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Amen. I want to look here in verse 32 again, the Bible says,

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For the froward is abomination to the Lord,

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but his secret is with the righteous.

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And I want to talk about being froward this evening

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and kind of dwelling on this concept of frowardness.

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Now, here in this particular passage,

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I think it is kind of contrasting

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the unsaved versus the saved.

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But it's not that only unsaved people can be froward.

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It's just that often, of course,

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we observe the unsaved being very froward.

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And I kind of want to define this

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and then look at some examples

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and really talk about it from a different couple scenarios.

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But according to the dictionary,

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being froward is willfully contrary,

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being disobedient or difficult to manage.

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So it's not necessarily saying that you're against something.

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Obviously as God's people, we should be against evil.

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We should be against things that are wrong.

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That's not being froward.

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Froward is really contextual in the sense of

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you're rebelling against the legitimate authorities

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in your life.

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So of course, God being a legitimate authority,

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being willfully contrary to the things of God

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would be being froward.

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Being disobedient to God would be being froward.

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Being difficult to manage would be froward.

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And of course, this is what the children of Israel are like

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by and large in the Old Testament

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is that they're very contrary to God.

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They're constantly disobeying.

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They're very difficult for him to manage

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and very much infuriates God.

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God is very frustrated with the froward.

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We don't want to have this attitude.

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We don't want to be like this person.

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And of course, those that are unsaved,

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many of them are very froward towards the things of God,

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towards what the Bible says.

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And notice it says his secret is with the righteous.

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Of course, one of those secrets would be

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the gospel of Jesus Christ.

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And so when you're not resisting the things of God

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and you're not resisting his commandments

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and the fear of the Lord,

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you'll end up receiving the truth of the gospel.

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And this is kind of illustrated in John chapter number three.

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The Bible says,

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but he that do a truth comeeth to the light

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that his deeds may be manifest,

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that they are wrought in God.

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And if you think about it,

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the people that are seeking God

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and seeking to do right end up finding free salvation.

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They weren't necessarily even seeking free salvation,

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but that's what they discover.

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And those that are just contrary to God,

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they don't want to serve him in any way.

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They don't want to follow his commandments.

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They kind of hate God.

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They end up just not finding it.

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And they're just what the Bible describes

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as an abomination unto God.

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Abomination is something that is highly detested,

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hated, abhorred,

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just you disdain it, complete contempt.

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So God has no satisfaction in the wicked.

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He doesn't have any love towards the wicked.

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He's gonna burn all the wicked

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in hell for all of eternity.

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And so it's necessary to of course get saved

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because if you don't get saved,

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well, you're gonna burn in hell for all of eternity.

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That's kind of what I think is the main thing

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that we could glean from this text,

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but there's more than just the gospel with God.

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And of course, hearing to God's commandments

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is gonna bless you in your life.

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Not only you get the gospel,

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but just doing what God said is just good for you.

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Think about some of the big picture things

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the Bible has, like getting married when you're young.

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That's just gonna be good for you, working hard.

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That's just gonna be good for you, obeying your mom and dad.

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These things are just gonna be good for you.

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Husbands loving your wives,

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that's gonna really work out well.

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Wives submitting and obeying their husbands.

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I mean, if you have a marriage

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where the husband just is loving his wife

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and providing for her,

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and the wife's always obeying her husband,

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how does marriage not always work out?

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You know why it doesn't work out?

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Cause those things aren't happening, okay?

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You know, why are people frustrated in life

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because they're not working hard?

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Why are people just screwing up in this category

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because they're not getting married young?

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It's like, let's just be honest,

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people that are not getting married young

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are committing a lot of fornication.

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They're having all kinds of relationship issues

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and they're doing all kinds of things

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that are not appropriate.

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And so of course, finding someone that is godly,

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that loves the Lord, getting married young,

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having children, I mean, all these things

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are just gonna bless you in your life.

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Being the contrary person saying,

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nah, I don't wanna do it with a man saying,

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I don't wanna get married,

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and I don't wanna have to obey my husband,

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and I don't wanna have to find a wife

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and take care of her and provide for her,

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and I don't wanna do all these things.

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Well, guess what?

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That person's life is gonna be hard.

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The way of transgressors is hard.

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You know, don't listen to your parents,

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your life's gonna be hard.

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And so we have to make sure that we are not

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forward to the things of God.

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Look at chapter 11, verse 20,

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and really the word forward is mostly

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contained in the book of Proverbs.

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It's mostly just kind of brought up a lot in Proverbs,

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but then you just have stories of people being forward.

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But Proverbs chapter 11, look at verse 20,

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the Bible says,

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they that are of a forward heart

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are abomination to the Lord,

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but such as are upright in their way are His delight.

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And what you'll kinda notice is that being forward

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while everyone is gonna be disobedient at some point,

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while everyone will not be perfect.

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That's not necessarily what forward is getting at.

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Forward is almost like a certain attitude.

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There's some people that they just have this attitude

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where they're just kind of just always against things.

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And there's always contrary,

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and they're just a constant contrarian,

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and they always have to stand out,

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and they always have to be different,

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and they always have to disagree,

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and they always have to express their opinion,

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and they're just really difficult people to be around.

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But it's just really frustrating to be around someone

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that's just always disobeying,

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always disagreeing,

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always having a counter opinion.

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It's just annoying.

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And so the Bible is saying like,

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you don't wanna be this kind of person

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where you're just against everything.

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Well, just everything's bad, and everything's wrong,

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and especially in the context of the things of God.

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You know, there are some people

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that they basically think like, every church is bad,

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and every pastor's bad,

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and the Bible's a Jewish Psyop,

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and they're just like, they're against everything.

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And it's just like, this is a really bad attitude.

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We don't wanna be this kind of person

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that just goes all the way to this extreme.

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And look, I'm not trying to pick on anybody,

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but I feel like sometimes people take this attitude

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and apply it to all areas of life.

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Like, all food is bad.

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You know, it's just like every food item is bad,

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all medicine is bad, all doctors are bad,

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everything AI says and does is bad,

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all technology is bad.

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It's just, it's kind of a bad attitude.

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Okay, and it's really easy,

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it's really simple to just hit all is good or all is bad.

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But you know, life is not that simple.

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We have to discern between the clean and the unclean,

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between the good and the bad,

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between the right and the upright and the forward.

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Like, we wanna make sure that we're not

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just collapsing all these categories

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into one all the time and just always hitting this button

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and just acting like everything is always bad

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or always good.

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You know, sometimes we have to use discretion

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and we have to really discern what is good, what is bad.

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You know, like let's say AI for a moment.

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I kinda think like 80% of AI is good personally.

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And I'm just throwing out a number.

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I'm just saying like, by and large,

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AI is very helpful, it has a lot of good knowledge,

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it can really benefit you in a lot of ways.

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But like 20% is complete trash, okay?

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And the mistake would be when it comes to like AI

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and technology is saying, well, I'm gonna just go all,

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I like everything AI does, I'm just 100%.

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Well, that's a mistake.

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But then it'll also be a mistake to say,

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I don't like any of it and I never wanna use it.

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Like that's also probably an issue.

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It's like, hey, we gotta kinda discern what's good,

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what's not good.

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And you know, the forward person would just be like,

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I hate AI, I'm not gonna get a social security number

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because that's for the mark of the beast.

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And I'm not gonna use any banking system

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and I can't use a credit card

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and you guys are part of the New World Order

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and every church is 501C is being led by the government.

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I mean, this is just a bad attitude.

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And there are people that have this that,

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every church is bad

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and they're always just trying to control people.

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There's a bad attitude.

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You wanna stay away from this type of person

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that is just contrary to everything

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thinks everything's bad, everything's up to get you.

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They'll say every job is sinful.

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They'll find some way.

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They'll be like, oh, you install cable?

