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Men, it's great to be here tonight.

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I appreciate the invitation,

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and I'm sure it's gonna be fun.

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Looking forward to participating in not only this service,

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but also the festivities tonight, tomorrow.

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And so it seems like a great event.

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I know I was here another time many years ago.

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I feel like it was like six years ago

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or something like that at the other location.

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But it's an awesome event.

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And so I appreciate Pastor Shelley inviting me

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and having me come out here for this.

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So the title of the sermon this evening

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is biblical manhood, biblical manhood.

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When it comes to being manly or being masculine,

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different people can sometimes have different ideas about this.

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And maybe the world even has some wrong ideas

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about what that even means.

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So what I wanna do is look at what that means

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based on scripture tonight.

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What does the Bible teach about this subject?

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First thing I wanna point out is here

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in 2 Samuel chapter 10, beginning in verse nine,

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it says when Joab saw that the front of the battle

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was against him before and behind,

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he chose of all the choice men of Israel

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and put them in a ray against the Syrians.

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Jump down to verse 11.

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And he said, if the Syrians be too strong for me,

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then thou shalt help me.

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But if the children of Ammon be too strong for thee,

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then I will come and help thee.

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Be of good courage.

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Watch this and let us play the men for our people

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and for the cities of our God.

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And the Lord do that which seemeth him good.

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And so that's an interesting wording there.

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Play the men for our people.

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And what I wanna point out here

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is that every attribute of what the Bible teaches

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it is to be a godly man

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is not necessarily going to come to you naturally, right?

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Some people are just naturally more manly than others

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or these attributes in particular

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are gonna come to them just more intuitively

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or naturally.

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Other times you're gonna have to work

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at some of these things.

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And so it's almost like fake it till you make it.

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Play the men, why?

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For our people.

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So sometimes you need to just become

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what you need to be for your wife, for your kids,

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for your friends, for your church, whatever.

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You gotta play the man.

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And so just because some of these things

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don't necessarily fit your personality,

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we can all grow, we can all change,

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we can all improve and not just get stuck

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a certain way in our lives.

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Now if you would flip over to first Samuel, chapter number four.

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First Samuel, chapter number four.

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I know that there are times in my life

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when my personality was naturally a certain way

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but I had to change and kind of be what I needed to be

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to fulfill a certain role.

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You know, for example, I've never really found

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that leadership is something that comes naturally to me

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as far as I don't really like telling people what to do.

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I don't really like being in charge

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but when you're in that situation

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you have to rise to the occasion

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and you have to become that leader.

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You have to become that person

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because you're playing the man for your people at that point.

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Also you have a similar statement

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in first Samuel, chapter four.

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And what's funny is that this is coming from the Philistines

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but their sentiment is actually echoed

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in the New Testament as well from God's people.

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But it says in first Samuel, four, nine.

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Be strong and quit yourselves like men.

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Oh ye Philistines.

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He's saying look, act like man.

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Quit yourselves like men Philistines

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that you be not servants under the Hebrews

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as they have been to you.

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Quit yourselves like men and fight

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and the Philistines fought and Israel was smitten

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and they fled every man into his tent

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and there was a very great slaughter

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for their fell of Israel 30,000 footmen.

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So here the Philistines, they actually win the battle

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by being manly, you know, by rallying

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and having the strength and courage

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to defeat the Israelites.

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And then this attitude of quit yourselves like men.

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The Bible says the same thing in first Corinthians 16,

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you don't have to turn there,

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but it says watch ye, stand fast in the faith,

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quit you like men, be strong.

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And so my challenge to you this evening is,

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look, play the man, quit yourself like a man.

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You know, whether you're naturally that way or not,

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you need to get these godly biblical attributes in your life.

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Now I'm going to go through a list

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of what it means biblical manhood

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and then I'm also going to go through a list of things

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that it does not mean because the world

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will point to some things that they will say are manly

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that we don't necessarily want to have

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those attributes in our life.

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So first of all, number one,

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what is biblical manhood?

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Well, you know, obviously right at the surface

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it's strength, you know, it's moral,

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spiritual and physical strength.

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And in the passages that we just looked at,

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it's like, hey, quit you like men, be strong.

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It would say be strong, you know,

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hey, if they're too strong for you,

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then we'll come and rally

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and being a man has to do with being strong.

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And you know, with a lot of these,

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you could think about what it means to be manly,

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really think about feminine attributes

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and it's kind of the opposite.

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Because what does the Bible say about women?

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It says that they're the weaker vessel, right?

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First Peter chapter three, verse seven says,

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likewise ye husbands dwell with them according to knowledge,

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giving honor unto the wife as unto the weaker vessel.

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And as being heirs together of the grace of life,

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that your prayers be not hindered.

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Well, if the wife is the weaker vessel,

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sounds like the man is supposed to be the stronger vessel,

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you know, if she's the weaker vessel.

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And so that's a little bit of common sense there,

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but being strong.

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And again, we're not just talking about physical strength

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because this could also just be moral strength.

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This could be a lot of different kinds of spiritual strength,

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but it also is physical strength too.

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Okay, we don't want to be super weak as men.

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And I'm not saying that everybody needs to be

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a power lifter, everybody needs to be

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some extreme athlete or something like that.

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But look, I want to encourage you tonight

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that if any of these are a weakness for you

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to work on it and quit you like men.

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And so if you are super weak, then yeah,

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I would say you do need to hit the gym.

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You do need to do the calisthenics.

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You do need to work on that

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because we always want to work on our weaknesses

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to be the best, most well-rounded, complete man of God

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that we can possibly be.

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And so I do believe that it does include physical strength.

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We don't want to just go through life, super weak.

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It's not manly, it's not masculine to do that.

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But not only is it strength, it's also decisiveness.

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Decisiveness.

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Turn if you would to Joshua chapter 24,

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very famous verse, decisiveness.

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And by the way, notice it says that we're to dwell

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with our wives according to knowledge,

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giving honor unto the wife is under the weaker vessel.

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You know, the Bible is saying, hey, you gotta know your wife.

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You gotta dwell with her according to knowledge

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because newsflash, women are very complicated.

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And I think everybody kind of understands this

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unless you're just, I don't know,

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a small child or something.

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But everybody understands women are complex,

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they're complicated.

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It's not just simple, it's not just,

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you just throw chocolate and flowers at them

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and everything's gonna be great.

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Only, you know, just simple naves and fools

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would think that that's gonna work, okay?

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But, you know, they're out there.

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The point is though that, you know, life's complicated

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and women are especially complicated.

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And so you get married and you spend years

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figuring out your wife, you know?

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And who would wanna start over on a second wife

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is beyond me, super confused by that?

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You know, I wanna stay married, amen?

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Till death do us part.

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And the longer you're married,

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the more you figure out what makes your wife tick.

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And here's the thing, you as the man,

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you're the leader, you're making decisions.

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And so a manly attribute is decisiveness.

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When we talk about the man being an authority

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or being the leader, that means he's gotta make decisions.

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Making decisions is a responsibility.

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And it involves being decisive and, you know,

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in order to dwell with your wife according to knowledge,

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like you have to know what's best for her

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so that you can give her what's best for her.

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Not necessarily what she says she wants

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or what she says she needs,

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but what you know to be best for the family.

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What you know to be best for your wife.

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You know, as a man, we have to be decisive

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and make decisions.

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And again, this is not a criticism of women,

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but women are a little bit different in this area.

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They tend to not be as decisive.

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You know, it's funny because I'll go out to eat

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with my wife or something like that.

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And it's not just me and my wife all observe other couples.

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I'll kind of listen in on the way that they order.

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You know, and basically the men pretty much order

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the way that Joe Biden ordered a burger that one time.

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And then the women order like Obama.

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Okay.

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So there was this one thing where Obama and Biden

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went to go get a burger and Obama,

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and this is not a joke or something.

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This actually really happened.

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So, you know, President or Vice President

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are walking in to get a burger.

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No, I'm saying this really happened.

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And basically, you know, Joe Biden walks in

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and he's just like, hey, give me a number one, you know,

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or whatever.

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Took him like five seconds.

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You know, Obama comes in and he's just like,

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I'll have, you know, a burger,

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plain and like, do you guys have any like Dijon mustard?

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It was like a fast food place or something.

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I mean, he's ordering Grey Poupon or whatever.

