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Man, this is a very powerful microphone,

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so I'm gonna try to put it on the lowest.

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I had it turned up to 11,

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but I'm gonna put it down to like one.

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All right, there we go.

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How's that sound?

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Good?

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Up, down?

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All right.

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Great to be here.

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Thank you so much.

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And it's great to see such a good turnout tonight.

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Oh, and then I need to pop this on too.

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All right.

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Great turnout.

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And it's exciting, the one year anniversary.

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It feels like just yesterday

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that I was hearing about this church plant.

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So time has really flown.

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And you guys are doing a great job out here.

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I'm constantly seeing Brother Eric's stuff

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coming up in my feed.

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He's putting a lot of preaching out there into the world.

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And so great work with that.

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And also, I love the goal of 200 Salvation's

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for the first year.

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That's a really great goal

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because that was actually my exact same goal

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when we started Faithful Word.

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And I remember just at the end of December,

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having to take some time off

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and just try to get those last couple Salvation's.

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And as soon as I got that 200,

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I'm like, I'm done, that's it.

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So it was exactly 200.

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And so that's a really awesome goal to have.

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And so appreciate everybody who came out,

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everybody who's gonna be soul winning tomorrow,

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participating in the weekend.

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And so I'm gonna preach to you tonight

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on this subject,

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marrying someone forbidden by parents.

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Marrying someone forbidden by your parents.

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So that might sound oddly specific,

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but this is a subject that actually,

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the Bible talks a lot about.

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I was actually pretty surprised as I was writing this

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and it started to turn into like a Pastor Shelley link,

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kind of a sermon, just page after page after page.

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So I'm gonna see if I can kind of condense some of this

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because there's really a lot about this in the Bible.

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And of course, we're living in a day.

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The Bible says, perilous times will come.

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Man will be lovers of their own selves.

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And when we talk about those types of mentalities

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that we see amongst the wicked

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and amongst end times populations,

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one thing that comes up a lot is disobedient to parents.

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Right?

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One of the tech commandments is honor,

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thy father and mother,

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which is the first commandment with promise

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that it may be well with thee

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and that may live long on the earth.

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So my sermon tonight is gonna have two parts.

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Part one is a son should marry a woman

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that his parents approve of.

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Number one.

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And part two is a daughter must marry a man

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that her father approves of.

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Those are the two parts of the sermon

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and we're gonna do a lot of Bible.

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Let's back up just a little bit

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to Genesis chapter number 26.

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Genesis 26, the first bad example I wanna give

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is Esau.

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In Genesis chapter 26, the Bible reads in verse 34

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and Esau was 40 years old

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when he took to wife Judith,

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the daughter of Birai the Hittite

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and Bashamath, the daughter of Elon the Hittite.

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So of course, not only is there a problem

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with whom he's marrying,

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there's also a problem with having two wives

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because that's never been God's plan.

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That's never been the ideal God at the beginning,

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made the male and female

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and said for this cause shall a man

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leave his father and mother

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and cleave unto his wife singular

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and they twain shall be one flesh.

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But he marries these two daughters of the land

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and it says in verse 35,

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which were a grief of mind unto Isaac and to Rebecca.

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What a tragedy when you are tormenting

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and upsetting and grieving your parents

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by making this foolish decision

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of marrying someone wicked.

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Someone that your parents knows is wicked.

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Your parents are warning you,

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they're telling you this is wrong,

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this is not a good idea.

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You know, they're trying to look out for you

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and then you're just a grief of mind to your parents

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because you just stupidly marry someone

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that they have not approved of.

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Let me give you some other verse from Proverbs.

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But if you would just flip the page to Genesis 27,

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it says in Proverbs 17 21,

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he that begetteth a fool,

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doeth it to his own sorrow

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and the father of a fool has no joy.

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Okay, Proverbs 17 25,

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a foolish son is a grief to his father

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and bitterness to her that bear him.

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And again, what did it say about these wives

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that Esau married?

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They were a grief of mind unto Isaac and Rebecca.

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Proverbs 19 13,

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a foolish son is the calamity of his father

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and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.

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Proverbs 10 1,

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a wise son maketh a glad father,

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but a foolish son is the heaviness of his mother.

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In other words, for heaviness is depression, right?

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Because if you think about it, heaviness is weighing you down.

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Depression is like when you're pressing something down,

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like, you know, depress this button on this machine

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or whatever.

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And so the idea here is that when you do these things,

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when you just don't listen to your parents' godly advice

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and they watch you destroy your life,

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they watch you make a train wreck of your life,

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they watch you marry someone that's just red flag city.

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It's a grief of mind unto them

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and it's the heaviness of your mother.

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Look at Genesis 27 verse 46.

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Here's Rebecca speaking back about this in 26,

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but in Genesis 27 46, it says,

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Rebecca said to Isaac,

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I am weary of my life.

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I mean, what is he saying?

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Like, man, I'm just sick of my life.

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She's pretty upset.

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I'm weary of my life because of the daughters of Heth.

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If Jacob takes a wife of the daughters of Heth,

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such as these which are of the daughters of the land,

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what good shall my life do me?

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That's a pretty strong statement.

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You know, it seems like it can be pretty upsetting

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to your parents when they see you marry someone wicked.

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Flip over to chapter 28.

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It says in Genesis chapter 28 verse 6,

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when Esau saw that Isaac had blessed Jacob

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and sent him away to Padana Ram

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to take him away from thence

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and that as he blessed him,

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he gave him a charge saying,

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thou shalt not take a wife of the daughters of Canaan

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and that Jacob obeyed his father and his mother

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and was gone to Padana Ram

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and Esau, seeing that the daughters of Canaan,

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please not Isaac his father,

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then went Esau unto Ishmael

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and took unto the wives which he had,

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Mahalath, the daughter of Ishmael Abraham's son,

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the sister of Nabejoth to be his wife.

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So, you know, I guess he thinks he can just fix it

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by just adding a third wife

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that maybe they'll like a little better

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because she's from a more normal family,

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from a more normal tribe.

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But here's the thing about this,

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you know, this doesn't really fix things, does it?

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Because the thing about getting married is that

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it's permanent.

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The thing about getting married is that it's for life

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and it's such an important life decision.

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And look, the prefrontal cortex of your brain

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isn't even totally developed until you're 25.

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You know, you gotta listen to wisdom

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from other people around you

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and you especially gotta listen to the parents

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that God has given you.

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And so remember part one of the sermon is called,

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you know, a son should marry a woman

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that his parents approve of.

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Right, the wise son is gonna listen to the advice

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of a spirit, yeah, he's gonna go out

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and he's gonna marry who he wants,

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but he should be listening to their advice.

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And if they're saying, hey son,

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get your wife from over here,

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don't get your wife from over here,

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that particular girl is bad news.

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You know, the wise son's gonna listen to that.

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And he's gonna hear his father's instruction,

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he's gonna bow his ear unto the words of his mother.

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And so that's what we see in the story of Jacob and Esau.

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Jacob listens to his parents

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and gets a wife that they approve of.

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Esau does the opposite

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and just tortures his mother to the point

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where his mother is just like, man,

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I don't even know what good my life is,

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he may have to be to me

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if Jacob does the same thing that Esau has done.

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Let's look at another example.

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Go to Judges chapter 14

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because we're looking at two bad examples here

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of men in the Bible who disobeyed their parents' advice

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as far as who they married.

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And here's the thing about Esau is that,

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yeah, Esau, he did some wrong things.

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The biggest thing that he did wrong was,

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he despised his birthright, right?

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And so because he despised his birthright

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for one morsel of meat, he sold his birthright

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and God was totally displeased with that

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and he ended up causing him to lose the blessing.

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And even though he was the elder brother,

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the blessing ended up going to the younger brother

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because Esau forfeited it with his carnal,

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short-sighted way of thinking and way of living.

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But here's the thing, Esau,

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I don't think is just the most horrible person ever

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in the Old Testament because if you remember,

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later when Jacob comes back,

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first he's super wicked

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wanting to murder his brother Jacob,

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but when Jacob comes back, he forgives him,

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they hug, they get along,

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he's at dad's funeral right there alongside Jacob.

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So he doesn't necessarily seem like the worst person ever,

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although he does, you know,

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obviously picture something bad in the New Testament.

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But here's the thing though,

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is that his descendants are just total trash

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and God said that he loved Jacob

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and hated the Edomites.

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He hated Esau, meaning the Edomites

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and just totally destroyed their nation

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and punished them and everything.

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So here's the thing,

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did this work out well for Esau,

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marrying these heathen women

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that his parents didn't approve of?

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Well, all of his descendants

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become just one of the most super wicked nations

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that God is just judging and destroying

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and God's even saying, I hate these people

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and I have indignation against them forever.

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That's what God says in the book of Malachi

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about the Edomites in Malachi chapter one,

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he says, the people against whom the Lord

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has indignation forever.

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I mean, that's not really the family

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that you want to have.

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And so therefore, you can see that he did wrong,

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he disobeyed mom and dad

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and he reaped the consequences of doing that.

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Now let's look at another bad example

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and that is Samson.

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Look at Judges chapter 14 verse one,

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the Bible reads Samson went down to Timnath

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and saw a woman in Timnath

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of the daughters of the Philistines

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and he came up and told his father and mother

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and said, I've seen a woman in Timnath

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of the daughters of the Philistines

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now therefore get her for me wife.

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Then his father and his mother said in him

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and like this is like the exact thing

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that I would say to my kids,

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this is the exact thing that you would say to your kids, right?

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If they wanted to marry some heathen girl,

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isn't this what you would say?

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Is there never a woman among the daughters

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of thy brethren or among all of my people

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that thou goest to take a wife

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of the uncircumcised Philistines, right?

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Can't you just picture your own parents saying that,

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you saying that, your brothers and sisters in Christ saying that.

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That's what you always say.

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There's all these fish in the sea.

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Why do you want this one forbidden fruit?

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Why do you want this one thing that's off limits?

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You know, God has said of all the trees of the garden

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now may as freely eat, there's one tree, it's a no.

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The tree of the knowledge of good and evil

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and yet you'll have young people

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whether male or female fixate on someone

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that their parents don't want them to marry.

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And the parents are just like,

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bro, what about all these other girls?

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Is there never a girl at church?

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Is there never a girl at one of these conferences?

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Do you need to visit another Baptist church?

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You know, why go to the Philistines?

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Marry someone that we approve of.

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And it's not like they're just having arbitrary like,

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hey, we just only prefer blondes

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or something in the family.

