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Amen. Okay. We're in Psalm chapter 140 and look down at verse number one.

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It says deliver me, oh Lord, from the evil man.

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Preserve me from the violent man which imagined mischiefs in their heart.

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Continually are they gathered together for war.

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They have sharpened their tongues like a serpent.

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Adder's poison is under their lips.

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Sila, and it's not a sermon tonight, is beware of toxicity.

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Beware of toxicity.

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Toxicity refers to the poison, how poisonous something is,

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and of course we know that something that is toxic can often possess properties

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that can destroy things, it destroys organisms, it can destroy you.

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The Bible says here that there are individuals whose tongues are like serpents,

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meaning they're like snakes, they're like adders that possess poison,

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they possess venom, and they can destroy you.

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They can destroy you in a physical way, of course,

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because there's a lot of crazy people out there,

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but of course we know that this is also referring to a spiritual way as well.

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This evening I want to preach a sermon where I instruct you not only to avoid toxic people,

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but also to avoid being a toxic person yourself.

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Obviously we as Christians need to avoid toxic individuals and people who are toxic,

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but we need to make sure that we're not the toxic person in a relationship as well.

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And so have the prudence and wisdom to avoid people who are poisonous,

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who can damage us spiritually, who can hinder us in a significant way

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in whom the Bible tells us to be aware of.

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Just as venom of a serpent or an adder can infect the body

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and shut down the organs in like manner, spiritually toxic people

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can often do the same to us if we don't avoid them

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and avoid being in contact with them.

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Let me read you a couple of verses here.

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Romans chapter 3 verse 13 says their throat is an open sepulcher

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with their tongues they have used the seats.

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Excuse me.

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The poison of asps is under their lips whose mouth is full of cursing and bitterness.

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Their feet are swift as shed blood.

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Destruction and misery are in their ways.

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And the way of peace have they not known.

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There is no fear of God before their eyes.

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This is a toxic person right?

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They have lips as an adder.

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They are swift as shed blood.

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They're full of cursing and bitterness.

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Their throat is as an open sepulcher.

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James chapter 3 verse number 6 says that the tongue is a fire.

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A world of iniquity so is the tongue among our members

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that it defileeth the whole body and seteth on fire the course of nature

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and it is set on fire of hell.

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Every kind of beast and of birds and of serpents

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and of things in the sea is tamed and have been tamed of mankind

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but the tongue can no man tame.

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It is an unruly evil full of deadly poison.

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Notice that a lot of the attributes that are associated with toxic people

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has to do with the things that they say.

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It has to do with the words that they communicate,

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the way people act with their communication,

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the things that they say unto you.

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They say to me Deuteronomy 32 and verse 33 says that their wine

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is the poison of dragons and the cruel venom of asps.

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This is basically implying here that wine of course we know to be

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in the Bible can refer to alcoholic or non-alcoholic beverages.

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If we were to approach this in a non-alcoholic beverage type of context

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we could say oh it looks sweet.

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It tastes initially good.

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It tastes sweet but you know what it is?

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It's the poison of dragons.

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It's the cruel venom of asps.

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Go to Micah chapter 7 if you would.

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Micah chapter 7 and then we're going to go to 2 Samuel chapter 13.

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Micah chapter 7 and then 2 Samuel chapter 13.

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Let me make a disclaimer here in this sermon is that

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the people I'm going to talk about in this sermon

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I'm not referring to Christians who simply need to grow or mature

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or lack a sense of self-awareness.

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Obviously all of us when we start out,

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when we first get saved or babes in Christ

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there's a lot of things we've got to work on.

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We have a lot of spiritual immaturity.

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We lack a lot of discernment

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and we come with baggage to the Christian life

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and it should be the goal of every Christian

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to essentially get rid of the baggage,

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go through the process, excuse me my throat is just dry

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it's like an open sepulchre.

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It should be that we get rid of the baggage,

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that we go through the process of sanctification

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and not necessarily be associated with the old man per se

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but we shed off a lot of that old man

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and we come better as the time goes by.

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And so the people I'm talking about here

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are not Christians who are still growing in their faith

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they're still growing in the Lord.

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I'm referring to people who are intentionally toxic

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and fit the description that I'm going to lay out

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to you this evening through the testimonies

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of various people in the Bible.

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Now I have three points for you this evening

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and so after I'm done ripping face

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then we're going to play some board games

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and we're going to be happy, it's going to be great

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and we're going to enjoy ourselves amen.

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Here are my three points.

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I'm going to talk about toxic family, friends and females.

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All F's.

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Now the last one is females.

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I might address some males but let's just be honest

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the Bible actually warns men more about women

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than vice versa.

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There's more warnings about the strange women in the Bible

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than there is warning women about strange men.

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So the three points are family, friends and females

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all of which can be found in and out of church.

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So point number one is beware of toxic family members.

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We're talking about people in your family,

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your immediate family, maybe even extended family

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who are tempting you to sin or would hinder you spiritually.

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We need to beware of people like this

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in our personalized family.

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It can often be the main culprit

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in hindering us spiritually.

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They sometimes succeed because they know us

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for who we really are or who we used to be.

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And can often use that as leverage.

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You get someone who's newly saved

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and you start serving God

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and what do you have?

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You have family members that see you

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making progress in the Christian life.

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They see you being sanctified,

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going to church, reading the Bible.

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What do they do?

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They begin to criticize you because of that.

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They begin to criticize you

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and try to slow you down

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and try to bring up your past

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and the things that you used to do

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and this isn't really you.

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These are toxic people that we don't need in our lives.

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Sometimes family, because they are close relatives,

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they can be far more successful

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at tempting us to sin

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because they have influence over us.

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Maybe family members, you have certain family members

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that you used to sin with, did sinful things with

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and now you're seeking to live a godly life

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and they see that they can often be the main culprits

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to come to you and tempt you

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to go back into that lifestyle,

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go back to that sinful habit

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and do things that are displeasing unto the Lord

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only because they know they have influence over you.

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They're the ones that introduced you

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to sin in the first place.

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They're the ones who introduced you

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to that particular environment to begin with

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and to that I say, you know, beware

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of the toxic family member in your life

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and you may think to yourself,

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well, you know, I don't really have a family member

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that tries to tempt me to sin

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but you might have a family member

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that tries to tempt you to become apathetic

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towards the things of God.

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Meaning, oh, don't be so, you know,

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excited about the things of God.

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You're doing too much. You're going to church too much.

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You're, you know, evangelizing too much.

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Oh, now you're wearing dresses all of a sudden.

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Oh, now you're wearing a suit all of a sudden.

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You know, these are toxic people, okay,

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that we need to be aware of.

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These are the fire extinguishers, so to speak.

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When you're on fire for God,

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they try to tame you a little bit.

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They try to calm you down

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because you're making them look bad

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and this is very common with Christians

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who have other so-called Christians

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as family members.

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You know, Christians are just like,

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well, I've been a Christian a lot longer than you.

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I've been in this thing a lot longer than you

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and you're going to tell me

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what the Christian life is all about.

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You know what it's called? It's called being salt unto them.

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Salt irritates people

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and so when they view that you kind of,

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you're lapping them spiritually speaking,

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they don't like that

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and they want to slow you down.

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Beware of the toxic family member

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that is seeking to hinder you spiritually.

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Now you might be sitting there thinking,

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well, I don't really have anybody like that.

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Okay, then ignore me right now, you know.

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Don't be that person then, okay?

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Let me read to you a couple passages here.

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I'm going to read to you from Deuteronomy 13 verse 6.

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It says,

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If thy brother, the son of thy mother,

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or thy son, or thy daughter,

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or the wife of thy bosom,

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or thy friend, which is as thine own soul,

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entice thee secretly,

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saying, let us go and serve other gods,

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which thou has not known,

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thou nor thy fathers,

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namely of the gods of the people which are round about you,

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nigh unto thee, or far off from thee,

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from the one end of the earth,

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even unto the end of the earth,

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thou shalt not consent unto him,

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nor hearken unto him,

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neither shalt thou I pity him,

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neither shalt thou spare,

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neither shalt thou conceal him.

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What is the Bible telling us here?

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Don't be a respecter of people

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when it comes to your own family members

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who are trying to cause you to sin,

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deviate from the things of God,

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get out of church,

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or go to some other false religion.

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You need to make sure that your loyalty lies

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with the Lord Jesus Christ.

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You're like, oh man,

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but how is that going to work in my marriage?

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Well, you know what?

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The reality is sometimes Jesus Christ

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causes division in your marriage.

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And you know what?

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We're to choose Christ even over our own spouse.

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Yes, that's correct.

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Look at Micah 7 verse 5.

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It says, trust ye not in a friend.

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Micah 7 verse 5.

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Trust ye not in a friend.

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Put ye not confidence in a guide.

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Keep the doors of thy mouth

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from her that lieeth in thy bosom.

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For the son dishonoreth the father,

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the daughter riseeth up against her mother.

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The daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law.

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And a man's enemies are the men of his own house.

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Of course, we know that this is reiterated

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in the New Testament by Jesus Christ

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in Matthew chapter 10

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in the context of end times.

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But we see that even today, right?

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And let me just remind you, you know,

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if you have the liberty to cut off

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toxic family members from your life,

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then do it.

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You know, if there's people in your life

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that you've invited into your life

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that are criticizing the things of God,

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criticizing your leadership,

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they're criticizing your stance on certain things,

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and you're choosing to keep them in your life,

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you should cut them off immediately.

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I would that they were cut off, right?

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Them that trouble you.

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And that goes for adult children as well.

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You know, if there's an adult child,

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you know, that you have in your life

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and they are mocking the things of God,

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they don't respect your leadership,

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they're disrespecting you, cut them off!

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Remove them completely.

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You say, why?

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Well, number one,

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because you don't want that toxic relationship

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in your life, but number two,

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let me also say this,

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they can often poison the other children

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to also have that same disposition towards you.

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So in order to prevent that leaven

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from spreading that toxicity

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from spreading in the family,

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you need to make sure you cut people off like that.

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Okay?

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You know, adult children that are involved in sin,

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they're involved in iniquity,

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they've been excommunicated from a church,

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they're involved in things they shouldn't be doing,

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you know, you should remove from people like that

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from your personal lives

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because you're a Christian

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and you need to practice

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ecclesiastical separation from them,

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removing toxic people from them.

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Don't make exceptions for people

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just because they're your family members.

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Now, look, obviously,

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you might be in a situation where you can't control that.

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You might be in a situation where your mom and your dad

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are involved in a particular sin

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and you know what?

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You can't really do anything about that.

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You can't move away,

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you can't rebuke them

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because they're paying the bills.

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Here's what you could do,

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grow up, get married and move out.

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If you're in that situation,

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there's nothing you can do.

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Okay?

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Sorry, that's just,

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that's your law and life

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until you become desirable

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to some human being in this world

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and they would want to marry you

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and then you can live happily ever after,

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thereafter, okay?

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Look at 2 Samuel 13.

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Let's look at an example

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of toxic family members.

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Let's look at Amnon and Jonadab, okay?

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2 Samuel 13 verse 1 says,

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And it came to pass after this

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that Absalom, the son of David,

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had a fair sister

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whose name was Tamar

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and Amnon, the son of David,

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loved her.

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Amnon was so vexed

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that he fell sick for his sister Tamar

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for she was a virgin

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and Amnon thought it hard for him

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to do anything to her.

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Now this is weird.

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Okay, it's super weird.

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You know, I don't know what's up with this dude, okay?