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You know, and he's making it all complicated.

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He's like, oh, and then, you know, the pickle,

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the sweet pickle, it's not too sweet, is it?

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You know, like asking all these questions

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about the menu and stuff.

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It was just like, bro, just order your food.

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And the whole funny thing was that

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he was trying to show that he was like a normal person

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because, you know, the president

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can sometimes be seen as unapproachable.

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So it's kind of like Bill Clinton jogs

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over to McDonald's or whatever to show,

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hey, I'm a normal guy like you guys.

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You know, I just eat at McDonald's all the time,

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you know, or whatever.

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And so, you know, the point is,

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you don't wanna be indecisive on things that matter.

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Obviously, when we talk about ordering at a restaurant,

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it's kind of funny, it's kind of a joke,

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but I'll notice men tend to just kind of look

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at the menu, just pick something, order it.

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You know, women are asking a lot of questions

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about the menu and then they'll order something

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and then they'll change to something else.

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And sometimes my wife will want me to change.

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It's just like, this is the law of the Meads and the Persians

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which alter it not.

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Like, once you've ordered, it's impossible to change.

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I mean, things have been set in motion

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that cannot be stopped.

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But this is just kind of a fundamental difference

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between men and women.

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You could look at all kinds of married couples

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and watch them and you'll see the men

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and the women order differently.

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Therefore, it can be a little bit effeminate of you

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if you're this indecisive guy.

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And again, it's a joke when it comes to ordering at restaurants

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when we actually talk about like real big life decisions,

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you don't wanna just be wavering and floundering

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and you don't actually give a clear direction

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because as a leader, we've got to make a decision

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and be clear and stick to it.

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And obviously, none of us ever gonna be perfect

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at these things, but we wanna work on number one,

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strength, number two, decisiveness.

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Look what the Bible says in Joshua 24, verse 15.

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And if it seemed evil unto you to serve the Lord,

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choose you this day whom you will serve.

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Whether the gods, which your fathers served

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that were on the other side of the flood,

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this is talking about a river here

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when it talks about the flood, the Euphrates River,

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or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you dwell.

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But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.

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Look, he's making the decision for him

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and for his whole household.

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Whoever that includes, wife, kids, servants, whatever.

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He says, as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.

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And he's like, some of you guys just need

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to make a decision here.

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Look, you wanna worship the gods

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that our ancestors worshiped

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on the other side of the Euphrates River?

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Go ahead, whatever, do what you want,

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but make a decision, choose you,

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not tomorrow, this day, choose you this day

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whom you will serve.

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As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.

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But you know what, make a decision, get in or get out.

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And that's what Joshua is preaching here.

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That decisiveness, make a decision

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and don't be constantly halting between two opinions,

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as Elijah said on Mount Carmel.

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He said, look, if Baal is God, then serve Baal.

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If the Lord is God, then serve the Lord,

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but quit halting between two opinions.

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Now at a restaurant, it could just be a little embarrassing,

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but in life, this could be devastating

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to yourself and those around you

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when you can't be decisive.

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So learn to be decisive, do the research,

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get the information, get the knowledge.

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You say, well, I'm just not sure, well, then figure it out.

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And don't figure, and figure it out today, by the way.

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It's choose you this day whom you'll serve.

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You know, you ever run into these people

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where they're like, they're thinking about it

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and they're deciding and they're researching

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and they just never get there.

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You know, like you run into a lot of pastors

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who can't defend the pre-trib rapture

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and so they're like, well, I'm studying it.

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And then you come back 10 years later

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and they're still studying.

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I mean, I know a particular pastor,

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he just did not preach on the timing

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of the rapture for over a decade

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because he just couldn't figure out

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if it was pre-trib or post-trib.

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And so he just didn't talk about it.

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And it was like, you talk to him, he's studying it.

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He's looking into it.

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Couple years later, still looking in.

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Still studying it.

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And by the way, when it comes to salvation,

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this can be just be damning.

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You know, I was just witnessing to a guy the other day

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and I'm preaching the gospel to this guy

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and he had all these objections

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and I was answering all his objections

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and just, you know, getting him with all the objections.

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And then he came to a point where he just said,

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you know, I feel like I just need to go

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read the Bible myself, read the whole Bible,

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figure all this out.

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And I just told him, I said, you know,

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everybody who says that ends up not getting saved

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because it's like, they're just gonna go

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endlessly research the Bible.

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I mean, look, reading the whole Bible takes a long time.

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You know, hopefully we've all done it here,

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but reading the Bible takes a long time.

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But even then you don't have all the answers.

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You know, you're endlessly researching the Bible

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for decades as a Christian

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and that's with the help of the Holy Spirit.

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You think somebody without the Holy Spirit

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is really gonna be able to effectively approach the Bible,

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answer every question, fix every objection,

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be totally sure.

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Okay, now I'm ready to get saved.

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They just end up never getting there.

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And so, you know, I told this gentleman,

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I said, hey, you need to step out of faith here.

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Hey, you're a sinner.

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Jesus died on the cross.

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He rose again, you know, it's like,

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this is what we need to be thinking about.

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This is what we need to be talking about,

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not figuring out and understanding the entire Bible.

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Okay, just like if you went to,

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what's that place called?

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Cheesecake factory.

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And tell me, hey, I gotta figure out this entire menu.

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I mean, that would take days.

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That menu is like a short novel.

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It just goes on.

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I pretty much, when I go there,

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I just limit myself to like one page.

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I'm just like, I'm just gonna deal with this one page.

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You know, it's like, I determined to know nothing

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except Jesus Christ and him crucified.

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And it's just like, I'm on this one page of the menu

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because that's a big menu.

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It's not exactly in and out burger,

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if you know what I mean.

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In and out burger is a man's restaurant.

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You know, I mean,

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it's perfect for the manliness conference

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because you show up at in and out burger

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and it's just like, eh, burger, fries, eh, milkshake.

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It's so simple.

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And so you gotta have some decisiveness, right?

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And by the way, indecisiveness can send you to hell

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if you don't get saved.

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You know, thankfully this guy did step out of faith

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and he did pray to receive Christ as savior.

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But the point is that, you know,

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this indecisiveness can just go on forever

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and you gotta figure it out, make a decision, be decisive.

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This guy was decisive,

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but you know, that's what we need to work on

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is being decisive about things

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and not just endlessly vacillating

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and going through life without making a decision.

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Sometimes it's almost better.

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And obviously this doesn't apply

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if we're talking about matters of sin and right and wrong

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but in matters that are not sin issues

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that are not clear cut right and wrong issues,

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it's almost better to just make a decision

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and stick with it.

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Like if it's not a moral issue

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where God has an opinion on it necessarily,

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if it's two choices,

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it's almost better to make the inferior choice

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and just be solid on it and stick with it

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and consistent than to be constantly vacillating.

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You know, it doesn't really help anyone when you do that.

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So number one, we said strength.

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Number two, we said decisiveness.

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Go to Acts chapter four.

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Number three is boldness

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because also in those passages that we looked at

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in second and first Samuel,

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we saw that there was an element of be courageous.

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You know, it wasn't just be strong,

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it was also be courageous,

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fear not, have some boldness.

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And so part of manliness is strength,

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decisiveness, and also boldness.

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Okay, Acts chapter four, verse 29.

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And now Lord behold their threatenings

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and grant unto thy servants

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that with all boldness,

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they may speak thy word.

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Verse 31.

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And when they had prayed,

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the place was shaken where they were assembled together

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and they were all filled with the Holy ghost

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and they spake the word of God with boldness.

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Here we see a prayer made in verse 29,

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answered in verse 31.

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Give us boldness and they got the boldness.

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That's what we need.

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We need to pray for boldness.

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But not with that.

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Go to first Corinthians chapter nine.

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First Corinthians chapter nine.

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Now, why does it take boldness

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to live the Christian life?

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Hey, because it takes guts

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to do what God has called us to do.

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The Christian life isn't easy.

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The devil's not just gonna take it lying down.

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All that will live Godly in Christ Jesus

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shall suffer persecution.

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People are gonna criticize you,

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mock you, fight you, attack you, threaten you.

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And you have to have the guts to stand by your guns

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and do what's right no matter what.

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That's what the boldness requires.

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You know, going out and preaching the gospel, soul winning,

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that could be intimidating.

