Paul. 20:42.660 --> 20:44.700 And so we could go to Romans and see 20:44.700 --> 20:47.000 that the apostle Paul is teaching the same thing as Jesus. 20:47.420 --> 20:49.180 Now, wouldn't it be pretty weird 20:49.180 --> 20:51.580 if Paul was teaching something totally different 20:51.580 --> 20:54.640 than Jesus taught and contradicting the teachings of Jesus? 20:55.080 --> 20:57.140 That would make us wonder about Paul, wouldn't it? 20:57.440 --> 21:00.100 And say, wait a minute, why is he going against 21:00.100 --> 21:01.780 the clear teaching of Jesus Christ? 21:03.120 --> 21:04.180 Of course he doesn't. 21:04.740 --> 21:07.080 He, of course, is preaching the same thing as Jesus. 21:07.560 --> 21:09.800 And so it says in Romans chapter seven, verse two, 21:09.980 --> 21:11.720 for the woman, which half and husband 21:11.720 --> 21:15.240 is bound by the law to her husband, so long as he liveth. 21:15.540 --> 21:17.040 But if the husband be dead, 21:17.780 --> 21:19.340 she is loose from the law of her husband. 21:19.500 --> 21:22.320 I mean, look, does that say the recommendation, 21:22.900 --> 21:26.240 the suggestion, the, you know, 21:26.360 --> 21:27.760 it's for this stage of my life? 21:27.980 --> 21:30.100 No, it says, as long as her husband lives, 21:30.220 --> 21:34.720 she is bound by the law of her husband, right? 21:34.720 --> 21:36.300 This is a law. 21:36.700 --> 21:38.400 This is set in stone. 21:38.880 --> 21:41.420 This is Jesus making strong statements. 21:43.140 --> 21:45.060 Whosoever shall put away his wife 21:45.060 --> 21:47.520 and marry another is committing adultery. 21:48.340 --> 21:49.980 Now, what about when the Bible says, 21:50.660 --> 21:52.880 whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord 21:52.880 --> 21:53.800 shall be saved? 21:55.600 --> 21:56.820 Is that mean everybody? 21:57.860 --> 21:58.380 Whosoever? 21:58.840 --> 22:02.020 So if it says whosoever, believe it then him, 22:02.080 --> 22:03.360 should not perish but have eternal life. 22:03.360 --> 22:05.040 Whosoever means whosoever, whoever. 22:05.860 --> 22:08.220 So doesn't it also mean whoever when it says, 22:08.340 --> 22:11.600 hey man, whoever divorces his wife 22:11.600 --> 22:13.460 and marries someone else is committing adultery. 22:13.660 --> 22:15.500 Whoever divorces her husband 22:15.500 --> 22:17.380 and marries someone else is committing adultery. 22:19.120 --> 22:21.340 I mean, does whosoever mean whosoever or what? 22:23.100 --> 22:25.440 She's bound by the law of her husband. 22:25.860 --> 22:27.080 This is not optional. 22:27.900 --> 22:30.280 Okay, this is something that is set in stone. 22:30.900 --> 22:32.220 It says in verse number three, 22:32.220 --> 22:34.400 so then if while her husband lives, 22:34.740 --> 22:36.360 she be married to another man, 22:36.760 --> 22:38.380 she shall be called an adulteress. 22:38.840 --> 22:42.260 Unless she's coming from an abusive relationship. 22:42.400 --> 22:43.120 And here's what's so funny, 22:43.600 --> 22:46.660 is that virtually every single divorced person 22:46.660 --> 22:48.860 you talk to, they're spouse abusive. 22:50.380 --> 22:53.260 Like, I mean, it's rare to talk to someone 22:53.260 --> 22:56.020 who's divorced that says that their ex wasn't abusive. 22:57.360 --> 22:58.880 Everybody's abusive to these people. 22:59.680 --> 23:01.160 You know, because it's pretty easy, 23:01.160 --> 23:04.400 especially because the word abuse is such a broad word. 23:04.700 --> 23:07.000 You know, let me just look it up real quick. 23:07.100 --> 23:08.320 I didn't plan on doing this, 23:08.560 --> 23:11.140 but I got the dictionary app on my phone here. 23:11.520 --> 23:13.820 And let's just look it up and see, 23:13.940 --> 23:17.240 because I guarantee you that this is gonna be so vague 23:17.860 --> 23:21.420 that you could pretty much fit anything into this. 23:21.800 --> 23:22.380 How about this? 23:23.020 --> 23:26.280 Abusive, adjective, using, containing, 23:26.480 --> 23:28.380 or characterized by harshly 23:28.380 --> 23:30.380 or coarsely insulting language. 23:31.220 --> 23:34.960 So, are you gonna tell me that people get divorced? 23:36.160 --> 23:39.060 People end their marriage and get divorced 23:39.060 --> 23:42.340 without using any harsh or insulting language at some point? 23:42.780 --> 23:44.920 I mean, I would say that virtually everybody who gets 23:44.920 --> 23:47.040 divorced, somebody's using some harsh 23:47.040 --> 23:48.700 and insulting language somewhere along the way. 23:48.740 --> 23:50.240 Otherwise, y'all need to stay married. 23:50.860 --> 23:52.260 Sounds like you're getting along great. 23:54.360 --> 23:56.220 I mean, everybody should stay married, amen. 23:56.220 --> 23:59.380 But it says, and then the second definition is 23:59.380 --> 24:00.680 treating badly. 24:03.260 --> 24:05.020 I mean, is there anybody who's gonna say, 24:05.040 --> 24:07.160 well, I divorced my spouse and they treated me great? 24:08.800 --> 24:11.920 You know, everybody's treated badly or injuriously, 24:14.440 --> 24:16.560 mistreating, especially physically, you know? 24:16.640 --> 24:18.200 And this is where people talk about physical abuse, 24:18.480 --> 24:20.560 but they'll also talk about verbal abuse, 24:20.940 --> 24:22.880 psychological abuse, and this is what you hear too, 24:23.180 --> 24:24.300 financial abuse. 24:24.300 --> 24:25.940 I mean, I saw people leaving in the comments, 24:26.320 --> 24:29.120 hey, when the Bible says for wives to submit to her husbands, 24:29.580 --> 24:32.460 it doesn't mean that she has to relinquish 24:32.460 --> 24:33.800 financial control to him. 24:35.840 --> 24:36.620 Like what? 24:37.120 --> 24:39.000 There's just all these lists of all these caveats. 24:39.260 --> 24:40.780 Well, it doesn't mean he controls the money, 24:41.200 --> 24:43.580 it doesn't mean he can do it, it doesn't mean she can't. 24:43.600 --> 24:44.140 It's like what? 24:45.400 --> 24:47.660 But people are not basing their beliefs 24:47.660 --> 24:48.680 on the word of God. 24:49.080 --> 24:52.640 They're going by feelings and emotions and stories 24:53.080 --> 24:54.020 and anecdotes. 24:54.420 --> 24:57.160 I mean, some guy from some jungle country in Africa 24:57.160 --> 24:59.620 wrote me and said, what about this guy 24:59.620 --> 25:01.760 who's chopped up his wife with a machete or something? 25:01.840 --> 25:03.720 And I'm just like, well, I'm just glad I don't live 25:03.720 --> 25:05.060 in your crap whole country 25:05.060 --> 25:07.760 where guys are just chopping up wives with machetes. 25:08.040 --> 25:10.820 I'm talking to a normal Christian audience in America. 25:11.880 --> 25:14.160 If somebody tries to chop you up with a machete, 25:14.420 --> 25:16.680 get out of there, man, run as fast as you can. 25:17.260 --> 25:18.360 You're not gonna be like, wait, 25:18.440 --> 25:20.140 let me call Pastor Anderson for permission. 25:20.140 --> 25:22.560 Let me listen to that. 25:22.620 --> 25:24.800 I'm gonna go back and listen to that sermon again. 25:26.720 --> 25:29.780 You know, I'm pretty sure everybody's gonna run away 25:29.780 --> 25:32.020 from the machete man who's coming at you, 25:32.260 --> 25:33.020 swinging a machete. 25:33.120 --> 25:33.680 What the heck? 25:34.900 --> 25:37.020 But look, the Bible's crystal clear, my friend. 25:37.860 --> 25:39.360 I don't care about your anecdotes. 25:39.720 --> 25:41.280 I don't care about your stories. 25:42.540 --> 25:46.160 If somebody that you knew sort of third hand. 25:46.540 --> 25:47.740 No, here's what I care about. 25:47.840 --> 25:48.560 What does the Bible say? 25:48.560 --> 25:52.040 The Bible says you stay married, period. 25:52.840 --> 25:55.120 And if someone smites you on the right cheek, 25:55.320 --> 25:56.420 you turn to them the other also. 25:57.380 --> 25:58.780 That's what the Bible actually said. 25:58.860 --> 26:00.040 These are actual Bible verses, 26:00.240 --> 26:02.440 like saying, hey, you put up with wrong, 26:02.920 --> 26:05.700 you suffer injustice, you suffer as a Christian, 26:06.220 --> 26:08.420 you do right, and you get through it, 26:08.560 --> 26:09.260 and you stay married. 26:09.380 --> 26:09.980 And let me tell you something. 26:10.300 --> 26:11.900 I could tell stories too. 26:12.080 --> 26:14.640 If we wanna just ignore the Bible and just tell stories, 26:14.800 --> 26:15.780 because that's what people wanna do. 26:16.020 --> 26:17.800 Oh, I knew this woman, blah, blah. 26:17.800 --> 26:20.460 Okay, let me tell you a story, okay? 26:20.920 --> 26:23.400 I knew a woman who's married to a guy. 26:23.760 --> 26:24.880 This is a true story. 26:25.300 --> 26:29.660 And this guy was kind of a mean guy, 26:30.380 --> 26:34.880 and a little bit violent, cheated on her, 26:35.820 --> 26:38.240 kind of a jerk, okay? 26:38.540 --> 26:41.220 Seriously, I mean, this guy was not a good guy. 26:43.740 --> 26:47.140 Unsaved, and also, he didn't make a lot of money. 26:47.620 --> 26:50.260 So the family is like struggling financially, 26:51.080 --> 26:55.140 and they don't have nice things and whatever, okay? 26:55.700 --> 26:56.440 But guess what? 26:56.540 --> 26:57.600 These people did not get divorced. 26:58.300 --> 26:59.200 They stayed married. 27:00.760 --> 27:03.900 And then, later in life, decades later, 27:04.460 --> 27:06.540 this guy actually became a great husband. 27:07.420 --> 27:09.820 And he's treating his wife super well, 27:10.540 --> 27:12.720 and taking really good care of her, 27:13.160 --> 27:14.440 and you could just tell, 27:14.440 --> 27:16.020 seeing them interact with each other, 27:16.140 --> 27:18.620 that they were in love, and got along great, 27:18.820 --> 27:19.700 and were super happy, 27:19.900 --> 27:23.040 and they both lived to be old people 27:23.040 --> 27:24.820 in their 70s and 80s, 27:24.840 --> 27:29.660 and this woman was super happy, joyful, Christian, 27:30.440 --> 27:33.540 and the man ended up ultimately getting saved in the end, 27:34.100 --> 27:37.120 and they ended up just living a really happy life. 27:37.600 --> 27:39.340 But by the way, the guy became a great husband 27:39.340 --> 27:40.880 decades before he got saved. 27:42.320 --> 27:44.100 Okay, I'm not saying, oh, 27:44.100 --> 27:45.380 he got saved and that fixed everything. 27:45.660 --> 27:47.400 I'm saying the guy just, he just, 27:47.520 --> 27:51.080 as he got older, he just mellowed out and became cool, 27:51.520 --> 27:53.900 super considerate, super good husband, 27:54.460 --> 27:57.960 wife's happy, he's happy, living an idyllic, 27:58.100 --> 27:59.680 happy, retired life, 27:59.900 --> 28:02.320 and then he ended up getting saved way later. 28:04.700 --> 28:06.360 Okay, how do you like that story? 28:07.360 --> 28:07.600 You know what I'm saying? 