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This is like, look, we're looking

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for spiritual quality here.

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The problem with the Philistines

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is that they're worshiping Dagon, a false God.

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That's the problem.

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And so they're like, look,

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isn't there another girl that you like?

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And Samson said to his father,

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get her for me for she pleases me well.

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So he disobeys parents advice.

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Now it says in verse four,

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we don't want to misunderstand verse four.

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It says in verse four,

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but his father and mother knew not

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that it was of the Lord

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that he sought an occasion against the Philistines

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for at that time the Philistines

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had dominion over Israel.

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Now here's the thing.

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It was not of the Lord that he disobeyed his parents.

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It's not of the Lord that he's marrying a heathen.

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The thing that was of the Lord

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is that he sought an occasion against the Philistines.

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God had put in Samson's heart

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the desire to fight back against the Philistines.

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He wanted to go against the Philistines.

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God had put in his heart.

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He's looking for a reason, right?

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Doesn't that mean seek an occasion against them?

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He's just like, give me a reason, bro.

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He's looking for a fight

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with the enemies of the Lord, with the Philistines.

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But here's the thing about Samson,

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even though the Lord has called him for this purpose,

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even before he was born,

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the angel Lord's predicting greatness for Samson

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and giving him this charge,

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even though he has the right desire

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to fight the Philistines,

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he's gonna continually go about things the wrong way.

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So although Samson has the right mission

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and the right desire in a big picture of serving God,

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he ends up going about it the wrong way

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every step of the way.

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And so ultimately God is going to use him

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to deliver the Israelites from the Philistines,

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but his personal life, because of his sins

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of disobeying his parents,

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and he's gonna dishonor his parents more later

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because not only does he disobey them

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with respect to whom he's gonna marry,

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he's also gonna disobey them later

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or not really disobey them,

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but he's gonna do them dirty

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when he brings them contaminated honey

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that he pulled out of a dead body,

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which is not something that the Israelites

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are supposed to be doing,

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they're supposed to be super clean

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and following all these laws

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about not touching dead bodies and being clean.

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You know, he sins by violating his Nazarite vow

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and just violating just basic decency

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and cleanliness of an Israelite,

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and then he involves his parents in that

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without even telling them.

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I mean, look, if you're gonna feed me food

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that you found inside of a dead body,

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I wanna know about it.

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And it's not right for him to do that to,

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it just shows like a disdain

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or lack of respect for his parents.

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You know, like he's probably laughing,

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like, hey, you guys like that honey,

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you know, eat up guys or whatever.

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But the point is that Samson, yes,

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he has a right desire and a right mission

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that he ultimately ironically fulfills,

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he ends up living a super messed up life

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and dying a horrible death

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as a result of doing things wrong.

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Jump down to verse 17,

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let's see how well this goes for Samson.

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Disobeying his parents advice

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when it comes to whom he marries.

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Look at verse 17, she wept before him the seven days

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while their feast lasted.

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And it came to pass on the seventh day

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that he told her because she lay sore upon him

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and she told the riddle to the children of her people.

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Now, I'm not gonna go into the whole story

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for sake of time.

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If you don't know the story,

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then do yourself a favor,

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get a cup of hot cocoa and sit down and read,

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you know, chapters 14, 15, 16.

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This is a great story.

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I actually started 13

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about the prediction of his birthday.

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You know, it's a great story.

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It's an interesting story,

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but the thing that I really wanna drive in

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is that he sees this woman of the Philistines,

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he talks to her, she pleases him well,

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he wants to marry her,

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mom and dad said no,

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she's off limits, but he does it anyway.

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I want you to notice that when they get married,

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they spend a week together of the honeymoon

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as they're celebrating and feasting

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with her people for seven days.

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Is this a fun honeymoon?

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Is this a honeymoon where like,

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hey, it all went bad later,

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but man, that honeymoon, that was all worth it?

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No, because it says that for that seven days,

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she is just torturing him the whole time

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by just weeping and being upset

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and just laying sore upon him

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and she just vexes him so much

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that he finally just gives in and tells her the riddle

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and then she tells the people.

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Again, you gotta read the story on your own

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to understand what I mean by that.

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But the point is, not a fun relationship.

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First of all, the whole marriage only lasts for seven days

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and it's just seven miserable days of a nagging woman

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what we just read it earlier,

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the contentions of a wife are continual dropping.

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That's literally Samson's seven day marriage

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with this woman.

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And no, this is not Delilah,

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this woman, we don't know her name,

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it's a different woman.

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Delilah's gonna come later.

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But then it says in verse 20,

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so after the seven days of just bad relationship,

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verse 20, Samson's wife was given to his companion

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whom he had used as his friend.

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So put yourself in this position, okay?

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You just married the girl that you want,

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you have seven days of just a trash honeymoon

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that you hate, you're miserable the whole time

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and then you end up getting angry, leaving

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and then her dad just gives her to somebody else.

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And so it says Samson's wife was given to his companion

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whom he had used as his friend.

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Now this is kind of the ultimate insult

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when somebody just takes your wife

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and gives her to somebody else.

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Some other guy is enjoying your wife now.

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Chapter 15, verse six, then the Philistines said,

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and we're skipping the story because of time.

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Hopefully you just kind of know the story,

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otherwise these points still stand.

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Look at verse six, then the Philistines said,

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who had done this?

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And they answered Samson, the son-in-law of the Timnite

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because he had taken his wife and given her to his companion

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and the Philistines came up and burnt her and her father

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in just in case you don't know what burnt means, with fire.

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Okay, so this is not like, this is like,

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well they got burned, you know, metaphorically.

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No, no, no, this is the with fire kind of burning.

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Okay, so basically seven days of bad marriage,

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she ends up being given to another dude,

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then she gets burned at the stake with her dad.

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Now, does this sound like the kind of life

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that you wanna live?

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Is this the way you want your marriage to go?

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Is this the way that you want your life to go?

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You know what, then maybe you should marry someone

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that your parents prove of

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because this is how the Bible describes situations

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where men are going against their parents' teachings

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and wisdom and counsel.

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Now here's the thing, you know,

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men obviously in the Bible and life in our world

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have more freedom than women, you know?

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Men, they're gonna grow up,

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they're gonna do what they're gonna do,

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they're gonna be the leaders,

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they're gonna be the heads of their own household someday

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and so they have more autonomy than women do

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and that's why part one of the sermon is called

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a son should marry a woman that his parents approve of.

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I mean, if you're a young man,

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you say, well, I'm a man, I'm my own man,

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I'm gonna leave father and mother and cleave my wife,

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I'm gonna do whatever I want.

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Okay, but here's the, but if you're smart though,

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even if your parents aren't directly ruling over you,

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you should still be smart enough to just listen to them

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if they're telling you, hey, this girl's a bad idea.

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You should stay away from this girl,

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this girl's bad news, you know?

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And even in Proverbs 31, the famous passage,

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she's giving her son advice about what to look for

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in a woman and obviously our parents,

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they're looking out for us,

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they have our best interests are,

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they tell us this woman is bad news, off limits.

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You should listen to that.

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Whether you feel like you have to or not,

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you definitely should listen to that

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godly counsel from your parents,

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your parents are looking out for you

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and doing what's best for you, but here's the thing,

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you know, when it comes to daughters,

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they must, they must marry a man

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that their husband approves of

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or they are just in defiance of their dad,

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which makes them in defiance of God.

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Okay, because this is not optional

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and this is where the pages and pages

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of my notes are coming from

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because the Bible just can't stop talking about this

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over and over again.

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And yet, when you talk about this today,

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this is a foreign concept for me to tell people,

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I have veto power over whom my daughter marries.

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You know, I have the power to veto a suitor

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for my daughter, that is what the Bible teaches.

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And look, I don't care how modernized

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and feminized our society becomes,

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you know, at the end of the day, the Bible doesn't change

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and I believe that I'm gonna prove that to you

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from the Bible tonight.

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And you know, I have 61 verses in my sermon here,

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including the ones that we've already read.

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So I'm not making this up, folks.

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Go if you would to Exodus chapter 22.

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This is the first place we're gonna look at.

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Exodus chapter 22, so now we're in part two

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of the sermon, which has to do with daughters.

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You know, with sons, yeah,

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sons are gonna go out and they're gonna

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leave father and mother, they're gonna go take a wife

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and if they're smart, they're gonna listen to mom and dad.

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They're not gonna be an Esau torturing their parents,

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being a fool, being a grief of mind,

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depressing their mom by marrying some weird flusie,

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some rotten girl, the strange woman,

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horus woman, promiscuous woman or whatever

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that the parents have warned them about, right?

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The wise son is gonna listen to mom and dad, okay?

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But when it comes to the daughter,

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you know, the father has the veto power

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just full stop, just, he just does.

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And she must marry a man that her father approves of.

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Look what the Bible says in Exodus chapter 22, verse 16.

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It says, if a man and Tice are made that is not betrothed,

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so she's not already betrothed to someone else,

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she's not already engaged to another man,

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she's just a single girl, and if a man and Tice,

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right, what does entice mean?

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To seduce her, you know, he's whining and dining her,

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he's smooth talking her, and he entices her

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into committing fornication is what this is talking about.

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And so it says, if a man entices a maid

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that is not betrothed and lie with her,

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he shall surely endow her to be his wife.

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So basically, if a man is gonna go out there

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and just deflower some virgin,

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then the Bible is saying, you know,

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he's required to marry the girl as a result.

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Now again, this is where retarded atheists

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and people will come along and say,

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like, oh, the Bible commands you to marry your rapist

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or something, first of all, no.

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Okay, because this is not a rapist.

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It says a man is enticing a maid.

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If I said, hey, could I entice you

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to go to Red Robin after the service and get a burger?

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Which is that, that doesn't mean I'm just gonna grab

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the burger and shove it in your mouth.

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Doesn't mean I'm gonna tie you up

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and put you in the back of the car

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and take you down there, does it?

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Entice is getting someone to want

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to do something themselves

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because you're seducing them, you're enticing them.

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That's what the Bible is saying here.

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And the parallel passage in Deuteronomy

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is talking about the same situation.

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It uses slightly different wording,

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but because it says, you know,

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he lays hold on her and lies with her,

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that's where they get this foolish meaning

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in the modern versions, but really just, you know,

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to have and to hold, obviously, if you get physical,

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it's pretty hard to get physical without laying hold.

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So it's dumb, but anyway.