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Well, you're installing bad,

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some bad stuff with that cable.

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You're an evil person.

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And it's just like, give me a job

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that doesn't have something that could be passably wrong

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or something bad with it or some kind of issue.

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We should have a clear distinction

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between the online prostitute

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and the guy installing cable

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and not collapse all these categories

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to be like, well, just all bad.

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That's a wrong way to view the world

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or to say, okay, well, every church has a few issues

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and then say like, but Steadfast Baptist Church

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is the same as the Roman Catholic Church.

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Like we don't wanna collapse these categories

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and just totally get rid of everything.

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But again, that's what the forward person is like.

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And so the win you over with,

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oh, Roman Catholicism is bad.

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The Catholic Church is bad.

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You're like, yeah, yeah, yeah.

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And then it's just all of a sudden, everything's bad.

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And it's like, no, I don't wanna have that opinion.

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And so we wanna make sure

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that we're not just a forward person.

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We're just against everything.

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And we're always just contrary to everything.

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We just have a negative attitude about everything.

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And just America is just so bad.

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And every single person that founded America

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was a reprobate.

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And they were all these genocidal maniacs.

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And there was all these peaceful, friendly,

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little Native Americans dancing around, picking flowers.

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And we just came and massacred them for no reason.

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It's just like, look, America can have problems,

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but we don't have to reinvent the past

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to demonize them and just be so contrary

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to everything America's ever done, ever stood for.

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Like this is just a bad attitude.

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And look, the forward person,

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the forward heart or abomination of the Lord,

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but such as upright in their way or his delight.

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Okay, we're contrasting the person's

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always against the things of God

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versus the person that looks to the Bibles,

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I wanna do what the Bible says.

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And they have kind of a positive outlook.

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Look at chapter 10, verse 31.

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The mouth of the just bringing forth wisdom,

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but the forward tongue shall be cut out.

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The lips of the righteous know what is acceptable,

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but the mouth of the wicked speaketh forwardness.

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So it's just like, there's a time and a place to hate.

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The Bible says there's a time to hate,

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but the Bible also says there's a time to love.

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And so we wanna balance our tongue,

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we wanna balance our attitudes.

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We don't wanna be the person that's only against stuff.

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And look, I'm against stuff.

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You know that I'm against stuff.

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I'm against the Roman Catholic church.

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I'm against the Orthodox church.

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I'm against putting beans in your chili.

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But you know what, let me tell you something.

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I'm for Texas chili.

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I'm for steadfast Baptist church.

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I'm for the King James Bible.

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Hey, I'm for all kinds of stuff.

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And you know, we don't have to be the type of person

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that we're only against stuff.

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We can be four things as well.

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And what does the just do?

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He brings forth wisdom.

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What does the righteous do?

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He knows what is acceptable.

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So he's not only against stuff.

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He's also saying this is okay.

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This is good.

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This is right.

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And we wanna be four stuff not only against things.

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And there could be a tendency,

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you know, like the Joel Osteens that exists in the world

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who are just for everybody

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and every message is a positive message

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to go to the other extreme where we're against everything.

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Every sermon's negative.

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Every sermon's on the Freemasons.

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Every sermon is just some kind of a

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against America sermon or something like this.

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We don't wanna have that kind of attitude.

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We wanna be someone that can find balance

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and have a healthy appreciation

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for what is still good in this world.

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And you know, the contrary person,

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it's a negative attitude.

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I don't like it.

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I don't like it.

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God doesn't like it.

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And we should by and large be a positive group of people.

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That doesn't mean we have to like everything

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but we shouldn't be someone that's constantly forward.

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Go to Proverbs chapter four, verse 24, Proverbs chapter four.

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God hates it.

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We should hate it.

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We don't wanna be the person

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that's constantly arguing with the Bible,

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disagreeing with the Bible.

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You'll watch documentaries done by atheists,

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libtards, feminists, videos they make.

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This is what they'll do.

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They'll literally just have you quoting the Bible

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and then they'll just leave it unanswered

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like it was so horrible.

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Like they'll just, you'll just like read a Bible verse

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and then they'll just move on to the next scene

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and you're thinking like, and?

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Yeah.

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And it's just like to them,

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just the Bible being read out loud is so horrible.

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It's so awful.

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And it's just like, how could you even claim

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to be a Christian and then just attacking

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clear Bible verses being read?

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You need to just like read a Bible verse.

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We shouldn't have this forward opinion where we just,

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yeah, I don't like that part of the Bible

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or I only like this section of the Bible

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or I'm only New Testament or I'm only Red Letters

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or I'm only Paul or I'm only Jesus.

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You know, we should like all the Bible

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and we shouldn't sit here and give ear to someone

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that is just gonna have a negative or attitude

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towards something that's clear in the scripture,

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a clear verse in the Bible.

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Proverbs four, verse 24,

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put away from the afro word mouth

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and perverse lips put far from thee.

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Again, I believe this instruction would not exist

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if God's people couldn't be forward

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or if it's not controllable.

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So I think there's some people

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that are just inherently bad

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and they're gonna be forward no matter what.

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But what they do is it's like a disease.

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They infect other good people

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to be negative with them, to be forward with them.

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And so what we must do is we must identify those people

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and get away from them, not having that attitude,

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put it far away from us, change your disposition.

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If you find yourself to be someone

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that's just always negative and always against everything

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and just constantly being against stuff,

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you probably need to change.

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You need to find a way to be happy.

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You need to find a way to be positive about things

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and to be for things.

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And you spend more time championing the things

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you believe and love

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than just being against something.

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Okay, and especially when it comes to the good things,

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comes to the righteous things.

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And you need to be careful to see,

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like let's just be careful with our own opinions.

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Go to Ephesians chapter six, Ephesians chapter six,

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that of course, when it comes to friendly fire,

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obviously we distinguish ourselves from other IFB churches.

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We'll call ourselves the new IFB and things like that.

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But we shouldn't have an attitude

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where we hate the old IFB

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or we don't like the new, the old IFB

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or we're constantly trashing the old IFB.

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Like we should have an attitude like,

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hey, we want you to be different.

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We want you to come onto our side.

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We want you to have a different opinion,

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but we can still be generally positive towards them.

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You know, we don't wanna be like this group

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of the old IFB that looks towards us

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and calls us these cold, weirdo, freaks, crazy Christians.

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It's just like, that's unhelpful.

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Yeah, yeah.

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And you know, that's just being forward.

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You're just gonna cast a whole group of people out

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as trash based on what?

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On the fact that they smashed an idol or something.

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It's just like, come on, really?

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And what if some of our church

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didn't even agree with that hypothetically?

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Now you're gonna trash that person too,

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along with the rest of them.

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You know, it's just sad when you have

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just groups of people just being broadly

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just trashed, oh, they're all Kool-Aid drinkers,

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or they're all effeminate,

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or they've all been emasculated,

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or they have no control over themselves,

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just based on nothing, just wild accusations,

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false accusations, this forward attitude.

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Hey, we can say, hey, I don't wanna be old IFB,

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but I still like them.

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You know, I don't have to just diss people

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just to diss them.

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And if I don't like something about them,

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what would be helpful is to point out

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what I don't like about them and how they could change.

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That's not being forward, okay?

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And I don't wanna just be against people

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just to be against people.

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If you're gonna be against people, have a reason.

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Have a legitimate idea of, it's like,

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hey, I kinda don't wanna be around this person

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because of this reason.

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But of course, bad people don't have a reason,

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so they just make it up.

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They just say, well, I don't like you

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because you're fat, you know, it's just like,

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whatever, you know, that's what

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the orthodox are calling me now.

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They just say I'm fat, that's why I'm bad or something.

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I'm like, okay, that's the best you've got.

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In fact, someone had made a video

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saying that I was a bad person,

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and the video was me singing at a conference.