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You know, this guy has a major crush

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on his half-sister Tamar

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and the Bible says in verse 2

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that he's fallen sick for her,

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meaning that he's just kind of like,

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he's become just obsessed over her.

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He has this inordinate affection

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towards his sister

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and, you know, he's struggling

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with these thoughts

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and he's struggling with these emotions

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and he's finding it hard to do anything to her

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because he knows that it would be wrong

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to do so, right?

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So, you know, if we were to just take

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this one part of the equation,

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this one variable out of the equation

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like it was her sister,

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we can say like maybe there's people

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in this world that exist like that.

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You know, a young man

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can fall in love with a woman

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and he can become like overly obsessed

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with her and all this stuff.

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You know, these are natural emotions

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that people can experience

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and they kind of need to work through them, right?

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They kind of need to like let it die out

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and pray through it if you're a Christian

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and not allow those things to consume you, okay?

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And then later on down the road,

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you grow up and you mature in your faith

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and you know, you just kind of get over it

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and you're just like, that was kind of stupid

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that I felt that way, you know?

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I wasn't really in love, I guess.

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I was just kind of feeling that way, you know?

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Because young people just kind of act dumb sometimes, right?

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They just are easily enveloped

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in this fantasy world in their mind

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towards an individual and then they can feel that way.

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So, you know, it's kind of natural

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that he felt this way.

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Obviously, it's weird that it was towards his sister,

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but let's just ignore that part

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just for the sake of the story, all right?

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You know, for the sake of the principle.

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So, you know, it would have been good if he just, you know,

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okay, he's struggling.

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He probably would have gotten over it later on

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and he is the king's son.

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He would have met some girl.

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It would have been great

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and, you know, he could have just kept us to himself

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and not being embarrassed for the last, you know,

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4,000 years, 3,000 years

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over the fact that he had a crush on his sister, okay?

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But here's the problem.

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Look at verse 3.

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Amnon had a friend.

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Now, this friend is his cousin.

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His family.

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So it says,

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But Amnon had a friend whose name was John Adab,

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the son of Shimea,

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David's brother,

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and John Adab was a very subtle man.

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So if the story ended in verse 2,

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it would have been great

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and I'm sure we would have seen Amnon living later on.

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But the problem is he had a toxic family member

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by the name of John Adab, okay?

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And the Bible's telling us here

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that he's a very subtle man.

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Now, there's a reason the Bible's using this terminology

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is because of the fact that it's trying to help us

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to realize that he kind of,

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he kind of pictures Satan here, right?

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Satan in the serpent in Genesis 3

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was more subtle than all the beasts of the field.

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And we see that the cousin here, John Adab,

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is a very subtle man.

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So obviously the Bible's giving us this picture

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that he is very cunning.

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He's being introduced as like,

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okay, what's this guy all about?

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What's he gonna do here?

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Verse 4.

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And he said to him,

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Why art thou, being the king's son,

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lean from day to day?

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Well, don't not tell me.

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Let me just say this.

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Beware of who you divulge your emotions to, okay?

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You need to be careful who you divulge

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your innermost emotional thoughts to.

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You know, sometimes we just gotta let it out, right?

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You know, sometimes we just,

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and it's good for you to have someone

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that you can confide in, you know,

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like a godly person that you know

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will not be a tail bearer,

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someone who's trustworthy, someone who's mature.

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But don't choose like 10 of them though.

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I would even choose five of them.

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I'd choose maybe like one or two, if that.

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And you know, you should have someone like that.

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But you gotta be careful who you talk to

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because sometimes people just wanna hear your drama

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just so they can use it against you later on.

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Or even like in this case, at the very moment.

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So he's like, why aren't you telling me what's wrong, man?

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And Amnon said to him,

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I love Tamar, my brother, absolute sister.

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Now if Jonathan was a righteous person,

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he'd be like, that's weird, bro.

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Have you told anybody else about this?

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Okay, good, don't tell anybody else.

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Let's find you another woman in this kingdom.

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You're the king's son.

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Like your sister, really?

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That's gross, right?

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That's what a righteous family member would have done.

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Okay?

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Now if you have a family member

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that admonishes you in a very spiritual,

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righteous way, praise God for that.

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That's great.

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If you have someone that you can share your heart with,

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maybe it is a cousin or a brother or a sister,

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and they give you good scriptural advice,

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they encourage you in a righteous way,

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that's awesome.

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You know, to have someone you can share your heart with

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and they're just like, you know what,

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these emotions are normal,

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but don't tell anybody.

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You need to make sure that you just get over this

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and I'm gonna be there to help you,

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hold you accountable to this, you know,

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and you need to make sure you marry righteously.

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This is not God's will.

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It's not a natural thing for you

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to want to, you know, give in to.

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You know, that would have been the right answer.

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But instead, what does John the Dab do?

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He basically helps him to construct the plan

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to rape the sister.

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Verse five says in John the Dab said to him,

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lay thee down on thy bed, make thyself sick,

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and when thy father cometh to see thee,

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say unto him, I pray thee, let my sister Tamar come

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and give me meat and dress the meat of my sight,

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that I may see it and eat at her hand.

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So Amnon lay down, made himself sick,

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and when the king was come to see him,

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Amnon said unto the king, I pray thee, let Tamar,

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my sister come and make me a couple of cakes

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in my sight that I may eat at her hand.

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So instead of, you know,

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admonishing them, correcting him, rebuking him,

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what does he do?

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He's just like, I got a plan for you.

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You know, why don't you fake like you're sick,

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request for her to take care of you,

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and the implication there is like,

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then you can do whatever it is that you want to do.

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It's godless, wicked, okay?

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This is a toxic cousin here.

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Look at verse seven.

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So you know, he requests for this.

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Verse seven says then David sent home to Tamar saying,

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go now to thy brother Amnon's house,

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dress him meat.

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So Tamar went to her brother Amnon's house

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and he was laid down,

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and she took flour, needed it,

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and so forth.

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Skip down to verse number.

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Let's see here.

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Look at verse 11.

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And when she had brought them unto him to eat,

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he took hold of her and said unto her,

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come lie with me, my sister.

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Like bro, my sister, like,

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does that just seem weird?

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And she answered him,

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name my brother, do not force me

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for no such thing ought to be done in Israel.

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Do not thou this folly,

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and I withers shall I cause my shame to go.

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And as for thee, thou shalt be

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as one of the fools in Israel.

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Now therefore I pray thee,

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speaking to the king,

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for he will not withhold thee,

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hold me from thee.

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So you know, Tamar is just like,

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hey, at least go about this the right way

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if this is what you want.

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Request the king to allow you

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to marry me and vice versa,

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and he's not going to stop you.

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Why are you going to do it this way?

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Why are you going to rape this woman

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in order to satiate this desire?

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Verse 14, Habib,

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he would not harken unto her voice,

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but being stronger than she,

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forced her and lay with her.

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Then Amnon hated her exceedingly,

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so that the hatred with he hated her

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was greater than the love with he had loved her.

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And Amnon said unto her,

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arise, be gone.

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And so it's that story,

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and of course we know that

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Amnon ended up dying because of this.

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Absalom ends up murdering

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Amnon because of it,

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and a lot of family drama

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arose because of this particular sin.

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But who's the one who's behind all this?

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It was the toxic cousin.

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It was the toxic cousin

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who gave Amnon bad advice.

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He helped him to construct the plan

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to rape his sister

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thereby causing Tamar to be raped,

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thereby causing Amnon to lose his life,

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thereby causing Absalom

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to become bitter towards Amnon,

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towards his father,

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and essentially disrupting the kingdom.

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Why? Because there was a toxic family member

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involved.

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You better be aware

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of that toxic family member

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that you have in your life.

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The one who manipulates you,

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the one who is just

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constantly putting you down

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because you're a Christian,

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you're trying to serve your husband,

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you're trying to love your wife,

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you're trying to raise your kids

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in a godly manner,

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and they're just constantly talking down on you,

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constantly putting down in your mind,

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constantly questioning the Word of God,

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constantly giving you bad advice.

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Get away from people like that.

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And, you know, once Amnon dies,

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you know who's the one

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who basically tells David what happened?

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It's Jonadad.

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You know what? That's what Satan does.

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He tempts you to sin

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and then he accuses you to the father, right?

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Like, oh, look what he did, you know?

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He's there to see your downfall, okay?

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Jonadad provokes Amnon to sin.

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He planted the seeds in the mind of Amnon

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to commit this grievous sin,

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and he's there to see the outcome

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and essentially he's not affected by it at all.

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Go to 1 Kings chapter 21.

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1 Kings chapter 21, if you would.

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1 Kings chapter 21.

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You know, beware of the aunt,

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you know, who's highly esteemed in your family

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as being the one who gives all the best advice.

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Beware of the uncle,

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especially the uncle, okay?

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You know, beware of the cousins,

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beware of the brother.

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We need to make sure that we're not a respecter of people

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and say, well, they're my family

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and so, you know, blood is thickening in water.

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Okay, if you want to go by that philosophy

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that blood is thickening in water,

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the blood of Christ is thickening in that.

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We need to realize that the family that we should esteem

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are those who actually serve God

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and obey the word of God, okay?

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Not at the exclusion at providing

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for our family members, okay?

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If they're under our household,

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they're under our jurisdiction.

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I'm just saying, don't just choose a family member

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based upon blood when they're out here

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blaspheming the Lord and giving you bad advice

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and trying to lead you astray in an intentional way.

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You know, criticizing your spouse,

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constantly putting down your husband,

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putting down your wife, you know, folks,

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you better make sure you defend your spouse

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to the people criticizing them.

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You better defend your spouse, you know,

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to your mother or your father.

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If your mom is saying stuff about your spouse,

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you better stand up for your spouse

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and be like, hey, watch your mouth.

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You don't talk that way about my wife, okay?

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You know, you don't talk that way about my wife,

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you don't talk that way about my kids.

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That's not, we don't do that here.

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And you know what?

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If they apologize and never do it again, it's good.

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But if they keep doing it,

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be like, don't ever come around.

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I'm not gonna tolerate people

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blasting my wife,

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you shouldn't tolerate people blasting your husband,

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you know, gossiping about them,

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putting them down, talking trash about them.

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Where's your loyalty?

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Your loyalty should be to your spouse

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and to your children, amen?

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So I don't, and you know,

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there's been times in my personal life

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where I've literally cut off blood relatives

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because they criticize my spouse.

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Which I don't even know how you can criticize my wife.

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She like never talks.

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She's just there, you know?

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But I remember a family member criticizing my wife,

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trying to use the situation

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and trying to manipulate a situation.

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And I said, like, I will never talk to you ever again.

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And I blocked that person

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and you know, when family members came,

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they were like, hey, what's going on?

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I don't know, I'm not interested.

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Until that person comes and apologizes

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for what they said against my wife,

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I'm not interested in talking to that person.

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I don't care if I grew up with this person,

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if I've known them my entire life,

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my loyalty is to my wife.

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And so, you know,

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get away from toxic family members

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who undermine your authority,

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who undermine your husband's authority,

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who, you know,

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are constantly criticizing the way you do things.

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Oh, you homeschool.

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What are you guys doing that for?

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Oh man, oh, that's why you do this.

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Why are you wearing dresses?

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You shouldn't be wearing dresses.

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Don't let them tell you what to do.

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You know, just, girl, just stand up for yourself.

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Girl, you're in your prime, girl.

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You know, if I walked in

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in a conversation like that,

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you know,

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you guys know jazz from French Prince of Bel Air?