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So what we see here is that if a man

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entice a maid that is not patrolled and lie with her,

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he shall surely endow her to be his wife,

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meaning he's required on his end

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to be willing to marry the girl

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if he's gonna be out there

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deflowering this virgin.

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But it says if her father utterly refused

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to give her unto him,

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he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins.

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So the idea here is that he on his end

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because he seduced this girl and she's a virgin,

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he has to actually marry her.

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But if her dad's like, no, I don't want her to marry you,

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which you could see that

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because if this guy's already committing fornication,

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you know, there's a good chance that dad is gonna say,

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well, I don't want my daughter with this guy.

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You know, he might want her to be with the guy

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because, you know, now she's used merchandise quote, unquote.

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And so, you know,

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maybe she's not gonna have as good of chances

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with other guys.

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So he's just like, yeah, the lesser evil, whatever,

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marry her, make it on a swimming over, shotgun wedding.

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Okay, but if he's just like, no, this guy's trash.

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This guy's rotten.

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I don't want you being with this guy.

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Then he basically pays the dowry as if he married her,

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but he doesn't marry her

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because the dad is utterly refusing to give him to her.

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So to me, the first thing I see here

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is that the dad has the power and folks,

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this is not the only verse.

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We're gonna look at dozens of verses.

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The dad has the power to give

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or not give this woman in marriage.

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He can either say, yes, you may marry my daughter

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or he can say, no, you may not.

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And he may utterly refuse,

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meaning no way, know how it ain't happening,

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then he doesn't marry the girl.

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Now, here's the thing.

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Young women may think,

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and this is something to be careful of,

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that if they have fooled around with a guy

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or fornicated with a guy that they must marry that guy,

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this is false.

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Because the Bible says right here

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that even if she is fornicated with this guy,

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the dad can still pull the plug on this and whatever.

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So don't think that just because you as a young lady

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have fooled around with some guy

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or went too far with a guy or committed a fornication,

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don't think that that means

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that you have to marry the guy.

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Let's say you have an unsaved boyfriend.

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You don't wanna just think,

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oh, well now I have to marry him

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because I've already gone too far.

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It's like, well, no, doesn't the Bible tell us

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not to be unequally yoked together with unbelievers?

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Or what if your parents are saying, no, don't do it.

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I'm utterly refusing to give you to him.

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Sorry to confuse you with the Bible,

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but this is what the Bible says.

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Look at, and also another thing is,

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go if you were to numbers 30.

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This is a little bit off topic.

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We're gonna get right back on topic.

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But I think this does continue

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to drive in the point a little bit

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is that sometimes maybe young women

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could foolishly make a verbal commitment

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to a young man without dad's permission.

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Like basically just kind of saying something like,

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oh, I'm gonna marry you

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or you're the only one for me

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and I promise I'm gonna,

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I promise I'm only gonna marry you or whatever.

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You know what, here's the thing.

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Young ladies don't have the power

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to make that kind of a vow or a bond stick

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because their dad has a veto power over that.

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Look what the Bible says in Numbers chapter 30, verse three.

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It says, if a woman also vow a vow unto the Lord

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and bind herself by a bond,

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being in her father's house,

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in her youth and her father hear her vow

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and her bond wherewith she had bound her soul

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and her father shall hold his peace at her,

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then all her vows shall stand

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and every bond wherewith she had bound her soul shall stand.

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But if her father disallow her

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in the day that he hear it, don't miss that,

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in the day that he hear it,

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not any of her vows or of the bonds

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wherewith she had bound her soul shall stand

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and the Lord shall forgive her

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because her father disallowed her.

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And so what the Bible's saying here is

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that if she basically makes some stupid commitment,

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let's say dad doesn't even hear about it

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until six months later, a year later, 18 months later too.

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Doesn't matter.

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In the day that he hears it, if he says,

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that's stupid, you're not gonna do that,

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then it's just, there goes the vow.

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So we may live in this feminist society

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where the young women just have autonomy,

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but you know what, these young ladies

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living in their dad's house

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are under their dad's authority.

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That's what the Bible says.

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Go to Genesis chapter 29.

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Genesis chapter 29,

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we're gonna just look at a whole bunch of verses.

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We're gonna just look at a whole bunch of examples of this.

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We're gonna probably move pretty fast through some of these

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because again, there's just a mountain of evidence

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on this issue that the father

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gives away his daughter in marriage.

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And of course, here's the thing about that

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is that in our modern day wedding ceremony,

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we still do this.

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I mean, we still have a father

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walking his daughter down the aisle

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and the question is as, who gives this woman away?

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I do and he gives the daughter away,

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but sadly, unfortunately to many people,

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I guess this is just some kind of a relic

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of a bygone era

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and it's just some kind of a vestige of another time,

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but it is biblical

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and these things go back to a time

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when our culture was more biblical

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and it's just kind of little traces of it left

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to where even the most feminized he then

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will still somehow just have her dad walk her down the aisle,

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although it's probably on vogue now

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to just walk yourself down the aisle and things like that.

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And look, I'm not trying to offend anyone.

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I understand that there could be situations

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where dad's out of the picture

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and so dad didn't walk you down the aisle

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and everything.

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I'm not trying to hurt anybody's feelings.

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I'm not trying to insult anybody.

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I'm not trying to go back

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and examine what you middle-aged people did

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and your youth or something.

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You know, what we're talking about

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is we're talking about young people

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growing up in a Christian home, right?

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Young ladies growing up in a Christian home

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and some weirdo, some idiot,

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is enticing them, seducing them

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or just getting them emotionally involved

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in a relationship where their parents

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are looking at this guy

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and it's red flag city, rotten guy

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and they're just like,

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I don't wanna give my daughter to this guy

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and it's like we've lost this idea

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that the father gives away the daughter in marriage.

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And I think that you're going to be overwhelmed

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by the amount of evidence

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that I'm about to show you in the Bible

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because it's, you know,

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I just showed you, you know, Exhibit A,

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which was, you know,

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if he utterly refused her to give it to him.

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You know, and then Exhibit B was numbers.

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Well, we're gonna run out of letters in the alphabet,

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is all I'm gonna say, okay.

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But look if you would at Genesis 29 verse 18.

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It says in Jacob loved Rachel

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and said, I will serve these seven years

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for Rachel, thy younger daughter.

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Genesis 29, 19, and Laban said,

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it is better that I give her to thee

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than that I should give her to another man.

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Abide with me.

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And Jacob served seven years for Rachel

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and they seemed unto him but a few days

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for the love that he had to her.

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And Jacob said to Laban,

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give me my wife for my days are fulfilled

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that I may go in unto her.

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Now look, isn't it super clear here

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dad has the power to give or not give his daughter

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unto this man as a wife.

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Look at chapter 34 verse eight.

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Here's another example.

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And again, these maybe aren't the best examples

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but I'm just going in order

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and we have a lot to cover.

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So I just wanna hit all of them.

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At least all the ones I could find on the airplane,

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on the way here, when I wrote the sermon.

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Genesis 34, eight, it says,

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and Hamor communed with them saying,

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the soul of my son sheikim,

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longeth for your daughter,

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I pray you give her to him to wife

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and make ye marriages with us

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and give your daughters unto us

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and take our daughters unto you.

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Jump down to verse 16.

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Then will we give our daughters unto you

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and we will take your daughters to us

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and we will dwell with you

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and we will become one people.

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Look at verse 21.

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These men are peaceable with us.

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Therefore let them dwell in the land

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and trade therein for the land.

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Behold, it is large enough for them.

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Let us take their daughters to us for wives

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and let us give them our daughters.

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So over and over again,

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we're gonna see this pattern of the father

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giving the daughter to the man as his wife.

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Go to Deuteronomy chapter seven.

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Deuteronomy chapter number seven.

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Deuteronomy chapter number seven.

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I'm gonna give you time to get there

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because I want you to see these.

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I'm gonna start reading it

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while you're on your way there though.

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Deuteronomy seven three,

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neither shalt thou make marriages with them.

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Thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son,

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nor his daughter shalt thou take unto thy son.

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Now look, how would this even make any sense

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if the father doesn't have the power

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to stop these unions from happening?

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Wouldn't he just be addressing

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and saying just straight to the young ladies,

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hey, listen young ladies,

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don't marry these guys,

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don't, he's just like, no, no, no, dad,

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don't allow your daughter to marry this guy.

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That's what the Bible is saying over and over again.

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It's just assumed it's a foregone conclusion

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that he has that authority.

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In the law of God, Deuteronomy chapter seven,

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do not give your daughter unto them.

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Don't take his daughter unto your son.

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His whose daughter?

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Some guy, right?

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The wicked, the heathen, his daughter.

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Why? Because it's coming from the dad.

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The dad is sanctioning these unions

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throughout history, throughout the world,

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throughout the ages, throughout millennia,

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throughout Christianity, throughout history.

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This is the way it has always been

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and this is the way it is in the Bible consistently.

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Let's keep looking because we're just getting started.

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Look at Joshua chapter 15,

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Joshua chapter number 15.

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And I'm going to start reading it

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while you turn there, Joshua 15, 16.

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And Caleb said,

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he that smited the Kirch at Sefer

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and takeeth it,

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to him will I give AXA my daughter to wife.

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So notice, I mean, who is calling the shots here?

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That is.

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And Othniel, the son of Kenaz,

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the brother of Caleb, took it

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and he gave him AXA his daughter to wife

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and it came to pass as she came unto him

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that she moved him to ask of her father afield.

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And she lighted off her ass

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and Caleb said unto her,

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what wouldest thou who answered,

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give me a blessing, for thou has given me a South land,

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give me also springs of water,

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and he gave her the upper springs

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and the nether springs.

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So there you go.

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They lived happily ever after.

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Look at Judges chapter 21.

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Judges chapter number 21.

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Next book after Joshua is Judges.

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Judges 21 verse one.

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It says this,

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now the men of Israel had sworn in Mispi saying,

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there shall not any of us give his daughter

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unto Benjamin to wife.

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And then what's the reaction that is just like,

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well, Benjamin is just not gonna have any wives

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because none of these daughters,

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none of these fathers are willing

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to give their daughter to him and wife,

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then he's just not gonna have a wife.

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Well, did you ask these daughters?

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You know, maybe they just want to do it,

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but they can't go against their dad forbidding it again

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in the Bible.

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And here's the thing.

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This is not to say that we should do arranged marriages.

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That's not what I'm saying.

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I'm not up here saying,

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hey, we need to arrange marriages.