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And at one point, I just kinda like

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stopped singing the verse and smiled at somebody.

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And I was just like, I don't even know

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what the point of this video is.

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And they were like, it just looks

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like he doesn't wanna be there.

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And I'm just like, okay.

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I mean, you know, I'll be honest,

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like, I sometimes struggle to get through

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like a whole Sunday or sometimes conference days,

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you know, you're preaching a lot.

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So like, I won't necessarily sing as loud

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as I possibly can every single song

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because I'm just trying to preserve my voice a little bit.

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You know, but even if that was the case,

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is that, Pastor Shelley's bad

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because he'd skip the verse on one of the hymns

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or whatever.

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He's just like, wow.

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You know, that's the reason

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why you're not new IFB.

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That's a brilliant point you got there.

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But you know, we don't wanna have this attitude

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where we're just against people.

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And so we get to the silly point where we're like,

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oh yeah, I remember this one criticism.

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Someone said, Pastor Shelley doesn't blink enough in videos.

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I'm like, I don't even know what that means.

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Like that's a forward heart

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because you just wanna be against the person so bad

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they're willing to just make stuff up.

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Oh, he's fat, he doesn't blink enough

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and sometimes he skips verses when he's singing.

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It's just like, that just proof

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that they just wanna be against you.

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And look, it's also proof though,

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if people are saying this about you,

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that you're not doing anything wrong.

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Because if you're doing something wrong,

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they would just point to that.

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So when they're pointing to this stuff,

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they don't have anything else to say.

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That's the issue.

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And so they just have to make something up

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because it's just a forward person.

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And look, kids, let's focus on you for a moment.

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Don't be a forward kid.

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What's a forward kid?

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You're constantly arguing with your parents about everything.

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You're constantly disobeying mom and dad.

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And you're a difficult child to manage.

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Meaning they can't just leave you alone.

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They can't just leave you to do a task.

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You're just always arguing.

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You don't like what they say.

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You don't wanna do what they say.

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You know, this is a bad attitude.

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You should be someone that's generally happy

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about what your parents say,

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and you're generally agreeing with your parents

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or telling you to do,

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and you're doing it with a good attitude.

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This is how you should be as a child.

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What does the Bible say in Ephesians 6,

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one, children, obey your parents and the Lord

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for this is right.

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Honor thy father and mother,

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which is the first commandment with promise

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that it may be well with thee,

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and thou mayest live long on the earth.

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So children, do not be this stubborn kid

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that's constantly arguing with their parents,

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thinking that you're smarter than your parents,

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just being against what your parents say.

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Look, your parents are gonna be giving you

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very good information by and large,

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especially in a church like this.

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Your parents are some of the best parents in the world,

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giving you really good advice,

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and they love you in many cases,

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and want best for you more than you realize

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even for yourself.

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Like they're trying to help you make decisions

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that you wouldn't make for yourself

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because they love you more than you love yourself

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in some cases.

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It's like you wanna just eat sugar and candy

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and rot your teeth out,

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and they want you to be healthy and strong

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and have your teeth until you're an adult.

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And so then sometimes they're trying to prevent you

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from ruining your own life.

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Go with Deuteronomy 21, Deuteronomy 21.

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Your parents aren't telling you to go to bed

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because they hate you.

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Now it could because you're annoying,

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but it's mostly why,

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because they want you to get a good night's sleep.

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And look, children, guess what?

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If you wanna grow and be healthy, you need sleep.

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That's why you shouldn't stay up all night.

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You shouldn't be constantly rebelling against mom and dad.

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Hey, they put you in bed, go to bed.

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And look, I'm sure they don't mind

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if you wake up early and read your Bible,

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or you wake up early and do your schoolwork or something.

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And look, if you do that,

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then you have more time in the day to play

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instead of having to sneak around at night

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trying to play.

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It's easier to play during the day than it is at night.

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Under the covers or whatever weird stuff you're doing.

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It's just like, hey, just go to bed.

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Don't be this forward person

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that's always against your parents,

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always sneaking around.

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Don't be the sibling that's trying

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to get the other siblings.

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Oh, I know mom and dad said that, but who cares?

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Let's do whatever we want.

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That's a bad attitude.

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And you know what, God knows,

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says my kids would always say, God knows.

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What is God's opinion about this stubborn kid

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that will never get right?

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Do not be 21 verse 18.

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If a man of a stubborn or an rebellious son

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which will not obey the voice of his father

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or the voice of his mother,

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and that when they have chastened him,

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will not hearken unto them,

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then shall his father and his mother lay hold on him

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and bring him out on the elders of the city

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and under the gate of his place.

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And they shall say unto the elders of this city,

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this is, or this, our son is stubborn and rebellious.

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He will not obey our voice.

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He's a glutton and a drunkard and all the many men of his city

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shall stone him with stones that he die.

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So shall they put evil away from among you

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and all Israel shall hear in fear.

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I mean, look, this is a parent saying,

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hey, I'm struggling to get this kid to obey me.

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And if they won't obey you, you punish them.

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And if they won't listen to the punishment,

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according to the biblical text,

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you would take them to the entire city

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and every single man would stone him to death.

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Because you know, you got to squash that rebellion.

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You got to squash that disobedience.

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God hates forwardness.

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And you have to understand everyone that's forward

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and doesn't receive the gospel is going to hell.

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You like, people think that this story is horrific.

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And it's like, have you ever heard a place called hell?

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Like people are going to die and go to hell.

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God hates the rebellion.

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God hates the disobedience.

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God hates people going against him.

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And you know what, children, you should obey mom and dad.

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This is God's law.

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Now of course, God's law isn't respected in America,

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but this is America.

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But you know what?

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Hey, there was times in the Bible

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when people didn't have to enact God's law.

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We have 40 children, 40 plus children mocking the man of God

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and then two she bears come out of nowhere

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and tear 40 and two children up.

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So look, just because you think,

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oh well, I can get away with it

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and my parents can't do anything.

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This is America, whatever.

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God, guess what?

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Well, this is still God's country too.

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And God's still the Lord of lords and the King of kings.

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And God's still on his throne.

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And God can still send bears out of the woods.

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And look, God doesn't even need bears anymore.

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God's got cars and trucks and natural disasters

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and God's got enemy hordes and cartels

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and all kinds of horrible, crazy things

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that are going on in this world.

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If God wants to take you down, he will.

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And you know what?

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You're not promised anything.

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You know what you need to do?

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Obey mom and dad so that your life will be well with you

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and that your days will be long.

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Don't be this contrary, forward person

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and think, well, I can get away with it.

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No, you obey.

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Go to Proverbs 19.

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Go back to Proverbs chapter 19.

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We need children that obey their parents,

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say, yes, sir, yes, ma'am.

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They do it the first time.

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They're not disobedient.

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They're not difficult to manage.

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They're not constantly just being against their parents

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and arguing with their parents.

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It's annoying.

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It's frustrating.

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It's irritating.

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It's a bad look.

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Look, can your parents be wrong?

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Yes.

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But you know what?

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You should just respectfully stay silent.

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I mean, my mom, whenever I was in,

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I think junior high, cell phones were just becoming a thing.

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It was kind of a new thing.

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People didn't use to always have cell phones.

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And she had this old, big phone

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and it had this game on it called Snake.

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Whoever played Snake on the phone.

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Super cool, all right?

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You're just trying to stay alive, okay?

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And I loved playing Snake,

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but then my mom was convinced

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that playing Snake on a phone cost her money

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on her cell phone bill or something,

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which is not true.

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But she's like, I don't want you to play Snake anymore.

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And I'm just like, but I love playing Snake

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on your phone, you know?

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And I tried to respectfully say, well, no,

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I don't believe that's right, mom.

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I don't believe you're charged for a game.

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Like it's only calls and texts and things like that.