28:07.800 --> 28:10.080 Oh, you gotta get away from this guy. 28:10.460 --> 28:11.460 Oh, he's so bad. 28:11.800 --> 28:12.340 Oh, he's a bitch. 28:12.860 --> 28:14.340 There's a story of somebody who just said, 28:14.380 --> 28:15.700 you know, I'm just gonna trust the Lord. 28:16.360 --> 28:17.620 I'm just gonna trust God. 28:17.920 --> 28:19.580 I'm just gonna honor my marriage vows. 28:19.920 --> 28:20.560 I'm gonna stay married, 28:20.660 --> 28:22.700 and this is not somebody that I loosely know. 28:22.740 --> 28:24.220 These are people that I know very well. 28:25.080 --> 28:27.480 So what I'm saying is true, okay? 28:27.940 --> 28:29.880 So we could all pull out stories, 28:30.540 --> 28:33.940 and I could pull out stories of horror stories 28:33.940 --> 28:36.280 about people who left their spouse 28:36.280 --> 28:37.680 and then their life fell apart. 28:38.520 --> 28:41.280 And I could tell stories about people who stayed married 28:41.280 --> 28:42.660 and it turned out great, 28:43.020 --> 28:45.500 even to a bad guy, even to a bad woman. 28:45.780 --> 28:48.820 We could all just tell stories until the cows come home, 28:48.940 --> 28:51.280 or we could just care what the Bible says 28:51.280 --> 28:53.560 and just believe what the Bible says. 28:54.060 --> 28:56.360 What God has joined together. 28:56.740 --> 28:58.320 Let not man put us under. 28:58.900 --> 28:59.420 That's it. 29:00.240 --> 29:00.920 It's done. 29:01.400 --> 29:03.860 You make a vow, you keep your vow. 29:04.220 --> 29:06.460 God has no pleasure in fools. 29:06.860 --> 29:08.140 Pay what you vowed. 29:08.780 --> 29:10.160 That's what the Bible says. 29:10.160 --> 29:11.500 Here's what the Bible says. 29:11.940 --> 29:14.620 A woman is bound by the law of her husband 29:14.620 --> 29:15.960 as long as her husband lives. 29:16.180 --> 29:18.040 Not as long as her husband is a nice guy. 29:18.700 --> 29:20.700 Not as long as she feels safe. 29:21.080 --> 29:24.120 Not as long as he loves her and treats her well. 29:24.740 --> 29:26.280 It's as long as he's alive, 29:26.720 --> 29:27.980 she's bound by the law of her husband. 29:28.740 --> 29:29.900 But if the husband be dead, 29:30.060 --> 29:31.320 she's loose from the law of her husband. 29:31.680 --> 29:33.240 So then if while her husband live it, 29:33.300 --> 29:34.500 she'd be married to another man. 29:34.920 --> 29:36.600 She shall be called an adulteress. 29:36.760 --> 29:38.320 But if her husband be dead, 29:38.320 --> 29:40.940 she is free from that law. 29:41.220 --> 29:42.840 Again, this is not optional. 29:44.380 --> 29:46.180 So that she is no adulteress, 29:46.260 --> 29:47.540 though she be married to another man. 29:47.700 --> 29:48.240 You know, it's saying, look, 29:48.540 --> 29:49.760 once your spouse is dead, 29:50.060 --> 29:52.560 then you are absolutely free to marry someone else. 29:53.300 --> 29:54.940 But as long as that spouse is alive, 29:55.440 --> 29:56.960 you are bound by the law of that husband. 29:57.120 --> 29:57.880 That's what the Bible says. 29:59.240 --> 30:01.440 Now if you would go to 1st Corinthians chapter number seven. 30:01.680 --> 30:03.140 1st Corinthians chapter number seven. 30:05.660 --> 30:07.600 And we still have the apostle Paul. 30:07.600 --> 30:10.560 He was telling us in Romans seven what was up. 30:10.620 --> 30:12.200 Now he's going to tell us in 1st Corinthians seven. 30:12.620 --> 30:13.840 You know, and it's funny when people 30:13.840 --> 30:14.560 want to talk about this, 30:14.660 --> 30:16.480 they want to talk about 1st Corinthians seven. 30:16.560 --> 30:17.560 They want to ignore Romans seven. 30:17.700 --> 30:18.860 It's like same author. 30:19.340 --> 30:21.160 They even both end in seven. 30:21.660 --> 30:21.920 Okay. 30:22.460 --> 30:24.280 Look at 1st Corinthians seven verse 10. 30:24.380 --> 30:26.640 It says unto the married I command, 30:27.060 --> 30:27.860 and don't miss this, 30:28.420 --> 30:30.360 yet not I but the Lord. 30:32.300 --> 30:33.880 Led not the wife to part from her husband. 30:34.040 --> 30:35.500 You know what he's doing is he's saying, 30:35.500 --> 30:38.360 you know, I'm not teaching you something new here. 30:38.580 --> 30:40.560 I'm actually just telling you exactly 30:40.560 --> 30:42.060 what Jesus already told you. 30:43.060 --> 30:44.520 When he says the Lord here, 30:44.660 --> 30:46.300 he's specifically referencing Jesus. 30:47.200 --> 30:50.120 And he's saying, it's not me that's commanding you this, 30:50.380 --> 30:52.360 like I'm giving you some new revelation. 30:52.760 --> 30:54.620 No, I'm telling you, this is what Jesus already said. 30:55.760 --> 30:56.820 Yet not I, but the Lord, 30:57.040 --> 30:58.560 let not the wife depart from her husband. 30:59.280 --> 31:00.700 But and if she depart, 31:01.180 --> 31:03.180 let her remain unmarried, 31:03.620 --> 31:05.420 or be reconciled to her husband, 31:05.940 --> 31:07.780 and let not the husband put away his wife. 31:07.980 --> 31:11.120 Again, super clear teaching, crystal clear. 31:11.660 --> 31:12.720 This is what Christ taught. 31:13.120 --> 31:14.820 Women, don't leave your husbands. 31:15.240 --> 31:17.140 Men, don't leave your wives. 31:17.580 --> 31:18.660 That's what Jesus taught. 31:18.880 --> 31:19.820 And he's teaching the same thing. 31:19.960 --> 31:22.980 Now, Paul is going to expand on what Jesus taught. 31:23.060 --> 31:25.280 He said, look, this is what Jesus said. 31:26.120 --> 31:27.780 Now here's what I'm saying. 31:28.420 --> 31:30.520 He's not going to contradict what Jesus says. 31:30.620 --> 31:32.260 He's going to build on what Jesus says. 31:32.260 --> 31:33.840 And so he says in verse 12, 31:34.320 --> 31:38.220 but to the rest speak I, not the Lord. 31:38.640 --> 31:40.720 So he's saying like, that's what the Lord taught. 31:41.200 --> 31:42.540 Now here's what I'm teaching. 31:43.060 --> 31:45.300 I didn't hear this from Jesus. 31:45.640 --> 31:48.500 This is what I'm expanding on what Jesus taught though. 31:49.240 --> 31:52.800 He says, if any brother had the wife that believe it not, 31:53.360 --> 31:55.060 and she be pleased to dwell with him, 31:55.460 --> 31:57.740 let him not put her away. 31:58.400 --> 32:02.060 And the woman which had the husband that believe it not, 32:02.400 --> 32:04.060 and if he be pleased to dwell with her, 32:04.300 --> 32:06.380 let her not leave him. 32:06.480 --> 32:07.680 Now notice what he's saying here 32:08.260 --> 32:10.960 is he's basically just getting really specific. 32:11.540 --> 32:13.360 So he said, look, here's what Jesus said. 32:13.680 --> 32:14.460 You just don't leave. 32:15.640 --> 32:16.740 Here's what I'm saying. 32:18.240 --> 32:20.340 If you're married to an unsaved person 32:20.840 --> 32:24.140 and that person is pleased to dwell with you, 32:24.560 --> 32:26.200 stay with your unsaved spouse 32:26.200 --> 32:28.840 because a lot of people had this thought that said, 32:28.900 --> 32:31.460 well, what if my spouse is unsaved, 32:31.940 --> 32:33.980 then I don't want to be unequally yoked. 32:34.400 --> 32:36.580 So maybe I should just put away my wife 32:36.580 --> 32:37.700 or just put away my husband 32:37.700 --> 32:39.820 or just depart from my wife or depart from my husband 32:39.820 --> 32:42.300 so I can just serve God and not be unequally yoked. 32:42.440 --> 32:43.080 He said, no, no, no. 32:43.300 --> 32:45.200 Look, you need to stay married 32:45.200 --> 32:48.920 to your unsaved spouse because you're married. 32:50.100 --> 32:52.060 You should, now, should you marry an unsaved person? 32:52.200 --> 32:54.800 No, but if you've already done it, you stay married to. 32:54.800 --> 32:57.380 Now, is that contradicting what Jesus said? 32:57.620 --> 32:59.640 Or is that really just expanding upon 32:59.640 --> 33:02.060 and just getting specific about what Jesus said? 33:02.160 --> 33:03.900 I mean, it's not, there's no contradiction. 33:04.320 --> 33:05.120 There's no problem. 33:06.080 --> 33:10.480 Obviously what Jesus said is in stone, okay? 33:10.920 --> 33:12.480 Now, look at verse number 11 again 33:13.120 --> 33:14.880 because some people will try to twist this 33:14.880 --> 33:16.680 and they'll try to claim that when it says 33:16.680 --> 33:18.000 if she depart here, 33:18.180 --> 33:20.860 that somehow an allowance is being made that like, 33:20.980 --> 33:22.160 oh, well, she could leave. 33:22.160 --> 33:25.100 She can leave, kind of a, she can leave, you know? 33:25.420 --> 33:28.140 So it says in verse 11, but and if she depart, 33:28.800 --> 33:30.400 so it says, let not the wife depart from her husband, 33:30.720 --> 33:34.360 but and if she depart, if she does it, 33:34.640 --> 33:37.340 then let her remain unmarried or be reconciled 33:37.340 --> 33:39.220 to her husband and let not the husband 33:39.220 --> 33:39.860 put away his wife. 33:39.960 --> 33:41.880 So he's saying, look, don't leave, 33:42.580 --> 33:45.820 but if you do, you need to stay unmarried 33:45.820 --> 33:47.300 or be reconciled to your husband. 33:47.500 --> 33:49.000 Don't go marry in someone else. 33:49.920 --> 33:50.560 Everybody see that? 33:51.200 --> 33:54.040 Now, look at 1st John chapter two 33:54.040 --> 33:55.920 because again, people are twisting this 33:55.920 --> 33:58.620 that somehow because he says, well, if she does it, 33:58.940 --> 34:00.880 he's basically saying, well, sometimes it's okay 34:00.880 --> 34:03.020 if she does it, you know? 34:03.320 --> 34:04.220 That's not what he's saying 34:04.900 --> 34:06.560 because look at 1st John chapter two, 34:06.920 --> 34:08.420 we have the same type of grammar 34:08.420 --> 34:11.820 and let's see if this means, yeah, it's okay if you do it. 34:12.200 --> 34:13.980 1st John chapter two verse one says this, 34:14.380 --> 34:17.420 my little children, these things ride A unto you 34:17.420 --> 34:19.560 that you sin not. 34:20.080 --> 34:21.000 So what's the command? 34:22.140 --> 34:22.880 Don't sin. 34:23.780 --> 34:25.000 Pretty clear command, right? 34:25.300 --> 34:25.780 Don't sin. 34:26.420 --> 34:28.180 I'm riding to you so that you don't sin. 34:30.080 --> 34:33.440 And then it says this, and if any man sin, 34:34.180 --> 34:36.400 we have an advocate with the Father Jesus Christ, 34:36.500 --> 34:36.720 the righteous. 34:37.060 --> 34:39.640 So when it says if any man sin, does that mean like, 34:39.720 --> 34:40.700 well, there's a lot to be made 34:40.700 --> 34:41.740 that you're allowed to sin. 34:41.840 --> 34:42.620 It's okay to sin. 34:43.780 --> 34:45.260 I mean, it's gotta be okay to sin 34:45.260 --> 34:46.920 because he says, well, if you sin, 34:47.620 --> 34:49.320 then you have an advocate with the Father. 34:49.320 --> 34:50.620 Therefore, it's okay to sin? 34:50.980 --> 34:51.360 No. 34:52.140 --> 34:53.540 So look, this is the same thing. 