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You know, every time you get thrown out,

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it's like, ah, you just get thrown out.

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Why? Because first and foremost,

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obviously our loyalty is towards the Lord Jesus Christ,

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but also towards those

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who He's placed in our lives,

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such as our spouse, our children.

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Bible tells us in Luke chapter 14,

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in verse 26,

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This is not saying that our loyalty to Jesus Christ

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should be hatred towards our relatives,

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towards our spouse.

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It's saying that our loyalty should almost seem

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as though it's hatred towards others,

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because we love the Lord

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and we're loyal to Him

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and we're going to choose Him above everyone else.

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Let me read to you another scripture

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before we get into First Kings.

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Actually, let's skip First Kings.

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Go to Matthew 12.

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Matthew chapter 12.

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I was going to use First Kings to talk about the fact that,

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you know, we need to make sure

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we stay away from family members

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that are enablers.

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Okay?

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You know, don't raise your family

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in an environment of enablers.

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You know, if there's someone in your family

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that's committing grievous sins and they know that,

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you know, we should not be participating

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in enabling them in that sin.

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Okay?

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We should still exercise First Corinthians chapter 5

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and cut that person off from our life

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until they decide to repent

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and not make exceptions for these individuals.

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Okay?

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You know, and you have people,

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like, for example, Jezebel,

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said that she stirred up Ahab

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to commit these sins.

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And let me read to you Jeremiah 23 verse 14.

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It says,

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And we don't want to be guilty of that.

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We don't want to be guilty

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of strengthening the hands of sinful people.

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If you have someone in your family

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who's a Christian and they're committing fornication,

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that needs to be cut off and they know that it's wrong.

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They know they need to repent

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and they're unwilling to do so.

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You should have the integrity to cut that person off.

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That's a toxic individual.

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That's leaven that will leaven the whole lump.

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And you know, you're providing a bad example

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for your children by tolerating that sin.

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You got to think about it, folks.

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It's not just loyalty to principle.

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Loyalty to Jesus Christ.

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It also just sets a bad example to your children.

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Because your children is like,

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oh, yeah, we're against fortification.

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Oh, mom and dad, but how come you're cool with it

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when it comes to, you know, auntie and uncle

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and, you know, a cousin, so and so.

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But it's okay with them.

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They're Christians. They're doing it.

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You seem to tolerate that.

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That's called being a respecter of people.

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You're a compromiser if that's you.

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You know, we need to make sure

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that we remove ourselves from toxic individuals.

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Look at Matthew 12, verse 46.

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It says here, while he yet talked to the people

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referring to Jesus,

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behold, his mother and his brethren

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stood without desiring to speak with him.

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Then one said that to him,

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behold, thy mother and thy brethren

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stand without desiring to speak with thee.

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This is what Jesus said.

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Oh, the blessed mother.

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Everyone move out of the way.

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This is the reason you guys are not

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going to get saved.

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It's because of the blessed holy mother.

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Eh.

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Verse 48.

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But he answered to him

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that told him, who is my mother

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and who are my brethren?

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Man, talk about a diss.

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Who?

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Your mom and your brother

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stand without, who?

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Who's my mother and who are my brethren?

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And he stretched forth his hand

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toward his disciples and said, behold,

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my mother and my brethren, for whose service shall

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I do the will of my father which is in heaven,

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the same as my brother and sister and mother.

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You know what this demonstrates to me?

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It demonstrates that God expects us to be loyal

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to those who do the will of God

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and not to be a respecter of people

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to blood relatives just because they're blood relatives.

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You know, if you have a relative

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that is a complete drunkard,

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they're a drug addict, you need to cut

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that person off from your life.

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Well, we kind of grew up together

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and we just know each other.

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Yeah, you're being a bad testimony

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to him and to everyone around you

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by tolerating that.

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You're being a bad testimony to your kids

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because they're seeing that you're still buddy buddies

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with someone who's a pot smoker.

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They're a drunkard. They're a drug addict.

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They're compromising the word of God.

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We need to make sure that we get rid of,

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listen to this, toxic family members.

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Okay?

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You know, and again,

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you might think to yourself, well, all my family members are here.

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Well, good for you.

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Praise God for that.

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That's what I have too. My family's in church.

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I'm just talking to those of us who may not have

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all our family in church, okay?

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And I'm here to remind you

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that God still expects us

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to practice biblical separation

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from people who are involved in sin.

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They're called a brother,

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but they're a fornicator.

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They're a drunkard. They're a railer.

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They're an extortionist. They're an idolater.

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The Bible says, with such a one, no, not to eat.

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Why? Because they're toxic.

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It's leaven. It can spread.

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It can corrupt you.

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Go to 1 Kings chapter 12.

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1 Kings chapter 12, if you would.

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1 Kings chapter 12.

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What's the title of the sermon?

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The title of the sermon is Beware of Toxicity.

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You got to beware of toxic family members

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who are trying to hinder you.

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They criticize you.

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And let me say this, you know,

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I believe that we need to honor our parents.

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Okay?

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We need to make sure we honor them, right?

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Loving honor our parents.

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But, if you are a father,

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if you are a mother of children,

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yes, you're obligated to honor your parents,

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but not beyond the scope

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and the boundaries of the Word of God.

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Meaning that if your parents

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are criticizing the things of God,

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especially in front of your children,

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don't tolerate that.

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Don't tolerate it.

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You know, criticizing your parenting,

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criticizing the way you do things,

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don't put up with it.

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You know, it's a privilege

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to allow our parents

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to be involved in our lives.

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It's a privilege for us, but it's also a privilege for them.

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Because you know,

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grandparents love their grandkids, right?

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Well, if they want to maintain that privilege,

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they need to do it on our terms.

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It's the way it works.

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Okay?

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Don't be a little compromiser

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and just, well, you know,

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when Nana's around,

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when Pawpaw's around,

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then it's a little different.

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We need to talk. No.

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They need to abide by scripture rules

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that you have in your home.

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They need to respect your authority.

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And don't allow anybody who just come into your house

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and undermine your scripture authority

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in front of your kids, especially.

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You don't have to do that.

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And look, don't encourage that.

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Don't allow that.

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Don't allow your mom and dad

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to not only undermine your authority

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to your kids,

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but also to try to teach them to lie,

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to try to teach them to

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adopt wicked habits

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against your authority.

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That's wrong. It's wicked. It's toxic.

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There's nothing wrong with saying, hey,

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if you do that again,

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you're not going to see these kids ever again.

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Because this is a Christian home.

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We're not going to teach our kids

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to be rebellious against us,

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to normalize lying

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to their parents

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and withholding information

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because you're telling them to do so.

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That's wrong.

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Beware of toxic family.

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Point number two,

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beware of toxic friends.

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You need to watch out

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for people who claim to be friends,

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but they're inwardly

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want your downfall or something.

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Toxic people.

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And look, there's people out there like this.

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I'm just telling you right now.

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You're like, why I got so many friends on Facebook?

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They're not your friends.

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These are frenemies

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in a lot of instances.

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You need to watch out for friends

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even if they're Christians.

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Because Christians can often

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also be guilty of envy,

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covetousness,

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feeling a sense of

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strife and emulation

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within themselves against you.

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Obviously, the Bible tells us

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to show ourselves friendly,

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to be a friend to all,

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but we need to make sure we choose

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our close friends carefully

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and not, you know,

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choose people who inwardly

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don't really like us.

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And that is the real thing.

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Now, what's a good example of this?

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When I'm talking about toxic friends,

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I'm talking about friends

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who claim to support you

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or want to give you advice,

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but they always give you bad advice

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so the outcome does not come out

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in your favor.

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People like that.

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Look at 1 Kings 12 verse 1.

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And he said,

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and he said unto him, depart yet for three days,

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then come again to me,

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and the people depart.

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And King Rehoboam consulted with the old men

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that stood before Solomon his father

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while he had lived and said,

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how do you advise that I may answer this people?

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So he's like, you know,

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this guy's willing to just kind of give me

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the reins to the leadership.

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All he's saying is that we need to make sure

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we're a little nicer than my dad.

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My dad was pretty strict.

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He kind of ruled with an iron fist.

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And so what do you advise that I do?

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They speak unto him saying verse 7,

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if that will be a servant unto this people this day

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and will serve them and answer them

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and speak good words to them,

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then they will be thy servants forever.

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Now, this is not the sermon,

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but verse 7 gives a lot of good things there, right?

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There's a lot of good advice.

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In fact, these are New Testament principles that we see, right?

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Being a servant, speaking good words to them.

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He says they'll be your servants forever.

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If you just behave yourself wisely to these people,

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they'll serve you, okay?

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Verse 8,

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but he forsook the counsel of the old men

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which they had given him

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and consulted with the young men that were grown up with him

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which stood before him.

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And he said unto them,

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what counsel give ye that we may answer this people

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who have spoken to me saying,

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make the yoke which thy father did put upon us lighter?

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And the young men that were grown up with him

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spake unto them saying,

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thou shalt thou speak unto this people that spake unto thee same?

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Thy father made our yoke heavy,

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but make thou it lighter unto us,

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thou shalt say unto them,

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my little finger shall be thicker than my father's loins.

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He's like, man, you need to stand up for yourself

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and say, you think my dad was bad?

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Man, I'm going to be worse.

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You know, I'm going to whoop you.

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My little finger's going to be thicker than that.

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Then his loins,

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he's basically saying like you didn't see nothing yet.

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Now whereas my father did laid you with heavy yoke,

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I will add to your yoke,

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my father had chastised you with whips,

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but I would chastise you with scorpions.

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Good night.

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Jeroboam and all the people came to Jeroboam the third day

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as the king had appointed same,

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come to me again the third day and so forth.

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And of course he tells them this.

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Now obviously this ended up causing the split of the kingdom

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because of this bad advice.

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Now we obviously know that this is of the Lord,

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but it also demonstrates

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that these people who are giving this advice

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didn't necessarily have the kingdom

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in its best interest.

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It wasn't necessarily looking to see,

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okay, what's the best outcome that we can provide here?

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What's the best solution?

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They're just like, you need to just

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tell them how it is.

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You just need to tell the truth.

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You just need to make sure that you just stand your ground,

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but it wasn't necessarily a wise answer

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and it caused the kingdom to be split.

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Now what is the principle that we can learn here

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when it comes to friendship?

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We need to make sure first and foremost

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that we pick our friends wisely

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and then also just because they're your friends

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doesn't mean you need advice from them.

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You don't need advice from every friend.

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Why?

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Because most of the time your contemporaries,

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they're pretty dumb.

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And sometimes they're as dumb as you.

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Okay?

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Amen?

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Sometimes they just got bad advice.

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They just kind of come up with it on a whim.

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You know, go to the old men.

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Go to the people who have experience.

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You know, they don't got a dog in the fight.

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They don't necessarily have anything to prove.

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They have your best interest in mind.

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You know, sometimes your contemporaries,

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they're just bad influences.

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And look, I'm not saying don't have friends,

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but I'm just saying your closest friend

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that is like your age

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doesn't always have the best advice.

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Okay?

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And so, you know, you need to be careful

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that you don't have certain friends around you

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that are toxic.

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Because let me just say this.

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There's sometimes that there are friends around you

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that will advise you because they know

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that's a bad decision.

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They want you to make that bad decision

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because they want to look good

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in comparison to you.

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And you need to be aware of that.

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Does that really exist?

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Yes, that exists.

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There's some dudes out there that are just toxic.

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There's friends out there that are just toxic.