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And she said, I don't want you to play Snake.

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So you know what I did?

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I just didn't play Snake.

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Now, my life isn't over

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because I didn't get the high score on Snake

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or whatever.

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And eventually we got new phones

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and she changed her mind and whatever.

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And then I get to play, you know,

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all these stupid phone games now.

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But you know, at the end of the day,

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it's just like, hey, even if your parents are wrong,

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you just do it anyways.

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And look, my mom was right about 99.9%

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of the things she told me.

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And you know, not playing Snake didn't harm me.

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I'm not like, man, I'm never in her cover now.

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My life is so bad.

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And you know, other good advice my wife or my mom

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was giving me was about who my future wife should be,

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who I should marry, what kind of jobs I should have,

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investing, saving money, you know, having a home,

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you know, all these different things

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that I've really benefited from in my life.

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So, but you know, the guy that just hears,

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well, my mom was wrong about Snake.

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So then they, well, I guess it's gonna be wrong

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on who to date and who to marry

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and what kind of jobs to have

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and where to live and what kind of church to go to.

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But you know what?

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That forward person's gonna destroy their life.

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The person that just says, you know what?

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I'm gonna do what mom and dad say,

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even if I don't get to play Snake.

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And you know what?

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It's gonna be okay.

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Well, but this family gets to play Snake on their phone.

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Well, who cares?

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That's not gonna harm you.

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That's not gonna hurt you.

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You know, we make our kids sit with us

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during the church service.

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We don't let them sit wherever they want.

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Is that gonna really harm them

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that didn't get to sit to one of their friends

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during the church service?

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No, it's not gonna harm them.

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And look, even if you disagree,

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you just say, yes, sir, yes, ma'am,

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and you do it anyways.

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And it's just like, people have this attitude like,

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no, that's injustice.

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I have to be right about everything.

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No, sometimes just submitting

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is a more important lesson than being right.

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And your just general disposition should be,

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I'm just gonna submit to my parents

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and I'm gonna do what they say.

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Unless it's a clear violation of the Bible,

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which I couldn't find a verse that said,

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thou shalt play Snake, okay?

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I couldn't find it.

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Usually in the Bible it's telling you not to listen to snakes.

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So it's just like, it's kind of difficult, you know?

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Find a biblical argument for this.

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What would be another category?

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You know, this category,

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a lot of people were agreeing

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and then it's just like you escalate, right?

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What about wives obeying their husbands?

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Well, now everybody gets mad about it, right?

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Well, he could be wrong.

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Yeah, but is he wrong most of the time?

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You know, maybe your life would be better

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if you just did what he said anyways.

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But you know, there's a lot of women in this world

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that just don't wanna listen to their husband,

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don't care what their husband thinks,

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they just wanna be in charge.

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And you know what the Bible describes this as?

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Torture.

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Look at Proverbs 19 verse 13.

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A foolish son is the calamity of his father

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and the contingents of a wife are continual dropping.

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I think in Asian cultures,

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they have this thing called Chinese water torture.

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Okay, that's what the Bible's comparing this to.

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In a sense, and not just once,

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let's go to Proverbs 27.

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Proverbs chapter 27.

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You know, you would think of God says

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at multiple times it's important, right?

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Well, he brings this up multiple times.

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Look at Proverbs chapter 27 and look at verse 15 now.

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A continual dropping in a very rainy day

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and a contentious woman are alike.

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You don't wanna be a wife

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that's constantly contending with her husband,

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contentious, constantly disagreeing,

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thinking that he's wrong, arguing with him,

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picking him apart,

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saying he's doing things that are bad and wrong

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and just correcting him all the time.

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It's frustrating, it's annoying.

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Just as annoying as it would be

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to have a planned picnic or a park day

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and you wanna go out and have fun

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and it just rains, rains, rains.

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Just rains on your parade, just rains on your day.

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Just it's overcast, it's like Seattle permanently, you know?

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That's not fun.

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I mean, I've heard, I don't know,

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it's like statistically people are more suicidal

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that live in Seattle than other areas

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because of the rain specifically.

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Like having rain just on a constant basis

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and having this kind of abysmal weather

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can wear on you mentally.

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And that's not my opinion, that's the Bible's opinion.

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The Bible's opinion that a constant dropping

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in this rainy season is just kind of a frustrating thing

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and just saying that's what a wife's like.

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You don't wanna live a life like marriage

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that's a metaphor like Seattle.

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You wanna have some sunshine.

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Now look, it's okay to have rain every once in a while.

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That's life.

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You know what, you don't wanna live

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where it's just continual dropping,

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a constant thing.

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You don't wanna be a wife that's known

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as constantly arguing with her husband

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and disagreeing with her husband

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and going against her husband

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and the husband's always wrong.

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That's just a bad way to live your life.

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Go to Proverbs 21, Proverbs 21.

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Don't be a froward wife.

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You don't want froward children,

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you don't want a froward wife.

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Proverbs 21, verse 19.

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It's really quiet in here, you know what I mean?

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Verse 19, it is better to dwell in the wilderness

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than with a contentious and an angry woman.

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You know, we always get mad at all these guys

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who run away and that's wrong.

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But you kinda wonder like,

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it's just better for them to be in the wilderness

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than with this angry and contentious woman.

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I mean, it's just frustrating.

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Nobody wants to be around someone.

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And again, you know, this person's not logical.

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This person can't be won over by reason.

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This person can't be talked sense into.

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They have a bad attitude, they have a bad spirit

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and there's really no way to fix it.

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They kinda have to fix themselves.

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And the Bible is saying we need to fix ourselves

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and not be this kind of person.

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And if in your marriage, you know,

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you're feeling like you're not getting

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a lot of attention from your husband.

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You feel like you're not as close as you want to be.

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You feel like you wanna have

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a closer relationship with your husband.

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Start here by asking this question.

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Are you constantly on his case?

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Are you nagging him?

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Are you constantly, you know, arguing with him?

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How submissive are you?

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Because not always, but sometimes,

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this could be the case.

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There could be a situation where he just

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doesn't even know why he's not being around you,

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but this is one of the problems.

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Because we just don't wanna be around people

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that are constantly contentious with us,

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that are constantly angry.

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Men are problem solvers.

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And whether they are thinking about it,

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you know, consciously or subconsciously,

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they're just thinking like,

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I don't wanna be around someone who's gonna argue with me

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and be contentious with me

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and just fighting with me and anger with me.

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So I'm just gonna kind of avoid that situation.

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I'm gonna kind of ignore that situation.

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I kind of wanna distance myself

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from that type of situation.

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And so, you know, you wanna be pleasant.

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God forbid you'd be pleasant.

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And I mean, isn't this just how everyone in America expects it?

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You could take the same woman

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who's just constantly argumentative,

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constantly throw word,

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and we'll take her to a restaurant

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and the waitress gives her a little bit of lip

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and boy, she's gonna call the manager,

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she's not gonna give him a tip.

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She's gonna say that she's a whore.

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You know, she's gonna tear that person up and down.

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And they're thinking like,

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well, why is it that you're given this waitress

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or this waiter, you know, such a hard time,

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but you don't realize that you act the same way at home?

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Like you, we expect as Americans,

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since the customer is always right

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and everything needs to be done correctly.

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You know, if you get their order screwed up,

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most people are gonna send it back,

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ask for refund, want it to be changed.

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You walk into your hotel room and it's dirty.

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How many people are gonna stay in it?

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But God forbid a husband would want his house to be clean.

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Right?

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Man, it's getting really quiet in here.

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I'm just saying.

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God forbid a husband would want his wife

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to be sweet to him, right?

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I mean, isn't that, isn't that just crazy?

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But we all expect it.

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You get on the airplane, you expect the stewardess

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to come down the line and be like,

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would you like some pretzels?