34:53.860 --> 34:56.560 If he says, let not the wife depart from her husband, 34:57.060 --> 35:00.240 but if she does X, Y, and Z, that's the same as saying, 35:00.520 --> 35:03.580 don't sin, but if you do X, Y, and Z, 35:03.600 --> 35:05.200 it doesn't mean that the sin is okay. 35:05.660 --> 35:08.400 This is just a logical failure. 35:09.460 --> 35:13.480 So as I'm going through these comments on X 35:14.160 --> 35:15.740 about my preaching 35:15.740 --> 35:17.720 that everybody was losing their minds about, 35:17.720 --> 35:19.980 and by the way, I don't take back anything I said. 35:20.060 --> 35:21.380 I was a thousand percent right. 35:22.020 --> 35:23.000 Because what did I say? 35:23.380 --> 35:25.940 I said, if someone slaps you in the face, 35:26.060 --> 35:26.960 you should turn the other cheek. 35:27.160 --> 35:27.220 Amen? 35:28.280 --> 35:30.500 I mean, I thought that this was one of the most famous 35:30.500 --> 35:32.240 sayings of Jesus of all time. 35:33.600 --> 35:36.140 And people are like, oh, I bet you wouldn't say that 35:36.140 --> 35:36.900 if somebody slapped you. 35:37.240 --> 35:38.200 Yeah, I would. 35:38.780 --> 35:41.620 I have been slapped many times over the last 20 years 35:41.620 --> 35:42.860 and I have turned the other cheek. 35:44.140 --> 35:47.180 And if a man slapped me, I would turn the other cheek. 35:47.180 --> 35:49.040 I'm not gonna freak out. 35:49.220 --> 35:51.340 I'm not gonna beat the snot out of him 35:51.340 --> 35:53.000 or get in a fight over it or whatever. 35:53.100 --> 35:54.880 Because as I mentioned on Sunday, 35:55.260 --> 35:56.340 when somebody slaps you in the face, 35:56.460 --> 35:59.480 they're typically trying to insult you more than injure you. 36:00.360 --> 36:02.640 And I brought up the example where Chris Rock 36:03.340 --> 36:06.520 slaps, or excuse me, Chris Rock gets slapped by Will Smith. 36:06.920 --> 36:09.200 And I mean, he slaps him like as hard as he can. 36:10.080 --> 36:12.140 And I mean, Chris Rock is like reeling. 36:13.100 --> 36:14.960 And yet he just is fine. 36:16.180 --> 36:19.160 It was embarrassing, it's weird, it was awkward, 36:19.420 --> 36:21.680 it's humiliating, but like when people, 36:21.920 --> 36:23.940 that's a grown man slapping with full force. 36:24.140 --> 36:27.220 Now, most of the time when people slap you in my experience, 36:27.580 --> 36:29.680 they're not usually even slapping you as hard as they can. 36:29.820 --> 36:32.740 It's more just like a little pop or something, right? 36:33.300 --> 36:34.800 So what's the Bible saying? 36:35.240 --> 36:36.720 If somebody slaps you in the face, 36:37.360 --> 36:40.440 you know what, you just don't need to just be like, 36:40.600 --> 36:44.220 okay, I'm going nuclear, I'm going scorched earth, 36:44.220 --> 36:45.020 I'm going to war. 36:45.260 --> 36:48.700 The idea here is to just bear the insult of being slapped. 36:50.340 --> 36:53.980 So if a man slaps me, I'm not gonna freak out, 36:54.460 --> 36:55.480 I'm not gonna like it. 36:56.360 --> 36:58.080 It's gonna be upsetting or embarrassing, 36:58.240 --> 36:59.400 but it's like at the end of the day, 36:59.400 --> 37:00.120 I'm gonna turn the other cheek 37:00.120 --> 37:01.300 because that's what Jesus said to do. 37:01.680 --> 37:04.780 I'm not gonna retaliate, okay? 37:05.380 --> 37:07.260 And so here's the thing, if a woman slaps me, 37:07.340 --> 37:08.280 I'm not gonna retaliate. 37:08.520 --> 37:12.260 If my wife slaps me, if I get home tonight, 37:12.840 --> 37:13.860 and my wife just says, 37:13.900 --> 37:15.300 I can't believe that's sermon you preach 37:16.040 --> 37:18.040 and just slapped me across the face tonight, 37:19.020 --> 37:21.660 there is a 0% chance that I will call the cops. 37:23.980 --> 37:24.580 You understand? 37:25.600 --> 37:27.100 I don't care if she goes, 37:27.640 --> 37:29.340 bop, bop, bop, bop, like, 37:29.520 --> 37:34.280 I'm still not gonna call the cops, okay? 37:34.520 --> 37:36.320 Now look, if I just walked up to my wife 37:36.320 --> 37:38.180 and just slapped her across the face, 37:38.480 --> 37:39.880 just I just get home tonight and I said, 37:39.880 --> 37:42.180 hey honey, I'm just here to practice what I preach. 37:44.440 --> 37:46.840 That would be a total jerk move, 37:47.460 --> 37:50.000 that would be wrong, that would be unkind, 37:50.620 --> 37:52.860 but she's like, that's it, we're getting divorced. 37:53.240 --> 37:54.020 I'm calling the cops. 37:54.640 --> 37:57.520 Stupid, it's lies, it's false doctrine. 37:58.060 --> 37:59.340 And you know why this is important? 37:59.600 --> 38:01.440 It's because this is real life people. 38:01.800 --> 38:04.320 And you know, all these little fake virtue signals 38:04.320 --> 38:06.340 can act like, oh, this never happens. 38:06.340 --> 38:09.240 Folks, I've been pastoring for 21 years. 38:10.340 --> 38:14.540 I've dealt with marriage problems of hundreds of couples. 38:15.620 --> 38:17.060 Okay, and let me tell you something, 38:17.440 --> 38:20.840 there are some ugly things that happen in people's marriages. 38:21.520 --> 38:23.120 And so these people just pretend 38:23.120 --> 38:25.140 like they don't know what I'm talking about or something. 38:25.440 --> 38:27.040 They're just a bunch of virtue, signaling, 38:27.340 --> 38:29.080 fakes and weirdos, because you know what? 38:29.140 --> 38:30.780 The truth of the matter is, as a pastor, 38:30.960 --> 38:32.000 I'm dealing with all kinds of problems. 38:32.200 --> 38:33.400 And here's what people are trying to say. 38:33.680 --> 38:35.700 They're like, oh, well if you say 38:35.700 --> 38:39.440 don't call the cops on your spouse when they slap you, 38:39.500 --> 38:40.760 it must mean that you just wanna 38:40.760 --> 38:42.580 just slap your wife around with impunity. 38:43.360 --> 38:44.180 Okay, but here's the thing. 38:44.520 --> 38:46.180 Haven't I also just as many times 38:46.180 --> 38:47.540 gotten up and preached and said 38:48.080 --> 38:50.140 that if your husband smokes pot, 38:50.340 --> 38:52.420 you shouldn't leave him, you shouldn't divorce him. 38:52.720 --> 38:54.680 You can't call the cops, you can't do it. 38:54.700 --> 38:55.360 I've said the same thing. 38:55.740 --> 38:58.520 Does anybody here think that I'm into pot smoking? 38:59.180 --> 39:02.460 I've never even tasted beer in my life. 39:03.000 --> 39:04.280 I've never done drugs. 39:04.280 --> 39:06.700 I've never been into alcohol or anything. 39:06.780 --> 39:07.880 I've never tasted beer. 39:08.220 --> 39:09.420 I've never done those things. 39:09.480 --> 39:12.940 But yet I would defend a man whose wife is saying, 39:12.980 --> 39:14.860 oh, I'm leaving my husband because he smoked pot. 39:15.380 --> 39:16.760 I'm leaving my, look, does that mean 39:16.760 --> 39:18.120 I'm saying pot is good? 39:18.600 --> 39:19.000 No. 39:19.640 --> 39:21.760 What if I said, well, you know what? 39:21.860 --> 39:23.220 If your husband looks at porno, 39:23.520 --> 39:25.660 you can't just divorce him because he looked at porno. 39:25.920 --> 39:27.580 Does that mean I'm saying porno's good 39:27.580 --> 39:28.940 or that it's okay to look at porno? 39:28.980 --> 39:29.740 Of course not. 39:30.320 --> 39:34.180 But you see, these people are obsessed with themselves 39:34.180 --> 39:35.780 and they only care about themselves, 39:35.920 --> 39:37.460 so they think I'm the same way. 39:37.960 --> 39:40.840 So they think anything I'm preaching is for my own benefit. 39:41.320 --> 39:43.480 No, my friend, the shepherd's heart, 39:43.840 --> 39:46.140 the pastor's heart is to care about the flock. 39:46.620 --> 39:49.260 So when I'm getting up and preaching these things, 39:49.400 --> 39:52.320 I'm not preaching them for my benefit, okay? 39:52.460 --> 39:53.840 I could just get up and just say, 39:53.940 --> 39:55.980 well, yeah, if your husband smokes pot, 39:56.120 --> 39:58.300 nuts to him because I'm like, 39:58.300 --> 40:00.000 well, I'm never gonna smoke pot, so who cares? 40:00.420 --> 40:00.700 Screw him. 40:02.700 --> 40:06.780 No, because I'm gonna defend the institution of marriage. 40:07.280 --> 40:10.560 And I'm not doing it for me, I'm doing it for you. 40:11.000 --> 40:12.320 I'm doing it for everybody. 40:13.220 --> 40:15.280 And so no, I don't, they're like, 40:15.480 --> 40:17.400 oh, well anything he defends from the pulpit, 40:17.500 --> 40:18.420 he must be guilty of. 40:19.880 --> 40:23.220 False, because I'm gonna defend everybody's marriage. 40:23.880 --> 40:25.360 I'm gonna defend the institution. 40:25.520 --> 40:26.920 And let me just say this right now, by the way, 40:26.920 --> 40:30.080 I am personally offended every time someone gets divorced, 40:30.220 --> 40:31.740 even if that person has nothing to do with me. 40:32.320 --> 40:33.080 You know why? 40:33.680 --> 40:34.700 You know why I take it personally? 40:35.440 --> 40:39.200 Because I feel like anytime anyone divorces their spouse 40:39.200 --> 40:41.640 for any reason, it's an attack on the institution of marriage. 40:43.140 --> 40:45.920 Because you know what happens is one person gets divorced 40:45.920 --> 40:47.360 and then someone else sees that and says, 40:47.420 --> 40:48.420 well, I'm gonna get divorced too. 40:49.280 --> 40:51.860 And here's the thing, if we're surrounded by divorce 40:51.860 --> 40:54.880 in our culture, we're gonna have a culture of divorce 40:54.880 --> 40:57.160 and then everybody's marriages are in jeopardy. 40:57.660 --> 41:00.280 Whereas if we have a culture where nobody's getting divorced, 41:00.860 --> 41:02.760 then it's gonna be unthinkable. 41:03.420 --> 41:05.880 And that's why I am personally offended 41:05.880 --> 41:07.260 when people get divorced. 41:07.600 --> 41:09.860 Now look, if you have been divorced in the past, 41:10.020 --> 41:12.760 I am not offended by you and I'm not mad at you 41:12.760 --> 41:13.820 because here's the thing, 41:14.080 --> 41:16.600 whatever you've done in the past is over, it's done, 41:16.820 --> 41:18.000 it doesn't matter who cares. 41:18.380 --> 41:21.620 All I care about is what we're doing going forward. 41:21.620 --> 41:25.360 You could be, I don't care if Jennifer Lopez 41:25.360 --> 41:28.340 in the service tonight or someone who's been married, 41:28.660 --> 41:29.720 divorced seven times or whatever. 41:30.080 --> 41:32.540 Hey, you know what, I don't know if she's married 41:32.540 --> 41:34.560 but she just needs to stay with whoever she's married to 41:34.560 --> 41:35.020 right now. 41:36.020 --> 41:36.420 Right? 41:38.160 --> 41:40.340 I don't care if you're on your third husband, 41:40.660 --> 41:41.540 fifth wife, whatever. 