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It can be scary.

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You know, the first time you go out and do it,

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your heart's pounding, you're nervous or whatever.

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You know, you gotta have the boldness.

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You gotta have the guts to overcome that

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and do what God is telling you to do, right?

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It took guts for Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego

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not to bow down to the image.

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It took guts for Daniel to continue praying to God

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when praying became illegal.

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It's like, you know, I'm gonna pray three times a day

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but it's like, but we live in America.

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And in America, it's like, no, I don't care what country

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we live in, I am gonna serve God

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and obey God rather than men.

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And so it takes boldness to do what's right.

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That's a manly attribute, right?

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Having boldness.

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But not only that, self-control is a manly attribute.

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Look at 1 Corinthians chapter number nine,

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verse 24, it says,

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No ye not, that they which run and erase run all,

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but one receiveeth the prize,

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so run that ye may obtain,

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and every man that striveeth for the mastery

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is temperate in all things,

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and a synonym of temperance is self-control,

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governing yourself.

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It says, they do it to obtain a corruptible crown,

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but we an incorruptible.

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I therefore so run, not as uncertainly,

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so fight I not as one that beateth the air.

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And by the way, this goes back to the decisiveness point.

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He's saying, look, I'm not competing

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in this athletic competition indecisively

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and I don't really, I'm uncertain, I don't know

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if I'm even on the right team or what I'm doing here.

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He's saying, no, no, I don't run uncertainly.

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I don't fight as one that beateth the air,

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but I keep under my body and bring it into subjection,

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lest that by any means, when I've preached to others,

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I myself should be a castaway.

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Obviously, this is a manly attribute,

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an athlete that is physically fit,

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he's serious about his sport, he's not playing games,

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and he has the temperance to control what he eats,

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to control his activities,

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making sure he gets to bed on top.

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Look, it takes self-control to eat a healthy diet,

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it takes self-control to exercise and stay fit,

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it takes self-control to do spiritual things

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like reading your Bible, praying.

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You don't necessarily feel like doing those things,

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you do them anyway.

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Hey, it takes self-control not to stay up

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till the wee hours of the night

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because you're just having so much fun,

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playing video games or scrolling or watching movies

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or just whatever people do,

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just wasting their time staying up super late

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and then it's unhealthy and then the next morning,

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they don't have the energy

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and now all of a sudden they're not reading their Bible,

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they're not going to the gym, they're not going to work

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because they're just staying up, partying

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till the wee hours of the night,

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you gotta have some self-control

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and say, hey, I'm gonna discipline myself.

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And look, we don't necessarily, as men,

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like other people to just control

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every aspect of our lives, right?

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Part of being a man is we like to make those decisions.

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That's why being a man is about being decisive

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because we like to make decisions.

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We like to be free, we like freedom,

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that's why we love living in America

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because even if it's some other country,

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it's like, oh, they have a shorter work week

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or oh, you know, they have this other,

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which most of that just lies anyway.

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It's like, yeah, they have a shorter work week

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but having a dishwasher is like a luxury or something.

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They don't tell you that part.

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They don't tell you that you live with your parents

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until you're like 30 or 35 years old or whatever

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because you just can't afford to move out.

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They forgot to tell you that part

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when they tell you like, oh, America

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is just not like Europe and Europe is so wonderful.

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It's like, yeah, go there, spend some time there,

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get to know the people and you won't believe

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all the dumb propaganda that you see about that.

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But here's the thing about that, it's like,

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oh, it's so wonderful, oh, look how high

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the minimum wage is in Australia or whatever.

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It's like, bro, I don't care

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because I'd rather just have the freedom.

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You know what I mean, like even if these places,

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let's just say for a second,

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hey, it's just a better standard of living

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in Europe, Australia, wherever.

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Even if that were true, I'm just like, bro,

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I still wanna live in America

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because I would rather have a dinner of herbs

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and freedom they're with.

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And I know that's not in the Bible,

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I just made that up right now, but it's still true.

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I'd rather eat vegetarian and be free

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than to be able to afford all the meat and whatever.

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And again, I don't believe that.

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I think that we have a lot of prosperity here in America

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that we should be thankful for.

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But even if we didn't, I wouldn't trade my freedom

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for prosperity.

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Okay, I'd rather be poor and have the freedom.

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I mean, and look, we can get up

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and just preach whatever we want.

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We can just raise hell on the internet

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and in our churches and just rip face

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and preach the whole Bible.

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You can't do that in these places.

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We can raise our families the way that we want.

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We can preach what we want.

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We can live how we want.

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We can do what we want.

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It's a blessing, man.

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And so that freedom is nice.

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Okay, and I don't know how I got off on that.

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How did I get off on that?

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Does somebody remember what that had to do

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with 1 Corinthians chapter nine?

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Self-control.

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Self-control?

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What does that ever do with anything?

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Somebody help me.

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Making your own decisions.

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Making your own decisions.

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Oh yeah, I know what I was going with.

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This is what it is.

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What I was saying is, you know,

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you don't want necessarily as a man,

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it kind of goes against the grain for us

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to have somebody like micromanaging everything

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about our lives and taking away our freedom, right?

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But that doesn't mean that we're just these

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freewheeling spirits that don't have any rules.

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What it is is that being a man,

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being an adult, it's not about having no rules,

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but it's about following the rules that you want to follow.

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You know, it's about making rules for yourself.

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It's not about just, oh, I just sleep until whatever.

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It's like, no, no, no, I'm going to get myself up.

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I'm going to get myself to work.

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I'm going to get myself to do this.

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Being responsible, I've heard somebody say this,

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you know, it's self-parenting, you know?

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It's like you don't need somebody holding your hand

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because you're self-parenting.

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You are self-governing.

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It's not an anarchic kind of a life.

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It's just that you're running your own life.

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And people that are irresponsible,

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they do end up needing other people

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to run their lives for them.

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But we want to be people that run our own lives.

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We need to have some self-control, right?

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If we don't want to be controlled by other people,

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well, you got to have some self-control then.

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And get yourself up, get yourself to work.

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You know, it's like, oh, I can just have so much freedom

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living as a homeless person.

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You know, it's like, okay, yeah,

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nobody's going to tell you what to do.

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But at the same time, you're going to run into

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other masters that you don't want to have,

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like alcohol addiction, drug addiction.

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Also, you're just going to run into the policeman

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saying, hey, you can't sleep there.

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You can't urinate there.

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You know, you can't do it.

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It's just like, you're always going to have somebody

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telling you what to do unless you tell yourself

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what to do and you get your own crap together

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and live a responsible, productive life.

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That's the best way to have freedom

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is self-governing, self-parenting, okay?

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But not only is it decisiveness, strength, boldness

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and self-control that makes one manly,

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also working hard, being a hard worker.

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It's a manly attribute, right?

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If you're a slacker, if you're lazy about work,

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that's not manly, right?

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Doing your best at your job

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and working hard at your secular job,

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that is what it means to be manly.

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What did God tell the man in Genesis 319?

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He said, in the sweat of thy face,

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shout thou eat bread till thou return unto the ground,

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for out of it was thou taken, for dust thou art

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and unto dust shout thou return.

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Work by the sweat of your face, all the days of your life,

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that is what it means to be a man according to the Bible.

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Cleasiastes 512, the sleep of a laboring man is sweet,

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whether he eat little or much,

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but the abundance of the rich will not allow him to sleep.

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You know what, it feels good

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at the end of a hard day's work

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to just go to bed at night, you know?

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It's like the older you get,

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it's like those punishments from when you were a kid

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become rewards, stay home, go to bed early,

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take a nap, you're just like, great,

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because the sleep of a laboring man is sweet.

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And so the next, and really the final point

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that I wanna give you on the positive side,

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because then I'm gonna go into what manliness is not.

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The last point I wanna give you

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is that part of being a man

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is cold calculation when it's called for,

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or cold justice when it's called for, right?

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The ability to be cold.

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Now, you know, it's funny, I had this idea.

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The Red Hot Preaching Conference

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obviously was a thing for many years.

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I had this idea for the Ice Cold Preaching Conference

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and everybody hated my idea,

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like my pastor friends are just threatening to boycott

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and just trashing my idea.

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They just thought it was the stupidest idea in the world.