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You know, there's people out there

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that, you know, they don't really care about you.

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Okay?

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They will flatter you.

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They will lie to your face

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because they don't really care.

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You know, I prefer the friend who tells me I'm fat

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and says, yeah, you know, you're a bit overweight

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and you got to, you know, work on that or whatever.

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And instead of like, oh, you look great, man.

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Take off your shirt, bro.

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You're jacked, bro.

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Just straight causing delusions, you know?

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You think it's cool if I take off?

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Just do it, bro.

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You're more jacked than me.

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And then everyone's just like,

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because you just look disgusting.

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But you know, there's toxic people out there

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that will lie to you like that.

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Just because they want to embarrass you,

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you know what I mean?

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They want your downfall.

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You need to make sure that you have

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the right people around you.

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And look, it's good to have friends

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that challenge each other,

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but don't necessarily keep friends around you

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that are constantly competing with you, though.

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Meaning that like,

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and look, if you're competing with your friend,

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it's like a healthy competition where they want you to succeed

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and, you know, you want them to succeed

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and you guys kind of, you know, iron sharpen it, iron.

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That's one thing.

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But then there are other friends out there

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who are just toxic who compete with you

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because they don't want you to succeed.

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They want to be better than you.

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You know what, they want to gloat of their success.

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They want to brag about their success to you.

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That's a toxic friend.

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And look, if you're that friend

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and people are talking about their success to you,

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praise them for it.

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Rejoice with them.

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They rejoice.

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Be happy for them.

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Don't have emulation.

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Don't have strife.

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Don't have envy in your heart for them.

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Rejoice in that matter.

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But you know what, if there's people

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who are constantly bragging to you about that,

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they're constantly saying stuff like that

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and you might have this indication like,

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I think this person is just kind of like doing this

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to kind of put me down.

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You know what I mean?

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Then it's time to just fellowship with someone else.

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It's time to find a new friend, okay?

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And look, you know, in our church,

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you don't have to be best friends with everyone, okay?

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You know, we have to be diplomatic.

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We have to be friendly.

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But we don't have to be best friends with everyone.

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We don't have to hang out with everyone.

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We just have to be good Christians with one another, right?

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You know, there's people in our church

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who I'm very friendly with

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and we get along great,

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but we're not best friends or anything

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and it's not bad.

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It's just normal.

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It's not bad, right?

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Jerry and I, you know, he's my church member.

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I enjoy his company,

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but him and I aren't necessarily best friends, right?

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I don't think we are.

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If you think we are, sorry man.

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You know, we're not best friends, okay?

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Now I'm just kidding.

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We're good friends

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and I'm like that with a lot of church friends.

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There's nothing wrong with that.

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Don't think, oh, just because they're in our church,

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we have to be the closest of friends or something.

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No, because there's other people

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that just click with other people

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more than others do with others.

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So we just got to realize that, you know,

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you need to choose your friends wisely.

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When I say friends,

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I mean it as in those you can fight in,

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those that provoke you unto love

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and to good works,

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those who like don't want your downfall.

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And you know what?

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If this person has a track record

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of just constantly putting you down,

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constantly mocking your success,

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constantly just, you know,

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bragging about their success

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in order to make you look like a complete loser,

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then it's time to go fellowship with someone else.

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What do I tell them?

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Don't tell them anything.

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Just ghost that fool.

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Just when you see them,

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go talk to someone else.

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Just go talk to someone else

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and be like, hey, it's good to see you, hey.

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And just like, you know,

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find someone that you're, you know,

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just call someone out or something.

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That's what you need to do.

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Okay?

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And so you're like,

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how do I know if I have a toxic friend?

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What kind of advice do they give you?

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The advice they give you,

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has it actually helped you?

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Has it made you a better Christian?

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Has it helped you in your endeavors

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to become successful at your job

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and your spiritual life?

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If you feel like every single piece of advice you get,

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you just go down the drain,

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down the toilet,

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you know, first of all,

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it's time to just find someone

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new to get advice from.

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Okay?

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Walk not in the counsel of the ungodly,

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the Bible says.

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The Bible tells us in Proverbs 12

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you don't have to turn there.

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Go with me if you would.

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Go to Judges 16.

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Judges chapter 16.

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Proverbs 12 verse 5 says this,

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the thoughts of the righteous are right,

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but the counsels of the wicked are deceit.

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Proverbs 14 verse 7 says,

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go from the presence of a foolish man

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when thou perceiveest not in him

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the lips of knowledge.

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And look, if you keep going back to that friend

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after that friend has been a piece of crap,

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that's your fault.

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You got no one else to blame but yourself.

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Okay?

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You just like having toxic people around you.

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And so, you know,

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the Bible says also in Proverbs 19 verse 27,

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cease my son to hear the instructions

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that causeth to err from the words of knowledge.

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Confidence in an unfaithful man,

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Proverbs 25 verse 19,

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in a time of troubles like a broken tooth

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and a foot out of joint.

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You see, a good friend, the Bible says,

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loveth at all times.

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If you're down in the dumps,

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you know what a good friend does,

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tries to pick you up.

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You know, if you're on the brink of quitting,

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a good friend will tell you to keep going forward.

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Not aid you in getting out of church.

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Right?

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It's not someone who's just like,

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yeah, just give up.

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It's over with.

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I saw it real like that is super funny,

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but you know, give up.

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Someone's got to stay behind and tell a story.

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Not everyone's going to make it.

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You know what I mean?

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Go back, gather your thoughts.

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Go back to the drawing board.

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But you know, a good friend is someone

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who is born for adversity.

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A good friend recognizes that his friend

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is struggling and tries to come up

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with every single possible solution

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to keep that guy in the fight.

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Keep that guy in church, right?

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That's what a good friend does.

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A good friend doesn't brag about

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how good of a friend he is.

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He just actually gives his friend

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good advice to keep him in the fight.

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You know, he loved it at all times.

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Proverbs 18 verse 24 says,

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A man to have friends must show himself friendly,

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and there is a friend to stick it closer

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than a brother, the Bible says.

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Okay?

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Proverbs 27 verse 9 says,

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Oitman in perfume rejoiced the heart,

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so doth the sweetness of a man's friend

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by hearty counsel.

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You got a sweet friend?

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He should give sweet counsel.

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You know, if you're discouraged,

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you want to throw on the towel,

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and you tell your friend,

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and he's just like, yeah,

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you should quit, for sure.

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Go to a different church, yeah.

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That's probably what you should do.

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That's not sweet counsel.

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That's bad advice.

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And let me just say this,

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if there's anyone who's struggling in our church

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to stay in church,

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you better never give that advice.

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Or you're going to quit anyway,

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so you might as well just get going or something.

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That's wicked.

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That's godless.

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You're a horrible, horrible friend.

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You're a toxic friend if that's you.

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I just didn't think they were going to make it.

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You know what?

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You're not going to make it then,

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because you're such a toxic friend.

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You're such a toxic friend

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that you have no faith in people.

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You're not willing to provoke them to love

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and to good works,

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and you're just discouraging them

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from continuing in the faith.

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That's godless.

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I want people to remain in church

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and just fight through tribulation,

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fight through anguish,

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fight through depression,

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and not throw in the towel.

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Okay?

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How about this?

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Greater love has no man than this

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that a man laid down his life for his friends.

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You know, a good friend

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will do everything possible

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to keep his friend in the fight.

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He will admonish him,

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create solutions.

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He will try to pray for him.

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He will do everything possible

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to make that person not faint in his mind.

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Okay?

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Beware of toxic friends.

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Beware of toxic family members.

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And lastly, number three,

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beware of toxic females.

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You know, the Bible gives us more explicit warnings

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against women for men

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than it does men for women.

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That's true.

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Like, why do you say females?

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There's toxic males out there, too.

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We're not talking about them.

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And the Bible doesn't emphasize that a whole lot.

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Okay?

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The Bible emphasizes a lot

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when it comes to toxic females, though.

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A lot.

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I mean, the entire book of Proverbs.

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You want to debate that with me?

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See me after the debate?

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We can talk about it if you want.

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In fact, you know, let's look at this.

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You know, what do you mean by toxic females?

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Destructive, godless women

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that can just destroy your life.

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That's a real thing.

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Okay?

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And you know what?

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The Manisphere is one of the faggliest movements ever.

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But sometimes it's rooted in

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just their experience with toxic females.

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And unfortunately, they just paint women

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with the broad brush

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and say, like, all women are bad.

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We know that's not true

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because those of us who are married

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we got ourselves a good woman, amen?

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But, you know,

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they've had experiences with people like this

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and it is true.

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It's a real thing.

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Okay?

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Now let's look at an example of a toxic woman.

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We're not even talking about Jezebel.

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I mean, that's super toxic.

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Alright?

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Never name your daughter Jezebel.

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Let's look at another one, okay?

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Never name your daughter Jezebel or Delilah.

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Okay, just kidding.

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Look at Judges 16, verse 4.

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And it came to pass afterward

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that he loved a woman in the valley of Sorek

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whose name was Delilah.

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The lords of the Philistines came up

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unto her and said unto her,

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entice him and see where in his great strength lieth

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and by what means we may prevail against him

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that we may bind him to afflict him

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and we will give thee every one of us

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eleven hundred pieces of silver.

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So, they hired Delilah, you know,

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and Samson, you know, he's an idiot.

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He's just, you know, he's a fornicator.

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He's backslidden and he's just like,

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he's head over heels over this woman.

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But this woman wants his downfall.

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This woman is just a toxic woman.

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Delilah said to Samson,

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tell me I pray thee wherein thy great strength lieth

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wherewith thou mightest be bound to afflict thee

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and Samson said unto her,

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if they bind me with seven green widths

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that were never dried,

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then shall I be weak and be as other men,

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another man.

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Then the lords of the Philistines brought up to her

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seven green widths which had not been dried

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and she bound him with them.

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Now, let me tell you how stupid Samson is.

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He tells her this and then she does it.

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And, you know, at that point you'd be like,

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why are you doing this?

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If I told you this is my weakness.

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But he's just like, he doesn't even see it.

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Love is blind, you know.

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Verse 9 says,

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now there were men lying in wait

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abiding with her in the chamber

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and she sentenced him.

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The Philistines be upon thee Samson

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and he break the widths as a thread of toe

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is broken when it touched the fire

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so his strength was not known.

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Delilah sentenced Samson.

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Behold, thou has mocked me and told me lies.

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This is a manipulator right here

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because she's mocking him

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in lying to him, right?

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Now tell me,

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I pray thee, wherewith thou mightest be bound.

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Now, you know, Samson will be like,

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no, I don't think I will.

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Because I told you and then you actually like did that.

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But he's just an idiot.

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He is an idiot.

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Can I get a witness, right? Amen?

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It's like, bro, what are you doing?

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Okay.

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Verse 11, he said,

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if they bind me fast with new robes

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that never were occupied,

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then shall I be weak and be as another man.

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Delilah therefore took new robes,

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bound him therewith and sentenced him.

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The Philistines be upon thee, Samson.

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And there were liars and weight abiding in the chamber

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and he break them from off his arms like a thread.

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And Delilah sentenced Samson.

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Hitherto thou has mocked me and told me lies.

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Tell me wherewith thou mightest be bound.

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And he said unto her,

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if thou weaves the seven locks of my head with the web

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and she fastened it with the pen,

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so foreskip down to verse 15.

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And she sentenced him.

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How can thou say I love thee

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when thine heart is not with me?

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It's like, woman,

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you literally try to get me merked.