41:41.820 --> 41:44.180 Hey, I'm not gonna beat you up about the past 41:44.180 --> 41:45.260 because here's the thing about the past, 41:45.380 --> 41:46.040 you can't change it. 41:46.720 --> 41:48.160 Can't go back and change the past. 41:48.160 --> 41:51.800 I'm not here to just get up and condemn people 41:51.800 --> 41:53.600 for their past, that accomplishes nothing. 41:54.340 --> 41:58.200 We should all just confess and forsake the sins of our past 41:58.200 --> 41:59.940 and forget the things which are behind 41:59.940 --> 42:01.980 and reach forth under those things which are before. 42:02.560 --> 42:04.080 And so look, our church, I know, 42:04.320 --> 42:05.920 has a bunch of people in it that are divorced. 42:06.280 --> 42:08.460 Lots of divorced people in our church right now. 42:08.700 --> 42:09.800 There are lots of divorced people 42:09.800 --> 42:11.280 in this auditorium right now. 42:11.480 --> 42:11.980 And you know what? 42:12.140 --> 42:13.800 I'm glad you're here and I want you here 42:13.800 --> 42:15.900 and I love you but here's the thing about it 42:15.900 --> 42:18.560 is that because of the fact that churches 42:18.560 --> 42:19.880 are filled with divorced people 42:19.880 --> 42:21.860 because the world's filled with divorced people, 42:21.940 --> 42:23.300 because America's filled with divorced people, 42:23.380 --> 42:25.240 because we live in a world of sinners, 42:25.760 --> 42:27.500 pastors are afraid to preach this sermon. 42:30.220 --> 42:32.320 Because they're like, well, I can't run off 42:32.320 --> 42:33.500 these divorced people but here's the thing. 42:33.820 --> 42:35.440 If you're here tonight and you're divorced 42:35.440 --> 42:36.960 and my sermon's offending you, 42:37.200 --> 42:38.200 you're not right with God. 42:39.260 --> 42:40.420 And if you're here tonight 42:40.420 --> 42:41.900 and you've been divorced in the past 42:41.900 --> 42:43.480 but you like the sermon, 42:43.840 --> 42:44.760 you know what that shows me 42:44.760 --> 42:47.160 is that you're actually repentant 42:47.160 --> 42:49.700 and you actually realize, hey, I'm not perfect, 42:50.000 --> 42:52.380 I made mistakes and I want Pastor Anderson 42:52.380 --> 42:54.520 to preach the truth so that the young people 42:54.520 --> 42:55.760 can do it right going forward 42:55.760 --> 42:57.420 and so that I can do it right going forward. 42:57.560 --> 42:58.220 Because how about this? 42:58.400 --> 42:59.740 Let's say you're on your second spouse, 43:00.120 --> 43:01.760 don't you want to stay married? 43:04.000 --> 43:05.920 Because if you don't then you're in the wrong place. 43:06.420 --> 43:08.460 Because I'm the pastor who keeps you married. 43:09.460 --> 43:10.320 That's my goal. 43:10.960 --> 43:12.380 My goal is to keep you married. 43:12.960 --> 43:15.860 My goal is to preach hard and keep you married. 43:16.180 --> 43:17.900 Other pastors, they don't have the same goal 43:17.900 --> 43:21.420 and I agree with what I heard Pastor Shelley say recently 43:21.420 --> 43:22.820 that if you're going to a church 43:22.820 --> 43:24.120 where divorce is on the table, 43:24.180 --> 43:25.180 you should get out of that church 43:25.180 --> 43:27.800 and switch to a church that has a biblical view 43:27.800 --> 43:29.320 that's gonna keep you married 43:29.940 --> 43:32.820 and not a church that's putting divorce as an option, 43:33.000 --> 43:33.880 putting divorce on the table. 43:34.180 --> 43:36.520 Now again, somebody contacted from a foreign country 43:36.520 --> 43:37.600 and they're like, yeah, 43:37.700 --> 43:39.760 the only Baptist church is pro-divorce or whatever. 43:39.760 --> 43:42.980 I'm just like, well obviously beggars can't be choosers 43:42.980 --> 43:44.400 in Finland or whatever. 43:44.940 --> 43:47.220 But it's like, I don't remember if that's what it was. 43:47.540 --> 43:51.020 But the bottom line is in America where options abound, 43:51.520 --> 43:53.400 you don't have to go to a Baptist church 43:53.400 --> 43:56.460 where your pastor is cheerleading divorce. 43:57.060 --> 43:58.960 You can actually go to a church 43:58.960 --> 44:01.240 where the pastor is gonna preach against divorce 44:01.240 --> 44:02.680 and preach to keep you married. 44:03.200 --> 44:05.660 And so I just want to make that crystal clear tonight 44:06.440 --> 44:08.020 because this is important stuff. 44:08.020 --> 44:09.520 This is important doctrine. 44:10.060 --> 44:11.280 And that's why I'm preaching on it tonight 44:11.280 --> 44:13.240 because I'm reading through these comments 44:13.660 --> 44:14.640 and seeing all this stuff. 44:14.860 --> 44:18.160 And it's just mind blowing how people will ignore 44:18.160 --> 44:20.060 what the Bible clearly says on the subject. 44:20.560 --> 44:22.240 But there was another theme 44:22.240 --> 44:23.800 that kept coming up in the comments too. 44:24.420 --> 44:25.960 Another pattern that emerged. 44:28.100 --> 44:29.280 And this was the comment 44:29.280 --> 44:31.980 that I kept seeing over and over again about my preaching. 44:32.820 --> 44:35.160 This guy sounds like J.P. Miller. 44:35.820 --> 44:37.160 This guy's like J.P. Miller. 44:37.240 --> 44:37.980 Is this J.P. Miller? 44:38.060 --> 44:39.440 I'm getting J.P. Miller vibes. 44:39.600 --> 44:40.820 Oh, this is another J.P. Miller. 44:41.160 --> 44:43.400 And I'm like, who is J.P. Miller? 44:44.100 --> 44:45.300 That's what you're thinking right now. 44:45.460 --> 44:47.180 Everybody in that drawer was like, huh? 44:47.920 --> 44:49.400 And I was like, huh? 44:50.120 --> 44:52.840 Because I'm trying to figure out who is J.P. Miller. 44:53.200 --> 44:54.240 I don't even know what they're talking about. 44:54.460 --> 44:55.900 So I looked into this 44:56.720 --> 45:01.240 and it's a really popular documentary on Netflix right now 45:01.240 --> 45:03.040 that everybody's watching this, you know, 45:03.040 --> 45:07.820 a documentary called Death of a Pastor's Wife, okay? 45:08.240 --> 45:11.100 Now let me tell you a synopsis 45:11.100 --> 45:13.100 of the story of this documentary, okay? 45:13.760 --> 45:18.980 So you have a 35-year-old non-denom pastor 45:18.980 --> 45:20.820 named J.P. Miller, okay? 45:22.040 --> 45:25.800 So this is like a skinny jeans, rock and roll pastor. 45:26.000 --> 45:28.500 They have like a female pastor preaching and stuff. 45:28.560 --> 45:31.460 This is not a fundamentalist Baptist church at all. 45:31.460 --> 45:34.360 It's some libtard skinny jeans pastor, okay? 45:35.020 --> 45:37.780 35 years old and he is married to his wife. 45:38.660 --> 45:41.000 Well, there's another woman in the church 45:41.000 --> 45:44.100 who's 20 years old, so she's 15 years younger than him, 45:44.240 --> 45:46.880 and she has her own husband that's her age, right? 45:47.020 --> 45:49.180 So you have pastors, 35, she's 20. 45:49.280 --> 45:50.300 They both have their own spouses. 45:50.680 --> 45:52.820 Well, the pastor is committing adultery 45:52.820 --> 45:54.040 with the 20-year-old woman. 45:55.620 --> 45:58.520 And so they get caught committing adultery. 45:59.660 --> 46:01.920 And of course the libtard church 46:01.920 --> 46:04.400 just allows him to keep pastoring, you know? 46:04.780 --> 46:07.120 He just keeps pastoring, even though it's just openly 46:07.120 --> 46:09.540 found out that he is committing adultery 46:09.540 --> 46:10.560 with another man's wife. 46:10.660 --> 46:11.900 He's cheating on his own wife, 46:12.200 --> 46:13.560 committing adultery with another man's wife. 46:13.820 --> 46:16.200 But you know, it's just, oh, we just gotta forgive 46:16.200 --> 46:17.440 everybody in Kumbaya. 46:18.020 --> 46:19.140 This is not a hard preaching, 46:19.340 --> 46:21.200 independent fundamental Baptist church. 46:22.460 --> 46:24.620 So both of their spouses leave them. 46:25.820 --> 46:29.460 Pastor's wife leaves them, woman's husband leaves her, 46:29.760 --> 46:33.600 and then they end up getting married to each other, okay? 46:33.720 --> 46:35.000 They decide to marry each other, 46:35.280 --> 46:39.040 even though everyone in this woman's life is warning her, 46:39.300 --> 46:40.800 do not marry this guy. 46:41.180 --> 46:43.540 Like all of her siblings and all of her people, 46:43.780 --> 46:46.500 they're all warning her, this is bad, 46:46.980 --> 46:50.080 this is not right, stay away from this guy. 46:50.300 --> 46:51.180 Do not marry him, and they're like, 46:51.180 --> 46:54.360 yeah, we went to the wedding, but we all disapprove. 46:56.300 --> 46:58.160 And even before they got married, 46:58.260 --> 46:59.860 this guy's already abusive, 47:00.640 --> 47:03.360 because he's already like involuntarily 47:03.360 --> 47:06.820 putting her in the nut house, basically pulling a lineal. 47:08.320 --> 47:10.420 So he's already pulling a lineal, 47:10.620 --> 47:13.360 sticking her in the nut house, gaslighting her, 47:14.000 --> 47:17.960 drugging her, and just treating her super weird. 47:18.300 --> 47:19.960 And look, I'm not defending this, 47:19.960 --> 47:21.480 this guy is a scumbag. 47:22.000 --> 47:23.300 I mean, this guy is trash. 47:23.700 --> 47:27.160 I mean, he's a pastor, just serial adulterer, 47:27.400 --> 47:30.800 super weird, or the guy's a freak and a psycho, okay? 47:32.580 --> 47:36.340 And so everybody's warning her, don't marry this guy, 47:36.580 --> 47:40.140 but she just ignores all that and marries the guy anyway, 47:40.840 --> 47:42.140 and then you're not gonna believe this. 47:42.660 --> 47:45.620 Once they get married, you're not gonna believe this, 47:45.760 --> 47:46.640 he cheated on her. 47:47.020 --> 47:48.000 Can you believe that? 47:48.820 --> 47:52.420 It's like, well obviously, if the whole relationship started 47:52.420 --> 47:54.860 because he's cheating on his wife with you, 47:55.260 --> 47:58.300 then obviously he's gonna cheat on you with the next person. 48:00.480 --> 48:05.060 And so he does all kinds of other just psycho weird things, 48:05.140 --> 48:08.100 just a complete freak, complete false profit, 48:08.260 --> 48:09.920 reprobate, weirdo. 48:10.680 --> 48:13.480 So ultimately, she ends up divorcing the guy. 48:14.060 --> 48:17.820 So she divorces him, she files for divorce, I should say, 48:18.160 --> 48:21.880 and then he's like harassing her and telling her 48:21.880 --> 48:25.320 she has to come back, and he's telling her basically 48:25.320 --> 48:27.640 a quote from the Bible, God hates divorce. 48:28.460 --> 48:30.980 So now I guess anybody who says God hates divorce 48:30.980 --> 48:34.180 is this guy now, because this guy says that, 48:34.360 --> 48:36.860 so anybody who says that, well, you're J.P. Miller now 48:36.860 --> 48:38.400 because you're quoting the Bible 48:38.400 --> 48:40.640 when the Bible says that God hates putting away. 48:41.400 --> 48:44.320 So then she goes out and kills herself. 