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Hey, I'm gonna pick who my daughter marries

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and you should pick who your daughter marries.

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That's not what we're saying at all.

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What we're saying is that the father has veto power,

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meaning that when there is a suitor,

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when there is a guy and a gal and they're dating

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and they want to get married,

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the father has the right to say, you know what, no.

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Or he has the right to say yes.

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And the father wants what's best for his daughter,

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he's not trying to keep her from having romance and love,

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whatever, but the father is there to protect her

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from someone that he knows is rotten.

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He knows is bad.

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And you know, that's why he's gonna say no.

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Now look, obviously I'm sure that there have been,

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you know, mean dads over the years

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that have, you know, somewhere at some time,

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you know, pushed or pressured or forced their daughter

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to marry some skivvy guy that she wasn't into or whatever.

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Like, okay, whatever, that's not the point though.

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The point is, you know, we're Christians in America.

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In 2026, we love our children.

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We love our daughters.

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We're looking out for them.

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We don't want them marrying creeps and freaks and weirdos.

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And so we're out here trying to protect our daughters

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and we live in this stupid,

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feminized, baloney culture that is just gonna say,

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well, you know what gives you the right

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to say no to this guy.

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You know what gives me the right is that I am the father.

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That's what gives me the right.

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The Bible gives me the right.

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6,000 years of human history gives me the right.

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Look what the Bible says.

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Do we read verse one?

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Now jump down to verse 18.

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How be it, we may not give them wives of our daughters

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for the children of Israel have sworn saying,

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cursed be he that give it the wife to Benjamin.

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How would that make any sense

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unless they have the power to either give or not give?

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How do you even understand this?

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If you don't take that as given.

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Go to first Samuel chapter 17.

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First Samuel chapter 17.

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It says in first Samuel chapter 17 verse 25,

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and the men of Israel said,

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have you seen this man that has come up?

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Surely to defy Israel, is he come up?

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And it shall be that the man who killed with him,

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the king will enrich him with great riches

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and will give him his daughter

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and make his father's house free in Israel.

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Go to chapter 18 verse 17.

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I'm gonna start reading it while you get there.

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1817 and Saul said to David,

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behold my elder daughter Mirab,

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her will I give thee to wife,

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only be thou valiant for me

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and fight the Lord's battles.

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For Saul said, let not my hand be upon him,

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but let the hand of the Philistines be upon him.

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Jump down to verse 19.

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But it came to pass at the time

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when Mirab Saul's daughter should have been given

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to David that she was given unto

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Adriel the Mholothite to wife.

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Flip over to Ezra chapter nine.

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And of course, we know that David ends up

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marrying Saul's other daughter,

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specifically because Saul's other daughter

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is romantically interested in David.

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It talks about how Mikal actually is expressing,

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hey, I'd love to be married to David.

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I think David's a great guy.

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So here's the thing, again,

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this is not saying, hey, we just pick out

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our daughter's husbands or whatever.

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No, but what it is is that, you know,

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when they say, hey, I want to marry this guy,

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it's a yay or an A.

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And obviously we don't want to abuse that

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by just vetoing every guy that we, you know,

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aren't just super duper jazzed about.

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But you know what, when there are serious problems,

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serious red flags, if he's unsaved,

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if he's shown himself to be of unsavory character,

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if you're looking at this guy

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and just think this guy's a psychopath,

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this guy's a weirdo, this guy's a freak,

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this guy's effeminate, this guy's weird,

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you know, and then there's like a serious problem.

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You know, don't we have the right to protect our daughters

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and step in and say, well, I'm not gonna give my daughter

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in marriage unto this man.

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Look at Ezra chapter nine, verse 12.

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Now therefore, give not your daughters under their sons,

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neither take their daughters under your sons,

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nor seek their peace or their wealth forever,

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that you may be strong and eat the good of the land

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and leave it for an inheritance to your children forever.

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Flip over to Nehemiah chapter 10.

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And you know, some people would look at all these verses

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because we've looked at a lot already, haven't we?

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I mean, let me just count as far as how many verses

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specifically talked about the husband giving

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his daughter in marriage or refusing

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to give his daughter in marriage.

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You know, we saw Exodus 22, I think numbers 30,

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even though it's not direct, it pretty much,

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you know, would count.

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Genesis 29, Genesis 34 says it, what?

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One, two, three, four times.

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Deuteronomy seven, Joshua, Judges 21, you know.

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So we're on like our, what, 13, 14, 15.

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This is our 16th, like just clear mention of this.

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And some people would look at all this,

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and you know, we're not even halfway through by the way.

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So buckle up.

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But some people would look at this and say,

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well, this is a cultural, this is a cultural.

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It's kind of funny how it's just every single culture

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in the Bible though.

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Oh, it's just cultural, bro.

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Yeah, every culture.

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Yeah, that's right.

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I mean, it's like, oh, it's just this part of the Bible.

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It's like every section of the Bible.

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It's Torah, it's historical books.

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It's, you know, the post-exilic literature.

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It's Psalms, it's all over the gamut, New Testament,

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Gospels, Epistles, right?

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So it's cultural, bro.

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Yeah, every normal culture, you're right.

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For thousands of years.

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But now that it's not just cultural,

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because a lot of this is not just describing culture

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or describing what happened.

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A lot of it is God saying,

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don't give your wife to this guy.

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Yes, give your wife to these people.

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Don't give her,

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how is that cultural when God is commanding these things?

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God is putting in law, does say at the Lord,

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if he utterly refused to give her,

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does say at the Lord, thou shalt not give your wife

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unto these people over here?

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I mean, no, you can't just write off all of this.

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Some of it, you could say, hey, it's a story, bro.

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But you know what, a lot of this is directives

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coming out of the mouth of God,

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telling people to do things.

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And so that doesn't really work.

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Look at Nehemiah 10, 29.

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They clave to their brethren,

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because we already read Ezra, right?

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Yeah.

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Yeah, okay, Nehemiah 10, 29,

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it says they clave to their brethren,

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their nobles, and entered into a curse,

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and into an oath to walk in God's law,

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which was given by Moses, the servant of God,

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and to observe and do all the commandments of the Lord,

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our Lord, and his judgments and his statutes,

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and that we would not give our daughters

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unto the people of the land,

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nor take their daughters for our sons.

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Look at Nehemiah 13.

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And remember, people get emotional about this,

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they get upset about this,

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because remember how emotional Rebecca was?

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Back in Genesis, and she said,

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man, if Jacob marries one of these women

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of the sons of Heth,

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my life's not even gonna be any good to me anymore.

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I might as well just die,

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because these women are a grief of mine to me.

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And here we're gonna see

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a little bit of emotion from Nehemiah as well.

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And I contended with them,

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verse 25 of Nehemiah 13,

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I contended with them and cursed them

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and smote certain of them.

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So he's actually hitting people

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and plucked off their hair.

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You know, he's just like, look, okay, that's what I did.

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He's doing a little confession here.

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And made them swear by God saying,

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ye shall not give your daughters unto their sons,

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nor take their daughters unto your sons, or for yourselves.

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Go to Psalm 78, verse 63.

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Psalm 78, verse 63.

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While you're turning to Psalm 78,

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I'm gonna read for you from Jeremiah,

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chapter 29, verse 6.

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And again, I'm just showing you that this is mentioned,

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this is brought up in every section of the Bible.

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Torah, historical books, poetic books, prophetic books,

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gospels, epistles, it's everywhere.

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Consistent.

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Psalm 78, 63, the fire consumed their young men

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and their maidens were not given to marriage.

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Jeremiah 29, 6 says this, you don't have to turn there,

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but if you would flip over to Matthew 22,

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it says in Jeremiah 29, 6,

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take ye wives and beget sons and daughters

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and take wives for your sons

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and give your daughters to husbands.

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Is that cultural when God is saying,

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give your wives to, or give, excuse me,

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give your daughters to husbands

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that they may bear sons and daughters

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and that you may be increased there

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and not diminished, right?

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But I guess every wedding ceremony is wrong.

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Every Bible verse is wrong.

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Every cultural example of this is wrong.

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And we just finally got this right

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in the 20th century with this I am woman, hear me war,

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type of feminist, female autonomy view of this subject,

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I'm not buying it.

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And what's funny is when someone claims

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to be an old-fashioned, independent, fundamental,

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and then they get these super modern ideas

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and act like this kind of stuff

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is just super antiquated and crazy.

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It's like, wow, you're so cutting edge

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for being an old-fashioned, old-time

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King James fundamental Baptist.

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You are right there with the times, that's amazing.

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Look at chapter 22 verse 30 of Matthew.

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It says, for in the resurrection,

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they neither marry, that's talking about men,

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marrying women, nor are given in marriage,

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that's talking about women being given

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to husbands by their dads is what that means.

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Better as the angels of God in heaven,

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flip over to chapter 24.

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It says in Matthew 24, 37,

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but as the days of Noah were,

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so shall also the coming of the Son of Man be,

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for as in the days that were before the flood,

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they were eating and drinking,

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marrying and giving in marriage.

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Why?

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Because men marry and women are given in marriage

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by their dad every single time.

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That's right, man.

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It says that they were eating and drinking,

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marrying and giving in marriage,

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until the flood, excuse me,

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until the day that Noah entered into the ark.

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Look at Mark chapter 12.

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Actually, go straight to Luke 17 for sake of time.

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You go to Luke 17.

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I'm gonna read you Mark 12.

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Same thing for when they shall rise from the dead,

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they neither marry nor are given in marriage,

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but are as the angels, which are in heaven.

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Look at Luke 17, 27, they did eat, they drank,

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they married wives, they were given in marriage

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until the day that Noah entered into the ark

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and the flood came and destroyed them all.

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Look at Luke chapter 20.

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Few pages to the right, Luke 20, beginning in verse 34.

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And Jesus answering, said unto them,

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the children of this world,

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marry and are given in marriage,

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but they which shall be accounted worthy to obtain

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that world and the resurrection from the dead,

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neither marry nor are given in marriage.

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I mean, does God just love using more words

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than is necessary?

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Is that what God loves to do?

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He's like Charles Dickens or something, right?

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He's like Victor Hugo, just 50 pages

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of just these random asides,

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waxing eloquent about the times

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and about what the room looked like.

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No, what you'll actually notice

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if you actually study the Bible from a literary standpoint,

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you will know that especially the Old Testament,

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but even the New Testament has an economic style of writing,

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meaning that there is nothing that's just accidental.