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You almost got me killed.

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I told you where my strength lied

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and you try to do that.

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And you're saying that I don't love you,

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but he's, you know,

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bro is just a weakling, okay?

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How can thou say I love thee

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when thine heart is not with me?

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Thou has mocked me these three times

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and has not told me where in that great strength lieeth.

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And it came to pass when she pressed him daily

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with her words and urged him

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so that his soul was vexed unto death,

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that he told her all his heart and said unto her,

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there hath not come a razor upon my head

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for I have been a Nazarene unto God

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for my mother's womb.

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If I be shaven, then my strength will go for me

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and I shall be weak and be like any other man.

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So he's like, all right, leave me alone.

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You're nagging me.

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Because she's just constantly telling him, constantly telling him,

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he's like fine, you know, if I shave off my head

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then my strength will go for him.

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It's like, what are you thinking?

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You know, he didn't have a friend.

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They can tell him like,

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hey bro, I think she's trying to kill you.

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Hey bro, I'm not envious at all, okay?

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I'm not trying to put you down or anything like that.

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But she's trying to kill you.

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Like I don't know how you don't see this right now, you know?

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And he doesn't.

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But you know, a lot of young men are like this though.

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Okay, even today.

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And when Delilah saw that he had told her all his heart, verse 18,

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she's sending calls for the Lord's of the Philistines,

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saying, come up this once, for he had showed me all his heart.

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Then the Lord's of the Philistines came up unto her,

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brought money in her hand,

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and she made him sleep upon her knees,

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and she called for a man,

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and she caused him to shave off the seven locks of his head,

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and she began to afflict him,

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and his strength went from him.

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And she said, the Philistines be upon these Samson,

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and he awoke out of his sleep,

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and said, I will go out as other times before,

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and shake myself,

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and he wist not that the Lord was departed from him,

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and we know exactly how the story ends.

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His eyes are gouged out.

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He is grinding the mill like a beast,

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and of course he ends up committing suicide thereafter.

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Okay?

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What does this show us?

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Young men, beware of toxic females.

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Okay?

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This is important, because again,

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this is a real thing, you know?

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And in fact, it's so real

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that there's a movie that came out recently.

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It's a movie called Obsession.

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Okay?

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Now, let me just say this.

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I don't recommend anybody to watch that stupid godless movie.

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And if you've already watched it,

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it obviously doesn't apply to you now.

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You know?

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But after this, you shouldn't watch it again.

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All right?

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It is a stupid godless movie,

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and, you know, let me just give you a synopsis

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of what the movie's about.

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Spoiler alert on this, okay?

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And most of you are like,

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I already know what it is about.

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I saw it already.

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Now, I've never seen the movie.

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I feel like I have only because there's so many reels

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on Instagram that show a lot of scenes,

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and I feel like I've seen enough

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that I know what the movie's about.

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But this is basically what it is, okay?

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The story follows a guy named Bear.

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What kind of name is that?

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Who is just madly in love

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with his longtime friend, Nikki, okay?

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So this guy, he's like the Amnon dude, okay?

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He's like sick over this girl, Nikki, okay?

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You old folks, just ignore me right now.

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You're just like, what kind of, you know,

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this is horror, by the way.

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It was like a horror movie.

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Horror movie for me back in the day

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was like Freddy Krueger, right?

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It was like Jason, Hellraiser, Freddy Krueger.

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Now it's just like a relationship.

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It's just like horror.

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It's like the scariest thing is to be involved

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in a crazy relationship.

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Man.

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So he's so desperate, okay?

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To have this girl love him,

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that he has to use this mysterious object

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called the One Wish Willow, okay?

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It's like a stick that he finds at some weird store.

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And basically, like, he breaks it

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and he wishes for this girl, Nikki,

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to just fall madly in love with him, okay?

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And she does, okay?

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And, you know, at first, everything's working out,

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but then her affection becomes, like, extreme and dangerous.

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You know, like, she starts killing people and stuff

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and, like, just doing some of the most psychopathic things ever.

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And that's pretty much what the movie's about, okay?

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And, you know, you would think, like,

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once he realized, like, oh, dang, she's a psychopath.

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Like, this didn't work out.

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Like, let's break up or something.

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No, he continues with this, right?

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Because there's dudes in this world that are like that.

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And let me just tell you something,

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obsession, though it's a fantasy, it's fiction,

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it's actually a documentary on toxic Latinas.

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It is a documentary on toxic Latinas.

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I'm convinced that the director dated a toxic Latina

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and was just like, this will make a great horror movie.

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He's like, we just have to add some sort of supernatural element

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to this because, you know, we've got to figure out

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how this girl would become this way.

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Oh, one wish willow, okay?

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So, like, I'm sure he had some sort of experience

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with the toxic Latina and was just like,

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we'll just make it a movie, okay?

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It's a stupid movie.

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It's, you know, I don't recommend for anybody to watch it.

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There's gore, it's, I'm sure it's rated R.

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You know, it's godless.

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You should not watch it, okay?

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But let me say this, movies like that seek to normalize

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that type of behavior.

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I'm talking about the behavior of Nikki, okay?

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And, you know, a lot of women are like, I'm Nikki.

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No, no, no, no, no, no, no.

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Nikki is a fictional character that was made that way

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with the willow, a one wish willow.

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You're just naturally a toxic woman.

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You're toxic without the one wish willow.

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Bear, bear is the villain.

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Bear is a fictional character.

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No one in this world can make a one wish willow

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to make someone madly fall in love with them

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and do all that stuff.

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Bear's not real.

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Obviously there's people in this world that are like Bear.

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They're a bunch of limp-risted, effeminate,

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you know, mommy issue boys

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who want a woman like that.

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I don't know why you would want someone like that.

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But let me just say this, you know,

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if you're a woman that identifies with that psychopath,

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you got issues.

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Because Nikki was made that way through one wish willow,

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you weren't.

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Now look, if you're like, well, you know,

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I've been through some things in my life

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that has caused me to be this way,

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okay, you know, I'm sympathetic towards that,

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but you're a Christian now.

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You're a Christian, you have the Bible,

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you have the Holy Spirit.

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Stop acting like Nikki.

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And look, young men need to be discouraged

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from pursuing a woman like that.

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And if you're a dude and you like Nikki from that movie,

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get right with God.

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Oh man, I just, I get you Bear.

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I get it Bear.

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I can see why.

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What do you mean?

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The scenes that I've seen,

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it should like literally make any dude

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sick to their stomach that a woman

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would actually be that way.

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And look, there are women like that.

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The scenes that I've seen, I feel like I've seen this before.

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And let me say this,

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the parents shouldn't let their daughter

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watch that movie

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for fear that they may think that behavior is appropriate.

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And don't let your boys see it for fear

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that they may want someone like that.

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Then you'll be like Esau

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where his parents are like,

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the women he marries are just a grief of mind, right?

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Because they got a Nikki in their life.

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Pursue a godly woman

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who is level-headed.

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Not a toxic Latina,

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a toxic Asian,

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mostly it's toxic Latinas though,

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that's just where they get it from.

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That's why they chose a Latina to play the role.

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We should endeavor to tell our boys,

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hey, this is not appropriate behavior at all

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for a woman to be this way.

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This is godless behavior.

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This is not right.

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And you should never pursue a woman like this.

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Pastor, you don't understand though.

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She was made that way.

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It's a movie!

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It's a fictional movie!

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She was made that way in the movie,

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but you know what, that's not reality.

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Reality is there are women who are like that

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without the one wish willow.

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That's the reality, okay?

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Go to Ecclesiastes chapter 7.

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Ecclesiastes chapter number 7.

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And look folks, again,

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you know, if you are a toxic man,

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a toxic male, a toxic female,

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you know, oh, you just grew up that way,

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you just had experiences in your personal life

01:00:00.810 --> 01:00:02.210
that has molded you into being that way.

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Okay, but you know what?

01:00:03.850 --> 01:00:04.930
Now it's different though.

01:00:05.890 --> 01:00:07.050
Now you have a church,

01:00:07.430 --> 01:00:08.470
you have right preaching,

01:00:08.590 --> 01:00:09.330
you have the Holy Spirit,

01:00:09.610 --> 01:00:12.190
you have the new man that transcends that nature.

01:00:13.290 --> 01:00:15.210
And you know, it's not cute to be like a psychopath.

01:00:16.310 --> 01:00:17.410
That's not cute at all.

01:00:18.910 --> 01:00:21.030
And look, the scenes that I've seen

01:00:21.030 --> 01:00:22.350
in that movie on Reels,

01:00:23.710 --> 01:00:24.830
it just annoyed me.

01:00:26.070 --> 01:00:27.070
You know, it's just like,

01:00:27.650 --> 01:00:30.250
I feel like you don't love me the way I do.

01:00:30.250 --> 01:00:33.530
I'm like, if a woman ever said that,

01:00:33.610 --> 01:00:34.530
I'd be like, all right, we're done.

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Done!

01:00:37.430 --> 01:00:38.950
So let me give you, you know,

01:00:39.050 --> 01:00:41.110
a personal testimony of a toxic Latina

01:00:41.110 --> 01:00:42.090
that I dated at one time.

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Now this is BC, okay?

01:00:44.430 --> 01:00:45.090
Before Christ.

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I was about, like, 17 years old, okay?

01:00:50.130 --> 01:00:51.490
And you know, I remember,

01:00:52.450 --> 01:00:54.170
you know, I was hanging out with my buddies

01:00:54.170 --> 01:00:55.530
and he had a sister

01:00:55.930 --> 01:00:58.390
who had all these friends that were older than us.

01:00:58.910 --> 01:01:01.010
And you know, one of them I was just interested in

01:01:01.010 --> 01:01:03.030
and so I ended up talking to her

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and I got her number

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and then I took her out on a date.

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The first date was good, it was great, you know.

01:01:08.370 --> 01:01:09.070
It was just normal.

01:01:10.170 --> 01:01:11.630
Second date, a little weird.

01:01:13.070 --> 01:01:15.030
She said some things that were just kind of weird, you know.

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I was just like, all right, whatever, you know.

01:01:17.990 --> 01:01:18.990
Just wanted to overlook it.

01:01:19.530 --> 01:01:20.550
She was a Latina, by the way.

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So one day, this is like week two, okay?

01:01:25.670 --> 01:01:26.810
And she was older than me.

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And it was cool because you know, she's older.

01:01:29.270 --> 01:01:32.050
She's a friend of my buddy's sister and all that.

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And so like one day,

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I don't know if I'm like coming back from school or work

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but I was coming back home

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and you know, I walked through the door

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and my mom is just furious.

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And she's just like,

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who are you giving your number to?

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Because in those days we just had house numbers.

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I didn't have a cell phone.

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And I'm like, what do you mean?

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She was like, someone's been calling this house

01:01:57.070 --> 01:01:58.490
some girl's been calling this house

01:01:58.870 --> 01:01:59.830
over and over again.

01:02:00.110 --> 01:02:01.810
And in these days we had like caller ID

01:02:02.330 --> 01:02:05.150
and we had answering machines like with tape, okay?

01:02:05.850 --> 01:02:07.270
So you have to like, you know, press a button

01:02:07.270 --> 01:02:08.430
and you know, you get an answer.

01:02:08.530 --> 01:02:10.350
I know you guys, Jen's ears don't know what I'm talking about

01:02:10.350 --> 01:02:13.710
but this is the way it worked back in the dinosaur era, okay?