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But here's why I liked the idea

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of an Ice Cold Preaching Conference

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is because you know, some of the best preaching

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is the Ice Cold Preaching

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that doesn't get all warm and fuzzy and emotional

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about certain hard truths that need to be laid out.

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You know, and so sometimes, yeah,

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we love the Red Hot Preaching,

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suppose we need some preaching that's cold.

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Okay, and what do I mean by that?

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I mean, think about this.

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There was this whole Lindsay Clancy thing

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where you have all of these women all over the internet

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on TikTok and other social media platforms

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and what are they doing?

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You know, they're saying we don't want to see

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justice carried out on someone

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who committed premeditated murder

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because we just feel bad, right?

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And that is just not a manly way of looking at the world

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which is why this was a movement led by women.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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You know, again, not a criticism of women.

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Women are just not designed to be

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in that position of executing judgment.

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We don't need a female executioner.

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We need a male executioner.

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We need a male judge, male governor,

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male executioner, male policeman.

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Why?

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Because they will bring the cold justice when it's needed.

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Now look, there's a time for mercy,

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clemency, warmth, and pity,

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but there is a time to be ice cold

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and you have to make hard decisions

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that people don't want to make.

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But you have to.

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What does the Bible say?

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Well, if you would go to Deuteronomy chapter 19,

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there are a couple of places we could turn on this,

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but Deuteronomy 19 is a good one.

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Multiple times where the Bible brings up this issue

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of cold hard justice.

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And it's not always easy.

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Sometimes we have to just put emotions aside

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and make hard decisions.

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And it's not even just justice.

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You know, there are times when just hard decisions

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need to be made financially, hard decisions need to be made

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in the family, whatever.

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And in the church, you need a pastor

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who can say no to people,

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who's willing to cut people loose,

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who's willing to offend people and lose people

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because he's just willing to say no

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and be cold about it

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and not to get all warm and fuzzy

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and not be able to carry out those things.

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Well, look what the Bible says.

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It says in Deuteronomy 1911,

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this is about first degree murder.

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It says, but if any man hate his neighbor

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and lie and wait for him and rise up against him

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and smite him mortally that he die

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and flee into one of these cities.

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So this guy committed premeditated murder,

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but then he's going to the city of refuge,

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like somehow he's a victim.

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Like, oh, it's not my fault that I did this.

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He's like, well, look, if it's premeditated

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then the elders of the city shall send and fetch him dense

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and deliver him into the hand of the Avenger of Blood

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that he may die.

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Watch this, thine eye shall not pity him.

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So look, in general, mercy, compassion, sympathy, empathy

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are good things.

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In a lot of situations, we want to be sympathetic.

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We want to be empathetic.

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We want to have compassion,

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but you know what?

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Sometimes compassion is not appropriate.

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Sympathy is not appropriate in these situations.

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That's why he says, thine eye shall not pity him.

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And you say, well, I'm just so loving though.

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I'm just so loving and kind.

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And this is just who I am.

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I'm just a super forgiving bro or whatever.

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But hold on a second.

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The Bible is saying here that it is a sin

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for you to have, sir, because last time I checked

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thou shalt not is a formula for sin in the law of God.

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If you don't do this, right?

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You're obeying the law of God.

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And if you do it, you're sinning

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because it's a thou shalt not.

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It's like, well, I know uncle so and so is a faggot,

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but you know, I just feel bad

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because he doesn't have anywhere to go on Thanksgiving.

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No, thine eye shall not pity the faggoty uncle

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because you have to make the cold hard decision.

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We are cutting this guy off.

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This guy's wicked.

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This guy's a pervert.

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Other First Corinthians five types

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that are called a brother and they're fornicators,

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railers, extortioners, drunkards.

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It's like, look, you have to have the coldness

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to cut these people off.

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Do what the Bible says.

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And look, the apostle Paul said

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that the people who wanted to tolerate

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that kind of gross sin in the church,

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he said, y'all are puffed up, right?

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He said, you're puffed up.

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And if not rather mourned

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that he that had done this deed

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might be taken away from among you.

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You're so puffed up like, oh, you're just not loving.

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You're just not forgiving.

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You're just not compassionate.

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Oh, you're just so mean.

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Oh, you're just so hateful to these homos

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or these people that have been excommunicated or whatever.

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It's like, bro, we need a man that can read the Bible,

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know what it says and say, you know what?

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Fulfill the word of God.

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And you're like, yeah, but what about our feelings?

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Fulfill the word of God.

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Well, Lindsey Clancy, I mean,

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you listen to these Lindsey Clancy jurors

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and what are they saying?

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Oh, she just seemed like such a great mother.

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She just seemed like such a nice person.

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I didn't feel like the prosecution really addressed that

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because it don't matter how nice she was

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or how good she, and I'm not saying she was,

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but the point is she committed premeditated murder,

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put her to death, done.

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Over, and there was one hare-legged man in that jury box

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that basically actually played the man

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that actually quit himself like a man.

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He was a black man, I think he was from Haiti

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or somewhere in the Caribbean or something like that,

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which is where a lot of cool people are from.

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That's why we love to go down there

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and evangelize in the Caribbean.

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There are a lot of cool people down there

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and this guy, I don't know much about this guy

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but I know that at least he's a man.

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You know, he may not be the same religion as me,

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but he's a man.

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I mean, you know, even the Philistines can be men.

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Even the Philistines can say quit you like men.

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And so Bro decided to be a man

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and everybody's whining and all these broads

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and all these women are fighting him and everything.

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And he's just like, guilty, guilty,

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just steadfast, unmovable, fulfilled the law.

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His eye did not pity.

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He's just like guilty and they gnashed on him

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with their teeth, but in the end, he stood fast.

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Amen.

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You know, that's how we need to be at times.

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There are times, there are situations

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where we need to be like that guy.

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Everybody's going the wrong way.

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Everybody's bowing the knee to bail.

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All the women in the church are fussing

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and all they're all complaining

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and your wife's complaining

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and the kids are complaining and it's just like,

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nope, I know what the Bible says.

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This is what we're doing, done.

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That's being a man, coldness when it's called for.

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And look, there's a time for warmth,

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but there's also a time for coldness.

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It's scripture, I'll go to chapter 25.

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Here's another good example.

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So we saw in chapter 19,

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we saw an example with premeditated murder.

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And honestly, you know,

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this could literally be an entire sermon of itself

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just on, thine eye shall not pity, coldness.

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Like we could go all over the Bible

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and preach that for days.

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I'm just giving you a sampling.

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Deuteronomy 25 verse 11,

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when men strive together with one another

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and the wife of the one

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draw near for to deliver her husband

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out of the hand of him that smited them

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and put it forth her hand

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and take them by the secrets.

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Okay, translation grabs him by the balls.

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Okay, is what this means.

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Takes him by the secrets.

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Okay, this isn't all men's meetings.

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So we don't have to,

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we don't have to tone anything down.

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If anybody's watching on the internet,

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they're watching at their own risk anyway, right?

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They click the box that they're 18 or what, you know.

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I know what I'm getting into.

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Pastor Anderson might hurt me or whatever, you know.

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But like it says, she takes him by the secrets.

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Then now she'll cut off her hand, watch this.

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Dine eye shall not pity her, right?

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So some woman grabbing another man by the balls.

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He says, chop off that hand.

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Oh, that's that.

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Oh, how can you cut off her hand?

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It's so cruel.

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It's so inhumane.

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It's so barbaric.

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And oh, she's just trying to defend her husband.

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I can see where she's coming from.

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And she's just worried about him

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and she's just trying to help him.

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It's like, no, she needs to leave this between the men

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and grabbing a guy by the balls.

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We're gonna chop her hand off.

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That's the punishment.

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And he says, look, there's gonna be a tendency

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when there's a female defendant to feel bad for her, right?

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Because there's all the little simps and white knights

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like the other two simp jurors on the Lindsey Clancy trial.

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I don't even know those guys either,

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but I can tell you right now,

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they're a couple of queer little sissies is what they are.

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Like they don't have the guts to stand up

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for what's right.

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They're just in there simping and white knighting.

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And, you know, they're the type

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that they probably wanna get with Lindsey Clancy

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if they could because they wanna get with these women.

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And, oh, I just feel so bad for you.

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And, oh, I just love you so much.

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But you know what?