48:45.180 --> 48:49.000 Okay, and it's like the most clear cut thing 48:49.000 --> 48:50.280 in the world that she killed herself 48:50.280 --> 48:53.400 because there's literally like a surveillance footage 48:53.400 --> 48:56.460 of her like walking into a gun store by herself, 48:56.780 --> 49:00.200 purchasing a gun, she takes the gun, gets in the car, 49:00.580 --> 49:03.980 drives like hours away, stops at a gas station, 49:04.120 --> 49:06.140 surveillance footage of her at the gas station 49:06.140 --> 49:07.960 by herself, gassing up her vehicle, 49:07.960 --> 49:11.220 drives out into the middle of the state park 49:11.220 --> 49:15.340 and calls 911 and says, hey, I want you guys 49:15.340 --> 49:17.920 to check my location, maybe you can triangulate 49:17.920 --> 49:21.160 from my cell signal, I'm in such and such the state park 49:21.160 --> 49:23.000 and I'm about to kill myself. 49:23.360 --> 49:25.620 And so I just want you to be able to find the body 49:25.620 --> 49:27.480 so my loved ones don't have to wonder what happened to me, 49:27.500 --> 49:29.080 I'm just telling you I'm here 49:29.080 --> 49:30.360 and I'm about to kill myself, 49:30.660 --> 49:31.700 she hangs up and kills herself. 49:32.380 --> 49:34.080 And then conspiracy theorists are like, 49:34.780 --> 49:36.280 yeah, we think someone murdered her. 49:36.280 --> 49:41.240 It's like video of her every step of the way here 49:41.240 --> 49:43.920 by herself doing this and saying that that's what she, 49:44.060 --> 49:46.660 she's like super chill, like, yeah, I'm about to kill myself 49:46.660 --> 49:47.840 and then just does it. 49:50.340 --> 49:52.440 Now stop and think about this for a second, okay? 49:53.100 --> 49:57.240 Because this whole documentary is just painting this woman 49:57.240 --> 49:59.560 as like, oh, this poor victim 49:59.560 --> 50:02.620 and just lionizing this woman, okay? 50:03.000 --> 50:04.180 But here's what the Bible says, 50:04.180 --> 50:07.540 then when lust has conceived, it bringeth forth sin 50:08.060 --> 50:10.380 and sin when it has finished bringeth forth death. 50:10.920 --> 50:14.500 You're an adulteress, you're committing adultery 50:14.500 --> 50:17.280 with the pastor, that is super wicked. 50:17.900 --> 50:21.560 And then you marry the guy, when you know he's a freak, 50:21.900 --> 50:23.680 you know he's a weirdo and then all of a sudden 50:23.680 --> 50:25.600 it's like, oh, what's happening to me? 50:26.640 --> 50:29.380 You got what was coming to you, okay? 50:29.900 --> 50:32.020 You're wicked, that's why you shot yourself 50:32.760 --> 50:35.320 because you're wicked, like Judas Iscariot. 50:35.620 --> 50:38.440 These people are false prophets, they're evil 50:38.440 --> 50:41.680 and look, I'm not defending the guy, the guy was horrible. 50:41.880 --> 50:43.380 The guy is evil trash. 50:43.680 --> 50:45.240 He's still pastoring right now. 50:46.160 --> 50:49.100 Now he's married to the woman 50:49.620 --> 50:51.460 that he was cheating on the second wife with. 50:51.540 --> 50:53.060 So it's like, he's married to the first wife 50:53.060 --> 50:54.560 cheating with the next woman. 50:55.180 --> 50:57.500 Then he marries the second one, 50:57.740 --> 50:58.980 cheating with the third one 50:58.980 --> 51:00.960 and then when the second one shoots herself 51:00.960 --> 51:02.840 then he, now he's with the third one. 51:02.980 --> 51:04.940 You know, it's just like this chain of fools. 51:05.620 --> 51:11.040 Chain, chain, chain, chain of fools. 51:11.920 --> 51:16.100 But the problem is that this just becomes 51:16.100 --> 51:18.980 a feminist propaganda of like, 51:19.200 --> 51:22.220 oh, how dare a man of God get up 51:22.220 --> 51:24.760 and say, don't divorce your husband, 51:25.220 --> 51:27.680 you're stuck with him, you married him, 51:27.980 --> 51:29.420 you made your bed, laying it, 51:29.420 --> 51:31.200 oh, he's like J.P. Miller. 51:31.640 --> 51:33.560 No, actually, here's why I'm not like J.P. Miller 51:33.560 --> 51:35.720 because I was a virgin when I got married 51:36.380 --> 51:39.360 and I've been faithful to my wife for 26 years. 51:40.340 --> 51:43.200 I'm also not a psycho weirdo 51:43.580 --> 51:46.360 and I've never locked her in the nut house 51:46.360 --> 51:49.940 or drugged her or done any of these other horrible, 51:50.140 --> 51:51.660 I'm not even gonna mention the horrible things 51:51.660 --> 51:54.400 this guy was doing because the guy was super evil. 51:55.400 --> 51:58.300 But the problem is that the world 51:58.300 --> 51:59.960 is gonna take this anecdote 51:59.960 --> 52:04.520 and their message is, oh, the answer is divorce. 52:04.900 --> 52:05.840 Divorce is the answer. 52:05.920 --> 52:07.860 And that's the message that is just hammered 52:07.860 --> 52:11.080 in this documentary is like, she can divorce this guy. 52:11.200 --> 52:12.520 She has the right to leave this guy. 52:12.800 --> 52:13.600 It's like, hold on a second. 52:13.960 --> 52:16.920 She married this guy knowing exactly what he was like. 52:17.600 --> 52:20.320 She knew he'll commit adultery 52:20.320 --> 52:22.200 because he's committing adultery with her. 52:23.200 --> 52:24.980 She knew that he's a freak. 52:25.300 --> 52:26.600 She knew he's a psycho 52:26.600 --> 52:29.420 and then all of a sudden God's law just doesn't apply. 52:31.200 --> 52:34.280 So let me give you some quotes from her in the documentary. 52:34.580 --> 52:38.200 What she verbatim says, and this is just the message 52:38.200 --> 52:39.700 that comes off over and over again. 52:39.880 --> 52:40.620 Here's what she says. 52:41.760 --> 52:44.560 God hates divorce, but why? 52:45.860 --> 52:47.720 First of all, who cares why? 52:49.400 --> 52:51.920 God hates divorce, period, deal with it. 52:52.160 --> 52:52.520 You know what? 52:53.200 --> 52:54.500 Sometimes when your kids ask why, 52:54.500 --> 52:56.220 sometimes she just tell them, because I said so. 52:57.360 --> 52:59.320 Hey, God hates divorce, yeah, why though? 52:59.520 --> 53:00.720 Because I said so. 53:02.940 --> 53:04.860 God hates divorce, but why? 53:05.680 --> 53:08.100 According to everybody I've asked 53:08.100 --> 53:10.340 and the scriptures that I've found, 53:10.660 --> 53:12.280 it's because it hurts people. 53:14.480 --> 53:16.360 But does abuse hurt people? 53:17.420 --> 53:19.220 How do you think God feels about that? 53:21.040 --> 53:23.080 Jesus took it all for you 53:23.080 --> 53:26.620 so you don't have to stay in an abusive relationship. 53:27.280 --> 53:28.560 Now let me say this right now. 53:29.020 --> 53:31.320 First of all, you absolutely don't have to stay 53:31.320 --> 53:33.040 in an abusive relationship if you're not married. 53:34.160 --> 53:35.860 You know when the time to get out 53:35.860 --> 53:38.060 of the abusive relationship is while you're dating? 53:38.880 --> 53:41.240 And I see this over and over again. 53:41.560 --> 53:44.300 I see a young man dating a young woman 53:44.300 --> 53:47.920 and there are just obvious super clear signs. 53:48.400 --> 53:49.980 This guy is a freak. 53:50.440 --> 53:51.680 This guy is a psycho. 53:52.260 --> 53:53.340 This guy is wicked. 53:53.640 --> 53:54.960 This guy is immoral. 53:55.180 --> 53:56.580 This guy's into porno. 53:56.920 --> 53:58.500 This guy's gonna cheat on you. 53:58.660 --> 54:01.040 This is the kind of guy that's gonna kill you 54:01.040 --> 54:01.980 and then kill himself. 54:02.380 --> 54:04.520 And then these women are just like, don't listen. 54:07.100 --> 54:07.540 Right? 54:07.960 --> 54:09.280 You're warning these young ladies. 54:09.700 --> 54:11.000 This guy's bad news. 54:11.420 --> 54:12.540 Watch out for this guy, right? 54:12.780 --> 54:13.620 Or the other way around. 54:13.940 --> 54:14.640 You're warning the guy. 54:14.960 --> 54:15.820 She's a psycho. 54:16.260 --> 54:17.180 She's a weirdo. 54:17.460 --> 54:18.020 Stay away from her. 54:18.080 --> 54:19.600 You know there have been people that have come to us 54:19.600 --> 54:20.780 and wanted to marry a certain person 54:20.780 --> 54:23.640 and we're just like, no, we don't think that's a good idea. 54:23.740 --> 54:24.760 And then they took our advice 54:24.760 --> 54:26.300 and then it was like they dodged a bullet. 54:28.020 --> 54:29.740 You know, I mean, and here's the thing. 54:30.240 --> 54:32.660 You know, obviously it's not our place 54:32.660 --> 54:35.520 to tell other people who they can and can't marry 54:35.520 --> 54:38.140 but sometimes we will express ourselves. 54:38.520 --> 54:39.980 Sometimes we'll give advice like, hey, 54:40.960 --> 54:42.560 I think this person's a bad idea. 54:43.160 --> 54:46.460 And obviously parents are definitely gonna be 54:47.880 --> 54:49.800 forbidding certain suitors. 54:51.280 --> 54:55.340 And so she says, you don't have to stay 54:55.340 --> 54:55.960 in an abusive relationship. 54:56.080 --> 54:56.520 I agree. 54:56.720 --> 54:57.920 You don't have to stay in an abusive relationship 54:57.920 --> 54:58.960 unless you're married. 54:59.180 --> 55:01.420 If you're married, you do have to stay in your marriage. 55:02.380 --> 55:05.080 Even if it's quote unquote abusive, okay? 55:05.940 --> 55:06.820 You stay married. 55:07.360 --> 55:10.300 And then she says this, well, I'm God's bride first. 55:11.460 --> 55:13.060 I'm God's bride first. 55:14.260 --> 55:16.720 You don't have to stay in an abusive relationship 55:16.720 --> 55:20.380 whether that's sexual abuse or alcohol abuse 55:20.760 --> 55:24.120 or physical abuse or psychological abuse. 55:24.300 --> 55:27.300 This is like, again, this can ultimately mean anything. 55:29.300 --> 55:32.240 Making you think that this is all your fault 55:32.240 --> 55:34.400 or you're not giving it all when you know you are. 55:35.180 --> 55:36.060 It is your fault. 55:36.580 --> 55:38.800 You committed adultery with a married man 55:38.800 --> 55:40.260 when you were married yourself. 55:40.760 --> 55:42.880 That's your fault, okay? 55:43.180 --> 55:44.320 But you know what we live in a day 55:44.320 --> 55:46.540 where people don't want to take responsibility 55:46.540 --> 55:47.460 for their own actions. 55:48.040 --> 55:51.000 And especially our society does not want 55:51.000 --> 55:53.300 to hold women accountable for their actions. 55:53.900 --> 55:55.300 Go if you were to Psalm 15. 55:56.220 --> 56:00.160 Your actions have consequences, my friend, okay? 56:00.580 --> 56:03.480 So if you're a young lady and dad says, 56:03.940 --> 56:05.480 do not marry that young man. 56:06.340 --> 56:08.820 And you say, I'm gonna defy my father and mother 56:08.820 --> 56:10.420 and I'm gonna go marry that man anyway. 56:11.680 --> 56:13.540 You can't then turn around and say, 56:14.120 --> 56:16.660 oh, this is not my fault, it's all his fault. 56:17.100 --> 56:19.040 It's like, well, actually it's your fault 56:19.040 --> 56:21.720 because you didn't listen to the counselors 56:21.720 --> 56:22.820 that are giving you wisdom. 