01:02:15.450 --> 01:02:17.050
And he's just like, someone's calling.

01:02:17.530 --> 01:02:19.250
They're yelling on the answering machine

01:02:19.910 --> 01:02:21.450
and I'm like, oh, it's my friends.

01:02:21.710 --> 01:02:22.870
I'm thinking it's like, it's my buddies

01:02:22.870 --> 01:02:24.190
who are playing a prank on me, right?

01:02:24.570 --> 01:02:26.530
They're just trying to get me in trouble with my mom or something.

01:02:26.850 --> 01:02:28.570
I'm like, oh, it's probably so-and-so.

01:02:28.750 --> 01:02:29.710
Let me listen to it, you know?

01:02:29.970 --> 01:02:33.010
And it did not occur to me that it might have been this woman.

01:02:34.130 --> 01:02:34.390
Okay?

01:02:35.770 --> 01:02:37.790
Because she said that she was yelling on there

01:02:37.790 --> 01:02:38.110
and all this.

01:02:38.370 --> 01:02:39.630
So I was like, all right, so I look.

01:02:40.150 --> 01:02:41.010
15 missed calls.

01:02:43.670 --> 01:02:45.070
I was like, 15?

01:02:45.290 --> 01:02:48.070
I was like, man, these guys are like going overboard on this.

01:02:48.810 --> 01:02:50.770
15, 10 of those 15 were messages.

01:02:54.630 --> 01:02:56.910
One of those messages was the craziest one.

01:02:56.990 --> 01:02:58.330
That's the one that sent my mom over the edge

01:02:58.330 --> 01:02:58.950
and got me in trouble.

01:03:00.490 --> 01:03:01.510
And she's like, listen to it.

01:03:01.570 --> 01:03:02.330
And I'm like, and I'm listening.

01:03:02.430 --> 01:03:03.930
I'm like, man, what is, because I had a friend.

01:03:04.090 --> 01:03:05.010
I was just like, what is this guy doing?

01:03:05.150 --> 01:03:06.010
Did he really do this?

01:03:06.050 --> 01:03:07.390
He went kind of overboard on this.

01:03:08.950 --> 01:03:10.250
So, you know, a couple of the messages.

01:03:10.690 --> 01:03:14.670
It was a girl and she's just like, where are you?

01:03:15.050 --> 01:03:17.810
Just kind of, and I'm like, I feel like I know this voice.

01:03:18.430 --> 01:03:21.090
And then the last message is just like,

01:03:21.690 --> 01:03:25.150
she's just like, why don't you answer your blanket phone?

01:03:27.170 --> 01:03:29.370
And I remember thinking like, that's the girl.

01:03:31.570 --> 01:03:35.130
And it like, I felt like my stomach was like right here.

01:03:35.750 --> 01:03:37.810
And I was like, no, stink.

01:03:37.990 --> 01:03:38.950
I was like, this is that girl.

01:03:41.430 --> 01:03:43.790
And then immediately I thought to myself, oh, this is over.

01:03:45.170 --> 01:03:48.730
I must sever this person off immediately.

01:03:50.270 --> 01:03:51.830
I was like, that's crazy.

01:03:52.490 --> 01:03:53.410
This is week two.

01:03:56.050 --> 01:03:56.870
Week two.

01:03:57.950 --> 01:03:58.210
Okay.

01:03:59.630 --> 01:04:01.810
And again, she's like cussing on there.

01:04:02.210 --> 01:04:04.330
Like, why won't you answer your blanket phone?

01:04:04.670 --> 01:04:06.550
And you don't love me the way I do.

01:04:06.770 --> 01:04:07.430
I'm just kidding, you know.

01:04:09.870 --> 01:04:10.670
Weird stuff.

01:04:11.110 --> 01:04:13.430
When I saw those clips, I'm having like flashbacks.

01:04:13.430 --> 01:04:14.370
I'm like, ah!

01:04:17.090 --> 01:04:18.410
So then I went up to my mom.

01:04:18.530 --> 01:04:19.650
I was like, I'm sorry about that mom.

01:04:19.870 --> 01:04:20.890
It'll never happen again.

01:04:21.790 --> 01:04:24.290
So I thought to myself, man, this chick is crazy.

01:04:25.170 --> 01:04:28.070
I'm like, I gotta figure out how to sever this relationship

01:04:28.070 --> 01:04:29.810
so that she doesn't stalk me anymore.

01:04:30.650 --> 01:04:32.970
And I'm like, if I personally break up with this girl,

01:04:33.050 --> 01:04:33.910
this is good advice for you.

01:04:34.210 --> 01:04:35.750
I was like, if I personally break up with this girl,

01:04:35.970 --> 01:04:36.990
she's gonna keep calling.

01:04:38.250 --> 01:04:39.230
I said, I got an idea.

01:04:39.530 --> 01:04:41.630
So what I did was, I went to my buddy's friend.

01:04:41.630 --> 01:04:43.530
I said, I'm gonna ghost your friend

01:04:43.530 --> 01:04:44.790
and I want nothing to do with her.

01:04:45.950 --> 01:04:48.030
And ghosting wasn't a term, but it was basically like,

01:04:48.110 --> 01:04:49.610
I'm not gonna tell her that I'm breaking up with her.

01:04:49.850 --> 01:04:51.590
You're gonna tell her, and you're gonna tell her

01:04:51.590 --> 01:04:53.270
all the reasons why, and you're gonna tell her

01:04:53.270 --> 01:04:55.150
that my mom even knows everything that she said.

01:04:55.510 --> 01:04:59.810
Therefore, she'll be so embarrassed that, you know,

01:04:59.990 --> 01:05:02.770
my mom knows, and her friend knows

01:05:02.770 --> 01:05:04.430
that she will never contact me.

01:05:04.510 --> 01:05:04.870
And it worked.

01:05:05.830 --> 01:05:07.090
And she's like, no, you need to contact.

01:05:07.330 --> 01:05:10.810
I'm like, I want nothing to do with that girl.

01:05:11.630 --> 01:05:13.790
I was like, no offense to you.

01:05:14.310 --> 01:05:15.590
I'm like, I'm not against you,

01:05:15.630 --> 01:05:16.730
but I'm just telling you right now,

01:05:17.290 --> 01:05:18.130
that chick is crazy.

01:05:20.090 --> 01:05:21.950
And you know, I said it in different ways.

01:05:23.450 --> 01:05:23.690
Okay?

01:05:25.650 --> 01:05:26.450
Different verbiage.

01:05:27.850 --> 01:05:29.090
I'm like, she's crazy.

01:05:29.330 --> 01:05:30.450
I want nothing to do with her.

01:05:30.670 --> 01:05:32.550
And you tell her that I want nothing to do with her.

01:05:32.750 --> 01:05:35.190
You tell her never to call my house ever again.

01:05:35.870 --> 01:05:37.090
And you know, and I said,

01:05:37.330 --> 01:05:39.470
if we ever hang out as a group,

01:05:39.470 --> 01:05:41.830
you better let me know if you're inviting that girl.

01:05:42.190 --> 01:05:43.610
Because if you do, I'm not going.

01:05:44.410 --> 01:05:45.710
I was like, that girl is crazy.

01:05:46.510 --> 01:05:47.250
And she never did.

01:05:47.390 --> 01:05:47.770
And you know what?

01:05:47.890 --> 01:05:49.870
You're like, how did you know to cut it off like that?

01:05:50.050 --> 01:05:52.770
Well, because I had a brother who only dated toxic Latinas.

01:05:53.510 --> 01:05:57.470
And I saw the absolute hell that he went through with them.

01:05:57.870 --> 01:05:59.690
So as a kid growing up in that environment,

01:06:00.110 --> 01:06:01.690
I remember thinking to myself like, I don't want that.

01:06:03.190 --> 01:06:05.010
You know, give me the quiet girl.

01:06:06.190 --> 01:06:06.550
Right?

01:06:06.690 --> 01:06:07.930
That's why I married Sarah.

01:06:07.930 --> 01:06:08.870
She's just really quiet.

01:06:09.150 --> 01:06:11.150
And she's not toxic at all.

01:06:12.210 --> 01:06:14.770
In fact, I'm probably more toxic than she is.

01:06:15.050 --> 01:06:16.410
I'm probably more crazier than she is.

01:06:17.130 --> 01:06:20.630
But I remember thinking to myself like, man, I do not want that.

01:06:20.850 --> 01:06:23.030
But here's the weird thing is if you're a young man

01:06:23.030 --> 01:06:25.450
and you're like, man, that would be so good.

01:06:27.730 --> 01:06:28.710
What's wrong with you?

01:06:30.010 --> 01:06:30.970
What do you mean?

01:06:31.850 --> 01:06:33.310
You want someone to kill your cat

01:06:34.810 --> 01:06:36.730
and stare you in the middle of the night?

01:06:38.090 --> 01:06:40.070
I'd be like, you don't love me the way I do.

01:06:42.150 --> 01:06:42.950
That's what they do.

01:06:43.250 --> 01:06:44.590
That's what the girl was doing in that movie.

01:06:46.410 --> 01:06:47.230
Oh, you don't understand.

01:06:47.350 --> 01:06:47.890
It's really scary.

01:06:48.030 --> 01:06:48.830
She walks backwards.

01:06:51.230 --> 01:06:54.690
First of all, if that scares you, man, you're a wimp.

01:06:54.910 --> 01:06:55.590
No offense to anybody.

01:06:57.590 --> 01:06:59.110
Walking backwards scares you now?

01:07:01.690 --> 01:07:02.890
She looks like a retard.

01:07:08.910 --> 01:07:09.690
Beware of that stuff.

01:07:10.270 --> 01:07:11.650
Why are you making such a big deal about it?

01:07:11.850 --> 01:07:15.130
Because that's not appropriate normal behavior.

01:07:15.650 --> 01:07:17.330
And those aren't appropriate attributes

01:07:17.330 --> 01:07:19.410
that a Christian man should be seeking for in a woman.

01:07:20.690 --> 01:07:21.890
You say, what kind of woman is that?

01:07:22.030 --> 01:07:22.490
A psychopath.

01:07:24.130 --> 01:07:26.270
That's completely contrary to the word of God.

01:07:27.750 --> 01:07:29.530
And again, you're a parent.

01:07:29.830 --> 01:07:30.810
Don't be showing that to your...

01:07:30.810 --> 01:07:32.270
I'm not going to police your home.

01:07:33.130 --> 01:07:33.830
I'm just telling you right now,

01:07:33.950 --> 01:07:35.690
my kids would never watch something like that

01:07:35.690 --> 01:07:37.970
because I don't want my daughters to be psychopaths.

01:07:38.490 --> 01:07:40.710
I don't want them to think that it's okay to walk backwards.

01:07:42.990 --> 01:07:44.210
And to tell their husbands,

01:07:45.310 --> 01:07:46.490
you don't love me the way I do.

01:07:46.550 --> 01:07:47.170
It's not mutual.

01:07:49.170 --> 01:07:50.670
And I don't want my sons to think that,

01:07:50.790 --> 01:07:51.790
yeah, that sounds pretty good.

01:07:52.330 --> 01:07:55.190
I want to be entrenched in a relationship like that.

01:07:55.950 --> 01:07:58.590
Where, you know, the woman loves me so much,

01:07:58.590 --> 01:08:00.350
she just kills everyone who's around me

01:08:00.350 --> 01:08:02.130
just to keep me to herself.

01:08:03.350 --> 01:08:04.250
You're weird.