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He says, no, cut off her hand and don't feel bad about it.

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And you know what?

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It's funny, we get up and preach some hard things

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sometimes as pastors.

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And you know what?

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Our eyes don't pity.

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We're just like, we don't care.

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Screw you if you don't like it.

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Nuts to you.

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There's the door.

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Yeah, man, you know, what if somebody comes to church

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on a Wednesday night and they just got off work

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and it's like a conference style sermon?

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It's like, bro, conference style sermon.

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I don't even know what that means

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because that's just another day at the office

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for guys like us.

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That's called Sunday morning, Sunday night and Wednesday night.

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We have three conferences a week, right?

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We have the Sunday morning red hot preaching conference,

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the Sunday night red hot preaching conference

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and the Wednesday night preaching conference.

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Now, we're literally at a conference right now.

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So I guess the old IFB approves of me getting a little crazy.

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I could probably like smash an idol or whatever.

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You know, raise my voice and whatever

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because it's a conference sermon.

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It's like, no, you know, we as men,

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we have to be willing to put aside sometimes feelings

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and just not pity and just lay it out and do what's needed.

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And this is why, this is one of the reasons why

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women should not be pastors

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and why we don't have women get up and preach in the church.

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I guarantee you that there are some women

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that could explain the Bible pretty well,

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they could be pretty articulate and whatever,

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but you know what, when it comes down to it,

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they're probably not gonna get up here

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and really breathe fire

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and really split their britches up here

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like we will as men.

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And the thing about that is

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that a lot of these male pastors across America

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and the old IFB, they might as well be female pastors

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based on the way that they preach,

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the way that they operate,

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it's like you're like de facto a female pastor.

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Because if you're gonna get up and be like,

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oh man, I just feel like if I tear up the NIV,

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what if that just like hurts someone

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and what if they just like can never recover?

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What if they just see an NIV destroyed

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and they just can never recover?

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They can just never come back from that.

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What if somebody gets off work and gets here

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and they show up and I'm preaching conference style

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and it's a random Wednesday?

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Bro, I thought the old IFB

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preaches all their weak sauce on Sunday mornings.

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I thought they preached their little weak sauce,

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seeker sensitive sermons on Sunday morning

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and then I thought they pull out the hard stuff

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on Wednesday night.

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I mean, isn't the Wednesday night for the diehards?

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But now it's like, well, but bro,

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they just got off work, bro.

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It's like, I thought that's when the hard sermons happened.

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I mean, look, back when I was in the old IFB,

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sometimes Sunday morning was a little weak

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and then it was like, okay, but Wednesday night,

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you kind of expected the pastors

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gonna be able to bring the fire on a Wednesday night

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or Sunday night at least.

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Wow, you're like a female pastor

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when you're just like sympathizing so much

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with people who don't like the Bible.

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You're just like, what if somebody just feels bad

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about the fact that 20 years ago

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they smashed an idol as a kid

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and then it's like, now, it's like,

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oh man, when I was seven, I smashed an idol

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and it's just like, I just can't get it out of my mind.

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I just can't forget, it's like,

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and I didn't just smash the man

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but it was the women and the children

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and the Mary and the angel and I just,

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I just, ah, yeah, it's like, shut up, we don't care.

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Break down their images, destroy their pictures.

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Down with idolatry.

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It's like, oh, the old IPs against female pastors.

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They are female pastors.

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If they can't rip on faggots,

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if they're saying they're worrying

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about what everybody in the audience thinks

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and like, oh, somebody's gonna get offended

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if I destroy a bad Bible.

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Somebody's gonna get offended if I break, you know.

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Well, I mean, look, I was told in Bible college,

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well, you can't say faggot

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and you can't say these things

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because they said, nowadays,

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everybody's got one in their family

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and you're just gonna offend people.

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I'm just like, what?

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You know, and the morbidly obese teacher

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is just telling us like, oh, what kind of a pastor are you?

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You don't want sinners in your church.

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Why don't you want homosexuals to come to your church?

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Kind of a pastor are you?

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And then he's telling you, hey, you're use these words

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and what was the word?

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He taught us a word of what they were called like legally.

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It was like, perjurative terms or something.

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I don't think that's what it was.

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It was something like that.

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And he's just, oh, we're so worried

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about people's feelings and whatever.

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It's like, bro, I'm sorry, but I love people too.

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I care about people's feelings too.

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I have pity, I have sympathy, I have compassion,

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I have empathy, I love people.

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But you know what?

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There's a time when you have to put that aside

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and say, nope, cut off her hand.

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No pity.

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Sodomites put to death, no pity.

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First degree murder, dine-eye shall not pity.

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He's not even saying just that you need to do it.

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He's saying you need to quit feeling bad about it.

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Quit apologizing for the truth.

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You're a pastor, it's a church.

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You're reading the Bible.

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You're preaching what it says.

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You're doing what it says.

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Quit whining and apologizing about it.

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Might as well have a female pastor at this point

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in most old IFB churches,

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because nothing would change.

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You wouldn't even notice a difference.

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What, just because the voice is a few octaves higher

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or something, like other than that,

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you wouldn't notice difference

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in the content of the sermon.

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I feel like women might even preach harder than some,

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like, I feel like my wife or his wife or something

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would probably preach harder than these old IFB guys.

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You know, even the, but obviously like,

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obviously our wives sometimes are kind of thinking like,

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whoa, that was a little much there, buddy.

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And right, as your wife ever kind of acted like,

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yeah, I think we've all been there

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where our wives are a little bit like,

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whoa, what was that about?

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And we're just like,

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didn't need your permission, not looking for your approval.

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You know, it's like, this is why a man has to pastor

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to preach these hard sermons and chop off the hands

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of the nut grabbing winches.

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You know, what kind of, he says, this is what it is.

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You know, you try to grab, and by the way,

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if you're trying to grab your own husband by the balls,

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you know, you're probably gonna get preached against too.

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Probably gonna metaphorically cut off that hand too.

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While we're at it and we're not gonna feel bad about it.

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Sorry, not sorry.

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Okay, I gotta hurry.

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Cause that was all the good things.

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Now let's talk about the bad things.

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Okay, what does it not mean to be manly?

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Well, go if you would to Isaiah chapter five,

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Isaiah chapter five.

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You know, what does it mean to be manly?

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We said it's like strength, decisiveness,

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it's self-control, it's cold justice

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when it's called for, it's boldness,

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it's being a hard worker.

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I mean, it's all good stuff, right?

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Amen, we should all wanna be those things.

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But you know, the world will tell you

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that drunkenness is manly.

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Like, hey, you're a real man

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because you can hold your liquor.

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You know, you're a real tough guy

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because you would just drink a hard beverage

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and that somehow drinking a soft drink makes you soft.

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Right, isn't this what the world is gonna tell you?

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Cause look what the Bible says

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in Isaiah chapter five verse 22.

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Woe unto them that are what?

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That are quote unquote mighty

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to drink wine and man of strength

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to mingle strong drink.

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So there's this attitude out there that says,

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oh, it's mighty to booze it up and drink wine.

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Oh, you're a man of strength to do strong drink.

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Oh, I'm so tough, you just hand me whatever pills

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and I'll just take them.

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The reds, the blues, the yellows,

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I'll wash it down with a beer and let's go party.

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And they think that's manly, that's a stupid.

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It's not manly, the Bible says woe unto you

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if you think that's what it means to be a mighty man.

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If you think that's what it means to be a strong man,

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I can just bring wild chemicals into my body.

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Yeah, let's go drop acid.

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Let's go snort cocaine and drink and party.

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And oh, what's the matter, you chicken?

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Right, right, right.

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I mean, that's what the world's gonna try to tell you.

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And that's a wrong view of manliness.

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Being willing to poison yourself

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and get on these substances doesn't make you manly.

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Drinking doesn't make you manly.

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And by the way, these beverages,

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they're not healthful beverages.

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There was this lie that was pushed so hard

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when I was a kid growing up,

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is like, oh, alcohol's good for you.

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And they're telling you like,

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oh, the doctor's telling you to drink a glass of wine

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and whatever.

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That stuff's all been debunked now

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because it turns out you're not gonna believe this.

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The thing that was good for you about wine

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was the grape juice, not the alcohol.

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Like obviously fruit juice contains nutrients

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and vitamins and minerals.