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Like if you're reading an Old Testament story,

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no one is physically described

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unless their physical appearance

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actually affects the story.

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You know, if you read a modern novel,

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there'd just be pages and pages

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describing what people look like,

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what does the house look like,

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what does the street look like,

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what the Bible is not like that.

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The Bible is written in this very economic style.

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So if the Bible tells you that Absalom has long hair,

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it's because he's going to be hanging

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from a tree by his hair a few pages later.

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You know, so the Bible,

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it only gives you these facts when you need them.

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The Bible doesn't just include

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all this just redundant extra meaningless information

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just to make it entertaining

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or just to fill space or hit a word count.

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Why is the Bible so consistent over and over again

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in Matthew 22, Matthew 24, Mark 12, Luke 17, Luke 20?

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Why is it so consistent to say

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marrying and giving in marriage,

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marrying and giving in marriage,

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marrying and giving in marriage?

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Why doesn't it just say marrying?

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Why don't you just say people are getting married?

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People are marrying, people marry.

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Wouldn't that be easier?

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Why is it always just like marrying, giving in marriage?

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Marrying, giving in marriage.

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It's almost like God sees this as the norm

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and is prescribing this as the norm

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and Genesis the Revelation is only showing this

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as the norm that men marry

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and women are given in marriage by their fathers.

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Now, this is the last place we're going to turn.

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First Corinthians chapter seven.

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First Corinthians chapter seven.

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I know I scared you with how long my outline is,

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but I move fast.

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So we're starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

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First Corinthians chapter seven is the last place

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we're going to look at.

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So just, you know, as far as just really clear statements

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to this effect, I think we were up to 16

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when we were in Ezra.

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So what do we got?

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17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27 times.

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27 times I could point to,

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where this is very clearly laid out

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that this is how this works in the world.

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Every part of scripture, very consistent.

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So is this a wild idea?

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Is this like this revolutionary,

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most groundbreaking sermon of the year, right?

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Pastor Anderson has just shocked the world

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with this electrifying new doctrine.

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Folks, it's 27 times.

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It's every wedding ceremony, every culture.

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It's been going on for thousands of years.

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Such a wild idea.

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Look at first Corinthians chapter seven, verse 35.

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Now this is a scripture that a lot of people goof this up.

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And if you have the modern versions,

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well just, you might as well just give up now

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because this is so screwed up in the modern versions,

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you don't even have a prayer of understanding it.

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You just, you have no chance.

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So just close your Bible and go home at that point.

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But if you have the King James,

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I think if you slow down and read this

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in the King James, you can understand it.

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It can make sense to you.

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It says in first Corinthians seven, 35,

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and this I speak for your own profit.

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Not that I may cast a snare upon you,

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but for that which is cumbly.

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And I don't want you to miss that word cumbly.

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I'm gonna explain this.

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And that you may attend upon the Lord

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without distraction.

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So just to kind of bring you up to speed in the chapter,

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he starts out at the beginning of first Corinthians seven

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and saying, look, you know,

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it's good for a man not to touch a woman,

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but nevertheless to avoid fornication,

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let every man have his own wife

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and let every woman have her own husband.

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You know, that's the norm.

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Most people need that.

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That's God's will for the vast majority of people's lives,

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you know, that they just get married

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and that men have their wife and wives have their husband

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and that's the way it's supposed to be.

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But he goes on to explain, you know,

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there are exceptions to that.

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You know, and he talks about how, you know,

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he himself is single and by being single,

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the apostle Paul could just totally dedicate himself

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to the Lord.

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He's just serving God and he's unencumbered

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by having to worry about keeping his wife happy

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or dealing with a family or anything like that.

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So it allows him really just to go all in.

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But he says, you know, not everybody has that gift of God,

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you know, where he has that gift

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where he is continent enough

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and to where he doesn't have some super drive

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to like, I have to be with a woman, you know,

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and by the way, you know, this isn't always just physical.

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Obviously we as human beings,

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not only do we have that biological physical drive

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to be intimate with our spouse,

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but also, you know, there's that drive

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for just the emotional intimacy

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and just the companionship of having a life's mate

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and having that deep close friendship

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that is within marriage that's different

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than any other relationship

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that you're ever gonna have in your life.

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It's a unique bond and some people are yearning for that

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in fact, the vast majority of people

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really want that meaningful relationship with their spouse.

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And this is part of why I'm not going all the way

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to the extreme of saying like,

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oh, we gotta have arranged marriages

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because there's thing, you know, we obviously,

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you know, we want people to be married to someone

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that they actually do want to be with obviously, you know,

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and you know, we don't wanna foist a husband

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upon a woman and she doesn't really like the guy

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or vice versa foisting a woman upon a man

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and he, you know, he's not attracted to her or whatever.

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Obviously, you know, you want this relationship

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to be beautiful and the vast majority of people

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really want this in their life, it's important to them.

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And so the vast majority of people should get married,

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but there are exceptions where a person,

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whether male or female, is just really not super interested

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in romantic love, not super tempted

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by that physical relationship.

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And so they could just be happy being single

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and they just, you know, they're just going

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on mission trips, serving God, doing great works for God.

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And so what the Bible is really saying here is that

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even though most of the Bible is kind of pushing you

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toward marriage, 1 Corinthians 7 is put in the Bible

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just to kind of show you, look, you know,

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there are gonna be exceptions,

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not everyone is gonna get married.

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We don't need to push everybody to get married.

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There are gonna be some exceptions and so forth.

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So that's the context.

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And so he says in verse 35,

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I speak this for your own profit,

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not that I may cast a snare upon you.

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I'm not trying to trip you up here,

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but he says for that, which is comely,

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comely means, you know, it's suitable,

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it's appropriate, it works well, it goes well,

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it makes sense, you know, right?

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It's suitable.

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He's saying, you know, I'm talking about

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what is appropriate, suitable, what's gonna work well

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so that you may attend upon the Lord without distraction.

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He's saying, if you're single, obviously, you know,

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you're gonna have more time, energy, whatever,

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to just go all in on serving the Lord.

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And so, you know, that could be a thing for some people

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like the apostle Paul, doing all these missions.

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And there have been people throughout history

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and people that we've even known that are singles

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and they go out and they're just at every mission strip

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and soul winning and doing all these great works

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and amen, no issue there.

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I don't think there's anything wrong with that lifestyle

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as long as you don't make any silly vows

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or oaths or demand other people to make vows and oaths

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and whatever, you should always keep an open mind

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about the future.

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But look at verse 36, okay, so now that we got that,

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you know, he said, hey, this is comely

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that you may attend upon the Lord without distraction.

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But if any man think it, that he behave

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with himself uncomely, so this is that which is like

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not suitable, doesn't fit, doesn't work

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toward his virgin, if she passed the flower

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of her age and needs so require, let him do what he will.

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He said, not let them marry.

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And so a lot of people will twist this

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or misinterpret this and think that when it says

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his virgin, it's talking about like the boyfriend

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or something, no, boyfriends don't have a virgin.

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They don't own her because they're not married, right?

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When it says here that a man

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behave with himself uncomely toward his virgin,

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it's talking about a father who is basically

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not allowing his daughter to get married

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and instead of it being a good comely thing

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for her to serve the Lord without distraction,

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it's actually just him actually just keeping her

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from something good in her life that she needs,

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which is marriage.

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So it's uncomely for him to prevent her from marriage.

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Follow me and it's gonna make sense.

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Keep reading and it's gonna make sense.

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It says, if he behave himself uncomely toward his virgin,

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if she passed fast, if she passed the flower of her age,

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so again, the Bible is 100% against child brides,

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pedophilia, you're these weirdos, sometimes,

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oh, the Bible never condemns pedophilia and child brides.

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Yeah, it's right here, bozo.

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It says, if she passed the flower of her age,

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meaning that she's passed the age

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where she is totally 100% in bloom, totally,

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we're talking about fully grown, fully developed period.

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She's passed that point.

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You know, so we're talking about obviously

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a fully mature, physically woman,

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not an adolescent or anything like that,

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but actually an adult, biologically speaking.

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Adults, marriage is for adults, amen?

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No child brides.

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If she passed the flower of her age and need so require,

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let him do what he will, he said it not,

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and then watch the change of pronoun, let them marry.

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So the he is the dad.

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The dad is going to give his daughter away in marriage

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so that they can get married, okay?

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Here's the proof, keep reading.

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It says in verse number 37,

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nevertheless, he that standeth steadfast in his art,

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having no necessity, but hath power over his own will

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and hath so decreed in his art

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that he will keep his virgin, doeth well,

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so then he that giveth her in marriage, doeth well,

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but he that giveth her not in marriage, doeth better.

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So notice the he here this whole time

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is a guy who's either giving his virgin away in marriage

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or he's not giving his virgin away in marriage.

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He's either letting them marry

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or he's not letting them marry.

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And the idea here is that if she is one

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who is one of these people that just doesn't mind

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being single, just wants to serve God,

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not really interested in getting married,

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then he's not gonna foist the marriage on her.

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If it's comely for her to just be single and serve God,

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she's happy being single, she can just live at home,

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do the missions, do the soul wedding, serve God, whatever.

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But if it's uncomely, if he's behaving himself uncomely

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by withholding her from that relationship,

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if need so require, he should give her in marriage.

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Now, let me just home in on verse 37 too,

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because I know I'm taking a long time and going deep on this,

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but this is often misunderstood passage.

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So I really wanna make sure that we do a little deep dive

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on this and understand it.

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It says in verse 37,

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nevertheless, this is talking about the dad.

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Again, all this is about the dad

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because he's either giving her in marriage

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or he's not giving her in marriage.

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It says, nevertheless, he that standeth

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steadfastness heart having no necessity,

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meaning that there's no compelling reason

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for her to get married.

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She's not dying to get married.

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There's not a financial need for her to get married,

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whatever, and then it says,

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but hath power over his own will, okay?

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And what does that mean that he has power over his own will?

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It means he's not a slave, because in the same chapter,

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again, you gotta get these things in context

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and people will get this mixed up,

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like power over his own will has something to do

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with controlling his, no, this is dad.

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Power over his own will means that he has autonomy

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because he's not a slave.

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Earlier in the chapter, he talks about being free

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versus being a servant and how servants should use

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their freedom and he talks about those aspects.

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But what it's saying here is that he has power

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over his own will, meaning that he's not a slave.

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And number two, it also means he hasn't already promised her

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to someone else because then he doesn't have power

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over his own will to just, oh yeah,

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I'm gonna give her this guy or whatever.