01:08:05.510 --> 01:08:06.690
And you know what, if that's you,

01:08:06.970 --> 01:08:08.710
and you like that stuff,

01:08:09.010 --> 01:08:10.150
and you like that kind of woman,

01:08:10.490 --> 01:08:12.570
you need to allow the spirit of God

01:08:12.570 --> 01:08:14.550
to transcend that stupid flesh of yours

01:08:14.550 --> 01:08:17.410
and renew your mind and become a righteous person

01:08:17.410 --> 01:08:18.850
because that's not a righteous desire.

01:08:19.450 --> 01:08:19.810
It's not.

01:08:20.710 --> 01:08:22.150
It's not a righteous desire at all.

01:08:22.150 --> 01:08:23.710
Plus, Bear looks like a fag anyways.

01:08:24.310 --> 01:08:24.670
You know?

01:08:24.910 --> 01:08:28.370
He's super wimpy and he's just like,

01:08:28.670 --> 01:08:29.910
I love you, like bro,

01:08:29.990 --> 01:08:30.870
she killed your cat, bro.

01:08:31.450 --> 01:08:33.030
Or she's feeding you your cat.

01:08:33.250 --> 01:08:35.030
She's doing all kinds of psychopathic things.

01:08:36.510 --> 01:08:38.130
It's like, how do you not,

01:08:38.910 --> 01:08:39.790
after all that behavior,

01:08:39.950 --> 01:08:41.030
just walk away from them and be like,

01:08:41.130 --> 01:08:41.530
you know what?

01:08:43.070 --> 01:08:43.950
I made a mistake.

01:08:44.610 --> 01:08:46.110
I'm going to put a restraining order on you

01:08:46.730 --> 01:08:48.850
so you never come near me ever again

01:08:48.850 --> 01:08:51.490
and just move yourself to a different state.

01:08:52.330 --> 01:08:53.210
But he just maintains,

01:08:53.430 --> 01:08:54.730
he just stays in that relationship.

01:08:55.390 --> 01:08:56.130
But you know what?

01:08:56.130 --> 01:08:57.550
That's a documentary on lame dudes too.

01:09:00.010 --> 01:09:01.010
I've known guys

01:09:01.010 --> 01:09:02.310
who dated toxically at the end

01:09:02.310 --> 01:09:03.070
and they just stayed with them.

01:09:04.050 --> 01:09:06.090
They just put up with all the psychopathy.

01:09:07.410 --> 01:09:07.650
Okay?

01:09:08.330 --> 01:09:09.070
And you know what?

01:09:09.610 --> 01:09:10.630
As a Christian,

01:09:11.210 --> 01:09:14.670
you should seek to be as far away

01:09:14.670 --> 01:09:15.570
from that as possible.

01:09:16.090 --> 01:09:17.210
And some of you are like,

01:09:17.230 --> 01:09:19.050
I have no idea what you're talking about.

01:09:19.790 --> 01:09:20.670
Like that scene.

01:09:20.770 --> 01:09:22.070
Is this like a real thing?

01:09:22.310 --> 01:09:23.450
Yes, unfortunately it's real.

01:09:23.830 --> 01:09:25.830
You know, as a pastor, I have the uncomfortable job

01:09:25.830 --> 01:09:27.970
of talking about these like trends sometimes.

01:09:28.990 --> 01:09:30.730
Because, and I have to talk about them,

01:09:30.890 --> 01:09:33.030
because sometimes they can creep into church a little bit.

01:09:34.110 --> 01:09:35.210
Where people in church

01:09:35.210 --> 01:09:36.210
get into this stuff.

01:09:37.290 --> 01:09:39.330
You know, obviously the pastor doesn't know about it.

01:09:40.050 --> 01:09:41.870
He's not going to tell the pastor about it.

01:09:42.030 --> 01:09:43.110
Because then he's going to preach

01:09:43.110 --> 01:09:45.290
on toxicity on Sunday night.

01:09:48.050 --> 01:09:49.370
But it's important for you

01:09:49.370 --> 01:09:51.870
to stay away from toxic females.

01:09:52.530 --> 01:09:54.150
That behavior is not normal.

01:09:54.650 --> 01:09:55.310
It's godless.

01:09:55.610 --> 01:09:56.190
And you know what?

01:09:56.310 --> 01:09:57.910
You don't need a one wish willow to get that.

01:09:58.370 --> 01:10:00.710
You know, you just need to go out in the world

01:10:00.710 --> 01:10:01.690
and find someone like that.

01:10:01.930 --> 01:10:04.010
You know, you should find someone in the house of God

01:10:04.010 --> 01:10:06.350
who's level headed, who loves the Lord.

01:10:06.730 --> 01:10:07.150
And you know what?

01:10:07.270 --> 01:10:08.670
Women are naturally emotional,

01:10:08.670 --> 01:10:10.270
but may they never like

01:10:10.270 --> 01:10:11.350
feed you your cat though.

01:10:13.050 --> 01:10:14.990
Can we just have that standard, please?

01:10:18.390 --> 01:10:21.050
And you know what? It's normal to be

01:10:22.010 --> 01:10:23.290
to be, you know,

01:10:23.350 --> 01:10:24.110
to be needed, right?

01:10:24.250 --> 01:10:24.950
Want to be needed.

01:10:25.530 --> 01:10:26.490
We all want to be needed.

01:10:27.150 --> 01:10:29.030
I want my wife to need me.

01:10:29.910 --> 01:10:32.070
And I'm sure my wife wants me to need her.

01:10:32.230 --> 01:10:33.130
That's a normal thing.

01:10:34.590 --> 01:10:36.050
But you know, let's not

01:10:36.050 --> 01:10:38.290
be so enthralled

01:10:38.290 --> 01:10:40.310
in that that we just become weirdos.

01:10:42.430 --> 01:10:43.850
Okay? Or it's just like,

01:10:44.030 --> 01:10:46.290
you know, oh, you didn't say that.

01:10:46.510 --> 01:10:48.670
It's just like every little thing just kind of

01:10:48.670 --> 01:10:50.190
just knocks you off kilter

01:10:50.190 --> 01:10:52.050
and you can't function properly.

01:10:52.470 --> 01:10:53.730
You are a Christian.

01:10:54.610 --> 01:10:55.990
You are a believer.

01:10:56.510 --> 01:10:58.190
You are a woman of God.

01:10:58.390 --> 01:10:59.550
You are a man of God.

01:10:59.850 --> 01:11:01.510
Behave like a, hey, you know,

01:11:01.670 --> 01:11:04.110
walk worthy of the vocation we're with you are called.

01:11:04.750 --> 01:11:05.610
And let me just say this.

01:11:05.710 --> 01:11:07.110
Have some shame about yourself too.

01:11:07.830 --> 01:11:09.130
Okay? Be ashamed of that.

01:11:10.130 --> 01:11:11.990
You know, when boys watch

01:11:11.990 --> 01:11:14.090
Superman, they walk away with saying

01:11:14.090 --> 01:11:14.950
like, I want to save the world.

01:11:16.590 --> 01:11:16.990
Right?

01:11:18.870 --> 01:11:20.110
They watch Batman.

01:11:20.690 --> 01:11:21.710
They're like, I want to fight crime.

01:11:22.990 --> 01:11:23.390
Right?

01:11:24.110 --> 01:11:25.670
I watch Power Rangers when I was a guy.

01:11:25.770 --> 01:11:26.770
I want to beat up putties.

01:11:29.170 --> 01:11:29.570
Right?

01:11:29.570 --> 01:11:29.650
Right?

01:11:32.410 --> 01:11:33.710
Now it's just like

01:11:33.710 --> 01:11:36.370
I want to grow up and be a psychopath woman

01:11:39.510 --> 01:11:40.950
who walks backwards

01:11:40.950 --> 01:11:43.250
and scares the living daylights out of my boyfriend.

01:11:45.070 --> 01:11:46.770
And you're like, oh, you're exaggerating.

01:11:46.910 --> 01:11:47.870
I'm not exaggerating.

01:11:48.130 --> 01:11:50.350
You go on the comment sections of these videos

01:11:50.350 --> 01:11:50.950
that are being played.

01:11:51.250 --> 01:11:53.710
There's tons of people who are for this behavior.

01:11:54.630 --> 01:11:55.410
He's the villain.

01:11:55.410 --> 01:11:55.710
He's the villain.

01:11:57.070 --> 01:11:57.970
He's the villain.

01:11:59.130 --> 01:12:00.650
He's the one who did all this.

01:12:01.050 --> 01:12:02.170
It's a fake movie.

01:12:03.650 --> 01:12:05.010
You're just superimposing

01:12:05.010 --> 01:12:06.530
who you want to be into that movie.

01:12:09.790 --> 01:12:11.070
You know, it's a documentary

01:12:11.070 --> 01:12:12.550
on toxic latinas and that's a fact.

01:12:14.250 --> 01:12:16.150
Look at Ecclesiastes 7, verse 26.

01:12:17.810 --> 01:12:18.650
You're like, oh,

01:12:19.070 --> 01:12:20.470
show me a verse from the Bible.

01:12:20.710 --> 01:12:22.810
Okay? I find more

01:12:22.810 --> 01:12:24.470
bitter than death a woman.

01:12:24.830 --> 01:12:26.790
Now, like right there,

01:12:30.130 --> 01:12:31.210
Solomon's on it.

01:12:36.640 --> 01:12:39.360
700 wives, you're going to find a toxic woman in there.

01:12:39.940 --> 01:12:40.580
Right?

01:12:42.380 --> 01:12:43.480
You know, he got 700

01:12:43.480 --> 01:12:44.360
and he's just like

01:12:46.900 --> 01:12:49.420
I find more bitter than death

01:12:49.420 --> 01:12:50.040
a woman.

01:12:50.560 --> 01:12:51.000
Okay?

01:12:52.100 --> 01:12:54.340
Who's hard is snares and nets

01:12:54.340 --> 01:12:55.540
and I want you to notice this

01:12:55.540 --> 01:12:57.480
and her hands as bands.

01:13:05.750 --> 01:13:07.210
That's called obsession.

01:13:09.630 --> 01:13:11.850
Okay? And look, I want my daughters

01:13:11.850 --> 01:13:13.330
to love their husbands.

01:13:13.550 --> 01:13:15.550
Yes, I want them to worship the ground

01:13:15.550 --> 01:13:17.130
that their husbands walk on

01:13:17.130 --> 01:13:19.790
and to treat them as the Lord of the House

01:13:19.790 --> 01:13:22.270
and I'm going to train them to be as such.

01:13:22.890 --> 01:13:23.410
Okay?

01:13:23.990 --> 01:13:25.650
But there's a big difference between that

01:13:25.650 --> 01:13:26.590
and Nikki.

01:13:26.590 --> 01:13:26.770
Nikki.

01:13:29.350 --> 01:13:29.910
You know?

01:13:31.370 --> 01:13:32.770
Not walk backwards

01:13:32.770 --> 01:13:34.630
and do all kinds of

01:13:34.630 --> 01:13:36.110
weird stuff. Okay?

01:13:36.770 --> 01:13:38.510
He says her hands are as bands

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and look what it says.

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Who's so pleased that God shall escape her?

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But the sinner

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shall be taken by her.

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Okay? So it's saying like,

01:13:48.670 --> 01:13:50.310
you know, if you don't please God

01:13:50.310 --> 01:13:52.150
God's going to punish you with a woman like that.