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That was always the health benefit.

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But it's like, well, what about, you know,

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the doctor's orders, you know, hiccup?

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You know, it's like, no, that's not true.

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And when the Bible says a little wine

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for your stomach's sake, he's not saying alcohol.

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Alcohol's bad for your stomach.

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Bozo, okay, it's toxic.

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It's called being intoxicated.

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It is poison.

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And it's actually the fruit juice that's good for you.

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Or obviously there's health benefits

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in that which is fermented,

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but you don't have to be alcoholic to be fermented

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because you can drink apple cider vinegar.

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You can drink kombucha.

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You can eat sauerkraut.

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You can eat yogurt.

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You can eat cheese.

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You know, there's other ways to get fermented foods.

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What's that stuff that Japanese people eat

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that's fermented?

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Kimchi, yeah, exactly.

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You know, they're all throughout history.

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All over the world, people are eating fermented foods,

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drinking fermented foods.

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It doesn't have to be intoxicating

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in order to get the benefit,

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but this lie is out there like,

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oh, it's just so good for you or whatever.

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No, it's called a beer belly for a reason.

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If it's so good for you,

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then why does your nose look that way

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when you over drink?

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Right, people who drink a lot,

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you can just look at their nose

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and just instantly see alcoholic.

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Go if you would to Proverbs 7.

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So sorry, but drunkenness,

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taking drugs,

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being willing to just randomly put substances in your body

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and just poppin' pills.

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This is not manliness.

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That's false.

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But number two, being a hormonger is not manly.

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But the world will tell you like,

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oh man, you're a stud, you're a player.

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And the fact that you go out

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and sleep with a bunch of different women

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that that somehow makes you a man,

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you're awesome, you're James Bond.

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And you know, that's the biggest problem I have

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with James Bond as a character

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is that James Bond is committing fornication

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in every single film.

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I mean, I haven't seen them all,

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but everyone that I saw,

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I grew up watching the ones that I watched

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and it just seems like it's just a different Bond girl

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in every film and he's just fornicating,

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fornicating, fornicating,

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just going to bed on the first date,

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going to bed because he's just such a man.

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He's just so manly.

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He's just so cool and I guarantee you

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he's probably not the only character like that, right?

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I mean, we could probably say it and brainstorm

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and think about other characters from fiction,

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whether it's books or movies or TV shows,

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of womanizers who are just openly a womanizer

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and he's considered cool and manly, that is trash.

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And you know what, you as a man,

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you should decide like, I don't wanna be like that.

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I'm not gonna look to that.

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That's not my hero.

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I don't think that's cool.

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And you might need to help the women in your life

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or young girls to realize,

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hey, this is not who you should be idolizing.

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This is not the type of person you should be looking up to.

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This is not the kind of guy that you're gonna date.

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You know, it's gonna be over my dead body

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that I allow you to date and just sanction

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you to be with someone like that.

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Look what Proverbs 721 says.

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It says, with her much fair speech,

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she caused him to yield

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with the flattering of her lips, she forced him.

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Now look, I'm sorry, this is not a picture of manliness, right?

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When you're some guy who's so insecure

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and you're lacking the boldness

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and you're lacking the self-control,

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you're so insecure that you just need to be flattered

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by some chick and you're just loving all the compliments

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and you need this affirmation

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because you're so insecure that you basically get caused to yield.

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Here's another word for yield, submit.

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Are you listening?

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Submit, like here's the thing.

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We're up here preaching, hey, men need to lead,

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wives need to submit to their husbands.

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This is like a dude submitting to a woman who's a whore,

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who's an adulteress, who's evil, but he's just so weak

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and so lame that he's just so eating up the compliments

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of the flattery that she flatters him, causes him to yield

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and then it even says she forced him.

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Now, obviously this isn't talking about her physically

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overpowering him, right?

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But he gets sucked in because he's weak-minded.

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He gets sucked into this.

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Look at verse 22.

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He goes after her straight way as an ox goes to the slaughter

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or as a fool to the correction of the stocks.

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When I think about animals that are manly or tough,

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you can think of wanting to be compared to a lion or something,

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you want to be compared to a bear or a honey badger,

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I guess, or something like that.

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You're thinking about these animals.

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You're not just thinking about,

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oh, the manliest animal is just some ox

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that's being led to the slaughter.

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Just being led to the slaughter.

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You know, it's like the saying goes,

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eyes on the side, born to hide, eyes on the front,

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born to hunt, right?

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That's what you study when you're biology

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and you're looking at it

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and that's how animals are.

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Animals that have the eyes on the sides of their head

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are usually prey animals.

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Animals with eyes on the front of their head

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are usually predators.

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Now, obviously we're not animals

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where humans made in the image of God.

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I'm just saying you don't want to be compared

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to just this prey animal who's just being led

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to the slaughter by some broad, right?

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Look at verse 23,

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till a dart strike through his liver

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as a bird hasteth to the snare

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and knoweth not that it is for his life.

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I don't know, but when I read these three verses,

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the things that come to my mind is like,

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this guy is pathetic and weak.

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He doesn't have self-control

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and he's being manipulated

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and he's submitting to some random woman

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and yielding to her instead of yielding to God,

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he yields to her.

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And here's the thing,

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being a simp online is pathetic and weak.

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And these white knights online,

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to me they just seem like they're just trolling

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for adultery is all,

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that's what I see when I see this white knight.

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And what do I mean by a white knight?

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You have these guys coming along,

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they're just like,

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oh, your husband is so mean to you.

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And oh, I would treat you right.

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And oh, and you know what's funny?

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It's these guys that are single,

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that have no wife,

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but they're just, oh, I would be so good to you.

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It's a bunch of crap, okay?

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And they know everything.

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It's funny how single guys know everything

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about how to be a husband.

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Guys who've been married for less than a year,

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newly, it's like, bro, we've all been newlyweds.

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It's easy.

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Being a newlywed isn't hard, okay?

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You know, it's like, you're married and have no kids.

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Come back and talk to me when you have a few kids,

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and then we'll see how your marriage is doing, okay?

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Because you're playing on easy mode.

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You know, you're unmarried, you're single,

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you're newly married, you don't have kids.

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It's like, bro, stand down, okay?

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This is not your talk,

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but they're the ones who wanna pipe up

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and tell you like, oh, I just can't believe

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that your husband would act this way.

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What kind of a husband would do it?

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And you know what, to me, it just seems like

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they just wanna get in those women's pants

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is what it sounds like to me.

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Right, yeah.

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Are you listening to me?

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That's what they're doing is basically,

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they're like, oh, I'm so kind, I'm so loving.

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You know, and I was writing the sermon

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on the airplane, and my wife was sitting next to me.

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And you know, I came up with this point here

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about these weak, pathetic, online, simp, white nights.

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And my wife's just like, well, that's never gonna work.

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That's disgusting.

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That turns women off.

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That's gonna make women just think

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that they're just stupid and pathetic.

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I'm like, yeah, honey, I know that, honey.

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But I said, they think it's gonna work though,

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because they're stupid, because they're idiots.

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So they think they just, oh, just muff flowers and chocolate

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and it's just gonna fix everything.

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And I'm just gonna be the super sense of,

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hey, idiot, nice guys, finish last.

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Okay?

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And you know, especially when you're trying to be nice

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to someone else's wife, you're gonna be Mr. Nice Guy,

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the hero that's gonna come and save them

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from their bad husband.

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And you know what?

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Stay away from that infiction.

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Stay away from that stupid narrative of like,

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oh, the bad husband, and then the good guy

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has to come and rescue her from the bad husband

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or whatever.

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That is wicked.

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Okay, that is not right.

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And you know, here's the thing.

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You say, well, what about like, you know, David and Nabal?

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David did not come to set her free

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and save her from Nabal, okay?

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And David was not simping for her

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and saying like, oh, I'd be so good to you, you know, baby.

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He's just like, hey, you know what?

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You're lucky that you brought me all this food,

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because if you hadn't brought this food,

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I would have killed every single person

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in your whole family.

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That's what he told Abigail, right?

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That was him simping in white night.

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No, no, no.

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He literally just said, I would have murdered

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every single person in your family.

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There would have been no one left

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to piss against a wall in your whole house.

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It's a good thing you brought all this stuff.

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I mean, that's the story that I read.