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And once you've made a commitment,

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then he might have to honor a commitment that he made

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or he might just be a slave or a bond servant

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and doesn't have the authority to even make these decisions

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because he is not a free man.

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So if he has power over his own will

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and is so decreed in his art that he will keep his virgin,

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do it well, so then he, they give it through in marriage,

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do it well, and he, they give it through,

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not in marriage, do it better.

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The wife, verse 39, is bound by the law

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as long as her husband liveth, but if her husband be dead,

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she's at liberty to be married to whom she will,

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only in the Lord.

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So again, you know, yeah, let her marry who she wants,

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you know, only in the Lord,

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but the dad still has a veto power.

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And then it says in verse 40,

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but she's happier if she's so abide,

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meaning she's happier if she just stays single

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according to Paul, cause that's the kind of guy Paul is

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after my judgment, and I think also

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that I have the spirit of God.

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So we've just seen a whole lot of evidence,

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27 scriptures, including first,

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and I'm only counting first Corinthians seven as one,

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even though it's a big long dissertation on this, okay?

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27 scriptures that spell this out,

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marrying or giving in marriage, okay?

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So I actually just, I went on AI and I asked Grok,

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this is what I asked Grok, I said,

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why do modern Christians seem to think

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a father has no veto power over whom his daughter marries

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when there is such a mountain of evidence

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from scripture to the contrary?

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So that's all I asked it.

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So I basically, I just entered the 27 scriptures

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with no comment, and then I just said,

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why do modern Christians seem to think

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that a father has no veto power

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over whom his daughter marries

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when there is such a mountain of evidence

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from the scripture to the contrary?

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So here's what Grok answered me.

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Modern Christians often treat a father's veto

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as optional advice rather than authority

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because Western culture has decisively shifted

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from hierarchical household.

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What's hierarchical household means?

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Means dad is the boss, wife obeys the husband,

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and then kids obey mom and dad.

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So there's a hierarchy, dad, then mom, then the kids.

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It's decisively shifted from hierarchical household order

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toward individual autonomy,

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and many churches have accommodated that shift

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in their reading of scripture.

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Historical baseline, for most of church history,

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patristic, medieval, reformation,

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and early modern Protestantism,

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parental, especially paternal consent

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was treated as normative or even necessary

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for a valid marriage.

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Sources ranging from early canons

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to the Westminster Directory for Public Worship,

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classic reform writers, William Gowdge,

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Peter Martyr, Vermigley, I don't know who that is.

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You know, I don't care who that is,

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but they treated the father's role

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in giving a daughter as part of the Fifth Commandment,

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you know, and natural household order.

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The mountain of evidence you cite,

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Exodus 22, Numbers 30, Deuteronomy 7,

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1 Corinthians 7, et cetera,

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the repeated give your daughter language,

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Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob's patterns, et cetera,

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was read as prescriptive

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and not merely culturally descriptive.

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Okay, next section, why the change?

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Several overlapping developments

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explain the modern default.

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Number one, enlightenment, individualism, and romanticism.

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Marriage shifted from a household alliance

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under parental and communal oversight

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to a private romantic contract

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between two autonomous adults.

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Love became the primary legitimizing factor,

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and they're the ones putting love in quotes.

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I'm just doing this to indicate

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what the machine has said.

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Love became the primary legitimizing factor.

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Once that cultural assumption took hold,

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biblical texts that presuppose patriarchal

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household authority were reread

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as culturally bound or secondary.

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So notice, biblical texts presuppose patriarchal

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household authority, meaning that the Bible

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just assumes, well, duh, obviously,

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the dad is in authority here.

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Like that's why the Bible doesn't have to keep saying it

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over and over, because it's just like a given.

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It's just assumed in every part of the Bible

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that we read.

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So that's number one, because remember,

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this section is called why the change?

01:02:37.260 --> 01:02:38.780
You know, why is it that all of a sudden,

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you know, Christians have changed on this?

01:02:40.780 --> 01:02:43.700
Okay, reason number one was enlightenment,

01:02:43.960 --> 01:02:45.520
individualism, and romanticism.

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Number two, legal and economic transformation.

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In most Western countries, the age of majority,

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property law, and women's legal independence

01:02:55.720 --> 01:02:58.700
removed the practical mechanisms

01:02:59.120 --> 01:03:01.640
that once made a father's refusal effective,

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meaning that it used to be dad says no,

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it actually meant something.

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Now if dad says no, no one is going to back him up.

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Society's not going to back him up,

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the law's not going to back him up,

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nobody's going to back him up.

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So now dad's veto is just meaningless.

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Dad says no and just like, sorry dad,

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I'm just doing it anyway.

01:03:21.480 --> 01:03:22.900
Just becomes totally meaningless,

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because now it says adult daughters

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are no longer economic dependence,

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living under their father's roof in the same way.

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And I love this statement.

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Authority that cannot be enforced

01:03:34.960 --> 01:03:37.180
tends to be reclassified as advice.

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If you can't enforce authority, you don't have authority.

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It's that simple, you know.

01:03:43.740 --> 01:03:45.480
I mean, think about what if there was a speed limit,

01:03:45.680 --> 01:03:47.920
but you just knew you're never going to get pulled over,

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no cops on the road, no enforcement, no ticket, no fine.

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The speed limit would be meaningless at that point,

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wouldn't it?

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It's awfully quiet in here, but y'all have been speeding.

01:04:04.260 --> 01:04:08.060
Number three, theological reprioritization

01:04:08.060 --> 01:04:09.100
inside evangelism.

01:04:09.200 --> 01:04:11.160
There's a heavy emphasis on leave and cleave.

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Here's the problem with that.

01:04:12.880 --> 01:04:15.320
A man shall leave his father and mother

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and cleave unto his wife and they too shall be one of us.

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Where does it say a woman leaves her father and mother

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and goes out and finds a husband on her own

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without input from dad?

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I don't see it in the Bible.

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I got 27 instances of the opposite.

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And then it says, first Corinthians seven

01:04:34.700 --> 01:04:37.080
is frequently interpreted as addressing

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a father's decision about whether his daughter

01:04:39.220 --> 01:04:43.120
should marry at all, not about vetoing a particular suitor.

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Passages about unequal yoking are retained,

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but they're more just directed at the individual,

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not the parents.

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But what did God direct it?

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He didn't tell the individual women,

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hey, don't marry these Hittite guys,

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don't marry these Canaanite guys.

01:04:58.780 --> 01:05:00.660
He said, no, no, don't give your daughter to these guys.

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That's who he was talking to.

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And the household codes Ephesians five and six,

01:05:07.360 --> 01:05:10.600
Colossians three are often soft pedaled or spiritualized

01:05:10.600 --> 01:05:13.260
so that children obey your parents is limited to minors

01:05:13.780 --> 01:05:14.740
still living in the home.

01:05:14.800 --> 01:05:16.580
And so the idea here is that basically like

01:05:16.580 --> 01:05:19.720
when you turn 18, there's just this magical switch

01:05:19.720 --> 01:05:21.840
that is flipped and all of a sudden parents

01:05:21.840 --> 01:05:23.380
have no authority over their children

01:05:23.380 --> 01:05:24.200
as soon as they turn 18.

01:05:24.420 --> 01:05:25.420
Well, you know, as far as I'm concerned,

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anyone living in my house is under my authority.

01:05:28.480 --> 01:05:31.860
I don't care if she's 75 years old.

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And I'm 95.

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Okay.

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And then fourth, it says egalitarian

01:05:39.180 --> 01:05:41.120
and feminist currents within the church.

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And you know, people act like the new IFB

01:05:43.640 --> 01:05:45.640
is just always throwing around the word feminism

01:05:45.640 --> 01:05:46.680
and labeling everything.

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But this is just, I just asked Grock,

01:05:48.560 --> 01:05:50.740
hey, why have Christians changed their opinion on this?

01:05:50.800 --> 01:05:52.100
And Grock is like, well, it's feminism.

01:05:53.520 --> 01:05:57.460
Like, is Elon Musk a new independent fundamental Baptist?

01:05:58.020 --> 01:05:59.720
Is Grock an independent fundamental?

01:05:59.720 --> 01:06:03.360
Look, if anything, all of these AI bots,

01:06:03.520 --> 01:06:05.900
whether it's chat GPT or Grock or any of them,

01:06:06.160 --> 01:06:07.680
they're all left leaning.

01:06:07.960 --> 01:06:08.920
They tend to be liberal.

01:06:09.320 --> 01:06:11.700
They tend to be not very conservative,

01:06:12.360 --> 01:06:13.460
not super fundamental.

01:06:13.620 --> 01:06:15.780
They're certainly not coming from a new IFB

01:06:15.780 --> 01:06:16.720
type of a mentality.

01:06:17.100 --> 01:06:19.740
And yet they're just acknowledging just the plain fact

01:06:19.740 --> 01:06:22.120
that this is a feminist idea.

01:06:22.440 --> 01:06:24.200
And here's the thing, to most people in this world,

01:06:24.400 --> 01:06:25.220
feminism's a good thing.

01:06:25.500 --> 01:06:26.840
I mean, if we were to walk down the street

01:06:26.840 --> 01:06:29.240
in St. Louis or Kansas City or whatever

01:06:29.240 --> 01:06:31.200
and just ask them, hey, feminism, good or bad?

01:06:31.940 --> 01:06:33.180
Most people are gonna say it's good

01:06:33.180 --> 01:06:34.180
because that's what they're taught.

01:06:34.400 --> 01:06:35.140
That's what their brain wants.

01:06:35.400 --> 01:06:36.900
But to us that are fundamental Baptists,

01:06:37.300 --> 01:06:39.720
we hear feminism as like a dirty word to us.

01:06:39.860 --> 01:06:41.460
It better be a man.

01:06:43.480 --> 01:06:46.100
And then number five, it says selective emphasis

01:06:46.100 --> 01:06:49.160
and cultural accommodation is the reason why.

01:06:49.280 --> 01:06:51.060
That's what we want as fundamental Baptists, right?

01:06:51.360 --> 01:06:53.740
Just culturally accommodate the Bible,

01:06:54.080 --> 01:06:56.280
make it up to date with the times

01:06:56.280 --> 01:06:59.400
and just kind of reread scripture to fit

01:06:59.400 --> 01:07:03.040
all of the feminist currents of 2026 America.

01:07:03.540 --> 01:07:07.460
So here's the final paragraph of Grock here on this.