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Would you like, you know, some extra,

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you get mad just like she only put a little bit of ice

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in my cup, you know, or whatever.

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It's like every other area of life,

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we expect exceptional service,

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we expect to be catered to,

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we expect to be pandered to,

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and it's totally fine for a woman

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to put on a uniform and go serve random dudes all day long

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for eight hours or a 10 hour shift

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with perfect pleasantness

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and she's even gonna get surveyed afterwards

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how she did.

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But God forbid a wife actually does

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something nice for her husband, right?

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Whether that would be an expectation

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or that would be what the Bible teaches.

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You know, God forbid we'd have relationships like that.

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And of course the feminists

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can't even understand this logic

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because they're a feminist.

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They don't understand logic.

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But let me tell you something,

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don't have this forward attitude that says,

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oh, that's oppression.

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Look, what area of life are you having to live

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where you are never serving anyone?

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I mean, are you just king tut over here?

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Are you just the king of kings on this earth

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where you serve literally no one?

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Because whether you like it or not,

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whether you're a complete hardcore radical feminist

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or you're a housewife, let me tell you something,

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there is somebody you're serving in this world.

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There's somebody that you're doing good to.

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There's someone that you're gonna be held responsible for

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your behavior to, whether that be your manager,

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whether that be the customer.

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I mean, even if you own your own business,

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the customers aren't gonna buy your product

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if you're a total care into them,

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if you're a total witch to them.

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But then it's just a radical.

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It's just so crazy that we would ask our wives

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to be obedient and kind and nice and sweet

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and serve and love.

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Look, this is just what you expect everywhere else.

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Just expect it of yourself in that relationship too.

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Don't have this forward attitude.

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And then women wanna understand

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why marriages suck in America.

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But I mean, let's just be honest.

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If wives were giving the service at home

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like they are at the job,

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we probably wouldn't have this problem, would we?

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It's Burger King, you can have it your way.

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I mean, I can go to Burger King right now

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and some cracked, cracked out whore

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is gonna be so sweet to me.

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Hey honey, what do you want?

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You know, you can have it your way.

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No pickles, no pickles, no mayonnaise, you got it,

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no mayonnaise.

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Hey, get it hot for him right off the stove.

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But it's like, I can't have my wife be nice to me.

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I can't have my wife do what it's like.

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You know, and it's like,

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hey, if I went to Burger King

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and they're just like, ah, you came in late.

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Ah, your shirt's wrinkled.

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Ah, you know, I don't like how your face looks.

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Mm, whatever, it's just like, okay, bye.

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Bye Felicia, like I don't have to stay around here for this.

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Nobody, but wouldn't we all do that?

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If you, I mean, there is a restaurant I think

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it's like called Dix or something like that

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where they were really rude to you on purpose

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or something, that's the expectation.

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But by and large, if you went into a restaurant

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and they're always mean to you in jerks and bad service,

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you just wouldn't go back.

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You avoid the situation.

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And then we read a verse that's saying

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if wives are acting like this,

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men would rather live in the wilderness

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and then we're all shocked by it.

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You know, it's just that people aren't preaching the Bible

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and they don't care what the Bible says anymore.

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Feminism is taken over.

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And again, why?

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Because they don't want to live in the wilderness

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and they just want to do whatever their wife says

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and they're afraid of fighting.

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And so they just roll over and go sleep on the couch.

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You know what?

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I just don't want to sleep on the couch.

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Let's be honest with you.

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Go to verse two of the chapter number six.

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And you know what?

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Our children should obey us.

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Our wives should obey us.

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That is not unreasonable.

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And you know, we're not asking anything more

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than every job is asking of their employees.

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And look, as men, we don't get to escape.

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It's like, oh, well, men, they don't have anybody.

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They don't have anybody to submit to.

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It's like, we got to pay for you.

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It's expensive to live in the world now.

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Inflation sucks.

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We got to pay for all this stuff.

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And you know how we have to pay for this stuff?

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By having a job.

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And you know what?

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I have a job by kissing the boss's boot sometimes.

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You know what I mean?

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It's like, oh, you get to escape.

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Just being nice to people

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and doing things you don't want to do.

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No, it's called a job, honey.

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Where we have to go.

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We don't get to say to our boss,

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like, I don't feel like it today.

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When's the last time you brought me a coffee, Mr. Boss Man?

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We don't get to do that.

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I don't even think you love me.

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He's like, no, I don't.

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Bye.

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Like, it's just so silly.

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It's like, we expect this kind of attitude,

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like they love us and they're kind.

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And then women somehow get this stupid lie in their mind,

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like men don't have to submit to anyone.

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Men don't have to obey anyone.

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Men don't have to do things they don't want to do.

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And it's just like, welcome to the workforce.

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It's rough.

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I see videos all the time of this.

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I saw some woman saying that she was dating some guy.

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She was in college and she just had in her mind

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that she was gonna get a full degree

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and go into the workforce and she really wanted it.

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And this guy wanted her to get married.

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He said, I want you to quit your degree,

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get married to me and we start having kids.

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And she's like, my career is too important.

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So the relationship broke off.

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And then she got her career, she got her job,

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she got everything that she wanted.

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And then she was just,

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she was breaking down crying in the car saying,

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I hate this, I never want this.

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I should have gotten married to that guy.

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I should have just had that family

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because this is meaningless and vain.

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And look, feminism is lying to women.

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And here's the problem for many women

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is they won't know what they want until they get there

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and they realize it's not what they wanted.

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And you could sit here and think like,

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oh, being a homemaker is so bad,

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but you just don't realize where you would be

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and what it would be like and how you would be hating it.

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And again, the forward person

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doesn't like anything anyways.

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You could put the feminist in any situation,

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she's not gonna like it, okay?

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You could put the forward person anywhere

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and they're not gonna like it.

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And you know, as men,

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we need to be careful too to not have this forward attitude

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because it affects us negatively at work.

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Look what it says in 1 Timothy 6, verse one,

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let as many servants as are under the yoke

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count their own masters worthy of all honor.

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That the name of God and his doctrine be not blasphemed

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and they that are believing masters,

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let them not despise them because they are brethren

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but rather do them service

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because they're faithful and beloved

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for takers of the benefit.

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These things teach and exhort.

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If any man teach otherwise

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and consent not to wholesome words,

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even the words of our Lord Jesus Christ

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into the doctrine, which is according to Godliness,

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he is proud knowing nothing

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but doting about questions and stripes of words

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where I've come with envy, strife, railings,

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evil, surmiseings, perverse disputings of men

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of corrupt minds and destitute of the truth

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supposing that gain is Godliness from such.

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Notice this again, withdraw thyself.

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So we should stay away from this attitude,

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this opinion that is not gonna what?

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Just be an obedient servant

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under the yoke of their own masters,

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doing what their masters say, obeying their masters.

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And again, this language

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isn't necessarily the language we use today

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but again, it's basically describing

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the employee-employer relationship,

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whatever that looks like.

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And throughout history, we've all had bosses

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and we've all had people that were working for them

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and it's like we all pretty much have a job

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and even if you do own your own business,

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you're still gonna have to be subject to

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and servant to your customers in many ways.

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And they're gonna be your master in the sense

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because they're the ones paying for that bill,

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paying for that service, paying for that job

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and we should be doing good to them,

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not only to the saved but especially the saved.

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You know, if you have someone that's saved,

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we wanna make sure to do them well.

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And again, submission is not when you agree.

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There's this stupid lie,

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there's all these women podcasters out there

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and they're like, well, if my husband was right with God

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and such a great leader and I liked all of his decisions

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then I'll submit to that.

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Well, that's not submission, that's agreement.

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Submission is when you don't like it,

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you don't agree, you don't wanna do it.

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That is what true submission looks like.

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And anybody teaching otherwise is a bad person.

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Anybody that's saying anything other than why submit

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to their husbands is a bad person.