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But you got a bunch of guys out there

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criticizing men, criticizing authority,

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tearing down leadership, tearing down husbands,

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tearing down fathers because of the fact that

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I look at it, I just think,

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are you just trolling for adultery?

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Do you just really want to just get with these?

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And as my wife said, it's not gonna work,

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but they think it's gonna work.

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And so they're so stupid

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that that's the kind of stuff that they say.

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You know, you should never be criticizing

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a woman's husband to her.

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Like, even if, like, if I came into contact

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with the wife of a false prophet,

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I wouldn't just be like sitting down

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with her telling her that her husband's trashed.

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It's like, you're stuck with this guy.

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So it's like, you know, you have to be with that guy.

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Anyway, I don't want to get off on a tangent with that,

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but go to Deuteronomy chapter 24, Deuteronomy chapter 24.

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Bottom line is being a whoremonger is pathetic and weak.

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And just being an online simp and a white knight

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is also pathetic and weak.

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You be a man, you stand up for what's right,

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and you get your own wife and you rule your own family

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and you rule your own house.

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There's nothing manly about feeling like

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you have to be a busy body about other men's matters.

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Right, that's what the Bible says the silly women will do.

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If the silly women get away from God

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and they're not staying busy with the right things,

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they learn to be idle, wandering about from house,

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tatlers and busy bodies.

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Look, why would you as a man want to be a busy body

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and other men's matters?

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Well, this guy is so mean to his wife.

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Ah, he needs to be nice to his wife.

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And look, I've seen men be mean to their wives.

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I've seen men mistreat their wives.

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I've seen men be rude to their wives.

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And you know, in my heart, I'm just thinking like,

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yeah, that's not cool.

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But at the end of the day,

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I'm just like, none of my business, not my problem.

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You know, because it's like,

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I don't want people getting in my business.

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I'm not gonna get in their business.

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Who art thou that judges another man's servant?

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To his own mastery standeth her falleth.

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You know, that's what the Bible says.

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But now I want to kind of flip that over

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because we said, hey, drunkenness,

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that's not manliness.

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Being a whoremonger, that's not manliness.

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You know, going around and getting involved

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in other people's crap and being a busy body,

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that's not manliness.

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But here's what else is not manliness.

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Because these guys,

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they do purport themselves as manly, don't they?

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Well, a real man would never act that way.

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A real man would never treat his wife that way.

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A real man would be well like me.

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And it's just like, no, bro, shut up.

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But anyway, here's another thing though.

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Hating women is also not manly.

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Hating women, right?

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Also known as misogyny.

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And that word gets thrown around,

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but it literally means hating women.

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And we are definitely against hating women.

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And you have this whole kind of migthal,

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red pill kind of a movement out there

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that is a woman hating movement.

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And it isn't right.

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It's stupid, it's wicked.

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And also it's not manly.

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Being hateful toward women is not manly

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because as men, we should be protectors

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and we should want to care for and love

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and nurture and cherish our wives.

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And other people that are under our care

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as far as like daughters

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and just other people that are under our care,

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whatever situation.

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Look what the Bible says in Deuteronomy 24, verse five.

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It says when a man has taken a new wife,

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he should not go out to war,

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neither shall he be charged with any business,

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but he shall be free at home one year

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and shall cheer up his wife, which he had taken.

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You know, the Bible say, look,

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you're staying home from battle to cheer up your wife.

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This is what a good man does.

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This is a godly man.

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This is a real man taking care of his wife,

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loving, cherishing, cheering her up, treating her well.

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Acts chapter 20, verse five says,

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I have showed you all things

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how that so laboring you ought to what?

01:00:15.800 --> 01:00:16.540
Support the weak.

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Support the weak.

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And to remember the words of the Lord Jesus,

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how he said it's more blessed to give than to receive.

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Philippians 4, 3, I entreat the also true Yoke fellow,

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help those women which labored with me in the gospel,

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with Clement also, and with other my fellow labors

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whose names are in the book of life.

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So the Bible is not a woman hating book.

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The Bible is saying help those women,

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support the weak, spend time helping them,

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doing good unto them.

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When you get married,

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take a break from other things,

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put other things on the back burner,

01:00:49.400 --> 01:00:51.000
rejoice with the wife of your youth,

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cheer her up, love her, cherish her,

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nourish her, spend time with her.

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It's not manly to just not care about your wife

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and just kind of just treat her like she doesn't matter

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or something like that's not cool or manly.

01:01:06.580 --> 01:01:08.460
But some guys do think this is manly, right?

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They think it's super manly

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to just be a man going their own way, you know?

01:01:14.520 --> 01:01:17.220
And to me, again, it just comes off as pathetic

01:01:17.220 --> 01:01:20.640
and lame and weak because they're giving up

01:01:20.640 --> 01:01:22.000
on the institution of marriage

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because they can't make it work

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or they think they can't make it work.

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Or how about this, like I couldn't even believe it

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when I learned about this term, incel, incel.

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I mean, what kind of a pathetic, weak little faggot are you

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if you're saying I'm an incel?

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Because what this stands for is involuntarily celibate.

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Now look, here's the thing.

01:01:45.200 --> 01:01:48.160
If you're single, of course you're supposed to be celibate

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if you're single, but wouldn't you be voluntarily cel?

01:01:52.140 --> 01:01:55.500
Not involuntarily, if I were a single dude,

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I'd be a vol cell.

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I wouldn't be an incel, I'd be a vol cell, right?

01:02:01.560 --> 01:02:04.660
Like I'm staying pure because I want to stay pure

01:02:04.660 --> 01:02:06.480
because I want to be pure when I get married.

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And that's the biblical standard

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be a virgin when you get married,

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that's what the Bible teaches.

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So you'd be a vol cell, but if you're an incel,

01:02:15.420 --> 01:02:17.080
you're basically saying I wish I could be committing

01:02:17.080 --> 01:02:20.860
fornication, but I'm just so weak and pathetic,

01:02:21.420 --> 01:02:23.180
women won't even fornicate with me.

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And I'm simping and I'm white nighting

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and I'm throwing flowers and chocolate at them

01:02:29.440 --> 01:02:31.620
and they're manipulating me and using me

01:02:31.620 --> 01:02:33.340
and I still can't get in their pants

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because I'm a weak, pathetic loser.

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Okay, look, obviously God demands us to be pure

01:02:41.020 --> 01:02:45.080
and quote unquote celibate before we're married.

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And then once we're married,

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we get to indulge in that activity,

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sorry X and IFB losers.

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But I can screw my wife whenever I want

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because that's what the Bible says

01:02:58.500 --> 01:03:00.060
and you can like it or lump it.

01:03:02.240 --> 01:03:06.160
But the thing about it is that these incel community

01:03:06.160 --> 01:03:10.420
is a woman hating, it is a misogynistic movement.

01:03:10.580 --> 01:03:12.360
And look, there are elements of Islam

01:03:12.360 --> 01:03:13.600
that are misogynistic.

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There are things, if you look at the apocrypha,

01:03:16.200 --> 01:03:17.780
there are some scriptures in the apocrypha

01:03:17.780 --> 01:03:20.800
that are misogynistic or woman hating scriptures,

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super cynical and negative about women,

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but that's not from the word of God.

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In the holy Bible, women are not denigrated.

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Feminists will accuse it of that,

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but in reality, the Bible lifts up women.

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Okay, and we should honor them

01:03:38.160 --> 01:03:39.460
and be kind to them and be good.

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Don't become this woman hating incel,

01:03:42.460 --> 01:03:44.100
it's pathetic and lame and weak.

01:03:44.920 --> 01:03:47.520
I like the cel part if you're not married.

01:03:48.100 --> 01:03:50.980
Okay, and if you're a married incel,

01:03:51.180 --> 01:03:54.340
well then if you're a married incel,

01:03:54.340 --> 01:03:57.400
you might be in the XNIFP, okay?

01:03:57.880 --> 01:04:00.980
But then you just need to take the advice of Nike,

01:04:01.620 --> 01:04:02.440
just do it.

01:04:02.780 --> 01:04:04.760
Or you could take the advice of Pastor Shelley

01:04:04.760 --> 01:04:07.380
and quote, make it happen, you know, or whatever.

01:04:08.560 --> 01:04:11.420
But anyway, Philippians, we looked at that.