01:07:08.140 --> 01:07:09.920
A substantial body of biblical material

01:07:09.920 --> 01:07:13.460
does portray fathers exercising decisive authority

01:07:13.460 --> 01:07:15.220
over their daughter's marriages.

01:07:15.620 --> 01:07:18.260
And for centuries, the church treated that as normative.

01:07:18.720 --> 01:07:21.820
The modern default that this authority evaporates

01:07:21.820 --> 01:07:23.840
at adulthood is largely the product

01:07:23.840 --> 01:07:26.360
of post-enlightenment cultural assumptions

01:07:27.180 --> 01:07:30.520
that have been baptized rather than rigorously tested

01:07:30.520 --> 01:07:32.500
against the full range of the texts.

01:07:32.820 --> 01:07:35.020
Whether that shift is a legitimate development

01:07:35.020 --> 01:07:37.320
or a departure is the point

01:07:37.320 --> 01:07:39.100
on which contemporary Christians divide.

01:07:39.520 --> 01:07:41.340
So it's saying, some Christians are gonna look at this

01:07:41.340 --> 01:07:43.220
and say, hey, we finally got this right.

01:07:44.580 --> 01:07:49.020
You know, we finally have freed the woman in chains

01:07:49.620 --> 01:07:51.640
and now she can marry whoever she wants.

01:07:52.120 --> 01:07:53.740
And then other people are saying, well, no,

01:07:53.780 --> 01:07:56.780
this is a apostasy from the word of God.

01:07:56.880 --> 01:07:58.420
It's a departure from what the Bible's teaching.

01:07:58.740 --> 01:07:59.580
And at the end of the day,

01:07:59.740 --> 01:08:02.980
let's just kind of come full circle here as we wrap up, okay?

01:08:03.440 --> 01:08:04.820
We started out with part one saying

01:08:04.820 --> 01:08:07.580
a son should marry a woman that his parents approve of,

01:08:07.680 --> 01:08:07.960
you know?

01:08:09.320 --> 01:08:09.760
Why?

01:08:10.180 --> 01:08:12.680
Because parents have wisdom,

01:08:13.100 --> 01:08:15.980
parents have the son's best interests at heart.

01:08:16.380 --> 01:08:18.780
If we're smart, we'll listen to people

01:08:19.180 --> 01:08:20.260
that are telling us red flags.

01:08:20.440 --> 01:08:21.500
And here's the thing, you know,

01:08:21.500 --> 01:08:23.160
I remember as a teenager, you know,

01:08:23.240 --> 01:08:25.580
I dated a whole bunch of girls as a teenager.

01:08:26.080 --> 01:08:27.700
And you know, my parents,

01:08:27.920 --> 01:08:30.200
I don't remember my parents ever having a problem

01:08:30.640 --> 01:08:32.340
with any of the girls that I dated.

01:08:32.600 --> 01:08:34.360
I don't remember them ever just, you know,

01:08:34.480 --> 01:08:37.340
coming in and saying, hey, this girl is bad news

01:08:37.340 --> 01:08:39.180
or whatever, you know, because I was actually,

01:08:40.300 --> 01:08:43.180
you know, parenting myself in that regard.

01:08:43.320 --> 01:08:44.600
And you know, I've heard somebody say

01:08:44.600 --> 01:08:46.800
this character is self-parenting.

01:08:46.880 --> 01:08:48.100
Amen, that's right, it's good.

01:08:48.380 --> 01:08:50.400
You know, character is when you parent yourself.

01:08:50.400 --> 01:08:51.020
That's right.

01:08:51.780 --> 01:08:54.180
Now look, your parents have authority over you,

01:08:54.220 --> 01:08:55.800
but you know, as you get older, young people,

01:08:55.940 --> 01:08:57.180
as you get into your teenage years,

01:08:57.440 --> 01:08:58.960
you should start parenting yourself

01:08:59.480 --> 01:09:01.500
to where your parents don't have to sit there

01:09:01.500 --> 01:09:03.460
and tell you every little thing,

01:09:03.560 --> 01:09:07.420
but that you're actually being your own watchdog

01:09:07.420 --> 01:09:08.120
of these things.

01:09:08.180 --> 01:09:09.460
Anyway, so here's the thing, like,

01:09:09.640 --> 01:09:12.280
I never knowingly dated a girl that wasn't saved.

01:09:12.380 --> 01:09:14.520
Now looking back, I found out later

01:09:14.520 --> 01:09:16.780
from talking to them that some of them were unsaved.

01:09:17.080 --> 01:09:18.740
I wasn't as good at determining that

01:09:18.740 --> 01:09:20.240
because I was not a soul winner.

01:09:20.720 --> 01:09:23.540
Going soul winning, you'll know what questions to ask

01:09:23.540 --> 01:09:24.420
and how to talk to people.

01:09:24.740 --> 01:09:25.700
But you know, when I was a teenager,

01:09:25.800 --> 01:09:27.540
I hadn't had experience with soul winning

01:09:27.540 --> 01:09:29.540
and so I'm just kind of thinking,

01:09:29.740 --> 01:09:32.200
oh, you know, you're an evangelical Christian, saved.

01:09:32.900 --> 01:09:34.340
Baptist church, saved.

01:09:35.260 --> 01:09:37.440
Piscopalian, I don't even know what that really means,

01:09:37.620 --> 01:09:39.420
but sounds saved, you know?

01:09:39.860 --> 01:09:42.460
I knew Catholics weren't saved and Pentecostals weren't

01:09:42.460 --> 01:09:44.560
saved, but it's just like other stuff I'm just like,

01:09:44.840 --> 01:09:45.920
great, let's go.

01:09:46.510 --> 01:09:49.600
You know, looking back, I accidentally dated

01:09:49.600 --> 01:09:50.720
a couple of girls that weren't saved,

01:09:50.840 --> 01:09:54.060
but you know what, I was trying to find a Christian wife

01:09:54.060 --> 01:09:56.120
and so my parents never had a problem

01:09:56.630 --> 01:09:59.700
with any of the girls that I was dating, okay?

01:09:59.840 --> 01:10:02.840
And here's the thing, you know, me and my personal

01:10:02.840 --> 01:10:06.100
experience, you know, most of the people

01:10:06.100 --> 01:10:08.040
that my children have wanted to date,

01:10:08.160 --> 01:10:10.100
I never had an issue with, you know,

01:10:10.180 --> 01:10:12.060
there has been one major exception to that.

01:10:12.340 --> 01:10:14.520
And the point is that here's the thing,

01:10:14.520 --> 01:10:19.840
it's not about parents just wanting the perfect unicorn mate

01:10:20.200 --> 01:10:23.080
for their child, it's more like just

01:10:24.900 --> 01:10:28.680
putting a stop to very bad relationships.

01:10:30.080 --> 01:10:32.360
People with serious red flags.

01:10:32.700 --> 01:10:34.920
People that are just super rotten, you know,

01:10:34.980 --> 01:10:37.040
so it's not about being super controlling

01:10:37.040 --> 01:10:38.640
and a control freak obsessed about,

01:10:38.900 --> 01:10:39.800
no, here's what it's about.

01:10:40.180 --> 01:10:42.640
It's about saying, hey, of all the trees

01:10:42.640 --> 01:10:44.080
of the garden they'll may as freely eat,

01:10:44.080 --> 01:10:46.600
here's all these Christian guys over here,

01:10:46.860 --> 01:10:48.640
here's all these Christian gals over here,

01:10:48.800 --> 01:10:50.480
but you know what, just this one person,

01:10:51.480 --> 01:10:52.720
this person's off limits.

01:10:54.620 --> 01:10:57.440
You know, do I have the right to say that as a parent or not?

01:10:59.400 --> 01:11:02.200
And especially if it's my daughter, you know,

01:11:02.360 --> 01:11:04.580
that's my daughter, I'm supposed to give her in marriage,

01:11:04.740 --> 01:11:06.140
you know, and we're living in a day,

01:11:06.240 --> 01:11:07.580
and sorry to get a little personal on this,

01:11:07.820 --> 01:11:08.820
but you know, we're living in a day

01:11:08.820 --> 01:11:11.400
when your weirdo idiot brother, right,

01:11:11.400 --> 01:11:14.500
can just basically just take over your daughter.

01:11:15.660 --> 01:11:19.020
Or your weirdo Fresno pastor can just be like,

01:11:19.040 --> 01:11:20.500
I'm taking control of your daughter.

01:11:20.820 --> 01:11:22.500
And he'll just take the control.

01:11:22.740 --> 01:11:24.200
I mean, what kind of a man of God,

01:11:24.340 --> 01:11:26.040
what kind of an independent fundamental Baptist pastor

01:11:26.040 --> 01:11:28.000
in Fresno, California, as Dave starts with P and ends

01:11:28.000 --> 01:11:31.120
in Ozarnski, it's just gonna come in and say,

01:11:31.180 --> 01:11:32.860
well, I'm taking control of your daughter,

01:11:32.880 --> 01:11:34.840
and he's done this twice where he sought

01:11:34.840 --> 01:11:36.780
to marry the daughter to a man

01:11:36.780 --> 01:11:38.020
that her parents didn't approve of.

01:11:38.440 --> 01:11:40.120
Boy bro, should've listened to this sermon.

01:11:40.120 --> 01:11:41.200
He should've read these verses.

01:11:42.620 --> 01:11:44.700
Not once, but twice he did that.

01:11:45.560 --> 01:11:47.520
Twice, that's super weird when you're said,

01:11:47.800 --> 01:11:49.460
well, I'm just taking control of your daughter

01:11:49.460 --> 01:11:50.760
because you're an inept parent,

01:11:50.900 --> 01:11:52.260
so I'm just taking control.

01:11:52.580 --> 01:11:55.220
And I know you guys, mom and dad have both said,

01:11:55.380 --> 01:11:56.940
you don't want your daughter marrying this guy

01:11:56.940 --> 01:11:58.900
or you want them to wait or you want, whatever.

01:11:59.160 --> 01:12:00.460
And she's like, no, no, I'm taking control

01:12:00.460 --> 01:12:01.320
because I'm the pastor.

01:12:01.880 --> 01:12:03.800
And I'm gonna go put her on a sofa

01:12:03.800 --> 01:12:05.520
of this other guy at church's house,

01:12:05.640 --> 01:12:06.960
and then I'm gonna put her in a hotel,

01:12:07.240 --> 01:12:09.080
then I'm gonna traffic her to another state

01:12:09.080 --> 01:12:11.220
and marry her to a guy against your will, right?