56:23.180 --> 56:24.500 And you didn't, in that case, 56:24.580 --> 56:26.360 you didn't listen to your authority, 56:26.980 --> 56:29.380 which is your father and mother 56:29.380 --> 56:31.200 are your authority figures, okay? 56:33.960 --> 56:35.920 But it's like women just, women basically 56:35.920 --> 56:38.340 want to just defy authority, defy the Bible, 56:38.500 --> 56:41.540 and then have no consequence, you know? 56:44.160 --> 56:46.460 Psalm 15, because what did she say? 56:46.820 --> 56:48.140 Let me just remind you of what she said, 56:48.340 --> 56:50.520 because this is the message that the documentary, 56:51.060 --> 56:53.180 and here's the thing, obviously the devil's smart, 56:53.580 --> 56:55.100 and so basically people that are watching 56:55.100 --> 56:57.560 this documentary, they're seeing how this guy 56:57.560 --> 57:00.100 is just such an evil perverted piece of trash. 57:01.120 --> 57:03.200 So then when she's saying these things, 57:03.260 --> 57:04.640 they're sympathizing with her like, 57:05.000 --> 57:06.440 yeah, this isn't your fault. 57:06.900 --> 57:09.240 Yeah, God doesn't want you to be an abusive relationship. 57:09.560 --> 57:11.600 Yeah, you can divorce your husband, yeah. 57:11.960 --> 57:14.660 You know, because it's just this extreme case, 57:14.800 --> 57:17.360 but then it's just brainwashing the audience 57:17.360 --> 57:19.240 with this feminist propaganda of, 57:19.700 --> 57:22.160 oh, if your husband's abusive, you can leave. 57:23.140 --> 57:26.160 And again, people are gonna take this, 57:26.560 --> 57:28.180 and they're not gonna say, oh, well, 57:28.280 --> 57:30.520 if my husband's exactly like J.P. Miller, I can leave. 57:30.740 --> 57:31.500 No, they're gonna say, well, 57:31.540 --> 57:33.580 if there's any psychological abuse, I can leave. 57:33.900 --> 57:36.060 If there's any alcohol abuse, I can leave. 57:36.500 --> 57:38.300 If there's any, you know, 57:39.060 --> 57:40.760 whatever physical abuse I can leave. 57:42.300 --> 57:44.100 Look what the Bible says, because she said, 57:44.720 --> 57:45.920 God hates divorce, but why? 57:46.140 --> 57:48.540 Everybody has said it's because it hurts people, 57:48.900 --> 57:50.500 and since abuse hurts people too, 57:50.720 --> 57:52.960 ergo, God doesn't want us to get hurt, 57:53.060 --> 57:55.120 so ergo, I can leave my husband. 57:55.300 --> 57:57.020 Well, look what the Bible says in Psalm 15-1. 57:57.160 --> 57:59.400 It says, Lord, who shall abide in thy tabernacle? 57:59.720 --> 58:00.960 Who shall dwell in thy holy hill? 58:01.080 --> 58:01.920 Jump down to verse four, 58:02.380 --> 58:04.260 in whose eyes a vile person is condemned, 58:04.780 --> 58:06.800 but he honoreth them that fear the Lord. 58:06.800 --> 58:11.260 Watch this, he that sweareth to his own hurt, 58:11.500 --> 58:12.240 and change it not. 58:15.460 --> 58:18.260 He that doeth these things shall never be moved. 58:18.420 --> 58:19.340 It says at the end of the Psalm. 58:20.100 --> 58:20.920 So what's the Bible saying? 58:21.340 --> 58:23.640 Is it God's will for you to swear to your own hurt, 58:23.780 --> 58:24.660 and change not? 58:24.960 --> 58:25.200 Yes. 58:25.660 --> 58:27.300 Well, God's just against the force, 58:27.360 --> 58:28.140 because it hurts people, 58:28.540 --> 58:29.860 so if it hurts to be married, 58:29.920 --> 58:32.000 he wants me to ditch my marriage. 58:32.600 --> 58:33.940 Is that a biblical teaching? 58:34.680 --> 58:37.680 And of course, when you're watching this psycho freak, 58:38.100 --> 58:39.340 everyone would want to get away 58:39.340 --> 58:41.620 from this evil psycho freak J.P. Miller, 58:41.920 --> 58:43.840 but the problem is this is brainwashing lives 58:43.840 --> 58:45.680 to despise their own husband, 58:46.040 --> 58:49.460 who is just psychologically abusive, 58:49.700 --> 58:51.980 or he's as a drinking problem, 58:52.240 --> 58:55.040 or a pot problem, or whatever the problem. 58:56.340 --> 58:58.440 Do you see how dangerous these ideas are? 58:58.920 --> 59:00.700 Because when you become untethered 59:00.700 --> 59:02.620 from what the Bible's teaching on this subject, 59:02.620 --> 59:04.280 well, it's a jungle out there. 59:04.840 --> 59:06.700 You know, and what's the Bible saying? 59:07.280 --> 59:08.700 If you swear to your own hurt, 59:08.920 --> 59:11.280 God is gonna bless you when you change not, 59:11.580 --> 59:13.280 meaning you stick with your vow, 59:13.560 --> 59:14.700 even if it hurts you. 59:15.280 --> 59:17.180 If it hurts you to stick with your vow, 59:17.540 --> 59:18.600 you stick with your vow. 59:18.980 --> 59:20.140 You swear to your own hurt, 59:20.160 --> 59:21.820 and you change not. 59:22.140 --> 59:24.540 You don't say, well, why does God 59:24.540 --> 59:26.000 not want people to break their vows? 59:26.080 --> 59:28.340 It's because he doesn't want people to get hurt. 59:28.960 --> 59:31.820 And so it hurts to be in this marriage, 59:31.820 --> 59:33.560 so therefore, folks, 59:33.940 --> 59:35.480 why don't we just go with what the Bible says? 59:37.180 --> 59:38.860 Now you say, okay, Pastor Anderson, 59:39.120 --> 59:41.440 I get it, stay in an abusive marriage. 59:42.120 --> 59:44.320 You know, what do I do though? 59:44.780 --> 59:46.480 Okay, now stop and think about this, okay? 59:47.060 --> 59:49.080 My number one advice to women out there 59:49.080 --> 59:51.620 is don't get into an abusive relationship 59:51.620 --> 59:52.460 in the first place. 59:53.380 --> 59:55.500 I mean, isn't that the smartest thing to do 59:56.080 --> 59:59.260 would be to just not marry someone who's abusive? 59:59.600 --> 01:00:00.760 He said, well, I didn't know. 01:00:00.760 --> 01:00:02.620 You know, virtually every single person 01:00:02.620 --> 01:00:03.620 that I've talked to though, 01:00:03.940 --> 01:00:07.600 it's like there's always red flag city with these guys. 01:00:09.900 --> 01:00:11.360 Oh, my husband's so abusive. 01:00:11.580 --> 01:00:12.680 Oh, what about before you were married? 01:00:12.800 --> 01:00:13.640 Yeah, then too. 01:00:14.860 --> 01:00:17.840 It's like, well then, why'd you marry the guy? 01:00:17.920 --> 01:00:19.420 Because it's like, you married, 01:00:19.640 --> 01:00:21.360 it'd be like if I bought a car, 01:00:21.940 --> 01:00:24.340 and the guy who was selling me the car said, 01:00:25.040 --> 01:00:28.740 this car has a problem with the suspension. 01:00:29.480 --> 01:00:31.700 And then I, and it's as is. 01:00:32.320 --> 01:00:34.940 And then I buy the car and then I wanna return it a week later 01:00:34.940 --> 01:00:36.040 like, well, the suspension's bad. 01:00:37.960 --> 01:00:39.440 It's like, bro, it's as is. 01:00:39.740 --> 01:00:40.180 Well, guess what? 01:00:40.400 --> 01:00:41.480 Marriage is as is. 01:00:42.980 --> 01:00:44.560 And so you can't sit there and say, 01:00:45.040 --> 01:00:46.480 oh, I didn't know. 01:00:46.800 --> 01:00:49.120 The whole point of dating is to get to know the person, 01:00:50.020 --> 01:00:52.120 talk to their people, get to know them. 01:00:52.420 --> 01:00:54.640 And here's a good rule of thumb. 01:00:55.000 --> 01:00:57.040 When everybody around you is telling you 01:00:57.040 --> 01:01:00.700 this is a bad idea, don't marry this guy, 01:01:00.900 --> 01:01:02.680 then maybe you should listen to that. 01:01:04.060 --> 01:01:05.840 And if your parents are telling you that, 01:01:05.900 --> 01:01:07.220 you should for sure listen to that. 01:01:09.280 --> 01:01:13.720 And so, number one, step one is don't marry a psycho. 01:01:14.220 --> 01:01:15.980 Don't marry a freak, don't marry a weirdo. 01:01:16.160 --> 01:01:18.820 Don't start your relationship by committing adultery. 01:01:19.420 --> 01:01:20.600 Don't date married men. 01:01:20.860 --> 01:01:21.300 How about that? 01:01:21.360 --> 01:01:22.300 Is that a good place to start? 01:01:23.700 --> 01:01:25.140 Okay, but you say, okay, 01:01:25.140 --> 01:01:28.420 but what if they're already in an abusive relationship? 01:01:28.780 --> 01:01:30.520 It's just like anything else in life. 01:01:30.820 --> 01:01:32.860 You have to make the best of your situation. 01:01:34.100 --> 01:01:35.540 You make the best of your situation. 01:01:35.760 --> 01:01:36.340 That's what you do. 01:01:36.880 --> 01:01:38.440 So if you say, Pastor Anderson, 01:01:40.220 --> 01:01:42.700 I didn't listen and I married a bozo 01:01:43.260 --> 01:01:44.560 and now I'm having to live with that. 01:01:44.680 --> 01:01:45.020 What do I do? 01:01:45.100 --> 01:01:46.300 You make the best of your situation. 01:01:46.860 --> 01:01:49.260 Or you say, there were no red flags. 01:01:49.420 --> 01:01:52.080 I thought everything was cool and this is what happened. 01:01:52.600 --> 01:01:53.740 Well, at the end of the day, 01:01:53.740 --> 01:01:55.780 all you can do is make the best of your situation. 01:01:56.060 --> 01:01:58.580 Life is gonna throw all kinds of bad things at us. 01:01:59.020 --> 01:02:01.780 And again, I'm not defending crappy husbands. 01:02:02.420 --> 01:02:03.960 You think I'm defending jerk husbands? 01:02:04.940 --> 01:02:05.780 You know what, here's the thing. 01:02:06.140 --> 01:02:09.860 I think that even just being a jerk to your wife verbally 01:02:10.460 --> 01:02:12.800 is bad and sinful and reprehensible. 01:02:13.340 --> 01:02:17.140 If I just went home and was just unkind to my wife 01:02:17.140 --> 01:02:20.020 and a jerk to my wife for no reason, I'd be sinning. 01:02:20.860 --> 01:02:22.500 Even if I wasn't abusive, 01:02:22.500 --> 01:02:25.760 even if I was just a jerk, even if I was just unkind, 01:02:25.980 --> 01:02:27.580 even if I was just inconsiderate. 01:02:27.800 --> 01:02:29.920 Even if I, what if I just did all the right things 01:02:29.920 --> 01:02:30.900 but I didn't love her? 01:02:31.640 --> 01:02:32.660 That'd be sin too. 01:02:34.300 --> 01:02:35.340 Call the police. 01:02:37.180 --> 01:02:40.100 Do you see the difference between sinning 01:02:40.480 --> 01:02:41.340 and calling the police? 01:02:42.400 --> 01:02:44.920 You don't call the police on every sin, do you? 01:02:45.260 --> 01:02:46.380 That's stupid and wrong. 01:02:46.680 --> 01:02:48.960 And again, I was so disillusioned 01:02:48.960 --> 01:02:49.740 reading these comments, 01:02:49.740 --> 01:02:52.340 not just by how people don't care what the Bible says, 01:02:52.600 --> 01:02:54.320 but also just how stupid people are. 01:02:54.820 --> 01:02:56.340 Like they're just so stupid. 01:02:56.580 --> 01:02:58.460 Like they just, they need to take a math class. 01:02:59.140 --> 01:03:02.320 Like I feel like math would fix a lot with people 01:03:02.320 --> 01:03:03.420 because they just have no logic. 