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Anybody teaching anything other than men submit

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to your boss at work is a bad person.

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Anybody teaching anything other than children

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obeying their parents is a bad person.

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They don't know anything

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and they're just causing problems and strife and railing.

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It isn't an interesting list.

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What is the person like?

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The person that's telling kids to disrespect their parents

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to disobey their parents,

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telling wives they can leave and disrespect their husbands.

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What does the Bible say about this type of person?

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Well, it says they know nothing

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and they have envy, strife, railing and evil surmiseings

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and they're a corrupt mind

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and they're all about gain, they're all about money.

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Boy, you can make a documentary series out of it.

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You know what I mean?

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Go to Titus 2, go to Titus 2.

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We don't wanna be this forward person

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just against everything.

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And how is it that you spend your whole life

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being against Catholicism and orthodoxy

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and every church and every Zionist church

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and every pre-trib church

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and then now you're against the new IFB.

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Who are you for?

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Don't be this forward person

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where you've now isolated yourself into a corner

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where no one is good.

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There's no Christians and no churches

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and nobody we can point to anymore.

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It's sick.

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It's sick and weird.

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Look, there are still God's people.

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The Spirit of God is still in this country.

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There are still good things happening.

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Don't be this person that's against literally everything.

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And look, the people that hate us,

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they still trash the old IFB

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and trash everybody else.

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They just trash everything.

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And you know what?

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They're the trash, according to the Bible.

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Look at Titus 2, verse 9.

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The Bible says exhort servants to be obedient

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under their own masters

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and to please them well in all things,

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not answering again, not perloining

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but showing all good fidelity

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that they may adore the doctrine of God,

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our Savior in all things.

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You know, we as men in this church

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should work really hard and be good employees.

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We want the boss to say,

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hey, I like this guy.

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He's a great employee.

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I love having your members as an employee of our church.

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And look, I do have that testimony.

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I've had people tell me,

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hey, I really like this guy that goes to your church.

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He's a great worker.

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He's a great employee.

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You know, we really appreciate him.

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And you know what? That's a good testimony.

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Go to 1 Thessalonians 2.

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Go to 1 Thessalonians 2.

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So you know what? Children, obey your parents.

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Wives, obey your husband.

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Men, obey your employer.

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Of course, we're all supposed to obey God.

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I don't have it in my notes, but hey, how about this?

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How about obey your pastor?

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Obey them that have the rule over you.

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You know, that'd be a good idea, right?

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How about show some respect to those people too, right?

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1 Thessalonians 2.

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What is the person that it's not like this?

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It's called the Jew.

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Look at 1 Thessalonians 2.

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And you wanna talk about pro-ward people.

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It doesn't really get worse than this.

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Look at verse 14.

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And just the last word there, Jews, okay?

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Verse 15.

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Who both killed the Lord Jesus and their own prophets

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and have persecuted us and they please not God.

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And notice this.

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And are contrary to all men.

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You wanna talk about someone that's pro-ward,

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someone that's contrary to every single person.

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Wow.

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He's just saying this type of person is against everyone.

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And they'll rip everyone off

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and they'll charge interest to everyone

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and everyone's just cattle to them.

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And look, that's how the Jew looks, thinks, and feels

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is just against everyone.

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And the Bible says this is a bad attitude, a bad spirit.

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It's evil, it's wicked.

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It's just like their father, Satan.

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Because you know what?

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Satan is against everyone

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and Satan wants to draw everyone into hell with him.

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And let me tell you something.

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This forward attitude is the devil

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and we should never have anything to do with it.

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We should be a positive person

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that is for things, not always against things.

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Go back to Proverbs chapter six,

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go to Proverbs chapter six.

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There was my Jew rant, all right?

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So there you go.

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This is the last one I want to kind of talk about though.

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It's just to our brothers and sisters in Christ,

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how should we behave?

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You know what?

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We should be four, our brothers and sisters in Christ

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we're on the same team, folks.

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It's just so annoying.

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It's annoying when you have people on your team

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that are just seeming to just always be against everyone.

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And constantly being against the team players.

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And you're just kind of wondering yourself

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like, what's wrong with you, man?

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Like it's okay to have a different opinion.

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It's okay to be different.

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But you don't have to be against us every time,

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every point, you don't have to constantly flex

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about how you're different than everybody.

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And it's a frustrating attitude, it's a frustrating spirit.

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You know what, why can't we just be for each other?

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And look, I'm not against that person.

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I want that person to just change.

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Just stop being forward all the time.

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Just stop being against good people all the time.

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Stop feeling like every sermon needs to be

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I'm gonna correct the brethren.

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You know, it's a bad attitude.

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Look at Proverbs chapter six, verse 12.

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A naughty person, a wicked man,

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walking with a froward mouth.

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He winked with his eyes, he speaketh with his feet.

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He teaches with his fingers, frowardness is in his heart.

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He devises, mischief continually.

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Notice this, he's so at discord.

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One of the attitudes that creep out of this person

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is always trying to pit people against other people.

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He's constantly trying to divide everyone

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and cause people to not be on the same team.

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You know, we need a person

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that's trying to bring people together,

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not constantly trying to pit people against each other

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and trying to be like, oh, I'm of this camp.

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I'm of that camp.

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And I have to block this person and block that person.

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It's just like, it's a bad attitude.

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Look at Proverbs 22.

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There's a lot of verses on this, Proverbs 22.

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Let's be on the same team, folks.

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Proverbs 22, verse five, thorns and snares

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are in the way of the forward.

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But I'm sorry, froward, he that doth keep his soul

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shall be far from them.

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We wanna be far from the froward.

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We wanna be far from this attitude.

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It's a trap.

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You don't wanna be this way.

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Look at chapter 21, verse eight, Proverbs 21, verse eight.

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The way of a man is froward and strange,

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but as for the purer, his work is right.

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Look, when you have a bad attitude

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and you're always against stuff,

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you're not gonna build anything.

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You're not gonna build anything

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by only being against people.

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Now, look, sometimes there's a time to correct,

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like, you look at a husband man with his vine.

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Sometimes you need to prune off a branch.

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But let me listen to something.

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You're not gonna build a vineyard by only pruning.

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You need to water and grow and take care of it.

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Yes, there's a time for pruning,

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but if you only prune, pretty soon you won't have a vineyard.

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And look, there are some people

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that it's like all they wanna do is prune.

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And it's like, this is a bad attitude.

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It's a bad spirit.

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You need to also be watering and growing

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and nourishing and cherishing.

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Hey, even with our wives,

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hey, you don't wanna be just constantly pruning your wife.

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You don't wanna nitpick her to death.

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You don't wanna nitpick your children to death.

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Hey, there's time for grace and there's time for love

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and there's time for cherishing.

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There's time for nourishing.

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We wanna have a good balance.

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Wanna make sure, hey, this branch needs to be cut off,

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but you know what?

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I also need to love and cherish

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and be tender to all the other branches.

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Hey, you know what?

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As brothers and sisters in Christ,

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we need to make sure that we're not just always pruning,

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always tearing things down,

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always being against everything.

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We need to be for a lot of stuff.

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Chapter 17, verse 20, chapter 17, verse 20.

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You're not gonna build anything by just being against stuff.

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You're not gonna build a church by just being negative.

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You can build a trash can hater church,

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but you cannot build a good church.

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And even the hater church

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will eventually destroy itself.

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Proverbs, chapter 17, look at verse 20,

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the Bible says,

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he that at the forward heart findeth no good.

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And he that at the perverse tongue falleth in a mischief.

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Look, you're on a crash course.

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You have to be for something.

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You have to be positive too.

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You cannot only be negative and only be against stuff.

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You need to be forward.

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You need to be positive,

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not just forward towards everything.

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I wanna go to one more.