01:12:11.900 --> 01:12:13.020
And then you wonder why

01:12:13.020 --> 01:12:14.820
Verity Baptist Church Fresno failed.

01:12:15.880 --> 01:12:17.340
That's why, that kind of stuff.

01:12:17.440 --> 01:12:18.060
People don't like that.

01:12:18.520 --> 01:12:20.660
People don't like it when you take their daughter away

01:12:21.300 --> 01:12:22.260
against their will.

01:12:23.520 --> 01:12:25.880
Whether she's 17 or 18, they don't like it.

01:12:27.180 --> 01:12:28.920
You know, and the whole strife

01:12:28.920 --> 01:12:30.880
that happened with my brother started

01:12:31.580 --> 01:12:33.340
because he allowed my daughter,

01:12:33.500 --> 01:12:34.680
while she was visiting him,

01:12:34.840 --> 01:12:36.340
she was visiting him, you know,

01:12:36.340 --> 01:12:37.480
just a good faith visit.

01:12:37.720 --> 01:12:39.720
Like, yeah, yeah, go visit Uncle Clint

01:12:39.720 --> 01:12:40.620
out in South Carolina.

01:12:40.920 --> 01:12:42.900
And he allowed her to date a guy

01:12:43.720 --> 01:12:47.640
that literally had hair below his shoulders,

01:12:48.380 --> 01:12:50.360
long curly hair below his shoulders.

01:12:50.800 --> 01:12:51.780
He's wearing an eyeliner.

01:12:52.600 --> 01:12:54.300
He just looked like an absolute freak.

01:12:54.400 --> 01:12:57.600
Like, in what universe would Pastor Anderson

01:12:57.600 --> 01:12:59.600
allow his daughter to be dating

01:12:59.600 --> 01:13:03.380
this long-haired, effeminate freak, right?

01:13:03.380 --> 01:13:06.940
But it's just like, well, you know what?

01:13:07.020 --> 01:13:09.300
I guess it just doesn't matter what I want

01:13:09.800 --> 01:13:10.800
because I don't matter.

01:13:11.220 --> 01:13:12.160
I'm just the parent.

01:13:12.860 --> 01:13:13.780
I'm just dad.

01:13:14.080 --> 01:13:15.220
What does the Bible say, folks?

01:13:15.420 --> 01:13:15.820
Yeah, man.

01:13:16.000 --> 01:13:18.800
You know, so yeah, this is personal to me.

01:13:19.420 --> 01:13:21.360
And obviously it's personal to a lot of people

01:13:21.360 --> 01:13:23.380
and a lot of people do get upset about these things

01:13:23.380 --> 01:13:24.800
and they do get emotional about these things.

01:13:25.000 --> 01:13:26.980
But we're living in a messed up society

01:13:26.980 --> 01:13:29.180
where parental rights just don't matter.

01:13:29.460 --> 01:13:32.180
A father's rights and father's prerogatives

01:13:32.180 --> 01:13:33.020
just don't matter.

01:13:33.500 --> 01:13:35.420
A mother's rights and a mother's prerogatives

01:13:35.420 --> 01:13:36.200
just don't even matter.

01:13:36.440 --> 01:13:37.100
That's the day we're living.

01:13:37.200 --> 01:13:38.280
That's why this sermon's needed.

01:13:38.680 --> 01:13:41.480
Now you may like, maybe some of you like the sermon tonight.

01:13:41.820 --> 01:13:43.160
Maybe some of you don't like the sermon tonight.

01:13:43.400 --> 01:13:44.120
I don't care.

01:13:44.940 --> 01:13:45.720
Because you know what?

01:13:45.780 --> 01:13:47.240
This is a sermon that needs to be preached.

01:13:47.840 --> 01:13:50.480
You know, and if you don't like it, then shove it.

01:13:50.600 --> 01:13:53.300
I don't care, but this is right when I'm showing you.

01:13:53.480 --> 01:13:55.560
And I think that if you're honest with the text

01:13:55.560 --> 01:13:56.920
and honest with yourself,

01:13:57.040 --> 01:13:58.480
you'll see that what I'm preaching tonight is right.

01:13:59.000 --> 01:14:00.200
Say, well, what does this have to do

01:14:00.200 --> 01:14:01.060
with the first year anniversary?

01:14:01.060 --> 01:14:02.240
Nothing, and I don't care.

01:14:02.800 --> 01:14:03.380
Because you know what?

01:14:03.820 --> 01:14:06.640
A church is supposed to preach the whole counsel of God.

01:14:07.380 --> 01:14:09.040
And so I'll show up as a guest preacher

01:14:09.040 --> 01:14:10.100
and preach anything in the Bible.

01:14:10.940 --> 01:14:12.160
The Bible is the Bible.

01:14:15.460 --> 01:14:16.560
So here's the thing.

01:14:16.680 --> 01:14:18.800
When it comes to signs, be smart.

01:14:19.440 --> 01:14:21.640
You know, favors deceitful, beauties vain.

01:14:22.220 --> 01:14:24.240
A woman that feared the Lord, she shall be praised.

01:14:25.000 --> 01:14:28.480
Listen to that advice from Mama in Proverbs 31.

01:14:29.040 --> 01:14:31.580
Listen to that Proverbs 31 advice from Mom.

01:14:32.080 --> 01:14:33.540
Listen to your dad's advice.

01:14:34.060 --> 01:14:34.600
Be smart.

01:14:34.800 --> 01:14:35.620
Yeah, you're gonna go out there

01:14:35.620 --> 01:14:37.240
and you're gonna be the one doing the marrying.

01:14:37.680 --> 01:14:39.480
You're gonna go out there and you're gonna marry someone.

01:14:39.920 --> 01:14:41.820
But listen to your parents' advice.

01:14:42.640 --> 01:14:44.080
You know, and you should listen to their advice

01:14:44.080 --> 01:14:44.900
about other things too.

01:14:45.140 --> 01:14:47.440
Just be smart, just live your life.

01:14:47.540 --> 01:14:49.080
Don't reinvent the wheel, right?

01:14:49.820 --> 01:14:51.560
Listen to stuff your parents tell you.

01:14:51.700 --> 01:14:52.580
They've got good advice,

01:14:52.700 --> 01:14:54.200
especially if they're godly Christians.

01:14:54.820 --> 01:14:56.720
But then secondly, we said part two

01:14:56.720 --> 01:14:59.880
is that a woman, a daughter must marry

01:14:59.880 --> 01:15:01.420
a man that her father approves.

01:15:01.500 --> 01:15:03.580
Don't just take away man's authority.

01:15:04.160 --> 01:15:05.800
Don't just strip them of their authority

01:15:05.800 --> 01:15:08.040
so that I guess in my home,

01:15:08.180 --> 01:15:09.500
I'm just supposed to be like the queen of England

01:15:09.500 --> 01:15:10.260
or something, right?

01:15:10.720 --> 01:15:12.740
I guess now I can say the king of England.

01:15:14.180 --> 01:15:16.280
Like where I don't really have any real power.

01:15:16.940 --> 01:15:18.540
I'm just like a figurehead

01:15:18.540 --> 01:15:20.520
and I guess I can just parade around.

01:15:20.940 --> 01:15:23.040
Yeah, I'm dad, ha ha.

01:15:23.540 --> 01:15:26.260
I'm kind of sort of supposedly the boss, ha ha.

01:15:26.260 --> 01:15:29.020
But you know, can't really enforce anything.

01:15:29.400 --> 01:15:30.460
Well, not in my house.

01:15:30.600 --> 01:15:32.120
Sorry, that's not the way it's gonna work.

01:15:32.560 --> 01:15:34.520
And you know, what we need is a culture

01:15:35.620 --> 01:15:37.680
that backs up mom and dad.

01:15:38.080 --> 01:15:38.880
And here's the thing.

01:15:39.620 --> 01:15:41.440
I don't think we're gonna fix America with that regard.

01:15:41.580 --> 01:15:43.420
I think America is kind of toast at this point.

01:15:43.680 --> 01:15:44.240
But you know what?

01:15:44.280 --> 01:15:45.820
Can we at least have a subculture

01:15:46.620 --> 01:15:48.340
of independent fundamental Baptist

01:15:49.160 --> 01:15:50.700
that follow the Bible on this

01:15:50.700 --> 01:15:53.060
and are not changing with the times on this subject.

01:15:53.220 --> 01:15:54.100
Let's bards and have order of prayer.

01:15:54.200 --> 01:15:55.540
Father, we thank you so much for your word.

01:15:55.960 --> 01:15:57.940
And we thank you so much for this great group of people

01:15:57.940 --> 01:15:58.940
that are gathered here, Lord.

01:15:59.380 --> 01:16:01.260
I pray that you would just bless every part of this weekend.

01:16:01.740 --> 01:16:03.780
And I pray that you would just bless the soul winning.

01:16:04.100 --> 01:16:07.320
Lord, just lead the soul winners to the doors

01:16:07.780 --> 01:16:09.960
where people are ready to hear the gospel

01:16:09.960 --> 01:16:12.280
and receptive and ready to hear Lord.

01:16:12.580 --> 01:16:15.440
And I pray that a great number of people would be saved

01:16:15.440 --> 01:16:16.760
as was all of the work that's done.

01:16:17.140 --> 01:16:19.980
And I pray that the goal of 200 salvations

01:16:19.980 --> 01:16:22.480
for the first year of straight paths,

01:16:22.480 --> 01:16:26.040
Baptist and St. Louis would be hit, Lord, this weekend.

01:16:26.260 --> 01:16:28.280
I pray that it would be hit with a few days to spare

01:16:28.880 --> 01:16:33.580
and that this weekend would just be a great success.

01:16:33.920 --> 01:16:35.220
I pray that you would just reach down

01:16:35.220 --> 01:16:38.060
and heal Brother Oz so that he could preach

01:16:38.060 --> 01:16:40.160
a powerful sermon tomorrow night.

01:16:40.460 --> 01:16:43.440
Please just fill all the preachers of the weekend

01:16:43.440 --> 01:16:48.540
past a wrestle and Lord just help us all to rally

01:16:48.540 --> 01:16:51.020
around your word, rally around soul winning

01:16:52.020 --> 01:16:53.320
and bless the fellowship.

01:16:53.480 --> 01:16:54.440
And in Jesus' name we pray, amen.

01:16:54.680 --> 01:16:55.000
Amen.