01:03:04.320 --> 01:03:06.780 They need to take math and like math. 01:03:06.920 --> 01:03:08.660 Well, I don't know, maybe you're gonna grow up 01:03:08.660 --> 01:03:10.580 and write stupid comments on my ex channel 01:03:10.580 --> 01:03:12.100 because you suck at math. 01:03:12.560 --> 01:03:13.720 So you have no logic. 01:03:13.900 --> 01:03:15.180 So it's like, I get up and say, 01:03:15.440 --> 01:03:17.340 hey, listen, I'm not saying 01:03:17.340 --> 01:03:19.140 that a husband should slap his wife 01:03:19.140 --> 01:03:20.920 but if he does, she shouldn't call the police. 01:03:21.420 --> 01:03:22.880 Oh, I got a Bible verse to debunk you. 01:03:23.000 --> 01:03:23.880 Husbands love your wives. 01:03:24.440 --> 01:03:25.780 Beep, beep, beep, beep, beep, beep, beep, beep, beep, beep. 01:03:26.260 --> 01:03:29.560 It's like, hey idiot, everybody believes that. 01:03:30.180 --> 01:03:32.080 We all know that the Bible commands you 01:03:32.080 --> 01:03:35.880 to be loving and gentle and kind and a good husband. 01:03:36.060 --> 01:03:36.880 We all believe that. 01:03:38.040 --> 01:03:39.500 But here's what we're not saying 01:03:39.500 --> 01:03:41.120 that if the husband fails, 01:03:41.620 --> 01:03:43.160 call the cops and divorce him. 01:03:43.280 --> 01:03:44.020 That's the problem. 01:03:44.860 --> 01:03:47.920 Okay, look, we all agree that the wife should submit. 01:03:48.160 --> 01:03:48.260 Amen? 01:03:48.260 --> 01:03:48.440 Amen. 01:03:49.560 --> 01:03:51.700 Am I gonna call the cops on my wife and say, 01:03:52.200 --> 01:03:53.900 officer, my wife is not submitting. 01:03:54.040 --> 01:03:55.780 Can you come make her do what I'm telling her to do? 01:03:57.860 --> 01:04:00.140 My wife is refusing to cook dinner, officer. 01:04:00.820 --> 01:04:02.520 Can you send a squad car immediately? 01:04:04.980 --> 01:04:07.080 And come taser her until she, you know, 01:04:07.300 --> 01:04:08.700 it's like, that's stupid. 01:04:09.900 --> 01:04:11.220 But again, it's like people, 01:04:11.400 --> 01:04:13.060 they can't even use simple logic. 01:04:13.700 --> 01:04:16.460 I mean, this Faggity pastor 01:04:17.040 --> 01:04:18.840 who was like fired from his church 01:04:18.840 --> 01:04:21.060 for taking them off of the King James, 01:04:21.320 --> 01:04:23.000 he made a response video to me today. 01:04:23.260 --> 01:04:25.940 He put on a baby pink V-neck T-shirt. 01:04:27.660 --> 01:04:30.980 Okay, it's like, bro, don't wear a baby pink V-neck T-shirt 01:04:32.440 --> 01:04:34.840 unless you wanna be called Faggot by Pastor Anderson. 01:04:35.420 --> 01:04:37.160 There's no reason to dress that way. 01:04:37.380 --> 01:04:38.840 But he puts on this baby pink, 01:04:39.020 --> 01:04:39.400 because he's, you know, 01:04:39.400 --> 01:04:40.960 he's gotta put on his simping uniform. 01:04:41.380 --> 01:04:43.200 He's gotta put on his white night uniform. 01:04:43.600 --> 01:04:46.080 So he puts on his baby pink V-neck shirt 01:04:46.520 --> 01:04:47.520 and he gets up and says, 01:04:47.660 --> 01:04:50.100 when the Bible says turn the other cheek, 01:04:50.500 --> 01:04:52.720 that's talking about a backhand. 01:04:52.800 --> 01:04:54.480 That's talking about a slap across the face. 01:04:54.740 --> 01:04:57.340 That's not talking about all this like severe injuries. 01:04:57.460 --> 01:04:59.920 And I'm like, bro, isn't that what I literally said? 01:05:00.080 --> 01:05:01.140 Like, didn't I literally say 01:05:02.000 --> 01:05:03.900 if a husband slaps his wife, 01:05:04.220 --> 01:05:05.540 if a wife slaps her husband? 01:05:05.720 --> 01:05:07.380 That's literally what I said. 01:05:08.280 --> 01:05:09.820 And he makes a whole video saying, 01:05:10.260 --> 01:05:11.800 well, when the Bible says turn the other cheek, 01:05:11.800 --> 01:05:13.800 that's talking about getting slapped in the face. 01:05:14.860 --> 01:05:16.740 It's not talking about getting beaten to a pulp. 01:05:16.940 --> 01:05:18.560 It's like, when did I mention getting beaten to a pulp? 01:05:19.360 --> 01:05:20.340 And stop and think about this. 01:05:21.020 --> 01:05:24.740 If a husband actually beat the hell out of his wife 01:05:24.740 --> 01:05:25.740 and injured her, 01:05:26.520 --> 01:05:27.240 I'm talking about like, 01:05:27.480 --> 01:05:29.540 if he's injured or he's breaking bones 01:05:29.540 --> 01:05:32.820 and just harming her and like, you know, whatever, 01:05:33.400 --> 01:05:34.180 then here's the thing. 01:05:34.380 --> 01:05:35.380 She'd go to the hospital 01:05:35.380 --> 01:05:37.000 and the cops would get involved 01:05:37.000 --> 01:05:38.600 and the guy would be punished 01:05:38.600 --> 01:05:40.140 and the guy should be punished. 01:05:40.940 --> 01:05:45.560 Obviously, a man who beats the hell out of another person 01:05:45.560 --> 01:05:48.060 and just injures them and harms them like that 01:05:48.060 --> 01:05:49.160 should be punished. 01:05:49.560 --> 01:05:53.400 We don't need special domestic violence laws for that 01:05:53.400 --> 01:05:56.560 because if you beat anyone and injure them, 01:05:56.660 --> 01:05:57.480 you're gonna get in trouble. 01:05:58.900 --> 01:05:59.440 Right? 01:06:00.560 --> 01:06:04.320 If I went to the hospital and I'm all beat up 01:06:04.320 --> 01:06:07.500 and, you know, the cops are gonna come 01:06:07.500 --> 01:06:09.240 and say, who did this to you? 01:06:09.240 --> 01:06:10.220 What happened? 01:06:10.820 --> 01:06:11.860 The cops are gonna come. 01:06:12.100 --> 01:06:14.420 If my wife goes in there, broken nose, 01:06:15.020 --> 01:06:18.040 black eye, bloody lip, you know, 01:06:19.500 --> 01:06:20.920 fractured ribs or whatever, 01:06:21.260 --> 01:06:22.800 they're gonna be like, okay, what happened? 01:06:22.920 --> 01:06:23.680 The cops are gonna come 01:06:23.680 --> 01:06:25.100 and the guy's gonna get arrested 01:06:25.100 --> 01:06:26.960 and the guy's gonna get punished or whatever. 01:06:27.200 --> 01:06:29.600 And you know, it may or may not be a biblical punishment, 01:06:30.000 --> 01:06:30.980 but at the end of the day, 01:06:31.260 --> 01:06:35.020 like, yeah, obviously that is not what I'm talking about. 01:06:35.140 --> 01:06:36.580 Anyway, I'm talking about, 01:06:36.580 --> 01:06:39.780 I literally said he slaps you down 01:06:39.780 --> 01:06:41.960 or she slaps you or, you know, 01:06:42.020 --> 01:06:43.240 she's attacking you or whatever. 01:06:43.660 --> 01:06:44.720 At the end of the day, 01:06:45.340 --> 01:06:47.380 like this guy is so stupid 01:06:47.380 --> 01:06:49.360 that he gets up and makes a video and says, 01:06:49.800 --> 01:06:52.600 Matthew 539 is about getting slapped in the face. 01:06:52.980 --> 01:06:54.500 Not, and I'm just like, what? 01:06:55.180 --> 01:06:56.780 Am I living in the twilight zone? 01:06:57.280 --> 01:06:59.180 Does anybody have a brain in their head? 01:06:59.740 --> 01:07:01.680 Has anybody taken a math class? 01:07:04.660 --> 01:07:07.100 Don't you be skipping math, you homeschoolers? 01:07:07.180 --> 01:07:08.960 You better, you need to go hard. 01:07:09.300 --> 01:07:09.840 And you know what? 01:07:10.040 --> 01:07:12.720 Hey, I don't care if high school only requires Algebra 1, 01:07:12.840 --> 01:07:14.200 I want you to go to Algebra 2 01:07:15.220 --> 01:07:16.800 so that you have some logic. 01:07:19.240 --> 01:07:20.620 But again, nobody cares, 01:07:20.800 --> 01:07:23.340 everybody just watches Captain Pink undershirt 01:07:23.760 --> 01:07:25.380 and they don't care, here's the thing, 01:07:25.600 --> 01:07:27.500 they don't care if he's making any sense or not 01:07:27.500 --> 01:07:29.320 because it's just, they're just emotional. 01:07:29.320 --> 01:07:35.020 They say, yeah, yeah, bad, pass anything bad. 01:07:35.620 --> 01:07:39.040 Yeah, yeah, if any man ever lifts a hand to a woman, 01:07:39.380 --> 01:07:40.920 you gotta call the cops right away. 01:07:41.520 --> 01:07:43.980 And yeah, you shouldn't be in a piece of relationship. 01:07:44.340 --> 01:07:46.820 You used to go watch Netflix and yeah, 01:07:47.080 --> 01:07:49.480 I just watched Netflix and Netflix told me 01:07:49.480 --> 01:07:53.580 that yeah, God commands us to call the cops. 01:07:53.880 --> 01:07:55.300 I mean, I had people leaving comments saying, 01:07:55.660 --> 01:07:57.680 God commands us to call the cops on our spouse. 01:07:58.720 --> 01:07:59.480 I'm not kidding. 01:08:01.660 --> 01:08:03.800 You're disobeying God if you don't call the cops. 01:08:03.940 --> 01:08:04.480 I'm like, what? 01:08:07.920 --> 01:08:11.300 Well, Netflix chapter five verse 13 says that. 01:08:13.200 --> 01:08:14.480 But you know what, let me just give you 01:08:14.480 --> 01:08:16.140 some real practical advice because you know what? 01:08:16.540 --> 01:08:18.400 You say Pastor Anderson, and I'm almost done, 01:08:19.120 --> 01:08:21.140 you say Pastor Anderson, this sermon doesn't apply to me. 01:08:22.080 --> 01:08:24.140 This is a wild sermon, whatever. 01:08:24.560 --> 01:08:26.900 But at the end of the day, here's the thing, okay? 01:08:26.900 --> 01:08:29.100 You could apply what I'm about to give you right now 01:08:29.100 --> 01:08:30.300 to any area of your life. 01:08:31.580 --> 01:08:33.960 Because all of us have a part of our life 01:08:33.960 --> 01:08:34.860 that is going badly. 01:08:36.080 --> 01:08:38.720 Nobody's life is perfect, finance is perfect, 01:08:39.120 --> 01:08:41.380 relationship perfect, health is perfect, 01:08:41.700 --> 01:08:43.480 spirits are perfect, church is perfect. 01:08:43.700 --> 01:08:45.140 Like, nobody's life is like that. 01:08:46.140 --> 01:08:47.160 Everybody's got problems. 01:08:48.260 --> 01:08:51.000 Here's what you gotta do, focus on the parts 01:08:51.000 --> 01:08:53.720 of your life that are going well, right? 01:08:54.080 --> 01:08:56.180 You say, oh man, my marriage is messed up. 01:08:56.180 --> 01:08:59.200 My husband's abusive, my wife's abusive. 01:08:59.500 --> 01:09:00.680 Well, here's the thing, you know what? 01:09:00.940 --> 01:09:04.200 Find a way to just enjoy other areas of your life. 01:09:04.440 --> 01:09:06.360 And you say, oh, my husband's got a temper. 01:09:07.380 --> 01:09:09.280 And he's just constantly slapping me. 01:09:09.520 --> 01:09:10.900 Here's the, quit pissing him off. 01:09:12.180 --> 01:09:12.940 How about that? 01:09:13.080 --> 01:09:15.740 And I'm not saying it's right for him to act that way, 01:09:15.920 --> 01:09:18.600 but what I'm saying is quit pissing him off. 01:09:19.120 --> 01:09:21.120 Because you know what the Bible says in Romans 13? 01:09:21.700 --> 01:09:24.140 It says, wilt thou then not be afraid of the power? 01:09:24.700 --> 01:09:25.740 Do that, which is good. 01:09:25.840 --> 01:09:27.000 And that's enough praise of the same. 01:09:27.220 --> 01:09:29.500 The Bible says, if you don't wanna get punished by authority, 01:09:29.860 --> 01:09:31.740 then quit pissing off authority. 