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I'm gonna go to Proverbs 16 here,

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in the book of Proverbs and look at verse 27.

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The Bible says,

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an ungodly man digeth up evil,

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and in his lips there is as a burning fire,

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a forward man soweth strife,

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and a whisperer separated chief friends.

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So again, you kinda have this picture

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of like the sowing discord,

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the whispering, being against stuff.

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This is just a bad,

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if someone is constantly coming up to me,

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trying to just trash other people,

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and especially illegitimate,

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like they don't blink enough.

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I noticed they didn't sing a hymn or whatever one time.

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It's just like, okay,

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well you just seem like you have a bad attitude.

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I don't really wanna be,

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it's not like they're coming up with a legitimate concern

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or a legitimate thing.

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Hey, this person is doing bad stuff to you or whatever.

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Hey, I get it,

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sometimes we have to be concerned with issues,

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but we don't always have to just pick people apart

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for no reason and just constantly sowing discord,

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and constantly being forward,

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and constantly being against people.

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We need to have a positive attitude,

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and not pick people apart about everything.

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Now, I do wanna go to 1 Peter 2,

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and I'm just gonna kinda give you

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some of my thoughts here.

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We've read a lot of verses,

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we've talked about a lot of verses.

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Why is this sermon needful?

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Well, here's the thing,

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you're not gonna agree with people.

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We're all gonna have unique opinions.

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We're all gonna disagree on stuff.

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So the question is, how do you handle that?

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Because we should wanna be on a team mentality,

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a team atmosphere,

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where we're four people,

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we're four brothers and sisters in Christ,

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but there's gonna be times

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when you don't agree with one another.

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How do you handle that?

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How do you deal with this type of an issue?

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Well, I already brought up an example.

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When I didn't agree with my mother,

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you know what I did?

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I did what she said.

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I just did it.

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You know what?

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If you don't like what your husband is saying,

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you know what?

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You could just do it.

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If you don't like what your boss is saying,

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you just do it.

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If you don't like what your pastor's saying,

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you could just do it.

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If you don't like what your brother and sister

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in Christ is doing, whatever,

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you just ignore it, right?

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But let's take it about church specifically.

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You know, I've heard this where

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a pastor or preacher got up

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and preached something controversial,

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and it got a lot of attention.

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And so members of the church said,

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well, I'm not gonna go to service

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because I don't want it to seem like I agree

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with what the pastor preached in that one sermon.

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And I'm like, this is a forward attitude.

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This is a bad attitude.

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You know, and would we apply that to any other area?

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I mean, think about it like a sports context.

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It's like, hey, I go watch the sports team

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and I like the sports team.

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What if they made a trade for a player I don't like?

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Am I now just gonna not go to the game

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because I just don't like one of the players?

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What if they have a bad play call?

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Am I just now, oh, I'm gonna not even go to the game

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because I don't agree with this play call.

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You know, fans don't have to agree with every play call

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and agree with every player roster move

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and agree with every little decision

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because if you're a fan, you're just a fan.

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And you don't have to agree with every single thing.

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And you still go to the game

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because you're an actual fan.

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And it's like, you don't have to come to this church

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and agree with every single thing

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that pastor Shelley does.

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Well, I saw pastor Shelley put something

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on social media and I don't like it.

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Okay, you can still come to church.

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Well, I just don't like,

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pastor Shelley doesn't like country music

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and I love country music.

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Pastor Shelley doesn't like my fruit preferences.

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He's picky, you know?

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Okay, like, you don't have to,

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pastor Shelley preached this one thing

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about the Bible, I don't agree.

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Like, someone could be pre-trib

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and show up at my church, I don't care.

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Someone can wear, you know, I love Zionism shirt.

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Someone can wear a shirt that says 9-Eleven official story.

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I believe it, you know?

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It's like, okay, now I might give you a hard time about it.

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Everyone might come up to you after the service

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and try to get you saved, but you know,

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but I'm just saying like, it's okay to disagree.

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But you know what?

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You could still just show up at church anyways.

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You know, you don't have to agree with literally everything.

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You just show up at church because you know what?

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We're here for God anyways.

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And we're here to worship and serve God.

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And if you're going to church

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because you agree with 100% of things,

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well, you know, pretty soon you'll realize you don't

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and then you're gonna be challenged.

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And that challenge is gonna be, how do you handle it?

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Well, just because you don't agree with something,

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you know, doesn't mean you skip church.

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And if I don't like something about my team,

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I'm not gonna just forfeit the game and not show up

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just because I don't like something.

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I'm still gonna go to the game.

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And hey, what if your team does a bad play

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or makes a mistake?

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Well, blame the refs for the bad call.

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You know, sometimes you like watch the game

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and you know your guy like tripped them

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or caused a foul, but you just yell at the ref anyways

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because they're the haters and you just don't like them.

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It's like, hey, even if you didn't agree

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with your church, your pastor and everything,

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why don't you just be against facts

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because they're faggots anyways?

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Why don't you just be against the feminists

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because the feminists are obviously wrong anyways?

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Like why would I wanna sit here inside with feminists

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and freaks and trannies and atheists and Jews

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against my church, even if I perceived it was wrong somehow?

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It just doesn't seem like you're a fan anymore.

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Like a fan is just like mad at the ref

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even when it was a legit call.

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Now we get it that when it's like a legit call

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everybody just kinda like boo.

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And then when it seems like it was a bad call,

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we're like, you're a blind ref, you're an idiot.

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You know, they're like really giving them a hard time, right?

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But it's like, hey, you can just be against the ref

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because you're on your team.

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Hey, this is my team, man.

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Don't go over there and say, great call ref,

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way to go, suck them to it.

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You know, it's just like, no,

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give them an extra two minutes.

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It's like, why would you do that?

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Now it doesn't even seem like you're a fan anymore.

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Now it seems like you've switched teams or something.

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It's like, don't switch teams in the game,

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cheer for your team.

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You know, at worst, I'll just be silent, right?

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Go to the game, blame the refs.

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If you really can't blame the ref,

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you know what you should do, just be silent.

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That's a great move.

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Sometimes we're just like, well,

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we hope they don't call that one.

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We hope they miss that one, right?

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That's another move you could do.

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Hey, you go to church and you don't like something

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you could always just not say anything about it.

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Here's my escalation, okay?

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When you don't agree, just come to church.

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Even if you don't agree,

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you could still just blame the refs or the haters.

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If that doesn't satisfy you,

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you could still disagree silently.

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Here's another move you could try.

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How about just respectfully disagreeing?

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Boy, that just seems like it's difficult for some people.

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Just saying, hey, I don't really agree,

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but I can see where they're coming from

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or hey, people have different opinions.

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Maybe I'm not even right,

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but right now I don't see it that way,

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but I totally respect the person.

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I like the person.

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Just respectfully disagreeing with people.

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Seems like this is a lost art.

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And look, apply it to all categories.

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Hey, mom, I don't really see it that way,

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but I won't play Snake.

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Hey, husband, I wanna put beans in there,

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but I'm not gonna put beans in the chili.

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No worries, right?

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Hey, I don't think you should have turned left here.

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You should have turned right there,

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but you do you, right?

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It's like, hey, just let them be

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and respectfully disagree

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if that's where you have to be.

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Here's the last one that I would say

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where you're not being forward

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is if you have to just disagree

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and you have to let your take be made,

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then don't be the person that can dish it

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but not take it back, right?

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The thing that frustrates me the most is like,

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hey, if you're a preacher, if you're a pastor,

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if you're someone that's preaching the Bible

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and you disagree with me

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and you wanna preach against me,

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well, then I should be able to preach against you, right?

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Isn't that fair?

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It's like if this old IFB guy, Pastor Justin Cooper

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wants to criticize me,

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isn't it fair that I could at least respond?

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But of course then people lose their minds

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when you respond.