01:13:53.370 --> 01:13:54.570
Now look folks, you know

01:13:54.570 --> 01:13:55.750
if you're like a Christian, you're like,

01:13:55.810 --> 01:13:58.070
oh I feel like, yeah that's me then, you know?

01:13:58.450 --> 01:14:00.030
Well here's the good news. The good news is

01:14:00.030 --> 01:14:02.170
you're a Christian. The good news is

01:14:02.170 --> 01:14:04.090
you have the Bible. The good news is

01:14:04.090 --> 01:14:05.070
you have the Holy Spirit of God

01:14:05.070 --> 01:14:06.510
within you. The good news is

01:14:06.510 --> 01:14:08.350
you're under the sound of my voice right now

01:14:09.010 --> 01:14:10.530
meaning that there's hope. Amen?

01:14:11.990 --> 01:14:13.670
There's not hope for these people out there

01:14:13.670 --> 01:14:15.230
who think this is normal behavior

01:14:15.230 --> 01:14:16.530
and just kind of go with it.

01:14:18.250 --> 01:14:19.530
Behold, this how I found

01:14:19.530 --> 01:14:20.950
say at the preacher counting one by one

01:14:20.950 --> 01:14:22.470
to find out the account

01:14:22.470 --> 01:14:25.070
which yet my soul seeketh but I find

01:14:25.070 --> 01:14:26.630
not one man among a thousand

01:14:26.630 --> 01:14:29.170
have I found but a woman among all those

01:14:29.170 --> 01:14:31.030
have I not found? There's a lot more

01:14:31.030 --> 01:14:32.110
that I can say about that but

01:14:33.230 --> 01:14:34.030
here's the point

01:14:35.110 --> 01:14:36.470
beware of toxic females

01:14:37.470 --> 01:14:38.950
and you know don't ever think

01:14:38.950 --> 01:14:40.770
that that should be the objective

01:14:40.770 --> 01:14:43.090
for you is to find a woman who's an absolute

01:14:43.090 --> 01:14:43.650
psychopath.

01:14:44.690 --> 01:14:46.590
And look, that's why it's important young men

01:14:46.590 --> 01:14:48.830
and I'm preaching to the men who are

01:14:48.830 --> 01:14:49.370
not married.

01:14:50.370 --> 01:14:50.910
Very important.

01:14:51.990 --> 01:14:54.110
I'm preaching to you, I'm not preaching to people who are men

01:14:54.110 --> 01:14:56.290
I'm preaching to the young men who have not yet gotten married.

01:14:57.110 --> 01:14:58.750
That's why it's important for you to not just

01:14:58.750 --> 01:15:00.150
jump into a relationship

01:15:01.290 --> 01:15:01.730
hastily

01:15:02.470 --> 01:15:04.890
and not put in some thought into what's going on.

01:15:05.590 --> 01:15:06.710
You need to make sure

01:15:06.710 --> 01:15:08.050
that you observe

01:15:09.550 --> 01:15:11.010
is this girl all about

01:15:11.010 --> 01:15:12.110
the obsession movie?

01:15:12.750 --> 01:15:14.150
If her favorite movie is obsession

01:15:14.150 --> 01:15:15.750
just check it out like okay

01:15:15.750 --> 01:15:17.190
it's nice knowing you

01:15:17.190 --> 01:15:20.190
I love that movie so much

01:15:20.190 --> 01:15:20.970
why?

01:15:21.690 --> 01:15:22.170
Why?

01:15:23.050 --> 01:15:23.690
Why?

01:15:24.490 --> 01:15:26.610
There's nothing good about that movie

01:15:27.610 --> 01:15:29.510
Hey, I'm saying it right now

01:15:29.510 --> 01:15:31.730
there's nothing good about that movie

01:15:31.730 --> 01:15:32.510
that movie is trash

01:15:34.990 --> 01:15:35.630
Amen

01:15:35.630 --> 01:15:36.090
Amen

01:15:37.550 --> 01:15:39.210
I can't say amen because

01:15:39.210 --> 01:15:42.230
I got people in my family who love that movie

01:15:42.230 --> 01:15:42.730
Amen

01:15:42.730 --> 01:15:42.990
Amen

01:15:44.550 --> 01:15:45.490
Stand up

01:15:46.190 --> 01:15:46.670
Amen

01:15:47.450 --> 01:15:48.750
That's a trashy movie

01:15:50.470 --> 01:15:52.050
and we need to make sure

01:15:52.050 --> 01:15:54.170
you said why are you so mad about this

01:15:54.170 --> 01:15:55.290
because I'm trying to shame it

01:15:55.290 --> 01:15:58.130
so that people don't identify with that psychopathy

01:15:58.670 --> 01:16:00.270
and they don't think it's normal

01:16:00.270 --> 01:16:02.710
they don't empathize towards a fictional

01:16:02.710 --> 01:16:03.350
character

01:16:03.830 --> 01:16:05.350
and think that's normal behavior

01:16:05.350 --> 01:16:07.890
why don't you spend more time reading the bible

01:16:08.510 --> 01:16:10.770
spend more time living a godly life

01:16:10.770 --> 01:16:11.690
being a godly woman

01:16:11.690 --> 01:16:14.790
and teaching your children don't be like that

01:16:17.410 --> 01:16:18.250
it's important

01:16:19.250 --> 01:16:20.950
Bible says who's so fine at the wife

01:16:20.950 --> 01:16:23.330
find it's a good thing and obtain it in favor of the lord

01:16:23.330 --> 01:16:25.090
the mouth of a strange woman

01:16:25.090 --> 01:16:25.810
is at a deep pit

01:16:25.810 --> 01:16:28.230
he that is abhorred of the lord

01:16:28.560 --> 01:16:30.550
shall fall there in the bible

01:16:30.550 --> 01:16:30.870
says

01:16:30.870 --> 01:16:34.050
house and riches are the inheritance of fathers

01:16:34.050 --> 01:16:36.550
and a prudent wife is from

01:16:36.550 --> 01:16:37.450
the lord

01:16:37.450 --> 01:16:38.970
now look folks again

01:16:38.970 --> 01:16:40.490
if you come from that background

01:16:40.490 --> 01:16:42.310
okay I get it but you know what

01:16:42.310 --> 01:16:44.370
let's not add more to that

01:16:45.070 --> 01:16:46.790
by watching movies like that

01:16:46.790 --> 01:16:47.710
and identifying with it

01:16:47.710 --> 01:16:48.710
leave that in the past

01:16:50.110 --> 01:16:51.270
leave it in the past

01:16:52.550 --> 01:16:54.650
I feel like I'm nicky

01:16:55.410 --> 01:16:56.730
put on the new man

01:16:58.890 --> 01:17:00.950
you're basically saying like I'm that old man

01:17:01.710 --> 01:17:02.910
that old man is me

01:17:03.410 --> 01:17:05.650
we'll put it away with the ungodly lust

01:17:05.650 --> 01:17:07.330
that corruptible

01:17:07.330 --> 01:17:08.590
part of your aspect

01:17:08.590 --> 01:17:09.730
dye to self

01:17:09.730 --> 01:17:12.870
crucify that thing because it's not honoring to god at all

01:17:13.410 --> 01:17:13.910
okay

01:17:13.910 --> 01:17:15.810
and so what's the sermon today

01:17:15.810 --> 01:17:16.670
the sermon is simply this

01:17:16.670 --> 01:17:18.610
beware of toxicity

01:17:18.610 --> 01:17:21.970
and all of us have the potential to be a toxic person

01:17:21.970 --> 01:17:24.090
because we have the unregenerated

01:17:24.090 --> 01:17:26.670
aspect of our being dwelling within us

01:17:26.670 --> 01:17:28.790
we need to make sure that we transcend that

01:17:28.790 --> 01:17:30.030
through bible reading

01:17:30.030 --> 01:17:31.370
through godly preaching

01:17:31.370 --> 01:17:33.070
you know hey men

01:17:33.070 --> 01:17:34.050
don't be a wimp

01:17:34.950 --> 01:17:36.270
take some leadership

01:17:36.270 --> 01:17:38.670
get your confidence from the lord

01:17:39.190 --> 01:17:40.930
make sure that you

01:17:40.930 --> 01:17:42.910
grow in your appetite for righteous things

01:17:42.910 --> 01:17:44.790
hey ladies don't be nicky

01:17:46.450 --> 01:17:47.450
don't identify

01:17:47.450 --> 01:17:48.070
with nicky

01:17:49.490 --> 01:17:51.170
okay and I'm sure

01:17:51.170 --> 01:17:53.330
the actress who played her is just sick and tired of that

01:17:53.330 --> 01:17:54.310
character already

01:17:55.510 --> 01:17:56.910
okay you know

01:17:56.910 --> 01:17:58.690
don't and don't raise your daughters

01:17:58.690 --> 01:18:00.710
to think that's an honorable thing to do

01:18:00.710 --> 01:18:02.510
you know raise your daughters to be

01:18:02.510 --> 01:18:03.710
like your wife

01:18:04.650 --> 01:18:06.090
I hope my daughters

01:18:06.630 --> 01:18:08.250
grow up to be like my wife Sarah

01:18:08.830 --> 01:18:09.770
that's what I want

01:18:10.270 --> 01:18:11.970
I want them to copy her

01:18:12.790 --> 01:18:14.330
and behave like her

01:18:14.330 --> 01:18:16.330
think like her talk like her

01:18:16.330 --> 01:18:18.170
that's exactly how I want her to think

01:18:18.170 --> 01:18:20.330
you know why because my wife walks forward

01:18:24.810 --> 01:18:26.930
let's pray father we thank you so much for your word

01:18:27.510 --> 01:18:29.590
pray you bless us as we go on our way lord

01:18:29.590 --> 01:18:30.950
help us help our minds to be

01:18:30.950 --> 01:18:32.710
reformed and not to envy

01:18:32.710 --> 01:18:33.810
sinners lord

01:18:33.810 --> 01:18:36.570
not to think as the

01:18:36.570 --> 01:18:38.890
unrighteous lord help us

01:18:38.890 --> 01:18:40.550
not to think as the gentiles

01:18:40.550 --> 01:18:42.170
think in the vanity of their minds

01:18:42.910 --> 01:18:44.610
and I pray that lord you'd help us to

01:18:44.610 --> 01:18:45.590
have our minds renewed

01:18:45.590 --> 01:18:48.590
that we would desire righteousness lord

01:18:48.590 --> 01:18:50.910
and separate ourselves from toxic

01:18:50.910 --> 01:18:52.470
people who

01:18:52.470 --> 01:18:54.370
are can

01:18:54.370 --> 01:18:56.210
and are hindering us spiritually lord

01:18:56.210 --> 01:18:58.450
I pray that lord you'd help us to

01:18:58.450 --> 01:19:00.150
have the discernment to do so

01:19:00.150 --> 01:19:02.450
to separate ourselves from toxic

01:19:02.450 --> 01:19:04.510
family members from toxic

01:19:04.510 --> 01:19:06.510
friends who are giving us bad

01:19:06.510 --> 01:19:07.930
advice lord who may be

01:19:07.930 --> 01:19:10.530
praying on our downfall and also from

01:19:10.530 --> 01:19:12.330
toxic females and yes even

01:19:12.330 --> 01:19:14.450
males as well I pray that you'd

01:19:14.450 --> 01:19:16.190
help us to have an

01:19:16.190 --> 01:19:18.570
appropriate biblical standard and the people

01:19:18.570 --> 01:19:20.370
we choose in our personal lives

01:19:20.370 --> 01:19:22.150
we love you we thank you pray this things in Jesus name amen