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Okay, here's another thing that is not manly

01:04:14.700 --> 01:04:17.260
and this was actually inspired by a guy

01:04:17.260 --> 01:04:19.500
on the airplane with us while I was riding the sermon.

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Be in a loud mouth.

01:04:22.240 --> 01:04:23.900
This doesn't make you manly

01:04:23.900 --> 01:04:25.120
because a lot of us would think like,

01:04:25.200 --> 01:04:27.180
well, a woman's supposed to have a meek and quiet spirit.

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So I'm just gonna go the other way

01:04:29.080 --> 01:04:30.780
and just become a super blow hard loud mouth.

01:04:31.000 --> 01:04:32.180
There was this guy on the airplane

01:04:32.580 --> 01:04:35.700
that's just loudly talking the whole flight.

01:04:36.360 --> 01:04:38.220
And he's just talking about sports

01:04:38.220 --> 01:04:40.380
and just saying all these dumb things

01:04:40.380 --> 01:04:41.500
and he's just drinking.

01:04:41.780 --> 01:04:43.220
And if you notice that when people drink,

01:04:43.260 --> 01:04:46.180
they just get louder and louder and more obnoxious.

01:04:46.580 --> 01:04:48.080
Now look, obviously there's a time

01:04:48.080 --> 01:04:49.380
when it's appropriate to be loud.

01:04:49.460 --> 01:04:50.780
The Bible says that the preacher is supposed

01:04:50.780 --> 01:04:52.880
to lift up his voice and cry like a trumpet.

01:04:53.370 --> 01:04:56.200
Obviously if you're out playing sports or doing paintball,

01:04:56.400 --> 01:04:58.080
you're gonna have some battle cries

01:04:58.080 --> 01:05:00.100
and shrieking and war whoops, I'm sure.

01:05:00.920 --> 01:05:02.540
But it's like, bro, you're on an airplane

01:05:03.200 --> 01:05:06.820
and just being a loud mouth and just blown off your mouth

01:05:06.820 --> 01:05:09.280
and just totally disregarding the people around you.

01:05:09.740 --> 01:05:11.780
Just it's not manly.

01:05:11.900 --> 01:05:12.640
It's just not cool.

01:05:13.440 --> 01:05:14.520
How do I know this?

01:05:14.640 --> 01:05:16.500
Well, the Bible says in Proverbs 10, 19,

01:05:16.720 --> 01:05:19.120
in the multitude of words, they're one of not sin

01:05:19.610 --> 01:05:21.520
but he that refrain at his lips is wise.

01:05:21.980 --> 01:05:24.280
The Bible says in Ecclesiastes 5, 3,

01:05:24.340 --> 01:05:26.480
for a dream coming through the multitude of business

01:05:27.240 --> 01:05:30.100
and a fool's voice is known by multitude of words.

01:05:30.620 --> 01:05:33.320
So it's like, this guy on an airplane

01:05:33.960 --> 01:05:35.720
when people are supposed to be considerate

01:05:35.720 --> 01:05:36.840
of the people around them,

01:05:36.840 --> 01:05:38.680
we're all crammed onto this plane.

01:05:38.820 --> 01:05:39.760
There's hundreds of us.

01:05:40.200 --> 01:05:42.700
You could kind of home in on the biggest bozo

01:05:42.700 --> 01:05:46.020
on the airplane because he's just loudly blowing

01:05:46.020 --> 01:05:49.000
off his mouth about just sports and alcohol

01:05:49.360 --> 01:05:53.040
and just like, hey, everybody, look at me.

01:05:53.460 --> 01:05:55.160
And obviously that's not manly or cool.

01:05:55.340 --> 01:05:56.720
The Bible just says it's foolish.

01:05:57.600 --> 01:05:59.740
Fool's voice is known by multitude of words.

01:06:00.140 --> 01:06:01.640
And also I'm running out of time here,

01:06:01.740 --> 01:06:04.620
but being a brawler, being a brawler isn't manly.

01:06:05.060 --> 01:06:08.360
Going around picking fights with people, provoking fights.

01:06:09.680 --> 01:06:13.200
Usually the guys that actually are just going around

01:06:13.200 --> 01:06:15.860
and telling how they can just kick everybody's butt.

01:06:16.260 --> 01:06:17.660
These guys are usually insecure.

01:06:18.300 --> 01:06:20.440
And a lot of times they're just weak men

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that are talking about constantly

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how they're just gonna kick everybody's butt.

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And especially when pastors do this, it's bizarre.

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When pastors will threaten to physically fight

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other pastors and stuff.

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Like I preached against a pastor named Keith Gomez.

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And I didn't just, I didn't do this for no reason.

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Like he preached against me.

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He had a whole conference.

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We literally called it the Anti-Anderson Conference

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because the whole conference was preaching

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against yours truly.

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Like every sermon, Sam Gipp, also known as the Witch of Endor

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was the main speaker.

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And so they're having this conference against me.

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And then I basically replied.

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And the thing that I replied about

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was that Sam Gipp was teaching

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that Jesus was supposed to be named Emmanuel,

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but that his parents like didn't have the faith

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to name him Emmanuel.

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So they gave him this kind of B rated name of Jesus.

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Folks, Jesus is the name which is above all other names.

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And the angel commanded them to call his name Jesus.

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He, Sam Gipp is an idiot who can't understand the Bible

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because he's not saved.

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And so he can't even see the Bible where he says,

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thou shalt call his name Jesus.

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But he's like, he read a verse that's quoting

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the Old Testament saying his name shall be called Emmanuel.

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He forgot about that hidden unknown obscure verse

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that says thou shalt call his name Jesus.

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And he literally got up and taught that.

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And I just said congratulations to everyone

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in that church for being a complete idiot

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and not understanding that the guy is standing

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in front of you blaspheming the name of Jesus,

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but you're more worried about Israel

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and the Jews and the rapture.

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You're more interested in biblical prophecy

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than in even the name of Jesus.

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So I called it out.

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I got mad.

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I ripped some face on it because to me

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it was just absurd for a guy to get up

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and say Jesus wasn't supposed to be named Jesus.

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And it's okay.

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And what is this guy?

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What is Pastor Keith Gomez do?

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He says, you know what?

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Why don't you come say that to my face?

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He said, you can fly from Phoenix to Chicago

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direct man, the flight's cheap.

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Come to Chicago.

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My daddy was a boxer.

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And look, I know mass moves mass.

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And this guy probably was double my weight, at least.

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But the point is that it's wicked and stupid

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for a pastor to be a brawler.

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But here's the thing.

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God doesn't have different rules for pastors and laymen.

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He's just holding pastors to a higher standard,

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but nobody's supposed to be a brawler as a Christian.

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It's not like, well, pastors can't be brawlers,

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but y'all can brawl and just go crazy.

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But for a pastor to get up and say,

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hey, come face me, come say that to my face.

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It's like, bro, did you come to Phoenix

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and preach against me?

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No, you're preaching against me in Chicago.

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But here's the thing, I'm not gonna sit there and say,

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oh yeah, well, I'll kick your butt.

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It's like, that's not manly.

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That's just stupid, right?

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And by the way, people drink and it caused them

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to act that way too and become a brawler

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and to be a striker and to go get in fights.

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There's nothing manly about getting in fights

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or threatening people or just talking about

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or you can kick everybody's butt

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and everything like that.

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And that's it for tonight's sermon.

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Let's pray.

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Lord, we thank you so much for the fact

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that we have the Bible to guide us and direct us

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so that we can know what does it mean to be a man?

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What does it mean to be manly or masculine, Lord?

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Help us to get these godly attributes in our life

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that you prescribed, the strength, the boldness,

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the decisiveness, the self-control,

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temperance, working hard, et cetera, Lord.

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And help us not to get sucked into these stupid,

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macho, manly definitions of the world,

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of drinking, womanizing, being a loudmouth and a brawler.

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Lord, help us not to get sucked into those things

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or to feel like tearing down other men in their marriages

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and being a busy body somehow makes us a better man

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or something like that, Lord.

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Help us to play the part of men

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to quit ourselves like men to,

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and those that are struggling in these areas,

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Lord, I pray that they would fake it till they make it

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and try to work on it and improve and pray for boldness

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and pray for helping these areas.

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And in Jesus' name we pray, amen.