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It's like people will preach a whole sermon against you

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and then you just kind of like,

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you kind of like vaguely push back

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and it's like you created a nuclear war with them

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or something and it's like, come on, bro.

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Like if you can dish it, you should be able to take it.

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And look, I'm fine.

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If I perceive to preach against somebody

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or disagree with somebody,

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you know, I'm not really offended

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if they wanna come back at me.

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Cause what's the worst case?

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If they're right, I have to change my mind or something?

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It's usually that they're wrong

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and that's why they don't like it.

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Or, you know, they hit you and it didn't hurt

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and then when you hit, it really hurts.

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And so now they're mad at you or something.

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But it's just like, look, we should be on the same team

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and if you can dish it, you should be able to take it.

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Hey, I make jokes and memes and do whatever.

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If someone wants to do that to me, go for it.

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I can take it.

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But don't be the kind of person

01:01:04.830 --> 01:01:06.510
that can only dish and not take.

01:01:06.650 --> 01:01:07.910
Now it seems like you're a forward person.

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Don't be the person that just has to just disagree,

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you know, in a non-respectful way

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and always let their voice be known

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and it's gonna miss the game,

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it's gonna encourage the refs against your team.

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Now it just seems like you're against the team.

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Don't be against the team.

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Be on the team, before the team.

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And look, I see people doing this kind of stuff

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and I'm not like, I don't like them.

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I'm just like, hey, chill out.

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We're on the same team, bro.

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Ghost ours.

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You know, it's just like, come on.

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Let's not be against our own team here.

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We don't have enough players.

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We're fighting with two arms tied behind our backs.

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Come on, let's be on the same team here.

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Yeah.

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But you know, of course, if someone's just gonna stay forward

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and be even more rebellious and more stubborn

01:01:55.610 --> 01:01:57.850
and whatever, then eventually you'll probably

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have a clean break.

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But I'm just trying to tell these people like, look, stop.

01:02:01.630 --> 01:02:04.470
Stop being forward, stop being contrary to everything.

01:02:04.890 --> 01:02:06.550
Chill out, relax.

01:02:07.170 --> 01:02:07.610
It's okay.

01:02:08.050 --> 01:02:09.310
We don't have to agree on everything.

01:02:09.910 --> 01:02:11.450
But don't be a jerk about it.

01:02:11.750 --> 01:02:13.270
Don't be forward about everything.

01:02:13.370 --> 01:02:15.190
Don't be against everything before stuff.

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And if you can dish it, please be able to take it.

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Come on.

01:02:19.430 --> 01:02:20.770
I had to turn to verse Peter two.

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We'll read this verse and we'll finish.

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But look what the Bible says in verse 18,

01:02:27.510 --> 01:02:29.430
servants be subject to your masters with all fear,

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not only to the good and gentle, but also to the forward.

01:02:32.990 --> 01:02:35.210
If you're supposed to obey and be good to your boss,

01:02:35.310 --> 01:02:38.030
even when he's forward, how much more brother in Christ

01:02:38.030 --> 01:02:39.370
that you just disagree with a little bit?

01:02:40.630 --> 01:02:42.390
It's like show some respect to your brothers

01:02:42.390 --> 01:02:43.150
and sisters in Christ.

01:02:43.150 --> 01:02:45.230
It's okay that we disagree every once in a while.

01:02:45.510 --> 01:02:50.530
But you don't have to disagree by calling them reprobate

01:02:51.350 --> 01:02:55.010
and not Christian and unsaved.

01:02:55.430 --> 01:02:56.970
And just all these harsh labels,

01:02:57.330 --> 01:03:00.090
just because you're quibbling over

01:03:00.670 --> 01:03:02.410
some kind of striving of words

01:03:02.870 --> 01:03:05.110
or a strawman argument that you brought up

01:03:05.110 --> 01:03:06.670
that nobody's even advocating for

01:03:06.670 --> 01:03:10.210
just to show how cool you are and how awesome you are.

01:03:10.810 --> 01:03:13.530
You know, I've been called all kinds of things.

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And look, I can take it.

01:03:14.650 --> 01:03:16.470
If you want to criticize my position, go for it.

01:03:16.650 --> 01:03:18.630
But don't call me a child molester

01:03:18.630 --> 01:03:19.870
because you disagree with me on it.

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Like right?

01:03:20.870 --> 01:03:22.150
Like that doesn't, that's not cool.

01:03:23.090 --> 01:03:25.150
Now you're just being a slanderer.

01:03:27.510 --> 01:03:28.790
It's like, hey, if you can dish it,

01:03:28.870 --> 01:03:29.790
you should be able to take it.

01:03:30.330 --> 01:03:31.650
And you know, for women, it's the same.

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Look at verse Peter three.

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One likewise he wives be in subjection

01:03:34.110 --> 01:03:35.850
your own husbands that if any obey not the word,

01:03:36.230 --> 01:03:37.570
they also may without the word

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be won by the conversation of the wives

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while they behold your chase conversation

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couple of fear.

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You know, the Bible says that even if your boss

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or your husband isn't perfect,

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you just do what they want anyways.

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You're just obedient anyways.

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And look, this is a healthy way to live our lives.

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You know, of course, if you don't like

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what brothers and sisters in Christ are doing,

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you know what?

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We should still be on their team.

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Don't be a forward person.

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We don't want forward people in our camp.

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We don't want people that are against everything.

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And you know what?

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Be careful.

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If you're this person that's been against a lot of stuff,

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check yourself, try to have a positive attitude.

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If you're around people that are always

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against everything and against everyone

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and whispering against everyone, check yourself.

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Hey, if you're not at work,

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you're constantly running your mouth

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against the boss, stop immediately.

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Don't trash the boss to your coworkers.

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You know, some bird will go

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and whisper that in his ear.

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Don't talk negatively about the boss at work.

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Wives don't trash your husbands at home

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or outside the home.

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If you have to disagree, respectfully disagree.

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Children, obey your parents.

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And look, we want to be people that are not forward.

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We want to build something in this world.

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And if we're just conscious, if we're all rebellious

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and we're all trashing, if all the men

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start trashing their bosses at work,

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they're gonna get fired and they're not gonna have money

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and then their wives are gonna trash them

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when they get home because they don't have any money.

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And then the kids are gonna see mom and dad fighting

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and they're gonna trash the parents.

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And then they're gonna all quit church.

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We're all gonna quit church and just trash everything

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and just trash our world and just trash,

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just trash, trash, trash.

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Look, forwardness destroys everything.

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Trashing all the churches and trashing all our friends.

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You trash all your friends and pretty soon you find out

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you don't have any friends.

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Hey, if you trash your own team,

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then pretty soon you don't have a team to root for

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anymore.

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It's like, find something to like,

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find something to root for.

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Find something to be a fan of.

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And it's okay to have a different opinion

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and keep it to yourself.

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You don't have to let everybody know.

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Let's close in prayer.

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Thank you Heavenly Father so much for your word.

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Thank you so much for these authority structures

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you've given in our lives to protect us and to be for us.

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I pray that children would realize their parents

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love them so much and that they could be obedient to them.

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I pray that wives would realize their husbands

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love them so much and that they could be obedient to them.

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I pray that men would realize that they're not

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just serving their boss at work but they're serving the Lord

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and that we should have respect under a boss

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as we would under the Lord.

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Pray that you would realize people would realize

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that church is not their enemy.

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Their pastor is not their enemy.

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That the things of God are not their enemy

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that they'd submit to them.

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It would help them, it would benefit them.

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I pray that you would help us to not have a negative

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and bad attitude to other brothers and sisters in Christ

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but we could be for them.

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We could find a way to respectfully disagree

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or to be silent and that we could build something positive

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and we could think about things that are positive

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and have a good attitude.

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In Jesus' name we pray amen.