01:09:32.420 --> 01:09:35.760 Okay, and look, and again, I'm not condoning it. 01:09:36.040 --> 01:09:39.820 But again, retards who didn't go all the way in math, 01:09:40.040 --> 01:09:43.080 they will leave comments saying that I'm saying 01:09:43.080 --> 01:09:45.720 it's good to abuse your spouse or something. 01:09:45.820 --> 01:09:46.920 Because they're just stupid though. 01:09:47.200 --> 01:09:49.460 And I'm sorry, I don't have time for people like that. 01:09:49.580 --> 01:09:50.600 And if you're sitting here tonight 01:09:50.600 --> 01:09:51.240 and you're one of them, 01:09:51.240 --> 01:09:54.040 you need to pick a retard church to go to. 01:09:54.440 --> 01:09:57.120 This is adult church, this is big boy church, 01:09:57.440 --> 01:10:00.900 special needs retard Baptists is down the street 01:10:01.370 --> 01:10:02.640 for people who can't think. 01:10:06.420 --> 01:10:08.900 And we don't have any people like that today. 01:10:09.560 --> 01:10:12.480 But the point is though, 01:10:13.260 --> 01:10:16.380 is that if you have to learn 01:10:16.380 --> 01:10:19.280 to make the best of your situation, whatever it is. 01:10:19.960 --> 01:10:21.400 So you know what you have to do? 01:10:21.840 --> 01:10:24.640 Your assignment is your wife's a monster, 01:10:25.140 --> 01:10:27.480 your wife's a psycho, your wife's an idiot. 01:10:27.800 --> 01:10:31.660 You have to figure out a way to at least have 01:10:31.660 --> 01:10:34.580 some level of normalcy or peace in your house. 01:10:35.200 --> 01:10:36.240 That's the assignment. 01:10:36.980 --> 01:10:38.380 You gotta spend the rest of your life 01:10:38.380 --> 01:10:40.840 trying to figure out how to neutralize 01:10:40.840 --> 01:10:43.100 this wild broad that you're married to. 01:10:44.520 --> 01:10:47.360 And if you're married to some weirdo guy, 01:10:48.000 --> 01:10:50.720 you have to try to figure out a way. 01:10:51.100 --> 01:10:53.200 And of course you can bring up some wild example 01:10:53.200 --> 01:10:57.280 about J.P. Miller and psycho machete wielders in the jungle. 01:10:57.660 --> 01:10:59.420 But for 99% of people, 01:11:00.180 --> 01:11:02.420 you can figure it out because you know how I know that? 01:11:02.600 --> 01:11:05.460 Because throughout history 99% of people made it work. 01:11:06.460 --> 01:11:08.500 In the 1700s and 1800s, 01:11:08.540 --> 01:11:10.060 people weren't just getting divorced left and right. 01:11:10.440 --> 01:11:12.680 They figured out a way to get along 01:11:12.680 --> 01:11:14.200 with their wicked wife 01:11:14.200 --> 01:11:15.960 or get along with their wicked husband. 01:11:15.960 --> 01:11:16.980 They figured it out. 01:11:18.600 --> 01:11:21.460 And you say, yeah, but I just wanna have true love 01:11:21.460 --> 01:11:21.760 and everything. 01:11:22.060 --> 01:11:24.520 Look, I have found true love, baby. 01:11:25.100 --> 01:11:25.520 But you know what? 01:11:25.880 --> 01:11:27.300 Everybody hasn't found true love. 01:11:27.440 --> 01:11:27.900 I'm sorry. 01:11:29.000 --> 01:11:31.680 I feel sorry for you if your marriage 01:11:31.680 --> 01:11:33.200 is a loveless marriage, 01:11:33.560 --> 01:11:36.880 if your marriage is depressing or disappointing 01:11:37.560 --> 01:11:38.880 or your husband's cheating 01:11:38.880 --> 01:11:41.320 or whatever bad things you're going through, 01:11:41.440 --> 01:11:43.640 I truly feel bad for you. 01:11:44.340 --> 01:11:45.360 Okay, but you know what? 01:11:45.720 --> 01:11:47.480 I got my own crap that I'm going through. 01:11:48.660 --> 01:11:51.000 My marriage is good, but I got other problems. 01:11:51.180 --> 01:11:52.440 You got other, we all got problems. 01:11:53.500 --> 01:11:55.660 And if all our troubles were hung on a line, 01:11:55.980 --> 01:11:57.240 you'd take yours and I'd take mine. 01:11:58.320 --> 01:11:59.400 And at the end of the day, 01:11:59.980 --> 01:12:02.020 you just have to make the best of your situation 01:12:02.640 --> 01:12:04.440 and there are certain parts of your life 01:12:04.440 --> 01:12:05.580 that are never gonna be fixed. 01:12:06.020 --> 01:12:07.420 You might have a physical ailment 01:12:07.420 --> 01:12:08.400 that will never go away. 01:12:08.820 --> 01:12:11.860 You might have a spouse that will never go away. 01:12:13.640 --> 01:12:15.880 You might have a financial problem that will never go away. 01:12:16.280 --> 01:12:16.860 Here's the thing. 01:12:17.520 --> 01:12:19.200 You can choose to fixate on that 01:12:19.200 --> 01:12:20.660 or you can choose to focus on the things 01:12:20.660 --> 01:12:21.700 in your life that are going well. 01:12:23.100 --> 01:12:25.600 So when I'm going through painful things in my life, 01:12:25.900 --> 01:12:28.180 I just lean into the other areas of my life 01:12:28.180 --> 01:12:28.840 that are going well. 01:12:29.580 --> 01:12:30.660 So if I had, and look, 01:12:31.240 --> 01:12:32.740 I've been married for 26 years. 01:12:33.100 --> 01:12:35.100 There have been rough patches in our marriage. 01:12:35.320 --> 01:12:36.840 There have been low points in our marriage. 01:12:37.080 --> 01:12:38.640 There were times when we were not getting along 01:12:38.640 --> 01:12:40.260 and where I was not satisfied with my marriage. 01:12:40.380 --> 01:12:41.100 I am right now, 01:12:41.300 --> 01:12:42.840 but there were times when I wasn't 01:12:42.840 --> 01:12:45.300 because that's just the life that we live 01:12:45.780 --> 01:12:51.040 and in those times when my marriage was not fulfilling 01:12:52.040 --> 01:12:53.660 my emotional needs, 01:12:54.060 --> 01:12:56.380 then you know what I did is I just basically 01:12:56.380 --> 01:12:58.640 just focused on parts of my life that were going well. 01:12:59.520 --> 01:13:01.060 You get a hobby friend. 01:13:02.140 --> 01:13:03.700 Join the gym or something. 01:13:04.100 --> 01:13:05.340 Join a sports team. 01:13:05.860 --> 01:13:06.420 How about this? 01:13:06.900 --> 01:13:08.940 If everything in your life is going to crap, 01:13:09.260 --> 01:13:10.900 how about you just show up and go soul winning anyway? 01:13:11.640 --> 01:13:12.860 You know, because here's the thing. 01:13:13.220 --> 01:13:15.700 I don't care if you're the most messed up, 01:13:15.860 --> 01:13:17.560 screwed up person in the room, 01:13:17.680 --> 01:13:20.060 and your life is an absolute train wreck. 01:13:20.360 --> 01:13:21.060 If you're saved, 01:13:21.200 --> 01:13:22.760 you can still go out and win someone to Christ. 01:13:23.880 --> 01:13:26.080 And if you're waiting for your life to be perfect 01:13:26.080 --> 01:13:27.400 before you become a soul winner, 01:13:27.920 --> 01:13:30.060 that's a mistake because you're never going to get there. 01:13:30.520 --> 01:13:32.380 Hey, while your marriage is messed up, 01:13:32.540 --> 01:13:34.040 while your finance are messed up, 01:13:34.180 --> 01:13:35.380 go out and win somebody to Christ. 01:13:36.780 --> 01:13:38.700 While your whole life is falling apart, 01:13:38.700 --> 01:13:40.400 what if you get someone out of hell? 01:13:42.800 --> 01:13:44.320 Hey, then you know what? 01:13:44.540 --> 01:13:45.900 That feels pretty good, doesn't it? 01:13:46.040 --> 01:13:48.200 And it doesn't just feel good, it is good. 01:13:48.600 --> 01:13:50.080 And it has eternal value. 01:13:50.320 --> 01:13:50.880 Because you know what? 01:13:50.960 --> 01:13:52.180 The time is short, my friends. 01:13:52.660 --> 01:13:54.720 Pretty soon, there's going to be no difference 01:13:54.720 --> 01:13:55.980 between the married and the single. 01:13:57.540 --> 01:13:58.900 There's going to be no difference between 01:13:58.900 --> 01:14:00.120 the guy that has a great marriage 01:14:00.120 --> 01:14:01.920 and the guy that has a crappy marriage. 01:14:02.500 --> 01:14:03.560 There's going to be no difference 01:14:03.560 --> 01:14:04.860 between the rich and the poor. 01:14:05.460 --> 01:14:07.600 Very soon, it's all going to be over. 01:14:08.300 --> 01:14:11.680 Hang in there, do what you can, stay with it. 01:14:11.920 --> 01:14:12.420 And you know what? 01:14:12.640 --> 01:14:16.280 If you are looking for a reason to get out of your marriage, 01:14:16.800 --> 01:14:17.980 go to church somewhere else 01:14:17.980 --> 01:14:20.160 because this is the church that's going to keep you married. 01:14:21.080 --> 01:14:23.260 My mission is to keep myself married, 01:14:23.400 --> 01:14:25.080 keep you married, keep all of y'all married. 01:14:25.600 --> 01:14:26.800 Keep you at home married. 01:14:27.320 --> 01:14:31.600 You hate watching X and IFB losers that are watching me? 01:14:31.840 --> 01:14:33.580 You bunch of weird Protestant, 01:14:33.580 --> 01:14:36.560 Protestant, pulpitant, pen people that are watching me? 01:14:37.480 --> 01:14:39.160 I want you to stay married too. 01:14:40.840 --> 01:14:43.280 And whether you believe it or understand it or not, 01:14:43.380 --> 01:14:45.520 I'm actually helping you all stay married 01:14:45.960 --> 01:14:48.840 by actually being a voice for marriage 01:14:49.280 --> 01:14:53.460 and I'm polling against this divorce culture 01:14:53.460 --> 01:14:55.340 and Netflix is going the opposite way. 01:14:56.560 --> 01:14:57.960 By showing you the worst. 01:14:58.100 --> 01:14:59.920 I mean, why doesn't Netflix make a documentary 01:15:00.400 --> 01:15:03.580 about a woman who's married to a horrible guy 01:15:03.580 --> 01:15:06.220 who later gets his crap together and becomes a great husband? 01:15:06.440 --> 01:15:08.780 And she's like, wow, I'm so glad I stayed married 01:15:08.780 --> 01:15:09.980 and I didn't give up. 01:15:11.260 --> 01:15:14.740 Now, obviously JP's a reprobate, so there's no fixing him. 01:15:15.240 --> 01:15:16.820 That's why they want to show you that 01:15:16.820 --> 01:15:20.880 and focus on this super wild anecdote. 01:15:21.840 --> 01:15:23.480 The exception, not the rule. 01:15:23.940 --> 01:15:25.080 The rule is staying married. 01:15:25.740 --> 01:15:26.520 That's what we need. 01:15:26.620 --> 01:15:27.440 Let's bards and have a word of prayer. 01:15:27.900 --> 01:15:29.540 Father, we thank you so much for your word, Lord. 01:15:29.540 --> 01:15:31.340 We thank you for the clear teachings, Lord God. 01:15:31.680 --> 01:15:34.420 I pray that none of us would just get emotional 01:15:34.420 --> 01:15:38.000 and start throwing out the words of Jesus Christ, Lord. 01:15:38.580 --> 01:15:42.200 Help Christ's words always to be a lamp to our feet 01:15:42.200 --> 01:15:43.580 and a light to our path, Lord. 01:15:44.120 --> 01:15:47.380 Help us to stay with our vows even when it hurts. 01:15:47.980 --> 01:15:51.100 Help us to stay with the Bible even when it's unpopular. 01:15:52.120 --> 01:15:53.720 And Lord God, I pray that you'd bless us all 01:15:53.720 --> 01:15:54.540 as we go our separate ways. 01:15:54.620 --> 01:15:55.360 In Jesus' name, amen.